Rewind.. wrong decisions

The rewind button on the different music apps makes one think if we can have a rewind button in life too.. They do say that Hindsight is a boon, But sometimes the same hindsight also shows us what a prick we have been .. the concept of WHAT IF .. comes into action.

What if 2013 did not come, or what if the decision one took was a different one, BUT then everyone also says Destiny ..What has to happen will happen no matter what we do. So the decisions made would have been made irrespective of what the hindsight tells us now.

Very confusing, recently I was so fed up of everything that was going on around me that I thought of rewinding back the clock , So I went to a couple of places for 2 days only to try to relive the time that has gone back. It was not the same but I did have a smile for a few hours on my face.

Sometimes we make dreadful and very very wrong decisions, the worst thing is those decision can’t be taken back and we have to live our entire life with them, the clocks cant to rewound , whats done is done, friends turn to foes, people we love turn to people who hate us.   I do wish that there is a way in this world where we can make things right after they have been completely destroyed by us only.

If someone else has destroyed those it probably is easy to forget or at least live with the hate we have for them, but what if the one who has destroyed it is you , yourself. What do you do..  I know many people say that they don’t remember or have moved on, But I for one have not been able to forgive myself. I know I have done wrong VERY WRONG, how do we make it right.   If we had the opportunity to tap that Rewind button then I would have surly done it by now.

So I spent a couple of days last week roaming on the streets, trying to freshen up the memory of the not so distant past, it is still as if it was yesterday, God what a fool I would make of myself getting excited over Eating those masala Corn, one gets in cinema halls, or eating the lovely chicken in a restaurant, Riding a auto-rickshaw, looking at a Enfield bike and shouting ohhh “BULLET”…

I have always maintained that if I was to live my life all over again , I would do the same , make the same mistakes because I am what I am — (Good-Bad-Ugly) because of those mistakes or decisions… But as with everything else Exceptions are always there, I too have one which I would not want to repeat, this will probably haunt me for the rest of my life but the damage has been done , I dont see any way how it can be rectified.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.……………..

The rewind button …………

 

 

PS:- My apologies for not answering to the comments on previous post , and also not visiting all the lovely blogs. I will do that Soon.

How to live and Die- My Views – Part 4

Continuing from part one How to live and Die (1) – Sad post and part Two How to live and Die (2 and 3)- My Views on what I think are some of the points that one needs to keep in mind to have a good Life and Die a peaceful death, the first point as I said is health.. as Health is Wealth., Then comes MONEY, I would actually put MONEY on par with Health, as lets be truthful in todays day and age MONEY is very important, Then comes having a place of your own called HOME , especially if you own your own house.

So moving on I think that there is a particular trait in us human beings that we should try to get rid of and that is “ENVY“, we all have it, A BIG FAT LIAR is the person who says he/she does not Envy.

The biggest envy we have is of that particular person who has done better than us, OH YES we all do that sometimes consciously or sometimes sub-consciously. I don’t know why do we do that or how does it concern us But in all these thoughts and in all this time spent in envying them we usually do not see how much hard work they have put in to get where they are.

It is not easy to reach high, takes a lot of hard work, heartaches, we lose a lot of people in that race to reach the top, seldom do we stand still to think is it WORTH it, reaching that particular position, or in trying to earn more money is it worth losing a good friend. By the time we stand still to think it is already too late what is lost is gone, I have a few friends who are doing just that, to become a manager or to get that extra pay grade they forget that their 4 years kid does not see them all day long, by the time they reach home the kid is asleep. Just spending a SUNDAY with the kid is not good enough, the Sunday too is spent most of time on phone calls or getting to grips what was missed in the week, paying of bills, renewing of this or that.

I have seem some very rich people not being able to enjoy a full meal in peace, YES they are a managing director of a company but having their dinner with the phone glued to the ear is not what I see as ideal situation. Thankfully I am pleased that I have stopped getting into this rat race, I am happy with what every I have, its enough to feed me all my life and maybe half the life of my next generation to.

Due to work and all there is only one meal in a day that I get to eat at home and I enjoy having it because I make sure I switch off my phone or put it on silent once I come back home.

