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Posted: May 11, 2010 in Dosti, Friends, relation

Sometimes it is heard , I myself have written in my blog sometimes That its when you loose someone that you get to know what hey meant or how happy etc you are.. But I would like to take those words back.. Its not always the case , sometimes its the BEST thing to happen.. Though at the earlier stage you might feel that end of world.. and How you gonna survive .. what you gonna do ..

But I have had a very good experience, and I am so glad its over, and Happy its over Now rather then a year down or two … IT WAS NOT WORTH IT.. rather I regret now to have got into such sort of relation… It all comes out What you actually meant to the other..

The person you actually thought was telling you the truth in the end it turns out that THANK GOD… Now it makes me mad at the thought WHat the hell was I doing.. Why did I get so blind sighted at the lies I was being told, all the time.. It makes me paranoid now thinking that I was probably the laughing stock at that moment.

What was I doing, How could I befool myself for so long a time , was I too blind to see the symptoms or the way things were going ..

Then on other hand it also makes me MAD and ANGRY that how can someone do this and get away with it .. Should we let them get away with it.. A lot of people say its good , its over , but the pain or the anguish caused was it for anything.. And If I am hurt or in pain then why does it show me BAD if i retaliate…

Do we not retailiate when someone slaps us , or hurls abuses at us .. We dont ignore it DO WE…

Then my point is it wrong if I want to have my revenge sorts, Why is that BAD… Why does it make me a Bad person.. WHY

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Lately been thinking 🙂 ok now you guys need to stop laughing just because I have been using this word a lot. I have been having a lot of thoughts coming my way, and off course I have no clue what they are… ok I hope someone somewhere might be able to tell me something about it ..

a Few weeks ago after my hockey game… Yes I know a few will raise their eyebrows, after the small procedure and HER SHOUTING AT ME… not to use it too often .. I could not resist… what going to the ground seeing the idiots do everything OTHER than play, I had to do something, So as promised to someone very dear , I will just have a warm up with the team, just to jolt the knee tell it what’s coming its way. Half time came and seeing them run like headless chicken I gave in, picked the stick walked in to have a game… it felt goood… after almost 3 weeks going on to the field , pity we lost 2 -1 but then IF Only they had given me the full 70 minutes of the game, it could be 3 -2 our way.. Tch tch tch when will they learn hain… keeping me out… does not suit them 🙂

Anyway we went to the pub for a drink, it was a home game so we are supposed to provide food and drinks after the game… it was the normal pub we go to, but only this time it was a bit empty, not many people, England’s friendly was on, hence my guess people stayed at home to watch the game. Well we had our normal drinks ordered… That’s when the talk started…

Why do people want to discuss Politics-religion when they have had a couple of drinks?

I was bemused because lately I have stopped drinking too much, I was having my glass of water while the others were doing the usual chak de, chak de…

The topic of discussion today was somehow the ways of our religious leaders, back home in India, I am not too much into such things because to me discussion on politics always makes way to an argument, Hence I kept my mind away, someone was telling how they spend some lakh rupees in India on their trip, how they have setup a Club in the village for Kabaddi/hockey for the youngsters to do something instead of smoking… (Hold on coming to the religious leaders soon)… how they have appointed two coaches paying them 10K a month each, so now he wanted us to put in 100pounds each to start with, Collect more money..

So this is where I opened my BIG GOB… for some odd reason I had to ask, Why I could not keep my mouth shut I have no clue
“Paaji what was the lakhs of rupees you spent on, according to him he has spent approx 10 lakhs”, now that is a big sum ..

(BTW as the guy was telling, I could not help noticing how the group was getting smaller, people trying to avoid and move away … I guess I did not take the hint… )

so as I said the words I got a crisp reply back saying “tun ki laina kaka, you dont know the ways how it works”.. Pardon me but I am not stupid OR AM I.

My idea was that a Staff nurse or a helping hand in villages, well in my village gets about 5k to 8k a month, so why give this coach 10k, for coming 2 hours a week, Basically I was now thinking this was all money making scheme, the guy talking did not have good reputation about it. Apparently one of the leaders had been called to the opening ceremony, Aaa ha so that’s where the money went which this guy was speaking of.

It was quiet funny to see how when I spoke I was quickly asked to shut up but a few minutes ago when the money was wanted it was so easy to ask me. My point is we are a group of people who like to play hockey why would you want to bring this in the small group, or will some people just don’t mind where to get the money.

Anyway I have a very good friend who was looking at me all this time, the moment he could, he comes over to me and says

“don’t listen to him, and don’t pay any money, this guy started a Cricket club last year.”

Oh I said.

Ah well I was being cheeky cause for some reason I wanted to know who this leader was who had come for the inauguration.

Why people do such shady deals, I mean if they want to help their village or city or for the WORST help the POOR… why not do so openly, why try to get a mileage out of everything. I mean what good is it for a person staying here in UK or maybe I am too naive to understand the ways of the world. Lucky me I guess….

I had my glass of water and some crisp… before saying my goodbye, I was feeling a few Pangs in the old knee, and I guess I over used it… OK .Now I am sure to get some bollocking over this :)… But as I got to my car I had a tap on my shoulder, turned around to see my dear friend wanting the money… he says to me
I should watch my mouth .. oops … Now the above account is AS it happened, I know hard to believe since it’s My side of story… but I can safely assume a lot people would vouch for me …

I did not know what to do

Should I retaliate? After all I am much younger then this guy, I can bet if I walloped him with full force he would go down.. And yeah

psssttttt let me show off a bit I am a blue belt in Saikado oooh yes he he he…

Anyway jokes apart… So this little incident left me a bit puzzled… I mean what did I do, 100 pounds is not a big amount but still I would like to know what I am paying for, moreover if you have done something for charity or for your own self, why would you want to collect the money. If you did spend all that money for the good, did you ask anyone, was it planned? So many questions. I work my arse off to earn, I am not saying I am poor I earn decent amount of money, but that’s not the point. I work almost 14 hours a day, for 5 days.

