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I walked into my office yesterday, the lady at the reception was sitting.

“Good morning Liz”…
“Good morning Bikraaaaam”. (This is how they pronounce my name)…

As I walked past her, she called me back, “Bik, I have something for you,” she had a blue envelope in her hands, passed it on to me … it was one of AIRMAIL Aerogramme that we had in India to post abroad.

OH MY GOD… I was like in shock… it’s the last thing I was expecting… A Letter for me … I mean we are in 21st century… Letters are not heard of I mean the Hand-Written ones , Now is the time of Blogs, Emails, Scraps, and SMS… Tweets etc… Off liners… Chats… Facebook…

Believe me it was nostalgic moment, I opened the letter carefully, cause the gum is bad and you have to tear off the corners to open it, I did not want to spoil anything. The letter was from my youngest MAASI. All this time I had forgotten her Birthday was same as mine 11th November, and she wrote a letter to me. SHAME ON ME…

It was such a great feeling, I have so many handwritten letters from lots of people, When I had come to UK, I had made sure I brought all those with me, I am a sucker for such nostalgic stuff. I reached home and opened my box of Emotions-Memories-Warmth-Love, even when some of these have got torn and faded the memories they evoke are rich and resonant. So many memories came flooding back, not all Emails, SMS messages, Scraps invoke such emotions.

Oh all those lovely memories, I agree that world has changed and its time of technology, so many emails are sent every day, But imagine the Hand written letters, those carefully chosen words, written slowly, Imagine the thought going behind the words being written, then the time it took to reach, even though the news by that time was late yet it brought all that JOY, HAPINESS, WARMTH, TEAR, SORROW, everything with it and then you sat down to REPLY to it.

I remember I use to have a girl in my class, she later started to tie rakhi to me, immigrated to Australia after my 10th class, she use to write letters to me, every other week I use to get a letter, which I have till today all saved up, the fun things written in them, how she was finding living in Oz, what she was doing, the new people she was meeting, I knew her friends as she knew them there. I replied back to her telling her what is going on my side, my college days, what i was doing…

I also remember a few of my friends writing to me, The best are the letters that my dad wrote to me when I was in hostel , though they were basically STUDY HARD, STUDY and STUDY… yet thinking of them and seeing them brings back memories. My mother use to write to me in Punjabi, some of the words she used in the letters are sort of lost from the vocabulary now, the warmth – the sweetness- the love affection in it all.

These days all you get is a 160 character SMS or an occasional card especially on Birthdays, that too with 4 or maximum 5 words “HAPPY BIRTHDAY” “LOVE abcd”. I used to write long letters myself, I remember pestering people in the end of the letter why don’t they write more.

In School where I was studying SUNDAY use to be the Letter writing day, we were given the Blue inland letters , there use to be a special sitting, 10AM the bell would ring, all the students were to go to the dining hall, where the prefect would distribute the letter, while we wrote, then he would collect them and mark from his list who all have not given. It was compulsory to write, I remember I use to write 3 letters , To my parents , To my Grandparents Both sets.. Sometimes if I was in good mood write to other relatives, the letters were posted every Monday morning, so by the next week the wait started for the reply.

Lunch was at 1:30Pm, after lunch around 2pm all of us use to rush to the helper (BidhiChand was his name), he would have the letters that had come to us, he would distribute them, it was good moment if you got a letter , sad time if you did not, but nevertheless it was exciting.

Nowadays you start to write I am sure the hands start to ache, we are not used to write anymore. It gives a very warm feeling when I check a handwritten letter from a close friend even after couple of years, the personal touch is missing in most of the communiquΓ©s that we send and receive these days. The Intimacy between the person who is writing and the one who has received the letter, sometimes you wonder that will the person you have written read the words as you have written, Will they understand the true meaning, the emotion behind those words.
If they don’t , then you write more to explain it all :), Wrote with more sincerity since it took longer to write, the heart to heart conversation that was etched on the paper, And the best thing was the beautiful stamps that were used.

Not all the emails or sms have the same magic as of those handwritten letters.

