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The rewind button on the different music apps makes one think if we can have a rewind button in life too.. They do say that Hindsight is a boon, But sometimes the same hindsight also shows us what a prick we have been .. the concept of WHAT IF .. comes into action.

What if 2013 did not come, or what if the decision one took was a different one, BUT then everyone also says Destiny ..What has to happen will happen no matter what we do. So the decisions made would have been made irrespective of what the hindsight tells us now.

Very confusing, recently I was so fed up of everything that was going on around me that I thought of rewinding back the clock , So I went to a couple of places for 2 days only to try to relive the time that has gone back. It was not the same but I did have a smile for a few hours on my face.

Sometimes we make dreadful and very very wrong decisions, the worst thing is those decision can’t be taken back and we have to live our entire life with them, the clocks cant to rewound , whats done is done, friends turn to foes, people we love turn to people who hate us.   I do wish that there is a way in this world where we can make things right after they have been completely destroyed by us only.

If someone else has destroyed those it probably is easy to forget or at least live with the hate we have for them, but what if the one who has destroyed it is you , yourself. What do you do..  I know many people say that they don’t remember or have moved on, But I for one have not been able to forgive myself. I know I have done wrong VERY WRONG, how do we make it right.   If we had the opportunity to tap that Rewind button then I would have surly done it by now.

So I spent a couple of days last week roaming on the streets, trying to freshen up the memory of the not so distant past, it is still as if it was yesterday, God what a fool I would make of myself getting excited over Eating those masala Corn, one gets in cinema halls, or eating the lovely chicken in a restaurant, Riding a auto-rickshaw, looking at a Enfield bike and shouting ohhh “BULLET”…

I have always maintained that if I was to live my life all over again , I would do the same , make the same mistakes because I am what I am — (Good-Bad-Ugly) because of those mistakes or decisions… But as with everything else Exceptions are always there, I too have one which I would not want to repeat, this will probably haunt me for the rest of my life but the damage has been done , I dont see any way how it can be rectified.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.……………..

The rewind button …………

 

 

PS:- My apologies for not answering to the comments on previous post , and also not visiting all the lovely blogs. I will do that Soon.

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Terrorist have struck again, Killing so many innocent people.  Again this day freedom and everything else along with it came under attack from fanatic people. I am still wondering what religion teaches all this hatred and killing of people. Who is that person who is spreading these teachings.  This time people in London had to face an atrocity which cant be defined,  I hope and wish all bloggers speak against this evil that has happened. In today’s day and age one can die if they criticize one religion but killing of innocent people, hijacking , murdering innocent KIDS who are supposed to be God’s face is STILL RIGHT… Such a barbaric attack which is a threat to the values and freedom of human beings.

My heart goes out to the victims,  No religion teaches killing of innocent people yet time and again in the name of religion so many innocent have been killed.

My heart goes out for those who have suffered,  and those who have lost their loved ones to this madness, nothing ever can justify the murders. No doubt this act has been religiously motivated I can’t see any other reason behind it ,

Which GOD has ever preached that killing of innocent is right.

In the after math I found some disturbing events, Media which is supposed to be responsible does this look like responsible, before the terrorist was identified they put up this tweet, to which i replied… 

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@nieuwsblog could not even bother to reply back or take back the words, its all marked under one ASIANS. ()

Let me tell you @nieuwsblog  I am a SIKH and an ASIAN but I am not a TERRORIST…

Well done to  for the way they reacted. I just hope and pray that we can live in a world where there is  Love for all, hatred for none  .

Instead of focusing on things that did not happen let us try to learn from what happened, It was great to see people rushing towards the victims to help them or give first aid, the response from the armed police and other agencies was commendable, make me feel safer.   Let us get together and praise those who did there best to help others in a crisis. If we all combine and get together defeating Terrorism will be so much easier.

