Posts Tagged ‘Childhood’

July Photo A Day 2014 challenge :- Day 16 is here.
The topic says listening to… What can you hear? Share a photo. I have already put a foto of childhood The good old days

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This song comes for All my blog friends , all who visit me, young – old- kids-adults- elders  Please just listen to the song .. close your eyes and listennnnnnn

and LET THE CHILD In you Come out … Have a Great FRIDAY PEOPLE and a lovely Weekend…. Bless you alllllllll … love you all take care now

WHAT EVER YOU ARE DOING .. DROP IT ALL.. DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU ARE IN UR OFFICE OR HOME or ON PHONE .. LISTENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNn and SMILEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.. I have put this song up a few times now on my blog 🙂

I listen to this song almost everyday, it is my phone ringtone too .. yeah I can be a BABY sometimes .. but I think in the world we live and the busy life’s we lead , we need to get that CHILD OUT of our hearts .. So Stop for a minute and Listen .. LET that child out and see how lovely the world is … it is beautifullllll 🙂

or watch a slow version

Give a little time for the child within you,
don’t be afraid to be young and free.
Undo the locks and throw away the keys
and take off your shoes and socks, and run you.
La, la, la…

Run through the meadow and scare up the milking cows
Run down the beach kicking clouds of sand
Walk a windy weather day, feel your face blow away
Stop and listen: Love you.

Roll like a circus clown, put away your circus frown
Ride on a roller coaster upside down
Waltzing Matilda, Carey loves a kinkatchoo
Joey catch a kangaroo, hug you.

Dandylion, milkweed, silky on a sunny sky
Reach out and hitch a ride and float on by
Balloons down below catching colors of the rainbow
red, blue and yellow-green: I love you.

Bicycles, tricycles, ice cream candy
Lollypops, popsicles, licorice sticks
Solomon Grundy, Raggedy Andy
Tweedledum and Tweedledee, home free

Cowboys and Indians, puppydogs and sandpails
Beachballs and baseballs and basketballs, too.
I love forget-me-nots, fluffernutters, sugarpops
I’ll hug you and kiss you and love you
La, la, la… Love you.

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PS. :- I am sure everyone can guess , One of the person in the pic’s is Me.. but can you guess which one and Who could be the other one ..

PPS :- I found these two pics in one of the Trunks laying in a shed back in my village

Hello everyone

Posted: February 22, 2013 in Bikramism
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Hello all Hope you are all keeping well, I know I have been missing from this place for a long time, and I am afraid its going to be like this for a long time. A few things have changed in life and couple more changes are on the horizon.

Also new rules and regulations have come up with regards to work on PRIVATE USE OF SOCIAL NETWORKING, which states now  4.1 All staff are accountable for whatever they put into the public domain even in a privately held account. Inappropriate use or inappropriate disclosure of personal information on social networking and video sharing sites is subject to criminal proceedings (in accordance with s55 of the Data Protection Act it is a criminal offence to disclose personal information unlawfully) and/or misconduct procedures.

So I have been toying with the idea of making this blog private or deleting it forever. There are a few things that I would like sharing but maybe in the next post.

On other thoughts .. We went to a fancy restaurant the other week , to have dinner but I felt that there was something amiss in the Ambiance of the place .  You know these days maybe because of the economy or something anywhere you go instead of the usual Ketchup bottles , they serve you with these little sachets. Have you noticed that..

Now I love tomato Ketchup , I remember in school when I was in Patiala their use to be a new place called “Pik a Chik” that had opened near 22 number Phatak (railway crossing), and in those days these fast food places were the IN thing, everyone wanted to be seen at those places, The guy who owned the place knew one of my Aunts.  so me and a few friends would go there for food but along with the food we would finish off a bottle of ketchup .. It makes me smile remembering the guy telling my Aunt that its fine we come to eat food an all but we are not profit customers for him as we eat so much ketchup..

Anyway back to this restaurant, as I entered what do i see there was  NO tomato sauce on the table.  Now this was very awkward as now I have to ask for the tomato sauce.. my friend says don’t ask for the sauce..   I said I have to order the tomato sauce as i have just ordered some chips..