I think it is this ENVY that makes us do all that, because we are envious of someone making so much money or reaching a particular position it makes us think about ourself , which in turn then makes us more frustrated WHY Can I Not have that, WHY cant I get that.. WELL you can but do give a thought at all the hard work put in and what all have these rich people lost on the way, Are you willing to give up all that!!!

So if we can get rid of this ENVY, I am sure we can have a smooth life.

What do you think people.. ?????

Wordless Wednesday (54) :- JUGAAD

As promised in the previous Article about Jugaad 🙂  here it is SO Now move over BMW,MERC’s, JAGUARS, and All the world renowned vehicle makers, CAN they make this one .. 🙂 I was in India recently and saw this on my way to Amritsar.

All in one, this one is used for transport, for cutting the fodder for animals, for pumping the water out of a tube well and even for running a generator 🙂 One engine for everything .. 🙂

Day 3:- Funny Things I learnt- My Experiences-2014

2014 and also 2013 have been a roller coaster year for me , Lots to learn , Although I say that I learnt but I wonder DID I .. I can vouch i will make the same mistakes again as I am yet to learn the art of thinking from mind rather than heart. I am still letting my heart take a lot of control over a lot of issues and stuff involving me – my life. I wonder what is that mantra or HOW does one learn this art, as I mentioned the last couple of days have been very chaotic for some reason the start of every year has been very chaotic for me.

Here is an example remember the Gyan I gave on How to live and Die (2 and 3) I had mentioned about lending money , yes you can guess it right I went ahead and lent some more 🙂 , yeah SHOOT ME PLEASE SOMEONE, as I got carried away with the dialogues how I am like an elder brother to the person, How I am part of family , How he respects me blah blah blah. I just can’t learn from my mistakes, I know he is taking me for a ride a couple of my friends have told me that too buttttttt ALAS ME- MOI- MYSELF are just IDIOTS 🙂 (you guys who know me please stop nodding your heads)

So not sure if this post is valid or that do I have the Right to post this one BUT nevertheless here I go riding on my “god know’s what” cloud Sky high 🙂 yeeeeeeeee haaaaaaaa , Some of the things that I learnt if put in a funny way will include ..

Before that here is a DISCLAIMER alas I get shot for copyright infringements

Disclaimer:- The Following Statements have been taken from different resources from public forums, I have changed some according to my needs , feelings. So if they are infringing anyone’s rights , then I am sorry please let me know ASAP and I shall remove that line as the following is what I have learned and how to put them in English differently I would not know. If I have hurt anyone’s feelings than I am sorry in advance ..

I’ve learned the Saying “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” IS BULLOCKS.. people whom you have made feel good Will forget within a SECOND.. the only people you have HURT will remember.

I’ve learned that No matter how much some say they are your FRIENDS they never will be , cause they don’t know the meaning of it…

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care Some people are just ARSEHOLES…

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up TRUST and it only takes suspicion to destroy it.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen MINUTES After that, you’d better have a big Wad of money in your wallet or beautiful FACE..

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others they are more screwed up, then you think…

I’ve learned that we are RESPONSIBLE for what we do Unless we are CELEBRITIES..

I’ve learned that regardless of how HOT or STEAMY a relationship is at first Passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place …

I’ve learned that the people you care the most about in life are taken from you too soon.. and the less important ones NEVER GO AWAY …

I’ve learned that The only people you need in your life are the ones that Prove that they need you in theirs

I’ve learned that You will never know how STRONG you are, Until being strong is the only choice you have left …

I’ve learned that there is a point in your life when you realise Who Matters, Who NEVER DID, Who always Will and Who wont anymore

and last but not the least …

I have learned that you can-not Make Someone love you.. All you can do is STALK them and HOPE they panic and give in.. 🙂

Enough Gyan for a day .. Have a good day everyone 🙂

Sad Day

It’s been a long time since I posted something here as I have been struggling with some issues, that don’t seem to leave me alone but more on that later, don’t want to dampen the Christmas cheer but the recent events that have taken place in our neighbouring nation have given us enough to think. I don’t have words to describe the atrocity that has been committed against the little kids, Why it was done, WHO in their sane mind even thought about doing the act leave the planning part aside.

