Drink-Drive – Satyamev Jayate – My thoughts

This sunday the episode on Satyamev Jayate touched on the issue of being an alcoholic and what all happens,  It showed a case of a family which lost its son due to some rash driving by a drunk, I would like to touch on that point , We all love to have a good time and Alcohol seems to be one that generates the FUN, although I personally have had more fun when I am sober then Drunk.

I am not going to lecture on evils of drinking etc because I drink myself and I drink almost daily. I come home from work and have a pint or Two (max) of beer, that’s about it .  I also have to mention here that I love to have scotch too, especially the single malts and preferably 18 or more years old, One of my best friend says if you have to drink poison then might as well drink an expensive one :), I also have a special place for RC the indian brand, don’t ask me why , I just do.

Anyway this post is not on that , I will talk about my drunk incidents some other time .. What I wanted to talk about is the phenomenon of  Drinking and driving..  believe me in my line of work I find them  in huge numbers, Unlike the common belief that its just the youngsters, it is not so.. I have had the privilege of seeing old-young-not so young- men-women  The whole lot..

The best thing is you go to the driver’s side, ask him to switch off the engine. Then ask them have you had a drink, the typical reply is first

“NO”…

me – “I can smell it on your breath”…

him- “Sorry, I have had just half or Just a Pint”…

You stand there and Smile… Off course you have…

Then you ask them to step out of the vehicle, the Door swings open, they are so pissed , instead of putting their leg out first , they have to twist their bottoms then plonk their leg, Hold the DOOR TIGHTLY, get the second leg out, then slowly try to get up.. Ooops they can’t so they try again… When on two feet the Feet are firmly on ground, but the upper body waist upwards is sort of moving on its own…

They have just had ONE pint … Yes sir you have indeed.. and the word MORON is tattooed on my HEAD…

Ask them their name, they give a whole history, name, date of birth, where they live etc etc out it comes like a river flowing…

You ask them again very politely, are you sure you had just a pint,

“Yes, before that I had another one earlier “… the Smile on your face widens… How earlier was that…?

“Afternoon lunch .. ” so basically to tell the truth and from experience they have been drinking since lunch up till now, You got no other choice but to get him off the road, Else he would endanger the rest of the people.

Christmas, new years, Diwali, Holi these festivals are there, I can understand to have fun, enjoy but they don’t give the RIGHT to get drunk and endanger other people who are enjoying the festive season according to their choice. I can understand the need for a Drink during these occasions, I do too, But I Never Drive after having a drink, and if I have to go for a drink I take a Taxi or Bus it.

My friends who are with me Know very well that they dare not do it themselves, Call me Unfriendly or bad person But they know if they drive after having a drink I WILL CALL THE POLICE to rat on them because I don’t want to feel the Guilt if the same person drives his car into someone or something killing/hurting others or themselves, It does NOT make me wrong or less friendly, it makes me human because I have a conscience.

It’s nothing to do with Friendship honor, or to do anything with love for friends, If you think otherwise fair enough don’t read further, BUT don’t let them have that drink before they drive. If you are a good friend , such a caring friend Pay for the Taxi to take them home, Pay for the Bus Fare but DO NOT let them Drive Drunk.

That to me is FRIENDSHIP honour.

That to me shows you care for that person.

It’s easier said Oh one small shot or A pint won’t matter, It does matter. Any amount of alcohol effects your ability to drive. There is no foolproof way of drinking and staying under the limit or of knowing how much an individual person can drink and still drive safely.

I learnt my lesson in a Bad horrible accident years ago, So All who read this Please be careful, Tell the people around you to be careful, Don’t do anything silly, and ALWAYS Always think hundred times driving after a drink, It’s not worth it. Most young people will give two hoots to what I have said, But Guys and Gals Please Think . Everything gets spoilt in an instant, Remember when drunk , THE CAR IS A LOADED GUN, a tool to do serious damage with, it is a serious WEAPON.

So the only safe option is not to drink alcohol if you plan to drive, and never offer an alcoholic drink to someone else who is intending to drive, The law needs to change, it should not only be the drunk driver, But the people who Knew that the person is Drunk and Knew he/she is going to Drive, Knowing this they still allow the person to drive, Then IF something does go wrong, they all need to be held responsible because as I said earlier the car is a loaded gun that we have allowed this person who has had a drink to use, So we should be held responsible. The same way as we would if we actually hand a gun to a person to shoot with.

As the episode says Law needs to change to see this as an accident , but instead look at it as MURDER.

I know a bit farfetched but end of the day, this could be Abetment to the accident, My conscience does not allow this , so hopefully it should not allow to a lot of people too.

