Day 1 – HAPPY NEW YEARRRRRRRRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrr

I probably am going to make a fool of myself yet again in the start of this year as I promised SEEMA that I will participate in the month long blogathon.. I am sure that is not going to work at all .. But I will give it my best for sure , Anyway the Cheesiest way to start it is by putting a Thank you post (I have plans for more cheesy posts too — so beaware) 🙂 he he he he So here it goes ..

Over years I have made some very good friends Even if we have not met , or chatted maybe talked once or twice over the years, But It does seem that I know them very well reading there articles. I have some favourites too, and for some I am favourite.. Let me please Take this opportunity to say THANK YOU to everyone who click on the link knowingly or unknowingly .. Thank you for all the comments, a lot of you know and I have been blamed with that too, That I am comment hungry.. OH YES no denying that I love the comments coming , But If I have forced you to come then please I am sorry BUT PLEASE CARRY ON doing what I have Forced you to do 🙂

Some of you have stood by me in my personal problem times and Good times .. Some of you hate me , some love me .. What I have found is its true things change.. Change in Inevitable , Some have just brushed past, Some who stood by me THEN have turned their back now… Another Thing true is out of sight out of mind, Relationships this has always been a heartache for me, for some reason it seems I get too close or friendly or emotionally attached to people TOO SOON, the rest of the world does not work that way and although I have been trying my best to change myself, I let myself down every time.

Hopefully one of these days I will learn the ART or become as the world is 🙂

Blogging has been good to me , for some I am a friend, for some a elder Brother and Even for some like a son.. I hope I have not let anyone down. I just hope and wish that all these beautiful relations remain till the end of time …

This post is dedicated to All the people who read what I write. The ones who are younger than me let me say I love you all , All who are elder to me I respect you all and my regards to you all.

Over the time I am sure I have offended a lot of you out there Let me take this opportunity to say Sorry to anyone and everyone who I let down for any reason..

I am sorry

Please let By gone’s be By-gone’s and let’s be friends again, life is too short to hold grudges of any kind. I am sorry VERY SORRY from the bottom of my heart.

Chaman main ikhtilat rangon boo se baat banti hai
hum hi hum hain to kya hum hain
tumhi tum ho to kya tum ho

I would like to Extend my hand of friendship to all those who are there.. God bless you all, have a good day , Thanks for reading this And heres WISHING YOU ALL ONCE AGAIN A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR.. May all your dreams come true in the year 2015, May you dream more Dreams.

GOD BLESS and Love you all..

Let This new year be better than all that have gone by , Vow to do something that you have always wanted to do but could not find time to do so ,Call up a forgotten friend, Drop an OLD GRUDGE and replace it with some pleasant memories , Vow not to make a promise that you don’t think you can keep, Stand up and walk Tall, . You’ll look Ten times younger. Don’t be afraid to say I love you Say it again .. They are the best words in the world.

Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month

Child Abuse – Signs and Symptoms

Child abuse is any form of physical, emotional or sexual mistreatment or lack of care that leads to injury or harm.

It commonly occurs within a relationship of trust or responsibility and is an abuse of power or a breach of trust. Abuse can happen to a child regardless of their age, gender, race or ability. Abusers can be adults (male or female) and other young people, and are usually known to and trusted by the child and family

Although these signs do not necessarily indicate that a child has been abused, they may help adults recognise that something is wrong. The possibility of abuse should be investigated if a child shows a number of these symptoms, or any of them to a marked degree:

Sexual Abuse

• Being overly affectionate or knowledgeable in a sexual way inappropriate to the child’s age
• Medical problems such as chronic itching, pain in the genitals, venereal diseases
• Other extreme reactions, such as depression, self-mutilation, suicide attempts, running away, overdoses, anorexia
• Personality changes such as becoming insecure or clinging
• Regressing to younger behaviour patterns such as thumb sucking or bringing out discarded cuddly toys
• Sudden loss of appetite or compulsive eating
• Being isolated or withdrawn
• Inability to concentrate
• Lack of trust or fear of someone they know well, such as not wanting to be alone with a babysitter or child minder
• Starting to wet again, day or night/nightmares
• Become worried about clothing being removed
• Suddenly drawing sexually explicit pictures
• Trying to be ‘ultra-good’ or perfect; overreacting to criticism

A child may be subjected to a combination of different kinds of abuse.
It is also possible that a child may show no outward signs and hide what is happening from everyone

Sexual development progresses through a number of different phases:

• infancy
• young school age
• pre-adolescence
• adolescence

Each stage has behaviours which are considered ‘age-appropriate’., although it is also normal to a see a child exhibiting behaviour from the age group immediately above or below them.

If a child has learning difficulties or behavioural difficulties, it is important to consider their developmental stage.

Many adults are uncomfortable when they see children displaying sexual behaviour. Our judgements are affected by age, gender, personal experiences, cultural background, religious beliefs and profession.

It is normal for children of all ages to play and experiment and be curious about their own and each other’s bodies.

Ask yourself the Following questions

1.    Does the child seem ‘normal’ for their age?
2.   Do they seem emotionally or socially withdrawn?
3.   Are they unusually aggressive?
4.   Does the child seem dirty or smelly?
5.   Are they bruised or cut in any way?
6.   Is the child left at home by themselves?
7.   Are they left out late at night?
8.   Is their home clean and tidy?
9.   Does the child spend time with their family?
10. Do they seem to have a good relationship?

And Talk to your Kids… Always

Your child might not be abused but they might have Seen something happen to some other child, Talking is the best and most powerful tool we have.  Understand this that Sometimes children do not realise that certain behaviour is OK in private but not in public. Or they do not realise that their behaviour is upsetting or harming other children.  They may be uncomfortable talking about sexual issues and may also be worried they are in trouble so your tone and manner are very important. Or you might see this happening to other kids in your locality SPEAK UP.