Week 5 :- Something Someone Gave you

52 weeks of Gratitude .. Week 5 Says the title is “Something Someone Gave you”

Life is very funny indeed, teaches us a lot of things, some good some bad. It is surly up to us, to either learn from the mistakes or do them again. Lucky are those who learn and don’t repeat them again. On other thought I am sure life will be pretty BLAND if not for the mistakes or the wrongs one has done, I guess it is these events that spice up life. I am sure I have done a lot A LOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT (yeah it is a lot of T’s in that Lot, that is because it’s that many I have done) of Mistakes, have I learned well the answer to that is NO IDEA.

God has been very kind to me , in-spite of making all those mistakes there are so many people who love me and care for me , even if I have been bad to them, So Thank you to all of them for being in my life, for loving me so much. I do remember you all and LOVE you as much it is sad that life has taken few turns that we are not together any-more. I am sorry to have hurt all those who I have hurt, do forgive me if you CAN but maybe my mistakes are such that I can’t be forgiven. Anyway this post is not about all that ..

I have a few things that have been given to me over time by some lovely people who have loved me , cared for me which I have kept , I obviously can’t share all of them or share the stories behind because that is something very personal to me . But I can surly share one lovely gift I got from someone.

Sometimes I sit and go through the past , relive those beautiful days , Hoping will they Ever come back again, do the people who cared then – still care as much, because I surly care as much.

My question to everyone reading do you or have you also kept all these memories saved , the gifts you got, I have them all saved and as I mentioned earlier I go through them almost everyday.

November 2006

Here’s wishing and praying Lord Ganesha looks upon all of you and fulfils all your wishes.

Ps:- I have not been visiting the lovely blogs I usually visit, LIFE as I said above is funny and it seems this year it is just not letting me go, one thing after the other keeps happening, very stressed and probably going in Depression 🙂 .. he he he he 🙂 🙂 .. Hopefully APRIL will come with better news. I am having to visit India soon have to take care of a few religious duties and other personal issues , so hoping that things will change. If I dont get to visit you all please pardon me ,, I will be visiting for sure .. Have a great day everyone.

R.I.P – Finnders

Early morning I got the news Last night (uk time) A young officer breathed his last. They say god takes away the good people faster and earlier as he needs Good people with him  and Bad men like me and many others are left here on earth.  

He had gone for a night out with friends, In the early morning of Monday , he was returning home when he got embroiled in a row, he then got punched and was left unconscious in the road.

What sort of people have we become that a fellow human being lost his life over some STUPID argument.. how can this be justified a life snapped in the bud.. What reason can be there to end up someone’s life, to kill a fellow human being.

Rest in peace my friend Finnders (as he was lovingly called), you will be missed always .

Wordless Wednesday (37) :- God must be Angry

The Start

Little Golf Balls

The End

You can see How they smashed the screen and Went through..

My poor car is also going for repairs, they need to fix the Roof- change the bonnet-and Front passengers door.. 😦

And if there is Still something to be seen , have look at the Video below. This is my office Car Park.. Watch the Big bouncers on the Audi..  around 16th second onwards..

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A Question or Questionsssssss :)

I would like to ask a couple of questions from everyone who read this, Especially the ones who believe in GOD.. 🙂

I had gone to The Gurudwara Sahib,  as I entered there was a  huge list on the notice board with several names etc of people who had donated money for various reasons, The headline of the notice was “DAANIYAAN DI SOOCHI”.. ( name of people who have Donated”.

Although when we translate it in english it somehow loses the meaning of the word DAANIYAAN

It was a co-incidence that the Person who was reading from the holy book and trying to tell the meaning of the words written in Guru Granth Sahib ji, He made a startling comment on that headline too which sort of is still going through my mind, Hence the question Just wanting to know If I am right in thinking what it is.

We are all individuals so I am sure many of us will have different ideas on the question or maybe different interpretation..

What does Daan (donation) mean ?

  

Who is it given TO

  

Who is it Given By 

  

Why is it Given..