Media needs to be more responsible and not put up tweets etc like the one above, without making sure what the truth is , the moment that Tweet by @nieuwsblog came out there were so many to follow, This in turn causes more issue’s because Every ASIAN is viewed with suspicious eyes which can never help in building up a stronger nation.

It is a shame that some out there are trying to take some mileage and usual pointing fingers which is not going to solve anything, hopefully the UK Govt. will take some hard steps to make sure such incidents are not repeated again.

We who have left our own countries and come to settle abroad need to make sure that we respect the ways of the nation , the nation that is providing for us given us opportunities to have a comfortable life, if we have our own personal problems than yes maybe we should go back to the countries where we think we will be better of.

It’s been a long time since I posted something here as I have been struggling with some issues, that don’t seem to leave me alone but more on that later, don’t want to dampen the Christmas cheer but the recent events that have taken place in our neighbouring nation have given us enough to think. I don’t have words to describe the atrocity that has been committed against the little kids, Why it was done, WHO in their sane mind even thought about doing the act leave the planning part aside.

To call these people HUMAN is insulting itself, I can understand all this Jihad, fighting the oppressor, fighting for a cause etc etc BUT in my little mind I can’t understand what CAUSE IT IS? that says to attain it you have to kill innocent people … To stoop to such a level that you have had to kill little kids, Were you not man enough to take one someone your own SIZE.. Even with the amount of weaponry you had in your hands.

Where in ANY religion it says one has to go ,Kill innocent and that too little children, Rather it is said KIDS are God’s face, so how can it be right.

I fail to understand why are you people hell-bent on killing innocent humans, people whom you don’t know, people who you have never seen in your life, what in the world have they done to be treated by you like that, that you don’t give two hoots about them, Fine in your own twisted mind you have your own reasons or Evil thrill you guys get in killing an innocent human BUT pray let us know what they are.

I have read a lot of posts on what has happened, a lot of people like me have a lot to say and lot of blame game going on , But What makes me angry is why are we blaming others , It is
US the people, who are to be blamed, we have brought all this upon ourselves

The reason I say this is that in spite of knowing

1. Where the training centres are
2. Where these evil people are hiding
3. Where they get there weapons to do the mass murders
4. Who supports them

Nothing has ever been done, I heard the leaders in Pakistan speak the same words, our leaders spoke in India. The mentality of the so-called leaders is exactly the same irrespective of the country they live or lead. The same leaders were shouting at top of the voice after the Mumbai attack how their land is not being used to plan atrocities against neighbouring country. I hope they do the something now to make the world a better safer place, IF we can… as I think and feel that the damage is already done , it’s going to be so very difficult to hold the flow now. I only hope and wish innocent are not killed.

We the people found it amusing when the same atrocities were committed in other countries against other races or religions, because they were the KAFIRS, But sadly it is true with the saying “You reap what you SOW“… for years the leaders of our neighbouring nation has been sheltering the same people who are now doing the same against their own people.

I remember writing a letter to the Terrorist a few years back , where I pleaded them to stop killing innocent people and gave them enough options whom to kill otherwise, yet in all these madness it’s still the innocent who die ALWAYS. Never have I read news that a leader shot dead.

How hard can it be to find these bad people, if the leaders make up their minds and genuinely want to find them, We have read how the Intelligence agencies are involved one way or the other in helping these criminals, in the name of patriotism but is it REALLY that, what has all this patriotism brought so far, in all these years other than bloodshed and innocent dead. Where was all this intelligence when the little kids were being shot?

In my OWN TWISTED MIND, I want to ask the intelligence agencies was any of their relatives or family kids shot in the mayhem. Would they have done things differently if they had known it’s their own kin being targeted, or will they do something now.

It is sad what happened, Very sad, my heart wept hearing the kid say he doesn’t want to go to school anymore and the next moment it was filled with ANGER hearing that the Taliban have issued another threat that they will kill more if kids went for education.