To call these people HUMAN is insulting itself, I can understand all this Jihad, fighting the oppressor, fighting for a cause etc etc BUT in my little mind I can’t understand what CAUSE IT IS? that says to attain it you have to kill innocent people … To stoop to such a level that you have had to kill little kids, Were you not man enough to take one someone your own SIZE.. Even with the amount of weaponry you had in your hands.

Where in ANY religion it says one has to go ,Kill innocent and that too little children, Rather it is said KIDS are God’s face, so how can it be right.

I fail to understand why are you people hell-bent on killing innocent humans, people whom you don’t know, people who you have never seen in your life, what in the world have they done to be treated by you like that, that you don’t give two hoots about them, Fine in your own twisted mind you have your own reasons or Evil thrill you guys get in killing an innocent human BUT pray let us know what they are.

I have read a lot of posts on what has happened, a lot of people like me have a lot to say and lot of blame game going on , But What makes me angry is why are we blaming others , It is
US the people, who are to be blamed, we have brought all this upon ourselves

The reason I say this is that in spite of knowing

1. Where the training centres are
2. Where these evil people are hiding
3. Where they get there weapons to do the mass murders
4. Who supports them

Nothing has ever been done, I heard the leaders in Pakistan speak the same words, our leaders spoke in India. The mentality of the so-called leaders is exactly the same irrespective of the country they live or lead. The same leaders were shouting at top of the voice after the Mumbai attack how their land is not being used to plan atrocities against neighbouring country. I hope they do the something now to make the world a better safer place, IF we can… as I think and feel that the damage is already done , it’s going to be so very difficult to hold the flow now. I only hope and wish innocent are not killed.

We the people found it amusing when the same atrocities were committed in other countries against other races or religions, because they were the KAFIRS, But sadly it is true with the saying “You reap what you SOW“… for years the leaders of our neighbouring nation has been sheltering the same people who are now doing the same against their own people.

I remember writing a letter to the Terrorist a few years back , where I pleaded them to stop killing innocent people and gave them enough options whom to kill otherwise, yet in all these madness it’s still the innocent who die ALWAYS. Never have I read news that a leader shot dead.

How hard can it be to find these bad people, if the leaders make up their minds and genuinely want to find them, We have read how the Intelligence agencies are involved one way or the other in helping these criminals, in the name of patriotism but is it REALLY that, what has all this patriotism brought so far, in all these years other than bloodshed and innocent dead. Where was all this intelligence when the little kids were being shot?

In my OWN TWISTED MIND, I want to ask the intelligence agencies was any of their relatives or family kids shot in the mayhem. Would they have done things differently if they had known it’s their own kin being targeted, or will they do something now.

It is sad what happened, Very sad, my heart wept hearing the kid say he doesn’t want to go to school anymore and the next moment it was filled with ANGER hearing that the Taliban have issued another threat that they will kill more if kids went for education.

We the human-kind are doing great, we are evolving, we have gone leaps ahead in this or that… YES we have but all this has it in any way changed the ways of life for a common man, I doubt it… it’s the common man if changed will change the ways of a country , the rich getting richer , the corrupt getting corrupter is not going to change anything …

I hope the leaders of our neighbouring country don’t put another of those committee’s to look into the security, to find reasons, to find the culprits… That does not work. It’s just a farce what has any of these committee’s ever done for the nation… other than use up the TAX money and waste them too. Time for action what action is taken depends upon how the people feel…

My heart-felt condolences to the people who were affected by this , and also I would like to say SORRY TO ALL THAT WERE AFFECTED BY THIS , SINCE AS A HUMAN, I ALONG WITH EVERYONE DID NOTHING ..

No wonder these people who bring about so much damage get away with what they want to do, when they want to, how they want to do… This will always continue till we wake up… I don’t know what will it take to wake us all, or when that will happen but I know one thing that when we ALL GET UP, STAND TOGETHER , All these terrorists will disappear… because after all they are amongst us, the enemy is within us all… we just need to open our eyes and find out who they are..

