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DISCLAIMER:-This Article has some very nasty truths .. so please read it at your own risk.. Truth is always hard to digest. These are my thoughts or what i have seen and heard ..

After my last post on what happened with a girl I know, I have some further Shocking incidents to discuss here. 

When I was studying in school as usual we had our female class mates with us, yes we had our crushes and emotions for a few of them in the school which is common , One of the girls in the class called me bhaiya or Veerji.. and that was it since that day onwards we have talked to each other as brother and sister, I am sure there are hundreds and thousands who have had that experience and do believe in the relation like that.

BUT nowadays a new situation is cropping up, which is quiet mind-blowing and shocking too, the hunger to come abroad, reach foreign shores is so bad in our country that people will do anything to get out, I know most of the people will say it’s not like that anymore. No one wants to come abroad the young generation is not looking to go abroad but to be blunt It is a myth. What all the so-called Educated, the future of the nation would do to come abroad. 

Here area few scenarios..

1. A girl/boy  takes an exam to get admission in a University or college in UK, they have been taking tuitions to pass this exam to get a good band, They pass it and then apply for a visa to come to this county.. Visa is again a lottery .. Lets suppose that “A” gets the visa (I don’t know what type of visa etc) , but lets assume they get 3 or 4 years visa.  Money has been spent on tuition, staying in a city for all that time, visa fees, visiting Delhi or whenever the consulate is .. all this adds up to a good amount, BUT mission accomplished got the Visa…

The scheme starts now.. “A” ‘s parents are now on a look out for a partner for their child, OH YES.. the reason being that since “A” can come abroad he can apply for a visa for a dependant which can be a husband-wife-partner .. So the BOLI the Auction starts .. the highest bidder who can pay .. for all that money spent, plus the college fees to be given , the travel arrangements etc etc and a PROFIT on top of it is required, well you can well imagine how much money exchanges hands.. it goes in lakhs..

This is the new trend which has come up you want to come abroad find a person who has got a visa then apply as a partner and voila you  can come to the foreign shores, we the indian’s are exploiting this rule to the fullest, sometimes to prove they are partners a sham marriage takes place…  Sham marriages is another big fiddle these days.  In our society it’s still ok for a boy but the girls too don’t mind these days, they get the money , and then come here and have to live like partners here to …

This is becoming quiet common in south india and Punjab since most of the students who are coming are from these areas…

2. This is Much more shocking a boy marries a girl from abroad or vice versa , come to the country stay for as long with their mutual partner , then I think its 2 years or maybe 5 years they apply for the citizenship , which they usually get because all these years they have been golden boys/girls in the family, suddenly when that Red passport comes in hand they change to their true colours .. Bang comes the papers to file for a divorce out of the blue.. next thing is they have a girl friend or boy friend back in india who now comes over as the new partner  🙂

Hold on One more scheme is there

3. If you have a relative settled abroad doesn’t matter who it is , if they have a permanent residency then ask them to divorce their partners , you have a sham marriage with them .. you can come abroad .. then off course you change partners again  once all settles down .. a LOT of money exchanges hands this way ..

Situation is so bad that brothers and sisters are getting to this SHAM marriage …  when I started writing this article this is what i wanted to write on but it’s too disgusting .. Reading the above few scenarios I am sure you all are intelligent enough to know what i would have said .. YES  there have been such cases, tooo. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT.. what  people can do to come abroad , that’s why I laugh sometimes when people say oh the young generation is not interested … One needs to see the Ques at Delhi or other consulates..  We as indians have this habit of not seeing the reality and hushing up matters this is one of them..

Someone said to me its only a small number .. YES ITS A SMALL NUMBER BECAUSE THERE IS ONLY SO MANY APPLICATIONS THAT CAN BE PROCESSED IN A DAY AT THE CONSULATES…  if it is open 24 hours the line will be longer …

I had an Indian passport with permanent residency, here when you apply for a british passport legally you are supposed to surrender your old passport ..  I was offered 10 lakh plus rupees if I could sell my passport to a friend in Chennai, He was so desperate to come over. I mean how will the name BIKRAMJIT go with a south Indian face,  no disrespect to him, but his answer was that its his problem, Me being an idiot surrendered my passport the day i got my british one, I should have kept it easy money that was…

The reason I brought this up I have a family friend here who are happily married and recently got their permanent stay here, Look how news travels and how the minds of people work, this was on 28th or 29th of April ..  and last week someone approached me from India a friend of a friend of a friend … 🙂 … that I should go and talk to this couple if they are interested in making some money and this was the idea.. 25 Lakh each 🙂 

Me being me called this friend who had given my number and blasted him off , now I have lost a friend too.. I have not told the couple here lest they stop talking to me too,  the best part is the person who phoned me is cousin of the girl.

