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DISCLAIMER:-This Article has some very nasty truths .. so please read it at your own risk.. Truth is always hard to digest. These are my thoughts or what i have seen and heard ..

After my last post on what happened with a girl I know, I have some further Shocking incidents to discuss here. 

When I was studying in school as usual we had our female class mates with us, yes we had our crushes and emotions for a few of them in the school which is common , One of the girls in the class called me bhaiya or Veerji.. and that was it since that day onwards we have talked to each other as brother and sister, I am sure there are hundreds and thousands who have had that experience and do believe in the relation like that.

BUT nowadays a new situation is cropping up, which is quiet mind-blowing and shocking too, the hunger to come abroad, reach foreign shores is so bad in our country that people will do anything to get out, I know most of the people will say it’s not like that anymore. No one wants to come abroad the young generation is not looking to go abroad but to be blunt It is a myth. What all the so-called Educated, the future of the nation would do to come abroad. 

Here area few scenarios..

1. A girl/boy  takes an exam to get admission in a University or college in UK, they have been taking tuitions to pass this exam to get a good band, They pass it and then apply for a visa to come to this county.. Visa is again a lottery .. Lets suppose that “A” gets the visa (I don’t know what type of visa etc) , but lets assume they get 3 or 4 years visa.  Money has been spent on tuition, staying in a city for all that time, visa fees, visiting Delhi or whenever the consulate is .. all this adds up to a good amount, BUT mission accomplished got the Visa…

The scheme starts now.. “A” ‘s parents are now on a look out for a partner for their child, OH YES.. the reason being that since “A” can come abroad he can apply for a visa for a dependant which can be a husband-wife-partner .. So the BOLI the Auction starts .. the highest bidder who can pay .. for all that money spent, plus the college fees to be given , the travel arrangements etc etc and a PROFIT on top of it is required, well you can well imagine how much money exchanges hands.. it goes in lakhs..

This is the new trend which has come up you want to come abroad find a person who has got a visa then apply as a partner and voila you  can come to the foreign shores, we the indian’s are exploiting this rule to the fullest, sometimes to prove they are partners a sham marriage takes place…  Sham marriages is another big fiddle these days.  In our society it’s still ok for a boy but the girls too don’t mind these days, they get the money , and then come here and have to live like partners here to …

This is becoming quiet common in south india and Punjab since most of the students who are coming are from these areas…

2. This is Much more shocking a boy marries a girl from abroad or vice versa , come to the country stay for as long with their mutual partner , then I think its 2 years or maybe 5 years they apply for the citizenship , which they usually get because all these years they have been golden boys/girls in the family, suddenly when that Red passport comes in hand they change to their true colours .. Bang comes the papers to file for a divorce out of the blue.. next thing is they have a girl friend or boy friend back in india who now comes over as the new partner  🙂

Hold on One more scheme is there

3. If you have a relative settled abroad doesn’t matter who it is , if they have a permanent residency then ask them to divorce their partners , you have a sham marriage with them .. you can come abroad .. then off course you change partners again  once all settles down .. a LOT of money exchanges hands this way ..

Situation is so bad that brothers and sisters are getting to this SHAM marriage …  when I started writing this article this is what i wanted to write on but it’s too disgusting .. Reading the above few scenarios I am sure you all are intelligent enough to know what i would have said .. YES  there have been such cases, tooo. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT.. what  people can do to come abroad , that’s why I laugh sometimes when people say oh the young generation is not interested … One needs to see the Ques at Delhi or other consulates..  We as indians have this habit of not seeing the reality and hushing up matters this is one of them..

Someone said to me its only a small number .. YES ITS A SMALL NUMBER BECAUSE THERE IS ONLY SO MANY APPLICATIONS THAT CAN BE PROCESSED IN A DAY AT THE CONSULATES…  if it is open 24 hours the line will be longer …

I had an Indian passport with permanent residency, here when you apply for a british passport legally you are supposed to surrender your old passport ..  I was offered 10 lakh plus rupees if I could sell my passport to a friend in Chennai, He was so desperate to come over. I mean how will the name BIKRAMJIT go with a south Indian face,  no disrespect to him, but his answer was that its his problem, Me being an idiot surrendered my passport the day i got my british one, I should have kept it easy money that was…

The reason I brought this up I have a family friend here who are happily married and recently got their permanent stay here, Look how news travels and how the minds of people work, this was on 28th or 29th of April ..  and last week someone approached me from India a friend of a friend of a friend … 🙂 … that I should go and talk to this couple if they are interested in making some money and this was the idea.. 25 Lakh each 🙂 

Me being me called this friend who had given my number and blasted him off , now I have lost a friend too.. I have not told the couple here lest they stop talking to me too,  the best part is the person who phoned me is cousin of the girl.