We the human-kind are doing great, we are evolving, we have gone leaps ahead in this or that… YES we have but all this has it in any way changed the ways of life for a common man, I doubt it… it’s the common man if changed will change the ways of a country , the rich getting richer , the corrupt getting corrupter is not going to change anything …

I hope the leaders of our neighbouring country don’t put another of those committee’s to look into the security, to find reasons, to find the culprits… That does not work. It’s just a farce what has any of these committee’s ever done for the nation… other than use up the TAX money and waste them too. Time for action what action is taken depends upon how the people feel…

My heart-felt condolences to the people who were affected by this , and also I would like to say SORRY TO ALL THAT WERE AFFECTED BY THIS , SINCE AS A HUMAN, I ALONG WITH EVERYONE DID NOTHING ..

No wonder these people who bring about so much damage get away with what they want to do, when they want to, how they want to do… This will always continue till we wake up… I don’t know what will it take to wake us all, or when that will happen but I know one thing that when we ALL GET UP, STAND TOGETHER , All these terrorists will disappear… because after all they are amongst us, the enemy is within us all… we just need to open our eyes and find out who they are..

I got the following message on Whatsapp today

“Pakistan had made those terrorists, given birth to those terrorists, given shelter to those terrorists. These were own made terrorists of Pakistan. Those terrorists were made to spread terrorism in whole of world including India. And India is effected nation from terrorism by Pakistan. I do have sympathy but not of that much that we console and have sorrow of that much depth. After all how those terrorists were in Pakistan? Because they were under the protection and shelter of Pakistan. So we need not to be so sad on happened incident of enemy state Pakistan.”

To which I replied :-

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Such are what we have become .. NO wonder so much hatred and atrocities are common in today’s modern world..

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The Guwahati Molesters
Dear Wannabe/Seasoned Molester and Rapist,I will address you as pig in this post. I know that the pigs will be angry but I will personally say sorry to them.Dear Pig, I was very young when I saw my mother braving you in a bus. You were middle-aged and were leaning on her, rubbing your crotch on her shoulder.

Read more… 1,008 more words .. at Mashed Musings:

Right, Here is my view on all that is happening etc, This is what I  want to add..  Yes these molesters ,with the pathetic mentality are a Pig.. BUT WHO IS FEEDING THESE PIGS ..  is the question ?

WE as a nation are feeding them .. The pig is doing its dirty work, that is his job, that’s what pig do..  but what about the people who just stood there doing nothing .. Along with asking the pig to change its ways , Should not the question be asked from those people who watched the PIG go about its dirty work, The video that almost everyone has seen by now .. can we not count the number of people out there who were watching the SHOW..

How many vehicles can we hear in that video..

The cameraman was busy taking the video of the whole event, for as long as it took and then the Televisions went mad showing what was happening to the little girl, ALONE. millions watched. Does our media not know how to NOT put this shabby episode as a show. 

His first reaction should have been help or call police and then do the videoing .. or at least do something .. Maybe someone should ask this question from the television crew tooo , was he alone doing this did he not have others around to help .. what sort of person does it make this person taking the video. He was more interested in the news and the scoop he had .. which no other channel had ..

This is what I would do if i see I can’t help the girl as there are too many men out there, Ring the police .. If that does not work then get into my vehicle and RAM INTO THESE CULPRITS… I am sure no law would punish me for killing one of these idiots in trying to save the girl

I don’t think calling them just a pig is enough..

Some have gone and said this is an act of terrorism , But this is a terrorism on ONE sect on just WOMEN, how is that possible ?  Terrorism affects everyone, not just one person , WHEN will we get out of this mentality of each time something like this happens, out come people shouting hoarse it’s the MAN, it’s the SOCIETY, it’s this , it’s THAT.. its the police as many mouths that many reasons..  We are so good at it all…

This episode doesn’t only effect women, SORRY it effects everyone , her , her parents , her friends , anyone who knows her.. do you think the Father of this girl is dancing in joy, if is she has a brother he is partying over this ..  people who are reading this , seeing this .