Spoken Words

Posted: July 2, 2010 in My Thoughts., People, Soch, Thinking, Village

Recently been hearing and talking to friends .. Have had this feeling that SPOKEN words can mean so much different in situations , that’s is why our forefathers or elders always told us to speak carefully. Its sometimes the way the words are said which can hurt or have a different result then what we expect.

I was always taught to speak gently, pause take your time , don’t rush into saying things.. As one of the elders said If you sow Two trees in the Same soil, water them the same , feed them the same ..

Next to one tree speak gently, nicely , good things ..
With the other use derogatory words , speak harshly ..

You will definitely notice difference in the way the tree grows , the flower it produces and the Fruit will taste differently. Though this has got nothing to do with science and many may have other reasons But this is very much possible.. Love and Affection takes one a long way.

Sometimes if we use or say something a lot , it does happen that way .. Life is funny .. You are perfectly fine person but if you keep on saying “OH GOD”, “OH MAN”, “I AM RUINED”, “I DON’T THIS – THAT “ etc etc it does turn out to be like that . That is why elders used GOOD words when they spoke ,

I remember when we use to be in our village.. Electricity had not come then we had Diva-Diya’s for light at night before going to sleep , Nana ji would say “Diva Wada Kar diyo”, we knew what he meant .. someone would go and give it a puff.

But it confused us why would they say that, why wont they say “Diva Band or Bujha diyo” cause as they explained BAND or BUJHA were not good words to speak , they were negative words, and generally used in situations where it was for a longer period to do so.

That’s why when someone Dies we hardly say “Woh insaam MAR gaya “, we try to say “Woh insaan Swarg-waas ho gaya”, or we would say “Oh insaan Rab kol chala gaya“.. cause of the same reasons MAR was not a good word to be used.

Another example is shopkeepers when the time comes to put the shutters down for the night they would generally say “Dukan WADHA diyo”,  if you ask a shopkeeper “Kadon Bandkarni hai”, they sometimes frown , for to them the word Band means to close it for ever, they are not doing that ..

Just a few thoughts.. dont know if they make sense or not , I just thought i share it with all..

Sajna nu milan de cha ch
Dil which lai ke kinne saare armaan
                       Gharon aseen ture si

(going to meet my other half.. with tons of wishes in my heart , I left my house)

Ki pata si Kisse di , BURI nazar naal lai ke
Ki pata si kisde MAADE bol naa lai ke
                        Gharon aseen ture si

(did not know that someone bad intentions or bad thoughts were with me when , I left my house)

Changa hun rab rakha keh ke
Pata nahin si AJ RAB ne Nahin si suni Ardaas
Shayad aj de dihade Rab si mere naal Naraaj
Shayad aj de dihade Kita hoya koi mada karam si Mere naal

 (did not know today god was busy , did not hear my words , or was angry with me for some reason.. maybe i did something wrong today .. thats the reason god was not listening )

Dil which Cha te  bahut saare armaan laike apne naal
                                                Gharon aseen ture si

(I was going to meet my other half with tons of hope and feeling , when i left my house)

some words that came to my mind when I saw the pics and heard the news … thanks for reading ..

Life is so worthless, it holds no meanings sometimes .. anyone and anything can take it away in a jiffy… 
What do we make of it .. What is Life .. do we know whats gonna happen in the next moment.. or DO WE EVEN REALISE WHAT EFFECT The PAST minute will have on the NEXT minute..

Harsh world out there..

God we say god protects those who are true or are good .. Then why do things happen like this ..

What is the meaning of all this ….

A car is going at high speed , when the idiot of the driver thinks he is Schumacher or something driving at a high speed on a single carriageway with a speed limit of 30MPH .. Which seems to be a SLOW for this driver so he decided to overtake and that results in loosing control for what ever reason…

The same time a 15 year old  male kid, who is a Jehovah witness , is standing on the Pavement , minding his own business OR maybe talking about GOD , he has no idea whats going to happen, His past minute was maybe sharing a joke with a friend, Talking to a friend.. ANYTHING it could be ..

The car smashes into this Boy, hits him around abdomen , takes him along as it smashes into the front wall of a shop behind the boy…

I cant imagine what would have gone through this Boy.. who had his whole life in front of him.. THE WHOLE BLOODY LIFE.. someone might have called ambulance.. ..