Bucket List

Posted: March 19, 2011 in Bucket List, Life, My Thoughts., Soch

Ok before you guys read , let me tell you One thing I am not dieing or anything :), I am just accident prone i think so the last few days with the usual upheaves of day to day life, I have been thinking ( Yes here we are again , me Thinking I know , I know these both (me and thinking)  Dont go together at all ), but still for the sake of it lets say .. I have been thinking .. What if we knew or I know I am gonna die say in a months time or two weeks time ..

Would we get a chance to do what we would want to, So if you have a list of things that I would love to do one last time, will the angel or devil who has come all the way to take me give me enough time .. If there is god is he listening to what Iam typing here .. is he thinking hmmmm

“Isko Ek mahina de dete hain , jo karna hai kar le ”

But then the question comes how will i know if this is it .. 30 days left . Anyhow what will I have in my Bucket list .. The first one would be

1.  Walk with the Lions (yes weird thought, But I am in awe of this beast, its beauty, If man had not been cruel we would have these beautiful animals in abundance, Not that the lifestyle of this animal helps, but we humans have made it worse )

2. I want to meet all my friends, Each and everyone of the beautiful people who have been in my life one way or the other. Right from the time I went to my first class in the KG or LKG ( it was called)  to the Post Graduation, then at work , Blog, Orkut etc etc, It would be such a blast to meet them all, some faces have faded away but they are all here still in my heart – head, Imagine the excitement  , the laughters , the tears all those emotions in one big room, Some would only know of a person Bikram (hopefully 🙂 ) meeting me for the first time, Some wont know me But I would know them , For some I would have faded off..

3. I want to meet all those people whom I have hurt someway or the other and say Sorry to them, Say Thank you to all those who have somehow managed to make me what I am today.

4. Go to the gym for a week or two and have a SIX pack… instead of the ONE PACK I got now.. Oh cum on, girls love it .. ha ha ha .. have a stroll on a beach without my Tee.. ha ha ha ha ( I am thinking like salman khan now )

5. Visit My village.

6. If I could reverse the time 3 years back, meet my Dad and say sorry to him for all the times I have hurt him.

7. Fly a jet.

8. Swim in the two rivers that run along the boundary of our village , back home .. along with the rest of the guys , whom i have not met for 20 odd years.. Meet the Men at that times with whom i loved visiting the town, to show off that I had grown ups as friends, Village where the young men were all MAMA’s  ( the village to which my mum belonged) and CHACHA’s (village to which my dad belonged) . I dont know where have they all settled since most left the village to settle in cities.

9.  Am I becoming greedy now .. 🙂

I was hoping to make it to 10 but I have run out of thoughts .. and maybe Time too , I am sure there would not be this much time to do all the above, After doing all above would love to just fade away from everyones memory whishhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh zaaaaaaaappppppppppppp GONE!!!!!!

This article has turned out to be a bit of senty thing, which i did not want .. Anyway Anyone reading lets hear your bucket list.. say if you know you got 30 days left…

PS:- I took out the previous article cause my friends found it rude and I did not want to upset anyone , it was to be humour but i guess my humour not good he he he Will put something else later .. thank you everyone

“Goodbye, everybody!” – Anxious to see the journey ahead?

“Don’t worry, it’s not loaded”

“They tried to get me – I got them first!” – Going to die anyway?

“I am eager to see what lies beyond the curtain of death,” “Bye-bye selfish world.”

These were a few of the last emails written by a few who were about to give up there life.. for some reason ..

Though we don’t know what prompts this behaviour, most people commit suicide due to “usual” reasons. That would range from matrimonial discord to failure in exams on one hand to unrequited love or monetary distress on the other. Monetary distress could be due to many reasons: losses in business or stock market, unemployment, debts, etc. Harassment for dowry, old-age problems and suffering from chronic diseases also account for many suicides.

