Where Are you From? A rantttttttttttt

Beware this is gonna be a RANT.. and it is a Repost .. Got the same feeling again today so putting it again ..  I am not in a good mood today, been to a wedding too .. PEOPLEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

I am sick and tired of this phrase. Especially when a fellow Indian asks me that question… Don’t get me wrong… its fair enough if a white guy asks me that… He does not know because for him all brown skin people are the same…

But when an Indian asks me I usually reply from where you are….

This is a common thing you enter a pub, if you meet someone for first time they will be like

“Kehda pind hai apna” (what village are you from)…

Reply- “Muktsar”…

Malwai hain ke Majhe da … (these are areas in Punjab; it is divided into areas… MALWA – DOAB- MAJHA etc)

I must say when I was in India I did not have a clue about this, but here in UK it is like that, further divisions nation-state-area… I bet it’s gonna go to neighbourhood too 🙂

So I have no idea what Muktsar falls under still… Depending on the area you are from, the circle you sit changes a lot especially in pubs or wedding halls.

I would like to reply to these people when they ask me Where am I from That

” Sat samundaron paar mera sohna watan

jida mishri warga paani
jithe zare zare which pyar

Yaar main uthon da
Jithe Jamiya Bhagat Singh Sardar ”

(“Seven seas apart My beautiful cuntry ..    Where the water is like syrup …  where there is love every where ..

OH my friend I am from there .. Where was born Sardar BHAGAT SINGH “)

Does it matter where I from am?

Will it make me a better or bad person depending on the area?

OH YES… dont smile or think I have gone mad writing this… It does matter because it really is a big issue here in UK, among the Asian (Indian) community… I was surprised when “M” (short for Muthu) a friend from Tamil-Nadu found out that I was actually from Punjab, don’t know what he was thinking I was from originally, I guess a lot of people in south have names like Bikramjit SINGH 🙂 (Ok that was sarcy)… but If I am from Punjab does it make me a bad person or what… He stopped coming to my house, stopped taking my calls.

Till I was “BIK” it was fine, later I got to know from his girl friend who worked in the same office as me, that his parents were Brahmins, since I ate meat they had aked there son to stay away from me.. These are the same parents who stayed in my house for two months when there Son could not afford to buy a house and was living on rent, Why was he stupid enough to get his parents over dont ask me ?… I mean that’s hypocracy.. He went to pubs with me to drink… Here I must say he was/is ok with white people, I see him now and then in pubs with that group and its ok cause gora’s eat beef and Beef is not meat and not at all against his religion 🙂.

I am really surprised in today’s day and age this sort of racism still exists, wonder how it is in India.

The problem with meat, I must laugh, here at McDonalds we get cheese burgers, If you ask for a cheese burger, it has a slice of MEAT in it, that meat is BEEF… So Mr. “M” has gone with me a hundred times for a quick bite, ordering cheese burgers… where did the religion go then eating all that Beef.

I really find it funny. If it is to be thought in region way then Punjab has always been higher in the chain, I belong to a JATT/Sikh which if I am not wrong was martial race equivalent to Kshatriya’s So I am higher in the chain in that sense too. So why would it be a problem to be friendly with me. This is not just my story I am sure it happens to a lot others too or has happened, I was chatting with another mate who is in chicago , he too had the same views, he was a bit over dramatic and said dont be friends with anyone other then same caste, same religion, same region.. But thank god I am not like that.. I feel all Humans are equal END OF.

I mean Mr. “M” when you bought your first car and borrowed money from me to pay for it, should you not have thought about asking which area I belong to at that time, the money was tainted.

It’s really sad that living in a foreign place we are so divided, we don’t find this in Pakistani community they stick together whatever region they are from, but Us Indians it is Punjab-south-north-east… Sikh-Hindu-Muslim Jatt-Majhbi-Brahmin
poor-rich etc etc etc…

Ah well I guess I have had my Rant for the day.. so I should shutup maybe there is something wrong with me , I am from Punjab not from India..

Musical monday (9):- My Home

WarmSunshine  suggested this song to me .. thanks to her I found this lovely song .. hope you all like it tooo ..

I know they say you cant go home again.
I just had to come back one last time.
Ma?am I know you don’t know me from Adam.
But these handprints on the front steps are mine.
And up those stairs, in that little back bedroom
is where I did my homework and I learned to play guitar.
And I bet you didn?t know under that live oak
my favorite dog is buried in the yard.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
this brokenness inside me might start healing.
Out here its like i’m someone else,
I thought that maybe I could find myself
if I could just come in I swear i’ll leave.
Won?t take nothing but a memory
from the house that built me.

Mama cut out pictures of houses for years.
From ?Better Homes and Garden? magazines.
Plans were drawn, concrete poured,
and nail by nail and board by board
Daddy gave life to mama?s dream.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
this brokenness inside me might start healing.
Out here its like i’m someone else,
I thought that maybe I could find myself.
If I could just come in I swear i’ll leave.
Won?t take nothing but a memory
from the house that built me.

