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Continuing from part one How to live and Die (1) – Sad post and part Two How to live and Die (2 and 3)- My Views on what I think are some of the points that one needs to keep in mind to have a good Life and Die a peaceful death, the first point as I said is health.. as Health is Wealth., Then comes MONEY, I would actually put MONEY on par with Health, as lets be truthful in todays day and age MONEY is very important, Then comes having a place of your own called HOME , especially if you own your own house.

So moving on I think that there is a particular trait in us human beings that we should try to get rid of and that is “ENVY“, we all have it, A BIG FAT LIAR is the person who says he/she does not Envy.

The biggest envy we have is of that particular person who has done better than us, OH YES we all do that sometimes consciously or sometimes sub-consciously. I don’t know why do we do that or how does it concern us But in all these thoughts and in all this time spent in envying them we usually do not see how much hard work they have put in to get where they are.

It is not easy to reach high, takes a lot of hard work, heartaches, we lose a lot of people in that race to reach the top, seldom do we stand still to think is it WORTH it, reaching that particular position, or in trying to earn more money is it worth losing a good friend. By the time we stand still to think it is already too late what is lost is gone, I have a few friends who are doing just that, to become a manager or to get that extra pay grade they forget that their 4 years kid does not see them all day long, by the time they reach home the kid is asleep. Just spending a SUNDAY with the kid is not good enough, the Sunday too is spent most of time on phone calls or getting to grips what was missed in the week, paying of bills, renewing of this or that.

I have seem some very rich people not being able to enjoy a full meal in peace, YES they are a managing director of a company but having their dinner with the phone glued to the ear is not what I see as ideal situation. Thankfully I am pleased that I have stopped getting into this rat race, I am happy with what every I have, its enough to feed me all my life and maybe half the life of my next generation to.

Due to work and all there is only one meal in a day that I get to eat at home and I enjoy having it because I make sure I switch off my phone or put it on silent once I come back home.

I think it is this ENVY that makes us do all that, because we are envious of someone making so much money or reaching a particular position it makes us think about ourself , which in turn then makes us more frustrated WHY Can I Not have that, WHY cant I get that.. WELL you can but do give a thought at all the hard work put in and what all have these rich people lost on the way, Are you willing to give up all that!!!

So if we can get rid of this ENVY, I am sure we can have a smooth life.

What do you think people.. ?????

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Disclaimer: This post does not intend to make any one sad, But please don’t read if you are in a happy mood, as this is going to spoil it 🙂

It is strange how your mind works when things are not going according your way, or life is becoming a turmoil for one reason to another. Nothing seems to be working, And have you realised when that happens, what all we do just to make sure it gets ok. Whatever we believe in goes out of the window for a six, I hardly use to believe in horoscopes or sun signs, rather I use to lecture people as to why do they believe in all this silliness, but saying that in the early part of previous year I spend a lot of money on horoscope readers , I don’t know why I did that, or how I got stuck with one of this website and now it has become so difficult to get rid of them. The emails they send the words they use , it seems so real that they can help you out for sure , only to find out that what has to happen will happen. I ended up buying these stones that are supposed to alter destiny and bladdy blah 🙂 ….

On top of all that we have this habit of trying to keep everyone happy, I am one of those who tries to keep everyone happy, BUT What makes people happy, how can we make others happy when we are unhappy, we as a person need to smile to make others smile, so what do we as an individuals need to do , to make sure we can get happiness and in process maybe make some of the people around us happy.. ALTHOUGH I DOUBT it, that it is ever gonna happen for whatever reason.

I read a lot of books in the previous one year, Done a few bits and pieces here and there , but no matter what I do .. it’s very hard to please everyone and also find that MANTRA for happiness for one-selves or others ..

Last year taught a few things, that things don’t happen as you want them to happen or even as you plan them to take place.

Some of the stuff that I have picked up, in all this chaos is that I feel, the most important thing a person needs is their Health – we need to be on top of that, because if I am sick then I am not going to make many people happy as they might think I am becoming a burden on them, no matter what we say , how close we are , how much they love us , in the end we will become a burden so good health is important. if I am healthy it keeps my mind happy too .. Any small hiccup in health , any small ailment, however trivial, will always put a dampener and take away something from our happiness for sure.

An experience taught me maybe the mantra for my happiness (or so I hope) , which when I think now, I can say with confidence that I “THINK” I am not afraid of death, I am ready for it as and when it comes (the horoscope lady has said I will live for a Long long time 🙂 , which actually made me laugh because in my family the male’s have died quiet young, My great Grand father was only in his 60’s , my grandfather was the only one who lived to be 84, my dad himself was only in his 60’s when he passed away, so if I take the average then I have already lived more than half my life 🙂 )

Anyway I went on a tangent there, as I was saying that I Have made my peace with the ups and down of life but I fear one thing, what I fear the most is that I would not want to have bad health, or be in some sort of bed ridden problem, because then I will be a burden on someone which I surely don’t want to be as being a burden will not make them HAPPY. Although thanks to the way things work here in UK, I have sorted out a few things 🙂 Money can do wonders, I tell you , I have spent wisely I believe in taking insurances and making sure the clause is added in the will that when I die the money is used from my account .. Although saying that I do owe some money which to my horror I got to know , but working rigorously to sort that out soon.. 🙂 (more on that later)

What I ideally want is that when my time comes, when the lord of death knocks on my door, I go like a man without taking any grievances against anyone. I would ideally like to go without regret too but in my case I have a lot of them, and also go thinking that those I have done wrong against forgive me , but that is not in my hands.

When death comes it comes swiftly, maybe without pain I just would want to close my eyes , go to sleep and never wake up.. that would be ideal.

I have made up a list of things that I think a person should have to have a happy life, One I have shared HEALTH.. rest will share later on .. Don’t want to make this post something that will make the readers UNHAPPY .. he he he he 🙂

Right since you have come so far let me lighten the mood .. Here is a THEORY .. I wonder how PRACTICAL it will be .. you see

People who Drink get DRUNK
People who get Drunk, Go to SLEEP
People who go to Sleep, Do no SIN
People who do no Sin, Go to HEAVEN
So. SO. Let us all drink and

GO TO HEAVEN

How about it then.. Cheersssssss … SMILEEEEEEeee and Keep Smiling

PS :- I know some of you are going to ask why am i thinking that way , don’t worry I am not dieing or anything 🙂 just as the blog says me and my random thoughts .. some of them sharing here