Deranged people commit suicide.

A Sane person will ponder over the matter and try to solve the problem. But what is sanity..

Insane person will get carried away by emotions or compulsions at hand. I think a very strong will is required to commit suicide. Who wishes to end such a beautiful life without reason. The cases of frustration in love, extreme poverty, chronic disease, threat to life otherwise, may be some of the causes that drive a person to this sordid act.

I have spoken to many friends and found that no one has pucca solutions for defeated hearts, persons with weak will-power. Counselling also helps to some extent. Any way I will say that to commit suicide is a foolish act.

One thing I will say everyone in this world today or tomorrow everyone has a stressful situation but the main difference between the two people (one who commits suicide and one who does not) is that one who commits suicide is alone. He is not even able to share his pain with a single human being in this earth.

Human being is a social animal whenever he gets a feeling he is alone because he is not able to express himself to anyone he commits suicide. Till we have a feeling of responsibilities, bothering for others one does not commit suicide. The moment human being knows there is no one to bother after me, or there is no responsibilities human being attempts suicide.

I have often felt or heard people say that Love hurts.. Well what i think is that love doesn’t hurt. On the other hand Love is amazing, What hurts is the absence of mutual love, the feeling of not being loved or not getting what you think you should be getting.

Love is a bond between two people that goes beyond the boundaries of reason, the sensations overwhelms the mind and senses enough to do things that are adorable.

But when only one person out of these two has this emotion they might not realize that the other might not reciprocate and it is this naivety that blinds them from the plain and simple truth that they might get hurt as if they were in a relationship that doesn’t mean anything what so ever! When OR if they do get hurt then they can’t understand why this person, who apparently loved them, did what they did. The answer is quite simple: Either that other person doesn’t reciprocate or they need reminding that what they are doing to those that they love the most is in fact hurting them! If they change their ways, at least enough to show that they desperately want to try, then they love you back. If they don’t then they don’t love you back.. and Then that is the time to give it a hard thought…

Unfortunately the word love is used far too often or perhaps the bond associated with that word is perceived to be far stronger then it actually is. Real love requires self-sacrifice and that generally is something that is very painful, even if the feeling is mutual. I think love is far more than positive feelings and something that can even seem cruel at times.

If the other person doesn’t love you then it is not your love that is causing the pain it is their lack of love.

So what do you think people..

You Got to be LOVABLE to be LOVED

till next time …

The title of the blog says Me and my random thoughts This was one of those Thoughts 🙂

WHY are people around us so heartless… or I should ask WHY do they show the stone feelings towards you.  I have had so many questions flying around in my silly little head and each time I try to answer them I fail miserably the one question that flies is WHY…

WHY

Just a small meagre 3 letter word yet it brings so much pain …

WHY do people change, I am not against changing but WHY turn there face, if someone has done wrong is it not better to let the person know what wrong they have done , rather then turning your face and walking away.

I am not sure what sort of person god has made me But WHY is it that I feel bad about what happens or has happened, How can people change so fast or am I missing something.. Sometimes the thought that comes to my mind is there is no place for me in this whole wide world…

I also think that If I disappear or vanish or die or whatever, all the people who once told me they care for me, love me etc etc will it even MATTER to anyone.. for that matter will it be even noticed where is Bikram.. I know I know someone will say it should not bother me, I should move on or I should forget about these people.. BUT is it that easy to do all this ..

I am definitely weird, the more I think the more I realise what a jerk I am for it definitely is not easy for me to move on or forget, I dont say you are a friend , or like a bro or the new lingo on the street these days , you are blood.. If I don’t mean it ..

I consider you a friend, part of family BECAUSE I consider you one, WHY is it so wrong to be like that , IS there no place in this world where you can find genuine people.

There always seems to be some motive behind, keeping relations could be anything money, emotional, love there is some sort of emotion, WHY cant people just be happy with the other person as they are, True I have problems , I am not perfect No one is .. I am good for some – Bad for others.. everyone is but suddenly you turn your face that ain’t right either.. IS IT …

Friendship is one relation I had so much faith in, I use to think friendships don’t change even if people change, Is there nobody out there who thinks the way i think, don’t people sit back  especially when they are alone and think , Wonder what Bikram is doing today, being long since talked to him , lets give him a call .. Or  Haven’t heard from him since ages , Is he ok, is he alive ..