  

That is it just a simple set of questions, although I might just start another controversy here once I tell the What I think and what the Guy said … (The questions are in context to God-religion.. Not otherwise)

Update:- Let me re-iterate the above questions are in context to God-Religion , What we donate to temples/ religious places in name of god etc.. Have our names in that list of Donateee’s , We say we donated to this religious place.

PS:- My previous post on justice for a child, here is the original court judgement and One my blogger friends has given a view from the lawyers perspective, which is quite good and She has given a good reply,  as to what and how the law of land works, which does need to change. A good point of view.

London Dreams.. SAD.. heart breaking

This is a shocker, I got an email from a lovely friend of mine which had a link to it on you tube.. She had asked me to see it and confirm if this was true what was being shown on the video.. Well I saw the video and It has shocked me , I had no clue things were this bad. The video showed people young guys being interviewed by a SIKH CHANNEL, as to the way they were living..

The kids were living under a bridge in open, in this weather its freezing outside .. How the hell are they living there .. The interview and a few personal phone calls made have brought some very unhappy and sad things out in the open. The pathetic situation of our boys and it’s not just the sikh or Punjabi boys it’s a lot of people from india .. what was more shocking was talking to a Girl too who was in that situation. I could not believe my ears what I was hearing.

The worst thing is these people are sleeping out in the open just a little distance from a Sikh Gurudwara Sahib and a Hindu temple, How sad can it be that OUR religion teaches us to show pity on poor and help the needy YET we are doing nothing for these kids. DOES IT MATTER

1. WHO THEY ARE

 2. HOW THEY HAVE COME TO THIS COUNTRY

The couple of phone call conversation I had were chilling, I was enjoying this festive season and did not even know about so much suffering of these people, I mean shame on me ..

So much for the so-called people who are supposedly the leaders of our community in this country , THEY ARE EXACTLY THE SAME AS THE POLITICIANS OF OUR NATION. I saw a few interviews by some supposedly rich people on the channel going on and on an on how to help the kids BUT NONE OF THEM HAS DONE ANYTHING SO FAR.

None of the Holy places are doing anything either or if they are doing then it is NOT ENOUGH.  It was surprising and shocking to hear that some kids have not taken a bath for months as these temples are not letting them in, HOW CAN THEY DO IT.

The Gurudwara Sahibs- temples other holy places are supposedly the house of GOD where NO HUMAN BEING should be stopped to enter , everyone has an equal right( especially in a Gurudwara sahib), but as usual the leaders and the office bearers are more interested in getting the MERC or the AUDI from the money they earn from these holy places, rather than spend the same money on the welfare or the people who need it NOW.

What is the need of spending so much money to do extensions to the already huge buildings, I mean what good is that , should that money not be spent on the welfare of the people, I would request each and everyone who go to the holy places to stop doing this, Start asking the questions why is the money that is donated spent like that and wasted on materialistic goods. Is it not worth spending the money in building a BATHROOM where the people who are sleeping outside in open CAN have a BATH at least .

It is OUR FAULT , the fault of common people too, we in are constant Race to be in the good books of GOD, give money but no one gives a damn where is that money being spent or how is it being spent. Yes I have given my 11 pounds or 100 pounds, to make GOD smile at me. The money slowly makes its way to the pockets of the so-called care takers of our religion , none of our problem..

Sikh gurudwaras are so RICH, They have so much money in their banks why don’t they hire some houses, build halls where at least the people who have been stupid enough to come leaving their warm home for the dreams of pasters greener , can at least sleep in the warmth. Every leader or office bearer comes and promises EXACTLY like a politician back home , only to disappear once the speech finishes.. Any wedding I go to the caretakers are always asking for donations , for this building fund that fund.. I MEAN WHY it makes me so mad , and whats worse is people yes US LOT , standing there and making a BEE LINE to give that donation , OH YEs god is looking at us , he is happy.. I AM SORRY BUT I WISH AND PRAY THAT GOD DOESN’T GET HAPPY AT SUCH ACTIONS.