Anyway these are my random thoughts good-bad whatever… it’s me and my Silly mind thinks sometimes…… Remember if you stop one drunk driver driving back home or anywhere you may have saved a life, which sure would amount to a GOOD DEED FOR THE DAY... and I know it works with majority of the people on the good deed for the day , to please the GOD.  well here is a way that God will surly be happy with you.

THINK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When Law is taken for ADVANTAGE BY A WOMAN

I have been reading a lot on how women are treated badly and how it should all be equal, I got no qualms against anyone but I do think that not everyone is same and people of all kinds take advantage of every situation men-women both.  There are a lot of people out there who are taking advantage of the new laws that have come up ..

So today i will tell you a true story and you tell me who is wrong .. My brother in law “S”  is married To “R” and lives happily in delhi, they have a beautiful daughter. I am very close to him, Now my sister in law has a younger brother “B” who also shifted to Delhi as a career move and stays with them .  About 3 years ago “B”  got married, I could not go for the wedding due to some reasons, The last time I had met my cousin and every one was in 2008 , at that time there was not even a talk about this marriage i am talking of.

I am making this point because you all will be highly astonished what has happened when people make a mockery of law and how the law’s that have been made for the uplift of women in our society are used for personal gains.. So remember this Point 2008 I had last met my cousin his wife , her brother.

2009 february time the brother got married to a girl who was still studying in the final year, They got married end of february, so after marriage within a week or so she went back to the parents house to prepare for the exams that she had to appear in March, After her exams she came straight to Delhi to stay with her husband. who was still sharing the house with my brother and wife although he had been looking for a apartment all this time, luckily for the new they got a place of their own soon and moved into a new one, this all went on till may-june time.

During all this time the girl had not visited her parents or her in-laws , as they were still admist looking for a new apartment , finding a job , setting up a home etc etc , I mean we all know the drill.

In July something happened I don’t know what , some arguments amongst the husband-wife , whatever , the girl packed her bags and went to her house…

So other than the reason of the argument which I don’t know this is all that has happened, this was followed by the usual boy trying to bring her back, the parents went to bring her back but she did not come at all.

So the girl just spent a few days in the start of her wedding in her in laws house, then the boy left her in her parents house and came to Delhi in april or may whenever the exams finished lets say april.. In July she went back that is may-june-july assuming she went on 31st July .. 3 whole months.

All this trying to patch up things went on for some time, In the end to Cut the story short divorce proceedings started.. which has been going on for long, please don’t ask me the details as I have none and this post is not about that.. NOW the latest I got to know is she has made an allegation that she was BEATEN up badly by her in-laws .. THE police was so quick to react the parents of the boy were arrested and taken to the police station where they spent a night before their lawyer got the bail done..

Other than that also the allegation of dowry which I must say as is a tradition in Punjab, it was one of those hight end weddings where a lot of give and take happened, So fair enough I got no qualms over that the Girls side wants all the dowry back, Which as far as i know has been returned BUT the boy’s side did an Intelligent thing they made sure when they returned the items it was done Via the Court so each and every item was written, but the girls and her parents have left no stone unturned to make false allegations against the family.

I mean when was she beaten in the first 5 -6 days she spent in the in -laws house if that the case then she had gone back to her parents house , WERE THEY BLIND NOT TO SEE THE BRUISES THEN.  After that She never met the in-laws so When did they beat her.  If the husband had beaten her up then again she had packed her bags and gone home again were her parents so blind they did not see their daughter bruised AGAIN.

The reason Why I am writing this note is and I had asked you all to make sure you remember that I had last met my cousin in 2008, Well In the FIR that was lodged where by it was said that she was BEATEN up, GUESS WHOSE NAME is in the list of people who BEAT her .. YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS   BIKRAMJIT SINGH MANN’s name and I have not even met the girl , I have not even seen her picture let alone met her.

I got to know of this the other day when I run up home to enquire about land-crop etc from the caretaker, He Told me that Police came LOOKING FOR ME .. He also told me my cousin had been arrested and had to spend a day in jail, SO I rung my cousin who tell’s me don’t come till I say so, because if police comes to know I have come to india I might get arrested .. and I was like WTF.. are they so stupid , I live in UK thousands of miles how the hell did I beat this woman and when did I do that.

How did the Police or law or whatever register the complaint which had my details in it, DID They not enquire who or where I was,  WHen they went to my house to do whatever they went for, they got the details that I live in UK why they still have my name in the list.

Whats more amazing is how did this girl and her family find out my name and details and everything , I mean I am not related to them even, I have met my cousins in-laws only once in my life , when they had come for the last rites of my father in 2007, that was the first and last time I was introduced to them.