I got the following message on Whatsapp today

“Pakistan had made those terrorists, given birth to those terrorists, given shelter to those terrorists. These were own made terrorists of Pakistan. Those terrorists were made to spread terrorism in whole of world including India. And India is effected nation from terrorism by Pakistan. I do have sympathy but not of that much that we console and have sorrow of that much depth. After all how those terrorists were in Pakistan? Because they were under the protection and shelter of Pakistan. So we need not to be so sad on happened incident of enemy state Pakistan.”

To which I replied :-

Such are what we have become .. NO wonder so much hatred and atrocities are common in today’s modern world..

How to live and Die (2 and 3)- My Views

Continuing from part one How to live and Die (1) – Sad post on what I think are some of the points that one needs to keep in mind to have a good Life and Die a peaceful death, the first point as I said is health.. as Health is Wealth..

The next point that is equally important is MONEY.. I don’t like beating around the bush and I am sure a lot of people will be shaking their heads but believe you me that I do think after Health the next most important is a healthy bank balance: OH Yes this is a must, and If you owe some money to someone then you need enough to pay off that debt and as soon as possible. We humans have this tendency that if we owe someone and even though we have enough money we try to keep it closer to us as much as possible and for as long as possible, I don’t know why we don’t just pay our debts off at the earliest.

I recently found this out, that I do owe money to someone, I hope I am able to pay it off as soon. Over the time I have also realised that expensive gifts taking-giving need to be stopped, because when relations go sour suddenly that money spent cuts into an already sour relation.

Anyway I am deviating from the point .. One needs to have a healthy bank balance enough to provide a few comforts, and most importantly One should have enough for fun time, small little things like going for movies, eating out, holidays etc etc. Holidays May not be luxury holidays but some that can release all that pressure that builds up, somewhere that relaxes you.. I have a perfect place where I get relaxed the most .. My Village house.. That’s one place where I feel happy even when everything around me is falling down. Although saying that I had not been there for so long, so this year when I spent 2 weeks it felt like heaven, I have made my self promise ME.. that I am going to spend at least ONE week each year at home, That definitely means I need that MONEY – a healthy bank balance to do just that, as coming to India is becoming more and more expensive each passing day.

Not having enough money to just have basic recreation is very demoralizing. I was talking to a friend on this , he mentioned that he has a mortgage and some credit card bills, But I would not advice anyone to Live on credit or borrow , as that is far worse , it is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes, especially if you are unable to pay the installments.

Now that we are talking about Money PLEASE don’t lend money especially to friends, I know I am being horrible but it is truth, you lose friendship and the Money.

As I said we humans have this tendency that we like to hold on to that money for as long, even if we owe. If you ask your friend for the money back, you are suddenly not that good a friend, so friendship lost with that money too,

After Health — Money is the most important thing in life no matter what people say.. even the billionaires need the money..

The Next important fact after Health-Money is Having your own home, and by that I mean the one which you may buy yourself, I am strong believer that if you buy your own with your own hard-earned money you feel more Happy.I know in today’s economy it’s a big task to buy one’s own home and many many of us live in the house that we have got from our parents they probably from their’s, It is yours but it is not yours .. If you know what I mean.

Many people these days live on rent , Renting a place never gives you the comfort or security that you get because somewhere in the back of your mind it’s always something that you will have to vacate. BUT saying that these days especially in india No one vacates.. If you give your property on rent it seems you have done one of the worst things ever.. this brings added tensions to the owner.. I have burnt my fingers in that too. Use to have a Shop in Chandigarh the normal rent in the sector is at least 60 to 70000, but the gentleman who rented ours paid a measly 2200/- , yeah just 2200Rs. My father was a very soft man, the guy would come and cry how difficult the situation is and my dad would say ok next year we will increase , this carried on for 40+ years. So Last year I sold it off to a friends Uncle at 30% less than the market price, he has enough clout to throw this tenant out on the road, and then I got phone calls every day from him telling me he is ready to up the rent to whatever price I said, but too late for that.

