F – Friends

I am sure those who regularly visit me know that I become very nostalgic when it comes to friendship, by the grace of god I have made some very good friends all over. I am very proud of that. The following are my views on what I think about friendship, Let me take this opportunity Just want to say I love you all my friends and thanks for always being there .. and to all the new friends I have made here Online , Blogosphere. God bless you all

Internet has been a great tool, I have met so many people over it all over the world and I must say some of them have become very good friends, a few closer than family too. Blogging has helped too in meeting or knowing new people some have been good, some OK, I wont say bad because I think , No one is bad they are good for someone if not you.

I am proud and can honestly say I got friends almost all over the world now , which is GOOD cause I don’t have to stay in Hotels anymore and Spend the money THAT I HAVE NOT EARNED YET or should I say Saved yet. I have been to Chicago, vancouver, Australia, Singapore, Thailand, California , Virginia, Mumbai loads and loads of place and guess what yeah FREE ACCOMMODATION AND FOOD (and psssttt Drink tooo yayyyy) …

In this modern world we have become very unforgiving people. It may be an ethnic problem, or a community’s problem or a country’s, or in your relationships, with your wife, children, parents,Girl Friend, Friends, Acquaintances we get very very unforgiving and we hold that against them and sometimes hold that Grudge for a long long time, We wear it as a badge which says‘main tujhe kabhi maaf nahi karoonga’ (I will never forgive you)

Everyone has a hidden agenda behind everything, It was not like this always people use to be so good, caring. The words they said meant something , people stood by there words.

Nowadays people are quick to make a relation, even quicker to spoil or break one. What they say is not what they mean. What would it take to go back to the good old days. I mean how can someone say oh we are friends then at next instant go behind your back , I mean what is friendship…

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

We have gotten so busy in our life that we have forgotten or forget what the effects of our actions will have on others, We have become so selfish, I ask god one thing always Please don’t make me so selfish, or careless, uncaring, heartless, Because I don’t know which action of mine might hurt someone, and to those who i have hurt , I am not sure how I will every be able to apologize to. I do hope that some day they can pardon me.

So

1. What is FRIENDSHIP/ FRIENDS ?.

2. Do we respect our FRIENDSHIP/ FRIENDS ?.

3. How do you show respect towards your friend, Or see if they respect you ?

Is SAYING That I RESPECT you same as SHOWING respect ?

To me a friend is who would stand by you, no matter what, right or wrong is something to think about after the need has got over.. A friend in need is a friend indeed that’s how we respect our friendship, Good friends stand by you Right or wrong.. That is not the criteria here at the moment.. The moment is that your friend needs you and You are there..THAT TO ME IS FRIENDSHIP…

I feel that you respect it when you can Tell them how you feel and ask them how they feel directly, rather than assuming… Respect is shown when you See the whole world walk out and a few Walk IN FOR YOU.

Do people actually mean they are friends when they say they are, or are just making fun of you. If they are then why do they do it. Would they feel the same if this happened with them, or have they become so heartless that it does not bother them anymore. How can they go to sleep soundly, well now I am being a fool because they don’t even know what hurt they have caused.

People are impulsive and say things that hurt other people, they walk over others especially people whom they say are friends. And in all this process they loose friends, I am a bit of a dumbo it takes a bit of time for me to understand people are trying to ignore me , so it gets difficult to loose me.

 

Sometimes I wish I had the Ego or Impulse to severe my contact with people. I do pray to god to make me like them as that is the way of the world it seems Now-a-days.

Also how easy it is to Forget these days but more on that maybe some other day, All I would say is Please god take care of all my friends, foes, anyone I know .. God bless all and everyone …

Here is a little poem i wrote some time back, it is dedicated to everyone all who visit this blog , All who Think of me, All who Thought of me and All who at some stage were my friends God bless you all..

PS. – Something for a smile , It is Important to have friends and that too at Important Places.

Some thoughts – Stupid post coming up

As promised in the previous post , about me and my Stupid posts , I thought to lighten the mood I’ve been thinking of the conversations we have with other people its funny how people respond. This is a very good example that comes to mind if someone asks you what is the most the biggest important cause, Chief Cause of divorces…

(before continuing think of it yourself and reply to the question ) ..