Or

Is it just me who thinks that way 

How come its so easy for you to forget

WHY is it not easy for me ..

Am I really so weird..

Well here we go , Replying to the post on the kids left in the car Question please do answer , By now most people know what I do, so please don’t ask what I do 🙂 I cant say it here as such..

Anyway So we waited for the people to come , it was the grandma and the father of the kid who had gone for a minute to get a pack of ciggies ….

The guy smiled and went to the drivers seat, which my partner stopped him to to, the smile went off, and I went on to talk to him asking him why were they so stupid to leave the kids in the car

“It was locked “, NO IT WAS NOT

“It was alarmed”, So I could still get to them , and no one bothers these days about the alarm as there are so many going on during the day.

Well as we were talking to him telling him pro’s and cons of the situation, he said something like
“You don’t have anything better to do”

Ah well I had , had enough by then, I told him it was against the law, to which he got aggressive , At this moment I was also thinking if social services were involved it would not be in favour of the kids as Parents are the best people to take care of the kids.

The Grandma was pleading at this time, that the kid was asleep so they did not want to disturb the kids , and they parked under the light and a CCTV to be safer..  Which to me sounded genuine at the time..

So we reached a conclusion with the grandma that The mother of the children to be contacted and the kids sent with her, Cause we were not happy letting the father take the kids ..

THIS IS WHEN THE S%$£ hit the ceiling….

The guy lost it , he lashed out, we ended up in a tussle , holding him, More Police came, The guy arrested …
The grandma sent home

The kids taken in care,  social services were informed …

The Mother was contacted , She later came and took charge of the kids…

The couple were divorced and he had the kids for the few days .. Well I guess when it goes to court that wont happen again, he will probably loose the chance to take care of the kids, as I imagine the guy was not in his mind.

It was also discovered the Posh car was out of Tax and Had no MOT so That was also seized, and will be sent to be crushed…

So I guess without going into details all in all it was a Good job done .. 🙂 

The father behind bars, the kids safe and sound with the mother, she seemed to be good ,genuinly hurt, emotionally upset .. The grandma sent home as she was jsut a passenger and not responsible for the kids , since the father was there…

Do let me know if someone could or Would have done Different

And I am glad seeing the comments to the previous post.. everyone feels the way I felt and it does not make me the ODD ONE OUT 🙂  and To add it all I reached home very late. Thank you ALL.

I was reading this article on  comfortablynam’s blog.. and that got me thinking

Indeed so very true.. I feel that kids have so much faith on there parents when young… BUT on other side there is a different story that we see happening , I will give a small example

Pity is the state of PARENTS these days who don’t look after there kids, I have some strong values regarding children, Why do parents want to have them when they cant take care of them .. WHY there are plenty of  ways to NOT have them ..

I go MAD when parents don’t look after the kids..

This is the scene, Wednesday night walking down the car park, see a Car alarm go off, walk towards it, What we see is a Posh car, lights blinking, inside a 8 months old baby in a child seat asleep on back seat, and a 6 year old girl on the front seat sobbing.

We stand there for 15+  minutes talking to the little girl, asking what she is doing , where her parents are , manged to get her stop crying.. the baby slept through all this noise Bless her 🙂  awwwwwwwwww

Then walks in a old woman(60+)  , along with a guy(40+)..  They see us and nothing open the door of the car to sit in …

On questioned the reply was  “We went in for a quick pack of CIGGIES”..  (cigarattes)

JESUS CHRIST
How can you ..

I can vouch here it was not 2 minutes… its was at least 15+ minutes

Now what I want to ask is What would you do in this case ? 

I will tell you what I did, and beleive me this Parent had a lot of nasty things to say to me … but all that later let me have your views on it first….

DISCLAIMER:- Please carry on reading this article if you are ready to think logically and understand.
If you are one of those people who will not listen to One wrong word against the country PLEASE STOP NOW, I am sorry.. This article is not for you, or for those who have one single track mind..
All those who think our country has nothing wrong ALSO STOP READING NOW.
All those who can only TALK and do nothing also STOP READING. 