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By Pritish Nandy

Hey people . My last post wow that went well. I did not think I would be getting so many comments , so many log on to the blog to read the article .. BUT i am sad 😦 , did not read it all properly, I gave a few hints too ha ha ha ha … and Hey this post has NO HIDDEN lines .. phewww you can all say …

First of all I am sorry for being like this or pulling every ones leg, but Listen to me .. the post on the little girl in mumbai was quite strong , so i had to lighten up and for the life of me I could not think of anything to write, hence the stunt…

Now all who read this , go back to the Old article and , press read more , then select the WHOLE TEXT, It has some HIDDEN text in between the lines.. Which a reader Gaurav did write about too.

So this post the 101st is dedicated to all my Dearest bloggers, all the lovely beautiful people who read my post and GOT MADE… MU HA HA HA HA AHA HA HA ooooops SORRY…. no seriously LOVE you all, each and everyone and thanks a ton for the lovely wishes for the 100th post .. So I thought instead of reacting to the comments on there, I shall write a post and reply to all as a Post… (plus i will have one more post to add to the tally, I am clever you see..)

Sangeeta :- Thank you so much, for that lovely Comment and being FIRST tooo.. But we know the secret now dont we.. πŸ™‚ wink wink if you know what I mean. Yeah I am glad I re-hooked you to blog hopping its a good habit isn’t it, now dont be speechless and comment back πŸ™‚

Chandrika S Saini :- I noticed you changed the name now.. it use to come up as Chandrika Shubham.. I am sure you will find words now , after reading what I have done.. Thank you thank you and NOT quiting and Yayyyyy you got it right a JOKE and the next post is telling you just that… Hope you can find plenty of words now …..

Rohini :- Thanks for coming to my blog and the comment. and there you go .. 101st post hope its soon enough πŸ™‚

Insignia:- Well I must point out here, I thought you would ask me not to quit, but i guess you are the only one happy to see me go.. BUT HEY TOUGH you not getting rid of me so soon… πŸ™‚ and yeah the ggggrrrrrrr was in the last post, hope you saw it ..

Kavita:- Thanks for the wishes. YES you are very right.. Chodh ke jana bahut mushkil hai, especially after meeting , I mean know such beautiful people as yourself. and yeah the kind of response has been a BIG eye opener , even though I would have still not gone, I am a bit thick skinned ha ha ha. Yeah hence the AD..

For everything you got master card..
Friends– PRICELESS…

MAIN NAHI JA RIHA :- he hehe Beleive me I am much happier knowing that so many people out there.. Plus I got to pull the JOKE tooo yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Tulika:- Hey, Yeah We had some nice little association in the last few days. and I AM so privileged and appreciative when you commented on the previous articles.. really believe me … Oh yes 100 and STILL YOUNG you can say in the comment to this article ha ha ha πŸ™‚ , Now at least I know you will comment on this, CLEVER ME… and yeah random thoughts never stop and I AM ALREADY HERE…

Neha.. Got you, you always caught me when i cheated or did something .. How come you did not get this one.. I win .. I win.. yayyyy .. Thanks for wishes see this is a happier one.. I know i did not need to read between the line.. But wish you did.. no on second thoughts good othewise you would have caught me again… πŸ™‚

Gaurav:- Only you got it, seems .. thanks for the comment and the wishes. he he Glad you did read between the lines..

Nethra 😦 sad I am not … so NO good bye.. Thanks for visiting my blog and taking the time to comment toooo…

Raj:- Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ha ha ha , I am glad you like the joke .. Thank you.

SG:- Thank you, Thank you. Na dont be sorry, not stopping you will HAVE to bear with the rants always.. MUUU HA HA HA HA HA.. what do you mean someday , I have changed right now .. And yeah we did not have to wait to meet again..

We meet now ..
HELLO.. how do do..
Myself Bikram πŸ™‚

Quest Your prize is on way .. WOWOWO yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy my blog is not mediocre ,
my blog is not mediocre ,
my blog is not mediocre

YOU said it, I will hold you to it alwayssssssss….. People who say my blog is not goot .. Please please revert to this comment ..

Yeah people are busy.. but not many got it πŸ™‚

KNK.. thanks my friend.

Sana Hashmi (A new Beginning):- I know the name now. Thanks for lovely Comment. Oh yes I got loads to share, you watch you gonna get bored with it ….. Thanks for the wishes and yeah hopefully god willing the count would not stop, you got a lot more to endure of my silly random thoughts..