So how can it be just against women.. as I mentioned in the last post we keep talking of the same thing against women ,etc etc well all the boys have some WOMEN in their household,  has any of the women come out against them ?  So those women are also culprits… they are supporting the culprits.

The thing is , I blame everyone , all are to be blamed, yes the pigs doing this MORE, but equally the people watching this, THE PEOPLE WATCHING THIS VIDEO AGAIN AND AGAIN, the people at home , everyone , I blame myself even for this ..  WHY did we let our nation come to this..?

Why can’t we treat the other as a human being or at least treat them as we want to be treated..

I feel disgusted when people start to say of it’s a man’s fault , it’s a woman’s fault, its society its this it’s that .. WELL whoever or what ever it is .. WE made it that way..

till we get out of this mentality of blaming something or someone .. things wont change EVER.. do what one may.

This is what we are, more than the molesters, the number of people watching is more..so who is a bigger PIG, the one doing the act or the ones standing there enjoying the Show…..

Many of you out there are not going to like this post , as I am not blaming one particular sect,  BUT that is the truth,  A LOUD NOISE HAS TO BE MADE… 

It takes a loud voice to make the deaf hear, with these immortal words uttered on a similar occasion by Valiant, a French anarchist martyr, do we strongly justify this action of ours. This is how the above notice was put all over the nation in those days of the british RAJ.. signed by Balraj  Commander-in-Chief  (Balraj was the pseudonym of Chandra Shekhar Azaad , The commander-in-chief of the Hindustan Socialist Republican Association (army))

I am sorry to say we are more worried about the black money and Lot of STUPID PROBLEMS, ( I am sure all those who visit me know what I am pointing at) , or other things BUT When and WHO will fight for the basic things.

Where are the Baba Ramdev’s , The Gandhians, The Anna hazaare.. What is more important to fight or have these rally’s to bring back the black money or make sure such incidents don’t take place and if they do take place then the culprits ARE CAUGHT not in half hour , not in 24 hours BUT AT THE EARLIEST,  What is more important, SHOULD the police not be brought to the DOCKS , they are paid to protect us, WHY are the culprits not arrested ALL OF THEM..

Why is Not a single police officer sacked.

Ladies and gentleman it is time to get together and  stand together and make a NOISE .. A NOISE THAT will make the DEAF hear for believe it or not , OUR SOCIETY, US, our leaders , our office bearers are no other than DEAF.. they don’t hear anything Till a loud noise is made ..

“I Dont want your tears , I don’t want your pity, I want your ANGER about this system, Given your anger CHANGE WILL COME, Unless there is anger  how can everything change ” ? 

I say that too,  MAKE THAT NOISE , WAKE THE DEAF.

hathyar hi sute haje chalaune nahin aseen bhule  

raflaan diyan nalaan de rakhe ne muh haje tak khule

jit ke ja waddi hai kithe thagan di toli

(We might have thrown our WEAPONS (hathyaar).. But we have not forgotten how to use(chalauna) them,  We have kept the mouth of our RIFLES (raflaan) open,  Where do these THUGS go after winning the elections)

I leave you with a question (hope you have reached here reading this post)  Having a STONE in hand , Who are we going to hit it with ?  The molester OR THAT person who stood there watching the whole SHOW. 

I will prefer to use my gun and shoot that who stood and watched the SHOW.. because that person is more of a culprit , I know the molester , I can see his face , but these who hide behind doing nothing are the WORST LOT.. they are the reason our nation is where it is now, they will be the next one to become molesters, rapists.. …   WE are the culprits..

