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Hello everyone , how are you all doing. I hope life is treating you all very nicely and fairly.

It seems my mind has again been working overtime , which is rare actually when you think of all the nonsense I come out with , I can see and feel a few heads nodding out there .. well never mind .. Nod as much .You are still going to read the whole of this Post.. DONT STOP NOW.

Right this is a funny thing , how many people out there have seen it happen or done it themselves.. You know all that pallava how a mobile phone works, how it goes out of range , the signal drops all that..

So I have seen this now a few times When you are talking to someone on the phone and suddenly it goes out of range .. WHY do we start saying Hello , hellohellohello … heeeeellllllooooooooooooooo.. I mean check it out usually we say it FIVE times (well you can sure wonder how bored i am , and how much time i have on my hands , looking for such things to happen around me ) 🙂

This is what most people do as the signal goes there is a SINGLE hello .. then THREE SHARP hello’s and then a Longggggggggggggg hello .

Hello

hellohellohello

Helloooooooo …   🙂

Ok while we are on the word HELLO here is something else , you have all heard of the international magazine HELLO.. so if you ring there reception by mistake it will be a funny talk

you call up ,

you – HELLO

they – HELLO

you – HELLO…

HELLO ..  They reply again HELLO .. Is this Hello .. Yes its HELLO .. Hello

🙂

Another thing is .. There is only one company that I can think of which has to take its Competitors name before it takes its own brands name , can you guess what it is  ..

???

????????

right let me tell you its the OK magazine ..

you call them ,  “HELLO” ..

they reply “HELLO, OK”..

Hello get free marketing and advertisement from OK 🙂

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BlogJunta - An ode to the Blogosphere

Over the last few weeks and months I have read a lot on the topic, it has ranged from people saying Men are the worst thing ever , how women will be happy without men . Men calling how women behave etc etc etc.. I have gone and put my views on a few of the blogs where the articles have written the replies to some have been funny and made me smile.

So let’s be frank and throw away all the hesitations we have, Slut walk is/was organised by people to let other people know that it’s not the women who invite men to rape them by the way they dress up ,  That is what I think is the MAIN point although there are a billion branches to it which my small mind cant cope with.

I am writing this post to put my views on all this Walks , holding discussions , meetings etc as far as I am concerned Dont help there are reasons behind that, Has a walk or a demonstration ever helped anyone and I mean that in context to OUR country INDIA, not referring to any other nation because I don’t believe taking examples of other nation will help us , things don’t work the same in our nation.

My question is to all the people (male-female and any other category which is human included) .. the reason I put that in brackets is I am sure someone out there reading this will say I am talking only of females , yeah I get that a lot so to be POLITICALLY CORRECT I put all..  right the question is will this walk really help.. or has it helped ..

Again please hold your horses and take your fingers off that trigger .. and listen to what I have to say

I am not undermining anything, I totally support all kinds of walk , dharna’s , agitations etc .. BUT my question is to all those who are quiet vocal,

what will they do if they found out that the person who eve teased or raped or molested is from their own house.. will they still want that male to be castrated …

All these crimes are done by a Male (again please I mean MAJORITY) though females too do it but lets assume here its a male who is the culprit .. Dont you think we should be teaching  the MEN the male in our own house , in our own room for things to make a difference, I strongly believe that Once that happens then the things will change.

I feel that the BASIC MENTALITY of a  MALE needs to be changed..  After all the rapist or the man who is eve teasing , or even thinking of it .. IS from our society and maybe from our own home ..

1. How many people will be there in the march, Pardon me for being a idiot but as far as i understand a Indian mindset many of them in the march will be going back to there own home shutting the door and then BITCH about it, Tell me if i am wrong in that …

2. How many of the people actually in the march will go home and to there Husband-Son-Father and point out to them that the way they look at a girl is not good.