The boy had to be airlifted to a hospital more suited for such accidents there is a hospital just one mile down the road.. Helicopter medics took him to hospital about 7-8 miles away..

Then there was another problem , since he is a Jehovah witness , he refused to receive blood its against the religion.. news says the doctors pleaded for him to take it but he was adamant and his family supported his decision.. Resulting in his death…

The driver was arrested and later bailed ..

So WHAT THE HELL is this … do we stand a chance… we say bad things happen to bad people, what possible wrong thing could this 15 year old boy be doing.. Why did he have to end up like this.. and die in such horror.. while the driver had nothing… WHY

I have been really upset over this, people reading this you may call me a WUSS or a chicken or WHATEVER , I am not ashamed that i shed a tear when i heard this .. or i feel anger against God or the driver.. For taking away such a precious life…

And Anger against the parents who supported the boys decision not to take blood.. DAMN the religion.. All religion does is make people FIGHT.. Look what is happening in the world in the NAME OF RELIGION.

Please lets get together and prey for the departed soul hope he rests in peace away from this CRUEL-BAD-DIRTY world… and Also prey the people with cars know how to drive, learn patience on road.. and respect traffic rules , they are there for a REASON.

And yes HANG THE DRIVER…. its not a accident its a MURDER….  because A mother has lost her son, and Joshua had a brother. He has lost his brother, he was there in the morning and then gone by the afternoon. How do you explain , or how do we put this in perspective..

The doctors need to have a automatic right to override parental wishes or that of a minor for a LIFE.


Its true when people say One door closes another one opens ..

I did not believe it.. But it happened with me today.. I am not going to say which door closed. but I met someone today..

A person who for some odd reason , Knew that i was not OK, that there was something wrong going on in my life.. I have not met this person , I have never talked to this person ever before …

Yet this person knew or Felt it.. Are there still people like these in this world.. In this world of Selfish, Manipulating ,Arrogant people, In this world

Where what you say or promised did not mean a thing..
Where it was fine to break the others heart ..
Where it was OK to leave someone in the middle of the road, never to look back.. Where the words you say don’t mean anything other then the commercial aspect of it
Where oh man I could go on…

But in this F&*%$£ up world I talked to someone today ,

Who is so genuine
Who felt my hurt ..
Who tried to make me feel good
Who got worried when she heard I got hurt in a car crash..
Who genuinely wished me best
Who was there Out of blue..

How did it happen
How did this take place.. We are on different continents.. We don’t know each other .. We live in our own worlds ..

How often does it happen when you get a feeling like this, a feeling when all is lost , everything is dieing around you.. a person comes by and as they show in the geography channels a flower opening up, fresh breeze of life.. something like that happens…

Today I chatted with a girl, who told me all is not lost.. there is life beyond the closed door. This post if dedicated to this GIRL ..

I am thankful to you .. I was or had been planning something, But this beautiful person , with a beautiful heart was there .. to listen to everything I had to say, my sob story , my whining , my stupid stuff…

I prey to God to give her all the happiness that one can have in this world.. And If I can ever be of any kind of help God give me the strength and the will to help her.. whatever it may be

I am indebted to her.. She was there to listen to me … and tell me all those good things..

Its made me Smile ….

Thank You…….

I feel on top of the world and humbled by the response on my earlier article, I was mad angry, pissed, whatever you can say .. I wrote that and put it there, I was actually going to take it off.. But then the comments came and it felt great , I am really so much overwhelmed by the concern and love, by my blog-Friends, Some have not left the comments but emailed me..

(pssst :- leave a comment instead of email, just want to show off with all those comments he he he hehe 🙂 )

Its so strange I have not met anyone of you guys, and other than the blog comments, emails have not interacted too with many. I live on a different continent then most of you guys, Its really been a amazing experience here on my blog.

A very beautiful person introduced me to blogging, and now after the initial few bad times, I have met so many, Blogging has sort of become a integral part now. All you guys have made the experience a special one, I just wish I could personally say thanks to all and everyone who gave my blog a thought and stopped for a second thinking.

I would like to name each one of you, But I am not gonna because everyone is important (actually don’t want to forget someone he he he he )

Thank you guys. I am privileged to know you all.. All those who visit my blog THANK YOU SO MUCH.