I am sure many will say that it was the relationship between the couple.. and plenty of more reason. Each reason is a valid one for sure.. but my dear friends here is a point to think about.. To me

Marriage is one of the chief causes of divorce.

Ok tell me if I am wrong 🙂

Moving on, I am sure everyone reading this note would also have heard the famous proverb that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but is it true – Does it hold true to all situations , not always because The light at the end of the Tunnel could be the lights of a TRAIN coming towards you at full speed, that changes the whole meaning of the proverb.

Does it not?

and oh boy you are buggered because you are in the middle of the tunnel as in your eagerness to go towards that Light , which is at the end of the tunnel , you were running .. that surly is a oooops moment

Tell me if I am wrong 🙂

Another thing , of which I am equally guilty is telling people to smile , I say it a lot SMILE .. Smileeeeeeeeee and the world smiles with you.

Now imagine this scenario, There you are Walking up or down the road depending on what you are doing , going out of the house or coming inside the house.. Because depending on that you will either be GOING UP the road or GOING DOWN the road 🙂 (I bet you are ready to kill me here now).. anyway

where were we yeah on the road , all dressed up .. That again can be a UP or DOWN .. you can dress Up or Dress DOWN 🙂

Right… So you see every person who is coming your way smiling .. NOW frankly it would probably be ok for the first couple of times but suddenly it will become a bit of What the hell moment , I am sure you will be thinking .. is that person genuinely smiling .. Should you be smiling back at them .. or is that person Smiling at YOU.

Because if he is genuinely smiling then maybe he believes in the proverb that smile and the world smiles with you .. BUT WHAT IF HE IS NOT and then the OH MY GOD moment when you will try to figure out what is wrong with you, what have you done .. have you got your hair in shambles , is some clothing off (remember the dressing up and down I was talking above),

you know it could be anything .. so here’s a naughty thought .. from now on say

Smile, it makes people wonder what you are thinking. 🙂

Last but not the least, another thought and I am sure everyone reading this would have heard it all before too.. why do people say, and I have seen big slogans too that Alcohol doesn’t solve problems well if you think and give it a GOOD THINK..

neither does Milk

.. so why are there no posters saying Milk doesn’t solve any problems

Right I am off before someone takes offence in this politically correct rich world and takes me on.. moreover don’t want to use up all my thoughts in one post and then wonder what to right next..

Hello everyone

Hello all Hope you are all keeping well, I know I have been missing from this place for a long time, and I am afraid its going to be like this for a long time. A few things have changed in life and couple more changes are on the horizon.

Also new rules and regulations have come up with regards to work on PRIVATE USE OF SOCIAL NETWORKING, which states now  4.1 All staff are accountable for whatever they put into the public domain even in a privately held account. Inappropriate use or inappropriate disclosure of personal information on social networking and video sharing sites is subject to criminal proceedings (in accordance with s55 of the Data Protection Act it is a criminal offence to disclose personal information unlawfully) and/or misconduct procedures.

So I have been toying with the idea of making this blog private or deleting it forever. There are a few things that I would like sharing but maybe in the next post.

On other thoughts .. We went to a fancy restaurant the other week , to have dinner but I felt that there was something amiss in the Ambiance of the place .  You know these days maybe because of the economy or something anywhere you go instead of the usual Ketchup bottles , they serve you with these little sachets. Have you noticed that..

Now I love tomato Ketchup , I remember in school when I was in Patiala their use to be a new place called “Pik a Chik” that had opened near 22 number Phatak (railway crossing), and in those days these fast food places were the IN thing, everyone wanted to be seen at those places, The guy who owned the place knew one of my Aunts.  so me and a few friends would go there for food but along with the food we would finish off a bottle of ketchup .. It makes me smile remembering the guy telling my Aunt that its fine we come to eat food an all but we are not profit customers for him as we eat so much ketchup..