3. How many MEN who are supporting this march will on a friday night get drunk or have a few drinks and then do the same thing against which they are standing up now. by this i dont mean they will go and Rape or molest someone I mean talking amogst their own friends .. Oh how sexy that girl is , look at her legs , this and that…

4. A baby boy grows , starts school , comes back home after a few days Mommy is probably the first one to ask “KOI GF banai”..  A girl is taught and instructed about social conduct, given guidelines about how to dress and behave in public in general. But a boy is seldom/never taught about these things at home esp with regard to conduct towards girls. He learns from his peers, from the media which shape up his misguided notions which slowly get entrenched. Something needs to be done in this direction too.  (copied this from Ajay’s comment..)

I am copying “It is cool to address women as chick, babe, figure, item..It is cool if you are known for your ‘long legs’…It is cool to ignore certain men who ‘compliment your gorgeous shirt/top’ with all the wrong intentions..it is cool to get a million likes when you wantedly put up a pic of you lounging by the beach ( yes, I know some ex-classmates who will do anything for attention. They are still insecure like hell. The funny part is they are showered with attention only when they put up such pics. I am in no way supporting ‘it is women who provoke men’ policy but I am convinced it is because of low self-esteem and insecurity that is making them stoop so low. I have also come across men who have asked them to think again.)”

I totally agree with the above ..

5. I also beleive that  If a woman is dressed a certain way, it does NOT mean that she’s looking for sex!.. But then I would not want a female who I know walking on the road half naked,  as a prostitue would walk.. Again YES I know how they dress and walk.  I know many out there probably wriggling there fingers to put in a comment How do i know, or how can i see.. Well my answer is Look at the one you care for and love , thats how they NOT DRESS.. hope you got a reply

I was brought up by parents who taught me how to treat a woman, I was always told that I should watch how i behave outside since I have sisters and I would not like them teased or hassled. DO you teach your son-husband-father this … Did you protest when a male in your family said something derogatory about a female in front of you.

Do have a think and let me know….

Thanks everyone for always being there 🙂 Have a great Wednesday…

October 1984 was the day when humanity , brotherhood went for a six in a country which boasted of being the biggest democracy and even bigger in diversity.  Its been 27 years now to the day when the mobs were given free hand to do as they please in the wake of Prime Minister Indira Gandhi’s assassination, the mob whose one target was to find a Sikh and kill.. neighbours became foes. People who were there with you, for you in thick and thin before that day, The ones who boasted of friendship.

That massacre raises a lot of SERIOUS questions about the autonomy of  law and order machinery,  It all went for a six in those three days. Human rights had no meaning.  Then came another Blow , that too from a chosen leader who supposedly was educated and intelligent , Prime Minister Rajiv Gandhi, He had the audacity to say in his first public meeting that such things happen or are caused  by the fall of a mighty tree ,  Instead of  condemning it all it seemed he likened the carnage.

In the Drama that has unfolded over the years, lots of govts. came and went , each promising justice but that has never come I mean barely 10-15 people have been convicted for murders committed , the official death toll was 2,733 .. Where is the logic behind all this. How can this be justified ? 

Does this not cast a poor reflection on the integrity of India’s criminal justice system ?

There has not even been a condolence motion to the victims of the 1984 carnage, the human rights in this country has suffered a terrible setback, Such is the disdain displayed by the highest institutions of India,  If such are the deals meted out to the people of this country what can we expect the country to do in case of foreign criminals doing the same to us in our own country.

Prime Minister Manmohan Singh himself acknowledged in Parliament years ago that despite official inquiries into the 1984 carnage, “We all know that we still do not know the truth, and the search must go on.” 

How is it possible, No wonder the indian people are loosing faith in their own country .  When other countries commemorated the 25 years of the bloodshed, India was still quiet as they were too wary of the fact that if  any sort of Commemoration is done for the victims, it would be an insult to Indira Gandhi

Is her Murder bigger then the Murders of  (Official numbers) 2,733?

Even when we were under the RAJ, The british publicly condemned General Dyer for taking the action against the innocent in Jallianwala Bagh, , a Public committee called “HUNTER COMMITTEE” was created, it was endorsed by the house of commons in UK, and Dyer was removed from the army unceremoniously. But India as a country could not do so, HAS NOT DONE SO, in spite of 27 long years gone by. So much so that Independent India has FAILED To measure up to the benchmarks set even by the Raj.