People here in uk are LOADED they are multi rich yet they wont do anything for anyone , but then I guess that’s how they have become rich by not giving or spending.

Also those who are reading this post back in india PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE , Stop this madness of coming abroad , Things are not so good,  I know most of you wont believe me you will all come or try to come .. but in that case come with a return ticket , check things out .. at least have a way to get back .

I am not sure what the SIKH channel has done for these people, I will do some more enquiries about that and put it up. But I doubt if anything would be done .. In our culture we are quick to portray the problems, the miseries of others but when it comes to help we first see how much We will benefit from this all AND then help others.

Really sad after hearing about all this, the lure of greener pasters is bringing so much misery for these young men. 10 class FAIL in india have managed to get further studies visa’s , by giving money to agents and all. How are the people who have looted these kids , put these kids in so much misery sleeping at night.. Tonight when they sleep in the warmth of their BED .. I wish every window in their house cracks open so they can feel the CHILL of the Cold in their bones .. and they remember that these boys are sleeping out in the open in that COLD CHILL.

I am not asking you to view the video but just in case you want ot check it out yourself ..

To the Terrorists

Hello there Humans well I am supposing you are humans as in belonging to the same set of Being on this earth .. don’t worry this is nothing to tell you off or anything about what you are doing, I have a few requests that i want to make and ask  first is kindly do let me know why are you people hell-bent on killing innocent humans, people whom you don’t know, people who you have never seen in your life , what in the world have they done to be treated by you like that, that you don’t give two hoots about them ..

I am sure you have your own reasons or whatever Evil thrill you guys get in killing an innocent human..  I can give you a list of hundred nay thousands of indian people who are worst of a kind, who you can target and believe me it will be a bigger impact than killing innocent civilians who are going about their day to-day work. How about planting those bombs aimed at our national leaders .. That will get you media attention if any one of them is killed in a blast..

It will definitely help your cause , though in my little mind I can’t understand what CAUSE  it is?  that says to attain it you have to kill innocent people …

Look if you can leave the countrymen the innocent civilians and go for the Idiot corrupt – useless leaders that my country has it will work in both our favour you will get your evil pleasure in blowing up some human , or maybe you have this fetish for blasts and enjoy the sound of loud bangs…  secondly  we will be happy to get rid of these corrupt leaders.

If you guys are after money then again these leaders have enough money hidden in their vaults that  you guys can live a lavish life .. More over God might just smile if you kill the bad people , as such since negative negative makes a positive I am guessing bad VS bad might just become good .. who knows ..

This is a humble request to you all planning designing the atrocities on fellow human beings please go for the big fish.  I am sure some of the innocent civilians may actually support you in this act of yours, the media has been going on and on about how we need to move on and how normalcy is returning back to Mumbai , how the people are so resilient .. Well I am 100% sure that the same civilians will Move on much quicker knowing that a Kalmadi or a Raja or some other corrupt has been blown to bits…

PS:-  I was informed me asking the terrorist to kill leaders rather then innocent people maybe taken in wrong way , so to clarify ..  thats exactly what i want .. As our leaders are not innocent and deserve to be Shot and killed ..  It is a genuine request to the Killers if they have to kill then kill the politicians rather then innocent people .. Maybe then our leaders will do something about this and safeguard the citizens who deserve better security then the leaders. The Deaths of innocent people has not shocked any of our leaders all those promised made last time when our country was attacked, Nothing has been done , maybe on paper but not in the Real sense, If one big leader is killed then things will move.. maybe then instead of a Z security for the politcians or any officer there will be MAYBE a “A” security for a the whole  COUNTRY.. I dare not say for a common man..