Chowla Sir:- Sorry to have pulled this stunt. Thank you for the wishes, and not to worry you wont have to miss my posts πŸ™‚

The Holy Lama:- Hey, NO I am not old.. And abhi to shuru hua hai.. Life and fun starts at 100 I guess..

Madhu Awwwwwwwwww I liked the comment.. Damn It I will be in touch , promise he he he he.. And you will keep getting silly comments on your blog always .. till the day you say Bikram STOP IT…

Hary:- Thanks my friend. Well I guess it just shows I got more free time then you he he he he.. You the busy one..

Harman Your blog was one of the First ones I started to visit, when i started blogging.. Thank you so much for the wishes.

Sandhya Oh ho.. you missed the fun then.. Never mind always another on on 200th POST ha ha ha .. THank you so much. I am already back..

Thank you so much everyone.. I am so happy and Top of the world at the moment that I got so many blogger buddies… If ever I have said anything wrong or hurt anyone, then I am really very sorry for it all. But please do keep visiting and

hey hey hey hey

Comment also sometimes… πŸ™‚ ha ha ha ha

Love for Love wanted

Posted: March 15, 2010 in Love

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

How to salvage a relation..

What must one do to get over the problems

When we know there have been mistakes made.. how long will it take for us to try to undo those mistakes, Or Is it easy to just walk away …

How to pick the broken pieces and glue them.. Or as someone said we should wait for the NEXT person to come and fix them.. Is it so easy to just go to the next person.. Why dont we take it or feel that maybe if we just said Sorry or for that matter not even sorry… Just push your hand out or hold the hand that is out

Thats all it takes, Or is it that the day spent away were better .. BUT WERE THEY really.. or did we just try to close our eyes or turn a blind eye.. In my thoughts its not easy to turn a blind eye cause someday it will come back and Then on that day will one be able to look in there eyes and say Yes I did enough or ALL to pick the pieces…

because if the answer is NO then it will kill you inside slowly, now you may say yeah i will survive or it doesnot matter , I am more happier But then the day you are sitting alone Wondering what could have been… did we try enough.. When you are sitting in a courtyard, rain drops falling.. watching someone happy.. the thought comes to you Wish someone was here .. THAT TIME what will happen…

Life is too short to let things go… OR AM I LIVING IN A DREAM LAND πŸ™‚

Moral from a relation

Posted: March 10, 2010 in Angry, Hurts, Life, Love, My Thoughts., Rant, Soch

A man hated his wife’s cat and he decided to get rid of it. He drove 20 blocks away from home and dropped the cat there. The cat was already walking up the driveway when he approached his home.

The next day, he decided to drop the cat 40 blocks away but the same thing happened.. He kept increasing the number of blocks but the cat kept coming home before him.

At last he decided to drive a few miles away, turn right, then left, past the bridge, then right again and another right and so on until he reached what he thought was a perfect spot and dropped the cat there.

An hour later…. The man calls his wife at home and asked her, “Jen is the cat there?” “Yes, why do you ask?” answered the wife.

Frustrated the man said,” Put that damn cat on the phone, I am lost and I need directions to reach home!!!

Moral:

“How much ever we dislike somebody, someday we will need their assistance. So never worry how many people dislike you … ”

and Loads will be there who dislike you.. even the people who say they love you will dislike you.. they will be thinking of someone else when saying they love you..
But be BRAVE and STAND TALL… Because everyone will match there alike .. if they break your heart someday someone will break theres .. to make them realise ..

If they dislike you .. then someday someone will dislike them with so much hatred they will have a chill go down there spine …

What is Love ?

Posted: February 19, 2010 in Love, Soch

Do you really love him/Her?

Really?

How do you know?

Is it possible to love more than one person in a romantic or sexual manner ?

A lot of people out there are bound to dither over this question, finding ways to know if they truly love the other or is it that they are just fond of them. What happens if a man and a woman, who fancy themselves in love with each other, realize that they are unable to relate to each other’s definition of love?

What would mount to love :-

I think when you would rather not live your life without the person that I am sure would mount to love.