Love you loads .. take care and God bless you all…

Christmas is here followed by new years, Drinking and driving is on the rise, in the last few days i have caught 3 people for this offence. The best thing is you go to the driver’s side, ask him to switch off the engine. Then ask them have you had a drink, the typical reply is first “NO”…
“I can smell it on your breadth”…
“Sorry, I have had just half or Just a Pint”…

You stand there and Smile… Off course you have…

Then you ask them to step out of the vehicle, the Door swings open, they are so pissed , instead of putting their leg out first , they have to twist there bottoms then plonk there leg, Hold the DOOR TIGHTLY, get the second leg out, then slowly try to get up.. Ooops they can’t so they try again… When on two feet the Feet are firmly on ground, but the upper body waist upwards is sort of moving on its one…

They have just had ONE pint … Yes sir you have indeed…

Ask them there name, they give a whole history, name, date of birth, where they live etc etc out it comes like a river flowing…

You ask them again very politely, are you sure you had just a pint,
“Yes, before that I had another one earlier “… the Smile on your face widens… How earlier was that…?

“Afternoon lunch .. ” so basically to tell the truth and from experience they have been drinking since lunch up till now, You got no other choice but to get him off the road, Else he would endanger the rest of the people.

Christmas, new years, Diwali, Holi these festivals are there, I can understand to have fun, enjoy but they don’t give the RIGHT to get drunk and endanger other people who are enjoying the festive season according to their choice. I can understand the need for a Drink during these occasions, I do too, But I Never Drive after having a drink, and if I have to go for a drink I take a Taxi or Bus it. My friends who are with me Know very well that they dare not do it themselves, Call me Unfriendly or bad person But they know if they drive after having a drink I WILL CALL THE POLICE to rat on them because I don’t want to feel the Guilt if the same person drives his car into someone or something killing/hurting others or themselves, It does NOT make me wrong or less friendly, it makes me human because I have a conscious.

It’s nothing to do with Friendship honor, or to do anything with love for friends, If you think otherwise fair enough dont read furthur, BUT don’t let them have that drink before they drive, or Pay for the Taxi to take them home, Pay for the Bus Fare but DO NOT let them Drive Drunk.

That to me is FRIENDSHIP honour.
That to me shows you care for that person.

It’s easier said Oh one small shot or A pint won’t matter, It does matter. Any amount of alcohol affects your ability to drive. There is no foolproof way of drinking and staying under the limit or of knowing how much an individual person can drink and still drive safely.

I learnt my lesson in a Bad horrible accident years ago, So All who read this Please be careful, Tell the people around you to be careful, Don’t do anything silly, and ALWAYS Always think hundred times driving after a drink, Its not worth it. Most young people will give two hoots to what I have said, But Guys and Gals Please Think . Everything gets spoilt in an instant, Remember when drunk , THE CAR IS A LOADED GUN, a tool to do serious damage with, it is a serious WEAPON.

So the only safe option is not to drink alcohol if you plan to drive, and never offer an alcoholic drink to someone else who is intending to drive, The law needs to change, it should not only be the drunk driver, But the people who Knew that the person is Drunk and Knew he/she is going to Drive, Knowing this they still allow the person to drive, Then IF something does go wrong, they all need to be held responsible because as i said earlier the car is a loaded gun that we have allowed this person who has had a drink to use, So we should be held responsible. The same way as we would if we actually hand a gun to a person to shoot with.

I know a bit farfetched but end of the day, this could be Abetment to the accident, My conscious does not allow this , so hopefully it should not allow to a lot of people too.

Anyway these are my random thoughts good-bad whatever… it’s me and my Silly mind thinks sometimes…… Remember if you stop one drunk driver driving back home or anywhere you may have saved a life, which sure would amount to a GOOD DEED FOR THE DAY…

MERRY CHRISTMAS people, BE SAFE.. and KEEP OTHERS SAFE

I have been meaning to write this article for ages now, but somehow I never managed to get round to it. Internet has been a great tool, I have met so many people over it all over the world and I must say some of them have become very good friends, a few closer than family too.

Then I started to write this Blog in October sometime, earlier I use to write a diary at night before going to sleep, everyday.. but for some reason I started this a few people were very happy. Over this blog I met a few people some good, some OK, I wont say bad because I think , No one is bad they are good for someone if not you.

Sometimes it makes me think that I am from a very old school, a school where patience, respect , love existed – nowadays I have seen it does not anymore..

Admi Sochta kuch hai
Karta Kuch hai
Hota kuch or hai..