Anyway back to this restaurant, as I entered what do i see there was  NO tomato sauce on the table.  Now this was very awkward as now I have to ask for the tomato sauce.. my friend says don’t ask for the sauce..   I said I have to order the tomato sauce as i have just ordered some chips..

You can’t eat chips without sauce it’s too dry

so I  called the waitress very calmly but she looked as if she has had an argument with someone already or probably fought with her boy-friend

“Excuse me is there any ketchup in the building..” and I smiled

she looked at me as if I asked for something dreadful , she walks to the kitchen and comes with this small little cup of ketchup .. such small .. oh yes JUST TWO chip worth in it

and walked away

I stopped her there .. and said excuse me wait there .. I took a sip out of the cup .. and said yess

“This is nice, Yes I would like a BOTTLE PLEASE “…

They say laughter is the best medicine, so here is a joke for all of you . I went to my doctor and asked him , I have not been able to sleep lately, so the doctor says don’t have coffee or tea  before sleeping
and have a glass of wine .. to relax you .. I like that, how nice of the doctor

so Now that is what I do, nowadays have a glass of wine just before I sleep, But IT is not always easy you know ..

Because

someday’s I am already VERY DRUNK …

PS:- I am yet to reply to all the comments I know, Will do that very soon, I know I keep saying but will get there some-time, Promise.

Dreams — ?

A few months ago I was writing how dreams come true.. I had just achieved something that I had been wanting all these years,  Life is funny when one is gaining things that one has dreamed we tend to forget what we are losing.. only time tells us all that..

Everyone in the blogworld wished me the best.. 6 month’s been working hard on it.. and now when it is there, things seem to be going all wrong..

Is it just me or does it happen to others too and usually its people very near to you who seem to become or bring roadblocks..

Why . .. I don’t know..

This post is going to one of those that does not make any sense, but one who probably has been through this will understand, I remember I had written that hard work pays.. but along with hard work one needs luck too.. Situations arise such that one becomes helpless.. it seems things are not in your hands any-more.

One dream is fulfilling while the other is getting shattered.. which one do we choose to fulfill, I was a person who had so much confidence on myself, but then suddenly that confidence feels so hollow.

This post is a post where I want to say aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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16Th October was the blog anniversary. I missed it as was stuck with a lot of things happening in life.

I want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart, each one of you who has visited this place and taken time out of your precious time.  Many of you I feel are close friends now, we have this special relation And it is all the love and affection that I have got from each one of you that I am still writing.

With all the problems that are going on, on personal front I almost got rid of the blog.. a few of you realised it for the blog was down for just half a day and sent me those heartening emails.. threatening me when I said I was thinking of penning off..:-)

It’s not good to threaten a person he he he it can be used in the court of law..

Anyway I have completed 3 Years of blogging so yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy….

Thank you so much, and please please consider this a personal thanks.. thank you everyone, you are all great and I know whatever happens on personal front you all will be with me..

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Ps. Sorry I have not replied to all the comments on the previous post. Will reply A.S.A.P.

Wordless Wednesday (30) – What does this remind you of ..

I.H.M.  posted a picture today , which reminded me of this pic that a friend sent me ..

Philosophically it reminds me ..

aje nilaami hundi meri, main vikdi which mandi
oh meri zaat dharam na mera , main kothe di randi
mere pairaan ch aje zanjeeraan
bhaven Desh AZAAD…

ve lokko main naari hundisutaan di

 

Even today I am auctioned, I still get sold in markets
I don’t get to have any Religion, Creed , Race.. I am like a whore
My feet are still tied with chains
whereas THE COUNTRY IS FREE

Oh people I am the WOMAN of HINDUSTAAN

So what are your thoughts people …

PS :-  Picture courtsey . Arun Bhardwaaj      The lyrics are Debi Maqsoospuri

What do you see ..

THIS POST IS PG RATED.. anyone below the age of 16 please move away ..

Right I got this picture in an email with some funny Views .. and Most of them were right so I thought why not try it out here on the blog .. LEts see what people by that you all pretty lovely people think of this and what do you see . The title of the picture is

The working of the human mind …

A  practical example of how the human mind works. Analysis of the picture can tell us a lot about how different people think and see.. Just be truthful and check out the picture and write what you think about it ..