You can’t eat chips without sauce it’s too dry

so I  called the waitress very calmly but she looked as if she has had an argument with someone already or probably fought with her boy-friend

“Excuse me is there any ketchup in the building..” and I smiled

she looked at me as if I asked for something dreadful , she walks to the kitchen and comes with this small little cup of ketchup .. such small .. oh yes JUST TWO chip worth in it

and walked away

I stopped her there .. and said excuse me wait there .. I took a sip out of the cup .. and said yess

“This is nice, Yes I would like a BOTTLE PLEASE “…

They say laughter is the best medicine, so here is a joke for all of you . I went to my doctor and asked him , I have not been able to sleep lately, so the doctor says don’t have coffee or tea  before sleeping
and have a glass of wine .. to relax you .. I like that, how nice of the doctor

so Now that is what I do, nowadays have a glass of wine just before I sleep, But IT is not always easy you know ..

Because

someday’s I am already VERY DRUNK …

PS:- I am yet to reply to all the comments I know, Will do that very soon, I know I keep saying but will get there some-time, Promise.

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The above pictures will give you an idea what the true answer was to the Contest :- What might this be  .. I would like to post this as the Wordless Wednesday too, I know a Day earlier but hey .. its OK 🙂

The Winners are …  DRUMROLLLLSSSSSSSSssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss — CLAPPPSssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss Tain tain tainnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

1. Bhavia

2. Greenboochi

The British Asian Blog

4. Destination Infinity

5. Privytrifles

and This is what you win

Your Prize..

Thank you to every one who participated :- but special mentions for the first 5 participants 🙂

1. Sunny

2.Mak

3.AshreyaMom

4.MomWithaDot

5. NRIGirl

Thank you All..

See you again on the next contest …

After the previous couple of posts I thought I should change the scenario a bit , but for the life of me I have been unable to think of something remotely interesting.  I was a bit on the senty side too thinking of the childhood days and days back home 🙂 Yeah i know you going to say here we go again 🙂

When I remembered the first book that majority of us read the one where they teach us alphabets, The A and B and C’s .. how they have all these examples for each alphabet and they are all so simple , examples

A for apple B for Ball C for Cat and so on .. TILL you reach “X” .. and X is for  Xylophone ..

Now this caught my attention imagine the first exotic word you get to learn.. Xylophoneeeeeeeeeee 🙂  .. its my favourite

I mean the first think you learn as you are growing up, the most important word you will learn as you are growing up XYLOPHONE..

You are two or three years old learning this .. one of the most important 26 things you will learn Xylophone ..

When you grow up, probably there is a big BIG percentage that you will never be a xylophone player in your life, you will probably never meet a xylophone player in your life. I have never seen one or anyone playing it ever so far .. But here it is X for Xylophone

The only word invented for me to say when I reach X

Then I grew up and became mature (so I think), I am an adult and we are dealing with all these posh words the Alpha’s  Bravo’s  Charlie’s. Foxtrot, . Oscar and the ever so Exotic Zulu’s ..

Now these words are not taught to us , unless off-course we are in the police force or some other force that needs such words to tell the spellings ..

Now I can understand the reason behind using this Phonics as they are called, Because sometimes it gets difficult to pronounce names or words in the way they are supposed to be , because of different dialect and all ..

Believe me,  here in uk with euro opening up, the number of polish or Latvian names that I come across, Which I can’t pronounce at all.

I use to get angry at British not being able it say BIKRAM.. good I did not say its BikramJIT 🙂 ..

Bikram became  bikraaaaaaaam.. or bik or B and what not .. but blimey its like climbing the mountain .. giving a name to control to get some info..
I am on the phone trying to give my address to some insurance guy . .post code is P20 — ..

He says what.. B for ..

No I say P.. P for  and ohhhhhh at that precise moment my mind goes blank what .. what ..

What is it P for .. hmmm  Psychology ..

Oh .. S . 20  the guy says .. and I don’t know which was to look 🙂

Sometimes we also invent new words , which is Funny like if it is B i have usually said B for . BIKRAM 🙂 the guy on the other side is now thinking what the hell did I just say ..or i invent a new word B for Bougart..

or if its N20 – the guy says is that M for money .. NO  You Pillock its N for Nougartttt ..