Now please people tell me what is this and when I write at other posts as a comment that some people use the change of law to their advantage I got lots of replies which were like taunting me .. Here we go this is a true story lets see how many of those who gave me a thumbs down or wrote those comments against me , I ask them the question What do you have to say about this .. Is this the right way to do things or IS THE WOMAN WHO IS ACCUSING ALL THESE THINGS IS SHE RIGHT in doing what she is doing..

Whatever the reason of their fight may be , if she wants a divorce then why does she not just sign the documents and get it over with move on with her life and lets others move on too, why is she putting these false allegations, even if they are true WHY has she dragged me into it when I don’t even know her.

Wordless Wednesday (34)– Touching moment

I have recently put a lot of post on Law police and things going on in india .. Reminded me of this Picture I got from a friend, and thought of putting it up again .. This is Our Police and what a Touching moment it is .. How the hell will they run after someone just in case …  Also I had promised one of my blogger friends in the last post to put something cheerful next ..  So what do you think guys .. How so touching this is ..

Touching Moment ...

Not so touching

Our nation Police- Media – Cricket – Law

It was funny reading today’s news , I read it online as the Tv channels which are supposedly very good are utter nonsense and hardly give any news. They are more into how to throw those big words at people about some incident and make it a habit to repeat it every 20-30 minutes .. the whole day long.  I could not believe what I saw the other day , during the india-Sri Lanka match which ended in a tie, during one of the overs only 5 balls were bowled.  Since the match ended in a tie that one extra ball “COULD” have been a match winner, but its a game things happen.  Had India Lost , Or won no one would have mentioned this over, but because it was a tie..  This Tv channel hurriedly put up a chat show with three or Two other supposedly cricket knowing people and Went on and on and on and onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn (I guess you get the hint) about how the umpires made a blunder and How india “COULD” have won how india was ROBBED of the win ..

I watched the show as I had nothing to do and it was more of a comedy show, I have never laughed in my life as much as I laughed at that show, what a waste of time .. there were three people talking of one incident. Each one said the SAME thing on every question.. More hilarious was each of them says “OH nothing can be done about it “, the match is over. I mean if the match is over then why spend so much time on this particular incident… wasting so much time .. when there are aplenty more reasons where debates , discussions need to be held.

Is their such a need to create such a hoo la-la, a Big issue on such incidents.  I mean let’s think of it logically (yupp I can surprise you all sometimes, talking of logic, yes you read it right.. Read on)

Had the one ball been bowled

The batsmen could have taken a Run- hit a four – hit a six and if the match went on as it did India could have won , But on the other hand the Bowler Might have taken a wicket too, the batsman might have tried to hit a six and holed out to the fielder in the deep losing his wicket,  It could have been such a good ball that the batsman had to defend it rather than take any run.. SO MANY permutation and combinations , the result could have been entirely different had any of this happened.  Yet NONE of the esteemed people sitting on the discussion table said anything about it .. OH NO India was robbed of the victory.. Thank god they did not come out with saying the umpires are BIASED against the Indian team.  or maybe they did I was so busy laughing my head off I did not listen to that part.

This is the reason why I get so angry sometimes reading other news somewhere which never ever gets mentioned, No one in the nation gives a DAMN about it,  Let me give you an example..

I have been following news about a DGP (director general Police) Jails, Mr. Shashi Kant, he is up in arms against the Drug mafia operating in Punjab jails, the drug mafia he says is backed  by some powerful people, The DGP is wanting to eradicate this menace, I don’t know what agenda he has in doing that But lets consider it he is doing so for the betterment of the society and sincerely eradicating the drug mafia,  He has been very outspoken in media talking about the connections between the drug lords and political leaders, which has ruffled quiet a lot of feathers in the political circle.. So what does the Government do I will quote THE TRIBUNE’s News

“The state government has withdrawn all three official vehicles assigned to him leaving him without any official vehicle for himself or his security officials.”

He has been criticised by the state government for airing his views openly, Instead of helping him the Govt is trying to stop him..

On the other hand there is another Top Cop, The SSP of Chandigarh who had a  community interaction in Punjab University Chandigarh to speak about efficient policing, In his interaction he had NO EXAMPLE to give about it in Real life so what he did was take examples of Films the REEL life how Amitabh bachan  does policing in “ZANJEER” or how Ajay Devgan works inside system to bring about reformation in the movie “SINGHAM”..  It is very funny that the SSP could not find any such heroism or bravado or working with full commitment while on duty for what they are being paid for in the Police force..

Such is the sad sad condition of our  police functioning , One side there is a person who MAY GENUINELY be trying to help get rid of a menace he is being stopped on the other examples are being given to work as our REEL hero’s work how is it possible to do that, I wonder.