The thought that came to my mind was , wish i was walking next to the lovely lady with the back to the camera 🙂 , whats yours …  Please don’t get carried away with the comments he he he he he

Musical monday (9):- My Home

WarmSunshine  suggested this song to me .. thanks to her I found this lovely song .. hope you all like it tooo ..

I know they say you cant go home again.
I just had to come back one last time.
Ma?am I know you don’t know me from Adam.
But these handprints on the front steps are mine.
And up those stairs, in that little back bedroom
is where I did my homework and I learned to play guitar.
And I bet you didn?t know under that live oak
my favorite dog is buried in the yard.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
this brokenness inside me might start healing.
Out here its like i’m someone else,
I thought that maybe I could find myself
if I could just come in I swear i’ll leave.
Won?t take nothing but a memory
from the house that built me.

Mama cut out pictures of houses for years.
From ?Better Homes and Garden? magazines.
Plans were drawn, concrete poured,
and nail by nail and board by board
Daddy gave life to mama?s dream.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
this brokenness inside me might start healing.
Out here its like i’m someone else,
I thought that maybe I could find myself.
If I could just come in I swear i’ll leave.
Won?t take nothing but a memory
from the house that built me.

You leave home, you move on and you do the best you can.
I got lost in this whole world and forgot who I am.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
this brokenness inside me might start healing.
Out here its like i’m someone else,
I thought that maybe I could find myself.
If I could walk around I swear i’ll leave.
Won?t take nothing but a memory
from the house that built me.

And Leave you all with these lovely pictures of My home .. Back home in India Have a Great Week 🙂

Musical Monday (4):- Holi- Farmers

I had written a post on Farmers of our nation, had used some of the lyrics from this song in there

Peedha naale jammiya ne saadi dhur to kismat maadi
Saadiyan fasalan da kaato launde mul wapari
Peedha naale jammiya ne saadi dhur to kismat maadi
                      We grow crops with difficulty from day one we have bad luck
Saadiyan fasalan da kaaton launde MUL vyapari
                      Why does a trader put a PRICE on our crop
Aakho sarkaran nu ni saanu beche laake boli
                     Tell the government to sell us by an AUCTION
Assi kachche rang jehe sohniye saadi kaadi holi
                    Our colour is very poor , what shud we celebrate and why Holi
Assi kachche rang jehe sohniye saadi kaadi holi

Haalat uss maa wargi bachcha jamman te suk jaave chaati
                 Our life is like that mother, who gives birth to a child and finds she  has no milk in her for him
Palle panda khaka diyan ik palli te ik daati
               All we have is our crop and a sickle
Meeh pave paharan te saada kotha cheyon lag janda
              Rain falls on hills and our roof starts to leak
Barsat di holi nu ni das ki maane sukka tanda
             The holi played by rain how we gonna stop it
Assi tukhde marr jaana kamaliye je na agg faroli
              WE WILL JUST DIE a SLOW DEATH Unless someone comes and lights the FIRE
Assi kachche rang jehe, sohniye saadi kaadi holi
Assi kachche rang jehe, sohniye saadi kaadi holi
            Our colour is very poor , what shud we celebrate and why Holi

Fasalan te sprayan pittheyan de utte hi pump tike ne
                    Crops depend on fertilisers that we carry on our backs
Iss vari holi te pata ni kinne jatt vikey ne
                     This YEAR ON HOLI god know how many farmers have sold themselves
Hathayar hi suttey ne ajay chalaune nahin assi bhule
                  We have only put our ARMS DOWN.. havenot forgotten how to use them
Rafalna diyan naala de rakhe ne muh ajay tak khule
                   The mouths of our RIFLES are still open
Jit ke ja wardi ae pata ni kitteh thuggan di toli
                   Dont know where the looters/cheaters/thugs go after Winning the ELECTIONS
Assi kachche rang jehe sohniye saadi kaadi holi
Assi kachche rang jehe sohniye saadi kaadi holi
                 Our colour is very poor , what shud we celebrate and why Holi