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I have read a lot of posts on the mumbai blasts, a lot of people like me have a lot to say and lot of blame game going on , But What makes me angry is why are we blaming others , It is US the indian people , who are to be blamed , we have brought all this upon ourself.  We are the ones who chose the leaders to lead us , We see them every 5 years or sometimes less, we moan about how they are corrupt and bad leaders , Yet come the election day we go and VOTE for them .. its none of their fault …

If I am a leader and I am getting a chance to rob anyone without being questioned , sorry to say I will probably do what they are doing, anyone and everyone will do the same … This is not a SATYUG or the era of HarishChander.. it is a time where everyone is for its own self.. I have seen people who vouch for how good they are , seen them say a lot about corrupt people but once they get the same seat they are doing the same … I am sure all of us will do .. Look at the latest political Dramas being played by a few all in the name of doing good for the country… How millions went ga ga over leaders who did good one day .. the very next day they were doing the same what they stood up against…

It is sad what happened Very sad , But what have we as individuals done about it , not many have done anything, it has become norm.. Things will only change once WE STAND UP, clean the dirt in our own house, then our street , then the road , Mohalla , city , State and so on Then we MAY see some change..

We are doing great , we are evolving , We have gone leaps ahead in this or that .. YES we have but all this has it in any way changed the ways of life for a common man, I doubt it .. And common man is the one who if changed will change the ways of a country , the rich getting richer , the corrupt getting corrupter  is not going to change anything …

I hope our leaders don’t put another of those committee’s to look into the security , to find reasons , to find the culprits .. That does not work. It’s just a farce what has any of these committee’s ever done for the nation.. other than use up the TAX money and waste them too. Time for action What action is taken depends upon how the people of our country feel ..

My heart-felt condolences to the people who were affected by this , and also I would like to say SORRY TO ALL THAT WERE AFFECTED BY THIS , SINCE AS A INDIAN I ALONG WITH BILLION STRONG DID NOTHING .. 

No wonder these people who bring about so much damage get away with what they want to do , when they want to , How they want to do .. This will always continue till we wake up .. I don’t know what will it take to wake us all, or when that will happen but I know one thing that when we ALL GET UP , STAND TOGETHER , All these terrorists will disappear .. because after all they are amongst us , the enemy is within us all.. we just need to open our eyes and find out who they are ..

Batti Laal Jadon langhe Saade maardi hai Dande  (red light atop , crosses by us and then Hits us )
Punj sallan lai APPAN aaPe beeje eh Kande ..         (For five years we ourself have Sowed these THORNS)

Musical Monday (10) :- Ik baba Nanak si

(This is the original song… )

But if you have time Listen to this Young Boy Please

Ik baba nanak si bai jihne turke duniya gaah ti
Ik baba nanak si bai jihne turke duniya gaah ti
Ik ajj kal babey ne batti lal gaddi te la ti
Ik baba nanak si bai jihne turke duniya gaa ti

                       Guru Baba Nanak walked and went all over the world walking
                      But the modern Babas can’t go anywhere without their car,
                      Have a RED LIGHT atop their cars

Kaar seva de naate mangde rasad nota di thaili
Main sunia babey ne ajj kal Gadi Kimti lai li

                      In the name of KAR seva they want bundles of notes
                      Have heard that Modern baba has bought a Brand new Expensive car

Ihna unpad bibiyan ne
Bande gal rab di takhti paati

                     These uneducated Women have put, a slate of GOD around there neck

Ik ajj kal babey ne batti lal gaddi te la ti
Ik baba nanak si jeenay bai tur ke duniya gaa ti

Chothi ji gal utte ho jaande dangey lagdiyan aggan
Koi banda safe nahi –  hai raah-jandian lathan pagan

                      On a small little thing there are riots and fires are lit
                      No one is safe, Walking by people get there turbans taken off

eh EGO dharaman di
kise di baj ke tur je Gaati
                      This Ego of Religion doesn’t care whose Neck they chop off

Ik ajj kal babey ne batti lal gaddi te la ti
Ik baba nanak si bai Jihne jeenay tur ke duniya gaa ti

Kanu tappey stagean te rakh ke baja tu vi Gaa lai
Tere baag pal gaya hai ja center vich Kuli pa lai