Another funny part is, Well That I have experienced is that usually when we are trying to remember some meaningful word for the alphabet , there is all that FILTH that comes to your mind..

I am sure many will agree to it , although you may deny it 🙂  go on  try it .. you forget the words .. do try it , I was asked something and I had to say S something .. the girl asked me is it F for foxtrot

No its S for Sex .. (I said a few more words .. But did not want to put on this blog,  I am sure all your minds are probably Getting the RIGHT words ..So ahmm ahmm ).. stop ..

She got upset and shouted  Supervisor..

I said YEAH l That’s the one – S for supervisor 🙂

I am mischievous too sometimes  and can be funny too if they ask G for ..

I say Gnome

Try it sometime everyone 🙂

Have a Great day people .. and keep smiling .. for smile and the world smiles with you 🙂

I watched the second episode the series and Like the first episode this one was equally shocking too.. 53% of our children are being sexually abused, What more shocking can it be then this.

It further boils my blood at those people who gave me a THUMBS DOWN at what i wrote. Makes me wonder what sort of People are WE , who can’t even protect our kids .. further more what sort of people are ruling us in the government and WHO ARE WE SELECTING every time .. As the program suggested there is NO LAW so far in our nation for this crime.

I remember writing a line in one of the comments which got the thumbs down that “I do think that people need to stop talking of stupid issues and actually work on something which is much more required..” that we should maybe concentrate LESS on  USELESS ISSUES .. and concentrate MORE on issues like this. I would like to ask the same people again what do they think now , 53% which means more than one in Two is abused,  Such issues never make the headline , I wonder why!

Pick up the newspaper or listen to news all they talk is of things that don’t mean a thing when we put them in context over the TWO episodes that we have seen , the figures that have been shown, How shameful is it for our nation as a whole.  The Current headline is on BABA NIRMAL.. I mean for god sake ,  EVERY baba in our nation is taking us for a RIDE. EACH ONE of them.  but suddenly this one is in the news, hours after hours are spent on this USELESS ISSUE.  Yes this is a useless issue when compared to child abuse and female foeticide

This is going to be a controversial statement that I am going to make , HOW much time have we spent on the issue of MAN vs WOMEN.. how much time have people spent on MAN BASHING.. I want to ask those people what has that done ,  Dont they themself think that there are more important issues that might need more time , that instead of concentrating on the issues about the MEN in their family or the MEN around them they could perhaps concentrate a WEE MORE on the children too around them ..  PARDON me for saying this and I Iterate again , Let us as a nation spend time on issues which are going to make the future of our nation rather than silly issues .

I understand that no issue is less, they are all very important but I am sure if we tackle them one by one things can change, the problem we have is that we want everything to change at the same time , which is not how things work , we have to tackle them one at a time.

The figures are mind-boggling 53% of our kids, sends a shiver down my spine. I am sure rather I HOPE  this episode has done the same for others too, though I doubt as they are probably trying to find out or wasting time in finding how they can relate this to one and only THE MAN.

Today’s episode brought an evil a sad part of my childhood too,  I have held it very closely guarded all my life so far, not even the closest of  people around me know about this, but seeing the young man tell of his horrific ordeal  has somewhat given me a little strength to share with you all one of those days. I was in 5th or 6th class, Kerosene oil use to be given on a ration card in those days , a particular day you had to go and get your 5litres of kerosene which was used for domestic purposes.

PLEASE I don’t want any questions asked or any sympathy, so please don’t..

I was standing in a que waiting for my turn to come, my mother was with me but she was buying other things from the shop, there was a aunty standing behind me, I distinctively can still remember a hand going inside my shorts and starting to fondle me , I was in a shock , I did not know what to do , it had never happened to me basically as far as I remember I did not know what was happening, it was maybe for a few seconds or maybe more but it felt like ages .. and then I don’t know how to say it or put it , I felt a finger somewhere , where it is no way right, I shrieked  and as suddenly it started .. it all stopped .. I saw my mother run to me asking what happened .