Its when he or she are the first to come to your mind in time of grief, happiness, loneliness..

When you think of him / her even when they are not around

When his/her happiness precedes yours ..

Now I am not saying this would last a lifetime, it may be for shorter period

Regarding loving more than one person then that is possible too because people change, priorities change, different qualities emerge, different phases to loving start. At one stage you may love one kind of a person, while at another stage you may be attracted to a different person. That doesn’t mean you have to necessarily stop loving the earlier person. You could love both of them at the same time though maybe with different intensity and in different ways.

What Say πŸ™‚

Parting .. Moving On

Posted: February 9, 2010 in Hurts, Love, Parting, Soch

Relationships are made and broken, I am sure we have all experienced these sorts of stuff all the time, (hopefully not too often), So what happens When a relationship ends, I have seen that when two people part or break up, its always easier for one person to shed it off faster, while the other wades through the pain and grief of parting.

I think how one takes it depends on the personality of the person, But a lot depends on the manner in which you break of. There could be a lot of reasons

1. Constant arguments.

2. Or was it falling out of Love

3. Or not able to show it to the other

4. Or simply could not be bothered

5. Or did not want to work on the relation.

6. Was there respect in the relationship?

7. Did one cheat on the other.

8. Sometimes there is this Arrogance or Ego.. To say Sorry or to take the first step, Why does it matter who said sorry first.

How can it be helped, well if the break is up for the RIGHT REASON.. then it is easier, sometimes it so happens that one person has found someone else to love, while the other is smarting under disbelief and grief. The hurt may fall in a relation a Temporary one often called “on the rebound.”

But as they say TIME HEALS IT ALL. A time comes when tears dry up, The constant checking of the Phone for a missed call or sms stops, Emails , the heartache stops.

The only thing that remains is a regret for what could have been.

Everyone Moves on, That’s life, No matter how hard or bitter the parting is, This is the reality. But somewhere in the heart it remains that

WHY!!!
WHAT IF I TRIED A BIT HARDER!!!
WHAT IF I DID THIS !!!!
WHAT IF I SAID THIS !!!!

Sometimes a beautiful relation gets spoiled by personal Ego, or Personal attitude IF you love someone then This EGO or Attitude Should not have a place.

Does it matter if Ms. A comes and holds Mr. B’s hand and says Sorry Or vice versa.
Does it matter is Mr. B says I love you and Ms A leaves everything (even if it is for a Second) to come to him

DOES IT MATTER WHO SAID WHAT WHEN TO WHO… because its easier to Part then remain together.. That’s the biggest challenge to Stay then MOVE ON..

Ah well !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ways to break up a relation : Way 1

Posted: December 18, 2009 in Love, relation

1. Talk rudely

Example 1. :- I asked u something
at least have the decency to reply

2. :- watever u say

NEVER..

Posted: October 25, 2009 in Love, never, relation

If Two people Love each other with all there heart, But don’t seem or Cant hold it together, when do you think ENOUGH IS ENOUGH and part

my answer is — NEVER

What Does anybody else think….

Cause that’s what there relation is I guess.. its still better then the ones where two people don’t know weather they love each other , they may be cootchy-cooing to each other all day long but the moment they turn they r thinking “what a B__” then what use is that relation.

Its better to know that you love and are loved and fight for it , never giving up.
relationships are funny, some last some don’t. The ones that don’t last doesnot mean that they were not worth .. it just means i guess that its time to move on, I know it sounds very odd saying this.. But then what right we got to make someone sad if we cant make them happy.

The ideal point would be to know that the relation is not working and Move on.. Me on the other hand i am very clingy.. I try my level best for the relation to last, i am the types who thinks that if we work on it the relationship will work, but then that’s me.. Although i am also of the point that if a relation breaks then its no use mending it again, for me if i let someone out of my life then they are gone. WEIRD am I not…

silly thoughts but a very sensible friend had told me that thoughts are not silly, they make perfect sense to the sane.. So I hope this all made sense to someone.. Cause if i read what I wrote I will probably end up Not posting it again πŸ™‚

IT IS BETTER TO BE IN LOVE AND PART OR LOOSE THEN NEVER TO BE IN LOVE ……