The Mayhem

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October 1984 was the day when humanity , brotherhood went for a six in a country which boasted of being the biggest democracy and even bigger in diversity.  Its been 27 years now to the day when the mobs were given free hand to do as they please in the wake of Prime Minister Indira Gandhi’s assassination, the mob whose one target was to find a Sikh and kill.. neighbours became foes. People who were there with you, for you in thick and thin before that day, The ones who boasted of friendship.

That massacre raises a lot of SERIOUS questions about the autonomy of  law and order machinery,  It all went for a six in those three days. Human rights had no meaning.  Then came another Blow , that too from a chosen leader who supposedly was educated and intelligent , Prime Minister Rajiv Gandhi, He had the audacity to say in his first public meeting that such things happen or are caused  by the fall of a mighty tree ,  Instead of  condemning it all it seemed he likened the carnage.

In the Drama that has unfolded over the years, lots of govts. came and went , each promising justice but that has never come I mean barely 10-15 people have been convicted for murders committed , the official death toll was 2,733 .. Where is the logic behind all this. How can this be justified ? 

Does this not cast a poor reflection on the integrity of India’s criminal justice system ?

There has not even been a condolence motion to the victims of the 1984 carnage, the human rights in this country has suffered a terrible setback, Such is the disdain displayed by the highest institutions of India,  If such are the deals meted out to the people of this country what can we expect the country to do in case of foreign criminals doing the same to us in our own country.

Prime Minister Manmohan Singh himself acknowledged in Parliament years ago that despite official inquiries into the 1984 carnage, “We all know that we still do not know the truth, and the search must go on.” 

How is it possible, No wonder the indian people are loosing faith in their own country .  When other countries commemorated the 25 years of the bloodshed, India was still quiet as they were too wary of the fact that if  any sort of Commemoration is done for the victims, it would be an insult to Indira Gandhi

Is her Murder bigger then the Murders of  (Official numbers) 2,733?

Even when we were under the RAJ, The british publicly condemned General Dyer for taking the action against the innocent in Jallianwala Bagh, , a Public committee called “HUNTER COMMITTEE” was created, it was endorsed by the house of commons in UK, and Dyer was removed from the army unceremoniously. But India as a country could not do so, HAS NOT DONE SO, in spite of 27 long years gone by. So much so that Independent India has FAILED To measure up to the benchmarks set even by the Raj.

All this has done is give the  communal parties a big thumbs up, well we all know that these are the parties that organised the killings of Muslims in Maharashtra in 1993 and Gujarat in 2002.

We talk of Equality but is there any equality, when there is so much Indifference towards the minorities, I mean if Sikhs can suffer this, imagine what would a Dalit in an obscure village feel.

What does that tell us about the mentality of  the citizens who are still voting for those tainted ministers , I remember the words used by our neighbour in Chandigarh, In those days when the elections took place, She came over to our house and categorically shouted “VOTE PAO HATH NU”.. as the hand was a symbol for congress then and this was the neighbours with whom we had lived since I was born. With whom we were closer than our relatives. Yet when it happened there was only one reality Hindu – Sikh .. all the Love was forgotten.

To this day there are places where more proof of genocide are being discovered, even in January 2011 a place Hondh-Chillar, where 32 Sikhs were killed on November 2, 1984, was discovered in northern Haryana, and in March 2011 another place near Pataudi, was discovered.  The official death toll is much higher than that. 

“The discovery of more Sikh massacre victims after nearly three decades shows the reluctance of successive Indian governments, despite numerous commissions of inquiry, to get to the truth and prosecute those responsible for the anti-Sikh violence,” said Meenakshi Ganguly, South Asia director at Human Rights Watch.

It is sad that there are cases being fought on foreign soil against the Congress Govt, Yet no one has batted an eyelid in the country itself.

The 2011 WikiLeaks cable leaks revealed that the United States was convinced about the complicity of Indian Government ruled by the Indian National Congress in the riots, and termed it as “opportunism” and “hatred” of the Congress government against Sikhs.

I wonder what is to become of this great nation, Will the culprits ever be charged for any crime or is it that only the common will have to suffer.