I dont know why we have this mentality if we are having something good we over do it , this guy had all his business , everyone knew him and now when he would have had to set up his work at a different place , at a higher price he realises he was wrong, I remember 4 years ago when i had gone to india I had a chat with him and had told him that , he was wrong, He did the usual sob story and said can afford to increase the rent to 3000Rs. only , I just turned back and said leave it , he can have the 800rs. it will help his family more.. But serves him right.

I got so scared of this tenant business that , the house I had bought a year and half ago , we had given it on rent but now I have got it vacated and I plan to have it like that , we have a care taker who lives in it , the guy who worked our fields has a second wife 🙂 , yeah I know 🙂 .. and one kid, so the other family live in that taking care of the house , it helps both of us he doesn’t have to pay for rent , he was paying previously and we have someone looking after the house.

Thursday Challenge (35) – EARTH

Thursday Challenge :-EARTH (Water, Mountains, Parks, Trees, Ocean, Beach,…)

Hut in the jungle

Waterfall

Wordless Wednesday :- 9th August 2011

The Mayhem

Rear Pessanger Window

Thinking… The good-bad-ugly

A lot of thoughts go by ones mind when idle , today as I sat in my car to drive to work, I had this  how do I say chaos of thoughts and none matched the one that just went by it was all going in tangents, at one time I was home and the next I was thinking of Cricket or the Fast taken by Anna Hazaare. I had to literally sit down and SHAKE my head severely to bring it back in sync with normalcy :), if that is possible.

Well I am trying to jot down the thoughts now these may hurt a lot of people so I am sorry to them but as usual would ask them to think on the wider picture and logically.. The recent few events that have happened back home have been good – bad and Ugly.. I mean world cup happened I wanted to write a post on it but blogosphere is full of articles so I did not post though I had one in the drafts, The whole nation became one in that one last week of the matches , australia-Pakistan-Sri Lanka all defeated in a row thanks to some good cricket played by our team .. but other then that it was the spirit of the indians which came to the fore how we all got together, here in UK too it was evident everyone in pubs wearing the Blue shirts and cheering till throats went hoarse .. 

That was the GOOD…  

Then came the chain of events where Anna hazaare along with a whole lot of people took this fast to get the Govt of india to their knees , which was a Very good thing that finally the Govt. got so scared that they could not afford something happening to Anna , they had to relent to it, brings to mind the satyagraha taken by Indians against the British people but there was a STARK DIFFERENCE at that time the whole country was one but now only a handful which was a shame , Out of Billions of People just a meagre few .. I know a lot of the Intelligent people out there will say it’s a START, but I am as usual cynical start of what, Things can’t get achieved by a few going on a fast , their have to be a vast majority of people who need to give there support.  Not forgetting about the rumours that just came after the fast was broken many of the distinguished people in the group had political problems , I will not get into the details cause somewhere in my heart I knew this would happen. True there are some genuine people who want things to change but those genuine people are few, and as the poem i posted I don’t believe in the Khadi wearing leaders.   They are all the same , some have hundreds of skeletons in their cupboard , some just One but they do have.

Well I don’t want to go on and on about that , I do support the Cause started by Anna Hazare, but as I said earlier I don’t support the khadi wearing people, To me I still feel that we need to make a loud noise to make sure the DEAF hear us and that will only come true if the current generation and the one coming up behind will get together, I mean I was watching the IPL match between Kings XI and One more team I forgot the name I think it was Mumbai indians and the stadium had more people in it then the number of people who actually GENUINELY went out and supported the anti corruption Cause. That is the reality of our great nation.

That was BAD

I have so many question running around, a soldier in the army gets paid to fight for the country for which he is ready to give his life, they live in conditions where the majority of so-called Desh Bhagats wont even survive one day, What they are doing is real work then why do we start comparing a sports man as a soldier of the country as it happened in the Cricket match against Pakistan, Everyone saw the crowd there, people spent LAKHS of rupees to get a ticket to watch that match but I am sure NONE of them spent a thousand to buy a bus ticket to go to Delhi to sit with the people who were fasting.