Should I have done something, I have been thinking, it’s getting to me every time

Was I being a chicken?

Why did I not retaliate?

Why did I not say anything, it’s not me I am more of a person who Doef it and then think..

I guess I have grown up… had my birthday on 11th so a year has helped me in doing the right thing… or it has made me a chicken… NO IDEA… Well so I guess..

Anyway put the end to story I did not pay ha ha I am sure of at least ONE person who will have a Beaming smile reading this. When I starting writing this post I had some other views but somehow while writing they changed.. So this post has come out entirely different.

Ways to break up a relation : Way 1

Posted: December 18, 2009 in Love, relation

1. Talk rudely

Example 1. :- I asked u something
at least have the decency to reply

2. :- watever u say

I have been meaning to write this article for ages now, but somehow I never managed to get round to it. Internet has been a great tool, I have met so many people over it all over the world and I must say some of them have become very good friends, a few closer than family too.

Then I started to write this Blog in October sometime, earlier I use to write a diary at night before going to sleep, everyday.. but for some reason I started this a few people were very happy. Over this blog I met a few people some good, some OK, I wont say bad because I think , No one is bad they are good for someone if not you.

Sometimes it makes me think that I am from a very old school, a school where patience, respect , love existed – nowadays I have seen it does not anymore..

Admi Sochta kuch hai
Karta Kuch hai
Hota kuch or hai..

Today we have become very unforgiving people. It may be an ethnic problem, or a community’s problem or a country’s, or in your relationships, with your wife, children, parents,Girl Friend, Friends, Acquaintances we get very very unforgiving and we hold that against them. We wear it as a badge which says
‘main tujhe kabhi maaf nahi karoonga’

Everyone has a hidden agenda behind everything, IT was not like this always people use to be so good, caring. The words they said meant something , people stood by there words. Nowadays people are quick to make a relation, even quicker to spoil or break one. What they say is not what they mean. Why have people become so heartless, What would it take to go back to the good old days. I mean how can someone say oh we are friends then at next instant go behind your back , I mean what is friendship…

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

I don’t know why god has made me like this, or why I think like that, But I would never do what I have experienced even to my enemy, Thanks to this blog I think I got a few of those now 🙂 But as someone who has my heart and cares for me a lot said to me, forget about them, they are NOBODY, think of the people I have met over this, Some very decent people, Pallavi her highness.. It has been lovely to chat with her sometime, knowing them.

lekin mai toh beroak safar mein
is ek aur pehlu se hokar nikal chala,
jeevan ki aapa dhapi mein kab waqt mila
kuch der kahin par baith kabhie yeh soach sakun,
ki jo kiya kaha mana usme kya bura bhala…

(these are a few words stolen from Mr. Amitabh Bachan).

I think this is where we have reached we have got so busy in our life that we have forgotten or forget what the effects of our actions will have on others, We have become so selfish, I ask god one thing always Please don’t make me so selfish, or careless, unfaithful, uncaring, heartless, Because I don’t know which action of mine might hurt someone. Do people actually mean they are friends when they say they are, or are just making fun of you. If they are then why do they do it, what right do they have to play with someones emotions. Would they feel the same if this happened with them, or have they become so heartless that it does not bother them anymore. How can they go to sleep soundly, well now I am being a fool because they don’t even know what hurt they have caused.

People are impulsive and say things that hurt other people, they walk over others especially people whom they say are friends. And in all this process they loose friends, I am a bit of a dumbo it takes a bit of time for me to understand people are trying to ignore me , so it gets difficult to loose me :). Loosing a acquaintance or friend over trivial reason, a reason which is non existence. All I would say is such people will one day realise what they lost, by then it will be too late.

I wish i had the Ego or Impulse to severe my contact with people, But then that’s not me.

Anyway festive season is here, so Please god take care of all my friends, foes, anyone i know .. God bless all and everyone … New year is round the corner I wish we all make a promise to ourselves to be a better human being.

Jaane anjaane

What is world coming to. hain…

NEVER..

Posted: October 25, 2009 in Love, never, relation

If Two people Love each other with all there heart, But don’t seem or Cant hold it together, when do you think ENOUGH IS ENOUGH and part

my answer is — NEVER

What Does anybody else think….

Cause that’s what there relation is I guess.. its still better then the ones where two people don’t know weather they love each other , they may be cootchy-cooing to each other all day long but the moment they turn they r thinking “what a B__” then what use is that relation.

Its better to know that you love and are loved and fight for it , never giving up.
relationships are funny, some last some don’t. The ones that don’t last doesnot mean that they were not worth .. it just means i guess that its time to move on, I know it sounds very odd saying this.. But then what right we got to make someone sad if we cant make them happy.

The ideal point would be to know that the relation is not working and Move on.. Me on the other hand i am very clingy.. I try my level best for the relation to last, i am the types who thinks that if we work on it the relationship will work, but then that’s me.. Although i am also of the point that if a relation breaks then its no use mending it again, for me if i let someone out of my life then they are gone. WEIRD am I not…

silly thoughts but a very sensible friend had told me that thoughts are not silly, they make perfect sense to the sane.. So I hope this all made sense to someone.. Cause if i read what I wrote I will probably end up Not posting it again 🙂

IT IS BETTER TO BE IN LOVE AND PART OR LOOSE THEN NEVER TO BE IN LOVE ……