ALSO This is not INDIA bashing its towards the INDIAN PEOPLE .. bashing those who wud not od anything but will be the first ones to argue or fight or shout and put others down… Its to people to accept the the fault and work to fix it not sit and bask that we are doing good Thanks

What is this independance day and why do we celebrate it.. This is going to be a SHOCK for all reading this , I am indian and I think we should stop celebrating the Independance day .. the whole idea of or the reason of the celebration has been lost…

In my mind or in my sense we started clebrating this day because the British LEFT us or GAVE us independance , I have said Left us or Gave us because if you think logically , with a cool mind we could not have won it with war and with the Gandhi principles Even if we did manage it would have taken many more years to do so, The british went because they could not see any advantage of there stay Had they wanted they could have stayed anyway thats not the point of this article..

We started to celebrate this day because we became a independent country to be governed by us Indians THATS IT.. But its been 63 years now of celebration no one celebrates events for ever .. Especially when now we can sit back and think DO WE REALLY DESERVE IT ALL.

The few years in the start may have been good inspite of the wars we had to fight, for the sole reason that we had Indians ruling us and No white skin to bow down to. There have been some commendable work done by some indians, I say some because there are only a handful who actually work for the betterment of the country… Rest have just taken it for granted including me .. There were people then who wanted the british to go , who genuinly loved the country Now after so many years all those people have passed away and some are on way .. Which brings us to the new CROP.. That is US ALL .

Where are we now..

Were we not better off when we had british rule..

Over this last week I have read countless articles on independance day some moaning about the conditions , some saying how they love the country, some saying this should happen or that should happen… Come next year or wait Come january we will again do this DHAKOSLA on 26th Janaury.. then it all stops.

We Indians have no , NO excuse of bringing our country to this state, look at Germany or Japan.. world war happened look at the state of those countires completely devastated.. Look at them NOW.. Can we compare even a single thing… India was not devastated True it was poor because of the wealth taken away BUT mind you British gave our country a lot, The roads they built then are still standing , Have a look at the road in each locality – in your own locality that were built just DAY BEFORE YESTERDAY, you will get the idea..

Railways was another thing given to us .

The people who gave their LIVES for the country had the right to say they love their country, How many of the people who have written big articles or commented how they love their country can actually go and give their life, HECK I dont think I can go and die..

Yes our country is corrupt, Yes its far behind, Yes our country is dirty All this is true so time has come to STOP going GA GA over stupid things and shouting at foreigners who says india is dirty YES IT IS, I say so that does not mean I am not indian or you love the country more than ME. Time has Come to WORK and FIX IT

We all each and everyone , people Living In or outside india, EACH ONE has to wake up and stop this FARCE.. IF we start now maybe just maybe in a decade or two we can start to celebrate the Independance day again when we again win our freedom this time from our own people, From US , FROM YOU from ME… it is still a maybe but then there is still hope…

I was reading an article where someone mentioned we should celebrate the day to pay respect to freedom fighters, Come on I say to them, Those freedom fighters did not give their life to get this day , they had different ideas, they gave their LIFE for US the new generation who shout at top of our voice when need be how proud we are to be indians,

THE REAL CELEBRATION WOULD BE TO MAKE SURE WE BUILD THE INDIA THAT THEY HAD VISUALISED

Furling the national flag, singing the national anthem is not gonna achieve that. We have to start to WORK on making it better. We need to face the REALITY, till we do that nothing can be changed the first step to start changing or rectifying a PROBLEM is to Accept there IS A PROBLEM… if there is no problem then what are we rectifying NOTHING.

Lets forget of who did what , so what if a foreigner said india is dirty SO WHAT.. if it felt bad then maybe you should have gone and cleaned the place .. HECK I would do that I maynot have the guts to go and die for the country but I can go and clean the place and I have done it ..

The work on making the country a better place has to start, The first thing should be to stop moaning and actually doing something , If each of us take jsut a couple of hours out of a week it can work wonders. The problem is we will not do anything, but the moment someone says this is wrong , that is wrong we all attack them like a swarm of bees.. What we DONT Do is try to rectify the wrongness.

Looking forward to the comments I am gonna get after this article but after commenting do read the article again with a cool mind and think what I have said .. If you dont understand DO ASK….

To be continued :-