How come none of the sportsmen who when it comes to recognition come in herds and then moan how they are paid less or not thought of , come in support.  I mean with no disrespect to the supporters of GOD of cricket Sachin Tendulkar, I am myself a fan of his and he is GOD , Why could he not have come in support and gone and sat there for a fast, I mean he is made his life, his future generations life living in india , the love and affection he has got, I do feel that someone like him Should have supported the cause and then MAYBE the cricket frenzy public would have done more and not just their are a few who can be named who are willing to take millions from the nation but give nothing in return and i say nothing BECAUSE when they lose they are not accounted for. none of them say of I wont take the match fee for this one because we lost.

True the govt has agreed to the terms of the Cause but that is it , Nothing is going to happen the govt has just agreed to put the bill in the session whether something actually takes place once passed we have yet to find out, the reason being each and every leader will have to step down or brought to justice cause they are the Khadi wearing politicians and that to bright White starched ironed ones.  If we think something will change then who are we kidding.

That is UGLY 

HENCE my thought that till we ALL get together MILLIONS-BILLIONS  and make that NOISE the noise that will wake up the deaf-blind govt we have things will not change.

Dosta tere naam :- Us de naam jo aj kal hai NARAAZ…

Dosta Tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
Dosta eh Dosti rishta hai bahut hi ajeeb  
                                                            (Friend you are strange,
                                                              Friendship is a relation  which is
                                                             quiet strange)

Khad-jana mere modhe nal modha Jod
Bina mere hungara bhariya
Dosta tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
                                                            (You stand by me shoulder to shoulder ,
                                                              without asking
                                                              Friend you are strange)

Mere te kita waar laina hai tu apne wal Mod
Bina mere naal kitiyan salah
Dosta tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
                                                            (You change the direction of any
                                                              attack on me towards
                                                              Yourself, without discussing with me ..
                                                              Friend you are strange)

Muh modan lagiyan KYUN nahin si tun khyal kita
Bina tera ton kaun banoo mera YAAR
Dosta tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
                                                             (When you turned your face from me ,
                                                              WHY did you not think then
                                                               Without you who will be my friend
                                                               Friend you are strange)
                     
Inna v kyun karda hai gussa
Badalan to pehlan das taan dena si YAAR
Dosta tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
                                                              (Why are you so angry,
                                                               Before changing yourself you should
                                                               have at least TOLD ME
                                                               Friend you are strange)
Dostaan bina ki zindagi ,
Gham ghat jaande Tainu vekhke..
Gham de ke , Muh mod ke kithe hain YAAR
Dosta tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
                                                                (No life without friends
                                                                  Pain goes away seeing you
                                                                 You have given me PAIN now,
                                                                  turned your face
                                                                 Where are you …
                                                                 Friend you are Strange)
                                                                 

Bahaan da zor hain tun
Modhe te chukan da Mainu Wada se tera YAAR
Dosta tun hain bahut hi ajeeb
                                                               (You are the strength of my arms
                                                                 You had promised to pick me on
                                                                 your shoulders when the time comes
                                                                  Friend you are strange)

Chal Rab Rakha, Jis which teri khushi hove
Use which hai meri manjoori
Tun khush rahen
Abaad rahen mere yaar
                                                      (God bless you, and you live in hapiness
                                                        thats what i want
                                                        live you life fully God bless you )

Gurdas Mann a famous punjabi singer says

Yarri Wich Nafe Nuksan Nahio Vekhide
Manzila De Samne Tuffan Nahio Vekhide
Yaaran De Gunnaha Da Hisaab Nahio Jorrida
Apne Pyarriya Da Dil Nahio Todi da …
                             
                                             ( We should not see any profit/loss in friendship
                                                In front of destination dont see the storms
                                               Shud not keep a record of friends GUNAH/ JURM
                                               Should never  break the heart of your friends)

Saw at a Friends Profile :-

Wishwas ban k log zindgi me aate hain…….
wo khwab banke aankhon main samaa jaate hain…….
wo pahle to yakin dilaate hain ki wo hamaare hain………
fir na jaane kyun tanha bana jate hain………….  (thanks to Dinesh Sahib for such lovely lines )