                        Why are you jumping on stages, jsut keep a harmonium and start singing
                       Your lands will be taken care of go and make a house in Centre (Delhi)

Reelan hun vikan giyan nahin
Shuru kar Kheti gayak saathi

                       Your cassettes and Cds no one is going to buy Start mowing the land my singer friends

(This Last pragraph is there in some videos)

Lai lai do char dholkiyan panj satt chimte rakh naale
Bibian te VIP ghumange chito peher duale
                       Get 2 -3 drummers , or one’s who know how to play a instrument
                       Women and Ministers and VIPs will roam around on all hours of the day

Asin bade Mahan haan
Kise ne Jhoothi phook chukaati

                       I am very Big and Renowned, important someone has given them a False impression

Ik baba nanak si bai jihne turke duniya gaa ti
Ik ajj kal babey ne batti lal gaddi te la ti
Ik baba nanak si bai jihne turke duniya gaa ti

Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month

Child Abuse – Signs and Symptoms

Child abuse is any form of physical, emotional or sexual mistreatment or lack of care that leads to injury or harm.

It commonly occurs within a relationship of trust or responsibility and is an abuse of power or a breach of trust. Abuse can happen to a child regardless of their age, gender, race or ability. Abusers can be adults (male or female) and other young people, and are usually known to and trusted by the child and family

Although these signs do not necessarily indicate that a child has been abused, they may help adults recognise that something is wrong. The possibility of abuse should be investigated if a child shows a number of these symptoms, or any of them to a marked degree:

Sexual Abuse

• Being overly affectionate or knowledgeable in a sexual way inappropriate to the child’s age
• Medical problems such as chronic itching, pain in the genitals, venereal diseases
• Other extreme reactions, such as depression, self-mutilation, suicide attempts, running away, overdoses, anorexia
• Personality changes such as becoming insecure or clinging
• Regressing to younger behaviour patterns such as thumb sucking or bringing out discarded cuddly toys
• Sudden loss of appetite or compulsive eating
• Being isolated or withdrawn
• Inability to concentrate
• Lack of trust or fear of someone they know well, such as not wanting to be alone with a babysitter or child minder
• Starting to wet again, day or night/nightmares
• Become worried about clothing being removed
• Suddenly drawing sexually explicit pictures
• Trying to be ‘ultra-good’ or perfect; overreacting to criticism

A child may be subjected to a combination of different kinds of abuse.
It is also possible that a child may show no outward signs and hide what is happening from everyone

Sexual development progresses through a number of different phases:

• infancy
• young school age
• pre-adolescence
• adolescence

Each stage has behaviours which are considered ‘age-appropriate’., although it is also normal to a see a child exhibiting behaviour from the age group immediately above or below them.

If a child has learning difficulties or behavioural difficulties, it is important to consider their developmental stage.

Many adults are uncomfortable when they see children displaying sexual behaviour. Our judgements are affected by age, gender, personal experiences, cultural background, religious beliefs and profession.

It is normal for children of all ages to play and experiment and be curious about their own and each other’s bodies.

Ask yourself the Following questions

1.    Does the child seem ‘normal’ for their age?
2.   Do they seem emotionally or socially withdrawn?
3.   Are they unusually aggressive?
4.   Does the child seem dirty or smelly?
5.   Are they bruised or cut in any way?
6.   Is the child left at home by themselves?
7.   Are they left out late at night?
8.   Is their home clean and tidy?
9.   Does the child spend time with their family?
10. Do they seem to have a good relationship?

And Talk to your Kids… Always

Your child might not be abused but they might have Seen something happen to some other child, Talking is the best and most powerful tool we have.  Understand this that Sometimes children do not realise that certain behaviour is OK in private but not in public. Or they do not realise that their behaviour is upsetting or harming other children.  They may be uncomfortable talking about sexual issues and may also be worried they are in trouble so your tone and manner are very important. Or you might see this happening to other kids in your locality SPEAK UP.