All this has done is give the  communal parties a big thumbs up, well we all know that these are the parties that organised the killings of Muslims in Maharashtra in 1993 and Gujarat in 2002.

We talk of Equality but is there any equality, when there is so much Indifference towards the minorities, I mean if Sikhs can suffer this, imagine what would a Dalit in an obscure village feel.

What does that tell us about the mentality of  the citizens who are still voting for those tainted ministers , I remember the words used by our neighbour in Chandigarh, In those days when the elections took place, She came over to our house and categorically shouted “VOTE PAO HATH NU”.. as the hand was a symbol for congress then and this was the neighbours with whom we had lived since I was born. With whom we were closer than our relatives. Yet when it happened there was only one reality Hindu – Sikh .. all the Love was forgotten.

To this day there are places where more proof of genocide are being discovered, even in January 2011 a place Hondh-Chillar, where 32 Sikhs were killed on November 2, 1984, was discovered in northern Haryana, and in March 2011 another place near Pataudi, was discovered.  The official death toll is much higher than that. 

“The discovery of more Sikh massacre victims after nearly three decades shows the reluctance of successive Indian governments, despite numerous commissions of inquiry, to get to the truth and prosecute those responsible for the anti-Sikh violence,” said Meenakshi Ganguly, South Asia director at Human Rights Watch.

It is sad that there are cases being fought on foreign soil against the Congress Govt, Yet no one has batted an eyelid in the country itself.

The 2011 WikiLeaks cable leaks revealed that the United States was convinced about the complicity of Indian Government ruled by the Indian National Congress in the riots, and termed it as “opportunism” and “hatred” of the Congress government against Sikhs.

I wonder what is to become of this great nation, Will the culprits ever be charged for any crime or is it that only the common will have to suffer.

Batti Lal jadon langhe .. Saade maardi hai Dande            (when a car with red light atop comes, we get hit by canes)
Panj Sallan lai appan aape Beeje eh Kande                     (for five years we have Ourself sown these Thorns)
Dangiyaan ch Ujad gaye jihna de Suhaag                        (during the riots , women whose husbands are killed)
Sut dindiyaan ne Sandook Uhle Oh paraandiyaaan …   (they throw the signs of  being a Bride, behind the old cupboards )

DIL DARD KA TUKDA HAI … PATHAR KI DALI SI HAI…
Ik Andha kuan hai yaar .. Ik band gali si hai

Ik CHOTHA sa Lamha hai Jo khatam nahin hota ..
MAIN LAKH JALAATA HUN..
yeh Bhasm nahin hota.. Yeh bhasm nahin hota

“Goodbye, everybody!” – Anxious to see the journey ahead?

“Don’t worry, it’s not loaded”

“They tried to get me – I got them first!” – Going to die anyway?

“I am eager to see what lies beyond the curtain of death,” “Bye-bye selfish world.”

These were a few of the last emails written by a few who were about to give up there life.. for some reason ..

Though we don’t know what prompts this behaviour, most people commit suicide due to “usual” reasons. That would range from matrimonial discord to failure in exams on one hand to unrequited love or monetary distress on the other. Monetary distress could be due to many reasons: losses in business or stock market, unemployment, debts, etc. Harassment for dowry, old-age problems and suffering from chronic diseases also account for many suicides.

Deranged people commit suicide.

A Sane person will ponder over the matter and try to solve the problem. But what is sanity..

Insane person will get carried away by emotions or compulsions at hand. I think a very strong will is required to commit suicide. Who wishes to end such a beautiful life without reason. The cases of frustration in love, extreme poverty, chronic disease, threat to life otherwise, may be some of the causes that drive a person to this sordid act.

I have spoken to many friends and found that no one has pucca solutions for defeated hearts, persons with weak will-power. Counselling also helps to some extent. Any way I will say that to commit suicide is a foolish act.