One of the worst news That I read was two criminals who had kidnapped a child and held the 2-year-old for a ransom, ( luckily the police recovered the child within 6-7 hours which is commendable of them and WELL DONE TO THE TEAM of the officers who made it possible, Yes our police too can work miracles but only when they want to ...) Anyway that is not the reason I am talking about the Court has given a sentence of LIFE TERM to these kidnappers .. THIS I want to challenge because if you remember my post on justice for a 10 month old, the judge was reducing the sentence , from 10 to 7 or something like that years .

CAN YOU SEE THE DIFFERENCE how can this be justified in our own justice or law that a kidnapper gets a life term while a rapist who has done this deed on a 10 month old is allowed to have a reduced term..

So here I think the law is telling us NO dont kidnap kids but its ok to rape them  and leave then scared for Life.   Please all who are reading me tell me AM I an IDIOT to think that way or that I am complete mad.

 

ANYWAY on some good news India has qualified for the olympics in hockey, defeating france 8-1 , CHAKK TE FATTE .. and this my dear people could be something te celebrate after all HOCKEY is our national game ( i hope there are people out there who know that hockey is our national game) .. only if we spend half that much money as spent on cricket, It is indeed such stupidity and hypocracy of our people who don’t even know what the national game is since cricket has taken over us all . I am happy today to have read this news, And I will be here watching the matches played God willing India will put a better show then the multi million dollars rich Cricketers who are untouchables .. .. Well done to the indian team..

Justice for the 10 MONTH old baby.. NOT so wordless Wednesday..

Bombay high court reduces punishment for a  man who sodomised a 10 month old girl because the man lost control over himself because he was living away from his family.

“Trial judge was aware of the fact that the appellant (Harijan) was married and (had) two children and his family was staying in Uttar Pradesh… No doubt, this by itself may not be a reason for lenient sentence. However, had it been considered in the proper perspective, the learned trial court probably would have imposed lesser sentence than 10 years,” Justice M L Tahaliyani wrote in his judgment recently.  

IHM Has blogged about it  and Shilpa Sharma too

PT has created an online signature campaign to protest against the reduced sentence of Ramkishan Harijan who sodomised a ten months old baby girl.  His sentence was reduced by Bombay High Court because his lawyer argued that the rapist was poor,  a father of two, living alone, away from his native place and therefore probably he lost control over himself.

If you think this rapist doesn’t deserve a reduced sentence, please do sign this petition – to sign click here.

In the petition a lot of questions have been asked But apart from all those question I have to add one of my own which I don’t see anyone asking .. THIS LAWYER how can he argue, He knows what has happened .. I can understand the data protection and all that CRAP and PALLAVA over lawyer-client Confidentiality etc etc. But still If I am not wrong as the news says the LAWYER ARGUED with the court..  My questions are

1. Does this lawyer not have babies in his house

2. Does this lawyer not have Females in his house

3. Is he so blind to make money that he doesn’t give two hoots about who or what he is representing

Is this not the norm we as human beings follow ignoring the reality.

This sick individual who had LOST CONTROL was a neighbour, he actually took the baby from the house to a deserted place where he committed the crime. What sort of world are we living in where we can’t even trust our neighbours.

I would like the contact details of that lawyer too who helped this person, The lawyer indeed is a genius .. Maybe he can help get the INNOCENT PEOPLE some sentences since he is clever enough getting the Culprit off the hook.

How the hell does he sleep at night.. outrageous… Along with this petition there should be one more that should call upon people to boycott such lawyers who will do anything for lure of money. Is this the justice he vowed to uphold…

Doing this to a small baby who could not protect herself.. This guy should be hanged The only reducing of sentence that I think would be valid is that  instead of the electric chair it should be via hanging …

WELL done to the lawyer Kudos to him..

So much also to the judges who are supposedly very learned and know the law.. did they not feel or SEE what had happened , what are they trying to show the world that it is ok to Rape a 10-MONTH-old, spend some time in jail, Come out and do it all over again.

The defense lawyer wanted the court to be lenient on the man because he was away from his family and “simply lost control”. If you do not agree with this, please sign this petition.

What is family is it only wife and kids or does it involve others too like parents and siblings .. BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN LIVING AWAY FROM FAMILY FOR more than a DECADE now .. SO

Does that mean that tomorrow I can go and kill someone or do something else very nasty because I LOST CONTROL, we human beings have all lost control sometime in our life are we all entitled to do something this heinous, going by the LAWYERS argument and THE COURTS acceptance of the same IT is a valid reason.

I said KILL because in my eyes killing is a lesser evil then RAPING A 10-MONTH-old kid who did not even understand what was going on with her, who could not even protect herself. Does anyone think like me or am i the only idiot thinking this way.

I have been doing rounds of the court for some personal matter , EUREKA maybe I should LOSE CONTROL and hopefully then the situation will get resolved .. PATHETIC.