I distinctively remember not saying anything other than that I want to go home, at that age I did not know what to say or to actually know what had happened .. I don’t even know who did it was it the aunty behind me or someone else , I was shell-shocked.  One thing I remember is the pain ,  My father came home from office , I complained about pain, I was taken to the hospital where I was checked over and there was a rupture, That is when my parents came to know, my parents asked me what had happened I remember I did not tell them anything till about a few days, It was too late to find out who did that to me. I spent a few days recovering as healing took a long time as you can understand why.

My parents have always stood by me, listened to me always YET I was afraid to tell them, I guess it’s because of the way we are brought up in our nation especially with Fathers.  I was not sent to the shops again alone, even when I went out to play it was someone with me. This was also the reason why when ever I had holidays my parents never said No to me going to our village to spend it , they I believe wanted me to be far away from the place.

I know what happened to me is no where compared to what the people mentioned in the episode today went through and probably hardly is such a  big issue maybe in eyes of a lot of people reading this,  But in my life this incident had a lot of effect on me , As you all know I went to a hostel for schooling, I use to be very jovial happy kid, but this incident actually changed me a lot , I was bullied in school maybe because of that , could not stand up for myself at all.. It took a long long time , not until I was in 12th that things changed , I became very violent in my college time, I guess it was maybe because of all that locked anger .

I still find is hard to stand in a que, or in a crowded place.. I feel uneasy maybe in the back of my mind that incident is still very much active.

I am not sure if I did the right thing or wrong to have written this , a lot of you have this image of me in your eyes, I guess that has taken a bit of a shock after reading maybe.. But the reason I put this here is to tell that this happens and it can change the whole life of an individual, I was lucky I had understanding parents, It took some time also to actually know what happened was wrong. This can happen to anyone, We may think our kids are safe but are they. The responsibility of seeing them safe lies with parents , who have brought them in this world.

I think Talking to your child is a must , telling them what is right or wrong at an early age is a MUST.  I did not know about it , I should have known the moment I felt that hand , it is something wrong, I should have had the confidence to run or shout or DO SOMETHING ANYTHING.. Not stand there letting it happen, I don’t know who had their fun at my expense but he/she whoever did something that probably changed the way I might have turned out to be, I am not saying I might have been different or that I hate what I am now, I am happy but who knows what could be..

And Talk to your Kids… Always

Your child might not be abused but they might have Seen something happen to some other child, Talking is the best and most powerful tool we have.  Understand this that Sometimes children do not realise that certain behaviour is OK in private but not in public. Or they do not realise that their behaviour is upsetting or harming other children.  They may be uncomfortable talking about sexual issues and may also be worried they are in trouble so your tone and manner are very important. Or you might see this happening to other kids in your locality SPEAK UP.

This song comes for All my blog friends , all who visit me, young – old- kids-adults- elders  Please just listen to the song .. close your eyes and listennnnnnn

and LET THE CHILD In you Come out … Have a Great Monday PEOPLE and a lovely Week…. Bless you alllllllll … love you all take care now

WHAT EVER YOU ARE DOING .. DROP IT ALL.. DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU ARE IN UR OFFICE OR HOME or ON PHONE .. LISTENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNn and SMILEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

 

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Give a little time for the child within you,
don’t be afraid to be young and free.
Undo the locks and throw away the keys
and take off your shoes and socks, and run you.
La, la, la…

Run through the meadow and scare up the milking cows
Run down the beach kicking clouds of sand
Walk a windy weather day, feel your face blow away
Stop and listen: Love you.

Roll like a circus clown, put away your circus frown
Ride on a roller coaster upside down
Waltzing Matilda, Carey loves a kinkatchoo
Joey catch a kangaroo, hug you.

Dandylion, milkweed, silky on a sunny sky
Reach out and hitch a ride and float on by
Balloons down below catching colors of the rainbow
red, blue and yellow-green: I love you.

Bicycles, tricycles, ice cream candy
Lollypops, popsicles, licorice sticks
Solomon Grundy, Raggedy Andy
Tweedledum and Tweedledee, home free

Cowboys and Indians, puppydogs and sandpails
Beachballs and baseballs and basketballs, too.
I love forget-me-nots, fluffernutters, sugarpops
I’ll hug you and kiss you and love you
La, la, la… Love you.