Today we have become very unforgiving people. It may be an ethnic problem, or a community’s problem or a country’s, or in your relationships, with your wife, children, parents,Girl Friend, Friends, Acquaintances we get very very unforgiving and we hold that against them. We wear it as a badge which says
‘main tujhe kabhi maaf nahi karoonga’

Everyone has a hidden agenda behind everything, IT was not like this always people use to be so good, caring. The words they said meant something , people stood by there words. Nowadays people are quick to make a relation, even quicker to spoil or break one. What they say is not what they mean. Why have people become so heartless, What would it take to go back to the good old days. I mean how can someone say oh we are friends then at next instant go behind your back , I mean what is friendship…

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

I don’t know why god has made me like this, or why I think like that, But I would never do what I have experienced even to my enemy, Thanks to this blog I think I got a few of those now 🙂 But as someone who has my heart and cares for me a lot said to me, forget about them, they are NOBODY, think of the people I have met over this, Some very decent people, Pallavi her highness.. It has been lovely to chat with her sometime, knowing them.

lekin mai toh beroak safar mein
is ek aur pehlu se hokar nikal chala,
jeevan ki aapa dhapi mein kab waqt mila
kuch der kahin par baith kabhie yeh soach sakun,
ki jo kiya kaha mana usme kya bura bhala…

(these are a few words stolen from Mr. Amitabh Bachan).

I think this is where we have reached we have got so busy in our life that we have forgotten or forget what the effects of our actions will have on others, We have become so selfish, I ask god one thing always Please don’t make me so selfish, or careless, unfaithful, uncaring, heartless, Because I don’t know which action of mine might hurt someone. Do people actually mean they are friends when they say they are, or are just making fun of you. If they are then why do they do it, what right do they have to play with someones emotions. Would they feel the same if this happened with them, or have they become so heartless that it does not bother them anymore. How can they go to sleep soundly, well now I am being a fool because they don’t even know what hurt they have caused.

People are impulsive and say things that hurt other people, they walk over others especially people whom they say are friends. And in all this process they loose friends, I am a bit of a dumbo it takes a bit of time for me to understand people are trying to ignore me , so it gets difficult to loose me :). Loosing a acquaintance or friend over trivial reason, a reason which is non existence. All I would say is such people will one day realise what they lost, by then it will be too late.

I wish i had the Ego or Impulse to severe my contact with people, But then that’s not me.

Anyway festive season is here, so Please god take care of all my friends, foes, anyone i know .. God bless all and everyone … New year is round the corner I wish we all make a promise to ourselves to be a better human being.

Jaane anjaane

What is world coming to. hain…

A new state is being , or there are plans , to carve out a New STATE in India.

Food for thought here Why are we building more states , Why not go the other way Get rid of all the States and HAVE ONE BIG STATE.. called

INDIA or
BHARAT or
HINDUSTAN

Easier to Learn at school, no need to remember all states there capitals, Just one Big State and One Capital Delhi (oops or is it NEW DELHI), just imagine how easy it will be for school kids.

help get rid of lot of bad habits, state rifts, state tensions, we wont have to say
JAI state name and then JAI HIND

just two words would do the trick .. JAI HIND

Lot less Bureaucracy, Lot less ministers, Lot less expenses on them, Anything you can think of would be LOT LESS

Me and My stupid Mind Thinks of Silly things OR DOES IT……..

Politics in India

Posted: October 26, 2009 in India, People, Politics

I was reading the online newspaper today , on some issues in Punjab, I had to laugh at the heading Here, Bhindranwale rubs shoulders with martyrs . In punjab a few Posters or Hoardings having photographs of Shaheed Bhagat Singh, Shaheed Udham Singh and Shaheed Kartar Singh Sarabha, along with Jarnail Singh Bhindranwale, who was killed in Operation Blue Star, have come up.

I am not going to comment on that but what was Hilarious was that some leader or whoever it was of the Shiv Sena (Hindustan) Mr Pawan Kumar Gupta.. saying that it was not right and it was all efforts to revive terrorism in Punjab by misguiding the youth.. I did laugh at this statement.. IF I am not wrong isn’t this the same Shiv Sena which has brought the ways about in Maharashtra telling people of outside state to get out of it.

So the party which has such ideologies to stop someone From India to visit a Part of INDIA to which the Insitution of our country has give the right, they are nice ones to comment on them. Moreover what is this guy doing in Punjab should he not be in Maharashtra, whats he doing in a state which is not his.. Something to Think about
Hence the Joke of the Day for me so here I go HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA

Politics in india is such a dirty game.. I say game cause you never know when or who will change the party at any given time.. I have this feeling that after a days work and slagging off each other all these leaders get together and have a laugh at my fellow indians fora drink and the Toast is “AAJ KITNO KO BEWFKOOF BANAYA”…

🙂