One thing I will say everyone in this world today or tomorrow everyone has a stressful situation but the main difference between the two people (one who commits suicide and one who does not) is that one who commits suicide is alone. He is not even able to share his pain with a single human being in this earth.

Human being is a social animal whenever he gets a feeling he is alone because he is not able to express himself to anyone he commits suicide. Till we have a feeling of responsibilities, bothering for others one does not commit suicide. The moment human being knows there is no one to bother after me, or there is no responsibilities human being attempts suicide.

I have often felt or heard people say that Love hurts.. Well what i think is that love doesn’t hurt. On the other hand Love is amazing, What hurts is the absence of mutual love, the feeling of not being loved or not getting what you think you should be getting.

Love is a bond between two people that goes beyond the boundaries of reason, the sensations overwhelms the mind and senses enough to do things that are adorable.

But when only one person out of these two has this emotion they might not realize that the other might not reciprocate and it is this naivety that blinds them from the plain and simple truth that they might get hurt as if they were in a relationship that doesn’t mean anything what so ever! When OR if they do get hurt then they can’t understand why this person, who apparently loved them, did what they did. The answer is quite simple: Either that other person doesn’t reciprocate or they need reminding that what they are doing to those that they love the most is in fact hurting them! If they change their ways, at least enough to show that they desperately want to try, then they love you back. If they don’t then they don’t love you back.. and Then that is the time to give it a hard thought…

Unfortunately the word love is used far too often or perhaps the bond associated with that word is perceived to be far stronger then it actually is. Real love requires self-sacrifice and that generally is something that is very painful, even if the feeling is mutual. I think love is far more than positive feelings and something that can even seem cruel at times.

If the other person doesn’t love you then it is not your love that is causing the pain it is their lack of love.

So what do you think people..

You Got to be LOVABLE to be LOVED

till next time …

The title of the blog says Me and my random thoughts This was one of those Thoughts 🙂

Well here we go , Replying to the post on the kids left in the car Question please do answer , By now most people know what I do, so please don’t ask what I do 🙂 I cant say it here as such..

Anyway So we waited for the people to come , it was the grandma and the father of the kid who had gone for a minute to get a pack of ciggies ….

The guy smiled and went to the drivers seat, which my partner stopped him to to, the smile went off, and I went on to talk to him asking him why were they so stupid to leave the kids in the car

“It was locked “, NO IT WAS NOT

“It was alarmed”, So I could still get to them , and no one bothers these days about the alarm as there are so many going on during the day.

Well as we were talking to him telling him pro’s and cons of the situation, he said something like
“You don’t have anything better to do”

Ah well I had , had enough by then, I told him it was against the law, to which he got aggressive , At this moment I was also thinking if social services were involved it would not be in favour of the kids as Parents are the best people to take care of the kids.

The Grandma was pleading at this time, that the kid was asleep so they did not want to disturb the kids , and they parked under the light and a CCTV to be safer..  Which to me sounded genuine at the time..

So we reached a conclusion with the grandma that The mother of the children to be contacted and the kids sent with her, Cause we were not happy letting the father take the kids ..

THIS IS WHEN THE S%$£ hit the ceiling….

The guy lost it , he lashed out, we ended up in a tussle , holding him, More Police came, The guy arrested …
The grandma sent home

The kids taken in care,  social services were informed …

The Mother was contacted , She later came and took charge of the kids…

The couple were divorced and he had the kids for the few days .. Well I guess when it goes to court that wont happen again, he will probably loose the chance to take care of the kids, as I imagine the guy was not in his mind.

It was also discovered the Posh car was out of Tax and Had no MOT so That was also seized, and will be sent to be crushed…

So I guess without going into details all in all it was a Good job done .. 🙂 

The father behind bars, the kids safe and sound with the mother, she seemed to be good ,genuinly hurt, emotionally upset .. The grandma sent home as she was jsut a passenger and not responsible for the kids , since the father was there…

Do let me know if someone could or Would have done Different

And I am glad seeing the comments to the previous post.. everyone feels the way I felt and it does not make me the ODD ONE OUT 🙂  and To add it all I reached home very late. Thank you ALL.