Batti Lal jadon langhe .. Saade maardi hai Dande            (when a car with red light atop comes, we get hit by canes)
Panj Sallan lai appan aape Beeje eh Kande                     (for five years we have Ourself sown these Thorns)
Dangiyaan ch Ujad gaye jihna de Suhaag                        (during the riots , women whose husbands are killed)
Sut dindiyaan ne Sandook Uhle Oh paraandiyaaan …   (they throw the signs of  being a Bride, behind the old cupboards )

DIL DARD KA TUKDA HAI … PATHAR KI DALI SI HAI…
Ik Andha kuan hai yaar .. Ik band gali si hai

Ik CHOTHA sa Lamha hai Jo khatam nahin hota ..
MAIN LAKH JALAATA HUN..
yeh Bhasm nahin hota.. Yeh bhasm nahin hota

Child Abuse – Signs and Symptoms

Child abuse is any form of physical, emotional or sexual mistreatment or lack of care that leads to injury or harm.

It commonly occurs within a relationship of trust or responsibility and is an abuse of power or a breach of trust. Abuse can happen to a child regardless of their age, gender, race or ability. Abusers can be adults (male or female) and other young people, and are usually known to and trusted by the child and family

Although these signs do not necessarily indicate that a child has been abused, they may help adults recognise that something is wrong. The possibility of abuse should be investigated if a child shows a number of these symptoms, or any of them to a marked degree:

Sexual Abuse

  • Being overly affectionate or knowledgeable in a sexual way inappropriate to the child’s age
  • Medical problems such as chronic itching, pain in the genitals, venereal diseases
  • Other extreme reactions, such as depression, self-mutilation, suicide attempts, running away, overdoses, anorexia
  • Personality changes such as becoming insecure or clinging
  • Regressing to younger behaviour patterns such as thumb sucking or bringing out discarded cuddly toys
  • Sudden loss of appetite or compulsive eating
  • Being isolated or withdrawn
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Lack of trust or fear of someone they know well, such as not wanting to be alone with a babysitter or child minder
  • Starting to wet again, day or night/nightmares
  • Become worried about clothing being removed
  • Suddenly drawing sexually explicit pictures
  • Trying to be ‘ultra-good’ or perfect; overreacting to criticism

A child may be subjected to a combination of different kinds of abuse.
It is also possible that a child may show no outward signs and hide what is happening from everyone

Sexual development progresses through a number of different phases:

  • infancy
  • young school age
  • pre-adolescence
  • adolescence

Each stage has behaviours which are considered ‘age-appropriate’., although it is also normal to a see a child exhibiting behaviour from the age group immediately above or below them.

If a child has learning difficulties or behavioural difficulties, it is important to consider their developmental stage.

Many adults are uncomfortable when they see children displaying sexual behaviour. Our judgements are affected by age, gender, personal experiences, cultural background, religious beliefs and profession.

It is normal for children of all ages to play and experiment and be curious about their own and each other’s bodies.

Ask yourself the Following questions

1.    Does the child seem ‘normal’ for their age?
2.   Do they seem emotionally or socially withdrawn?
3.   Are they unusually aggressive?
4.   Does the child seem dirty or smelly?
5.   Are they bruised or cut in any way?
6.   Is the child left at home by themselves?
7.   Are they left out late at night?
8.   Is their home clean and tidy?
9.   Does the child spend time with their family?
10. Do they seem to have a good relationship?

And Talk to your Kids… Always

Your child might not be abused but they might have Seen something happen to some other child, Talking is the best and most powerful tool we have.  Understand this that Sometimes children do not realise that certain behaviour is OK in private but not in public. Or they do not realise that their behaviour is upsetting or harming other children.  They may be uncomfortable talking about sexual issues and may also be worried they are in trouble so your tone and manner are very important. Or you might see this happening to other kids in your locality SPEAK UP.