You leave home, you move on and you do the best you can.
I got lost in this whole world and forgot who I am.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
this brokenness inside me might start healing.
Out here its like i’m someone else,
I thought that maybe I could find myself.
If I could walk around I swear i’ll leave.
Won?t take nothing but a memory
from the house that built me.

And Leave you all with these lovely pictures of My home .. Back home in India Have a Great Week 🙂

Mirza – Sahiba

Mirza-Sahiba is another treasure of Punjabi literature.

 It is a romantic tragedy. Mirza and Sahiba were childhood playmates,. They fell in love with each other, but when this beauty is about to be wedded forcibly she sends a message to Mirza

 Mirza Khan on reading the letter doesn’t think twice and rides to get his love , inspite of  his sister’s request, His whole family warned him that the “Sials” (Sahiba’s brothers) were not the type of people he’d want to mess around with as they were hot-headed and aggressive. Mirza didn’t care about a word they said, all he knew was that he loved Sahiba and they had to be together.

 Mirza arrived  during Sahiba’s mehndi ceremony and carried her away. Sahiba’s brothers got to know about this and decided to follow them.

 On the way, as Mirza lies under the shade of a tree to rest for a few moments, that’s the time when Sahiba’s brothers catch up with them.

 Sahiba on seeing her brothers, sided with them and broke the arrows in Mirza’s quiver knowing very well that Mirza was a very good marksman and would have killed a few of her brothers.. Hence the famous phrase that arose in Punjab at that time “Sahiba Bani Bharavaan di .. Bhaiyaan ton Yaar Marwata!.” .. Meaning Sahiba took her brother’s side and helped in getting her lover murdered by the brothers …

NOW this is where my thought comes..

First  Mirza when he knew he is being followed .. Why did he have to rest, He should have carried on he reached his village where his brothers would have helped him …

Why did his brothers not follow him to help him

Secondly WHY did Sahiba break his arrows..  My reasons to ask

1. She knows she was being forced into a marriage cause the family did not accept her relation with Mirza…

2. She had called Mirza to come and get her.

3. When Mirza took her away she knew that her brothers would not take this easily and going by Punjab’s standards they would be ready to do anything to avenge this insult.

4. Why did she break the arrows… If Mirza had his arms who knows it might have been a different Folk lore ..

In the end she could not bear the death of her beloved and kills herself.. but if we stop the story and think of it just before she kills herself then she was wrong 🙂

So what are your opinions of this .. if this was todays story who would be at fault or the Wrong one here .. She should have stuck with the love of her life no matter what..  Mirza did his job to perfection when the Love of his life called him, he did not bother about his own life but went to get it ..

Dont you think such stories happen a lot in our society a lot these days, people spend years promising the world, Talking of the Undieing love for each other..

I will do this for you, do that for you.. if we separate i will kill myself and all that bollocks but majority of the time when the Fun of love goes away its time to go into the arms of another man/woman. So common these days dont you think..

PS:- Legend has it that Mirza and Sahiba will keep reincarnating until they don’t finally get together.

PSS:-Out of all the legendary stories originating from Punjab, Mirza Sahiba’s story is the only story where the male’s name comes first and then the female’s

Heer Ranjha

DISCLAIMER:- Please carry on reading this article if you are ready to think logically and understand. If you are one of those people who does not like listening to other people view then PLEASE STOP NOW, I am sorry.. This article is not for you. These are my thoughts.

Heer Ranjha is a very well know story.. though this is just a work of fiction, written by Waris Shah. The story like all such stories, is partly true and partly fiction, yet it continues to have such a powerful hold on the imagination of rural folks that they want to believe it to be true.

By writing Heer, Waris Shah not only told a fascinating story but also raised the status of Punjabi from that of a rustic language, which was mostly a spoken language, to that of a language of literature.

But what I have been thinking and I know mony of you are probably thinking here we go again Bikram is thinking 🙂 but no seriously have a think and logically there was this guy who belonged to a rich family of four brothers, when the wives of the brothers asked him to do some work he gets all upset and leaves home.. What does that tell you that this young man did not like to work hard.. wanted an easy life .

So he goes and then falls in love with Heer, FAIR ENOUGH they had a love story going and whatever the circumstances.. or whatever happened Heer gets married to someone else .. NOW this is where I have my argument…

Marriage is a very HOLY and SPIRITUAL relation where you vow to live your life with your partner in health or otherwise .. Heer gets married .. Now I believe that we all have a past .. Each one of us has had a past whatever that is good or bad ..

Now when Heer got married then WHY was it that Ranjha had to go behind her, to spoil her life and the life of the one she got married to.. I mean isn’t that supposed to be a start of new life for Heer..

When someone is married we should let go.. Let the past be past whenever we go and try to get the past back all we get is HURT.. It not only spoils the realtion of the newly wed but a lot of others get hurt tooo..

OR am I wrong …

Do you think he did the right thing of following Heer to her In-Laws house and then spoiling her marriage …