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Wishes.. I had promised Madhu that I will be writing this, But been wondering about it and read a few other articles, Don’t you think that It would actually be scary if wishes did come true…

At some level, we are all afraid of change its weird to say, We all hope, pray, wish, live for our wishes to come true, So then how can it be scary, Well I think that if wishes do come true then there may be nothing to look forward to, Also it May happen that if they do come true they may not actually be WHAT WE WANTED :) or they may not make us happy.. So yeah sometimes Wishes are good to have but Not fulfilled ..

#I wish life to go smooth.. hiccups are good but NOT at the rate they are hitting..

#I wish No evil or bad happens to my friends- well wishers, I wish god or who-so-ever is responsible for making wishes come true, makes this happen.

#I wish to be in two places at the same time.It will solve many issues (stolen from Madhu’s idea sorry)

#I wish to forgive all those who have hurt me deliberately or intentionally.. yeah sounds a bit of gandhism but no its got nothing to do with it.. Its as someone said The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

#I wish the best for those who have stood by me, in my time of need, Those who were NO-ONE but now are SOME-ONE, wish them all the good luck.

#I wish to meet all the people who have put comments or visited my blog :)

#I wish my friends in India, the ones with whom i grew up, spent my college days, Babbar-Cherry-Vikram-Sood-Ravi-Rajeev Everyone could come over to UK, to my house, Wow we will paint the bloody town REDdddddddddddddddddddddd. Got so many thing to do with them all.

#I want to become a bit worldly, I dont want to trust people the moment i meet them, I want to take time, I have met some wrong people whom I wish the best, but please god teach them a lesson.

#I wish i am Not accident prone.. god knows have had my share of mishaps and little skirmishes ..

#I wish i don’t loose my cool, when people talk back at you.. especially the people (well let me be BLUNT the ASIANS (Indians-Pakistani’s) , who when stopped suddenly see you as fellow asian and try to wiggle there way out. I have a story to tell but maybe in my next post.. Remind me someone .. :)

Rules of Life

Posted: March 16, 2010 in Life, Rules, Soch, Thinking

1 . Pursue Achievable Goals













2 . Keep Genuine Smiles


















3. Keep Cool Under Pressure

















4. Get Along with the Rich, the Poor, the Beautiful, & the Ugly
















5.Help Thy Neighbors














6. Share with others















7. Treasure Every Moment with Your Loved Ones











8. Cooperate and Reap Greater Rewards











9. Have a Few Pals











10. Forgive the Annoyance of Others








11. Lighten the Atmosphere with Humor










11. Understand “Money Isn’t Everything”










12. Take Calculated Risks






13.Indulge Yourself Occasionally ”













14.Respect the Disadvantaged














AND LASTLY
15. Have High Confidence in Yourself ”

Moral from a relation

Posted: March 10, 2010 in Angry, Hurts, Life, Love, My Thoughts., Rant, Soch

A man hated his wife’s cat and he decided to get rid of it. He drove 20 blocks away from home and dropped the cat there. The cat was already walking up the driveway when he approached his home.

The next day, he decided to drop the cat 40 blocks away but the same thing happened.. He kept increasing the number of blocks but the cat kept coming home before him.

At last he decided to drive a few miles away, turn right, then left, past the bridge, then right again and another right and so on until he reached what he thought was a perfect spot and dropped the cat there.

An hour later…. The man calls his wife at home and asked her, “Jen is the cat there?” “Yes, why do you ask?” answered the wife.

Frustrated the man said,” Put that damn cat on the phone, I am lost and I need directions to reach home!!!

Moral:

“How much ever we dislike somebody, someday we will need their assistance. So never worry how many people dislike you … ”

and Loads will be there who dislike you.. even the people who say they love you will dislike you.. they will be thinking of someone else when saying they love you..
But be BRAVE and STAND TALL… Because everyone will match there alike .. if they break your heart someday someone will break theres .. to make them realise ..

If they dislike you .. then someday someone will dislike them with so much hatred they will have a chill go down there spine …


Its true when people say One door closes another one opens ..

I did not believe it.. But it happened with me today.. I am not going to say which door closed. but I met someone today..

A person who for some odd reason , Knew that i was not OK, that there was something wrong going on in my life.. I have not met this person , I have never talked to this person ever before …

Yet this person knew or Felt it.. Are there still people like these in this world.. In this world of Selfish, Manipulating ,Arrogant people, In this world

Where what you say or promised did not mean a thing..
Where it was fine to break the others heart ..
Where it was OK to leave someone in the middle of the road, never to look back.. Where the words you say don’t mean anything other then the commercial aspect of it
Where oh man I could go on…

But in this F&*%$£ up world I talked to someone today ,

Who is so genuine
Who felt my hurt ..
Who tried to make me feel good
Who got worried when she heard I got hurt in a car crash..
Who genuinely wished me best
Who was there Out of blue..

How did it happen
How did this take place.. We are on different continents.. We don’t know each other .. We live in our own worlds ..

How often does it happen when you get a feeling like this, a feeling when all is lost , everything is dieing around you.. a person comes by and as they show in the geography channels a flower opening up, fresh breeze of life.. something like that happens…

Today I chatted with a girl, who told me all is not lost.. there is life beyond the closed door. This post if dedicated to this GIRL ..

I am thankful to you .. I was or had been planning something, But this beautiful person , with a beautiful heart was there .. to listen to everything I had to say, my sob story , my whining , my stupid stuff…

I prey to God to give her all the happiness that one can have in this world.. And If I can ever be of any kind of help God give me the strength and the will to help her.. whatever it may be

I am indebted to her.. She was there to listen to me … and tell me all those good things..

Its made me Smile ….

Thank You…….

A Thought

Posted: March 7, 2010 in Life, Soch

Have you ever thought of things happening .. why are they happening

People say this is the world. But then Why is this the World.. this is what happens BUT why is it that it happens …

Some say that people who love.. god resides in them, then what happened to God when it was my turn..

Promises are made to be broken, Turn your face away from promises.. Thats what life is.. everyone breaks the promises .. Neta log.. America.. girl Friends.. Lovers .. they all break the promises.. But I am a AAM AADMI.. How can a aam aadmi break the promise ..

No respect for love I guess …

We are guests in this world ,in this life for Two days .. Tomorrow who has seen..

Do something for someone and then see what god does for you.. thats what I was told BUT WHAT DOES GOD DO .. HE DOES NOTHING…


patte chad gaye ne bodhaan tonn
duniya matlab di … zara bach ke .modaan ton te Matalabi lokaan ton

Jo galti na kare woh aadmi kaun, par Jo maaf na kare woh aadmi kaun

Ok people an update on the previous article I wrote London Dreams

My cousin after visiting places finally got 2 or 3 avenues to go… He was introduced to a person who works for a Bakery. Which was about two hours drive from Birmingham.

First they asked him to get a bank account set up, we went to the bank for some reason my cousin wanted to open an account in the Indian bank “Punjab national bank” that have a branch in Birmingham on Soho road. We went there They would not accept the Indian passport as form of Identity, How weird is that, An Indian bank will not accept a INDIAN PASSPORT WOW..

Anyway we were told they need a UK Address, Mine will not work because for proof they need some official document with my cousins name and UK Address, Now how do we do that, someone suggested getting my Electric or Gas connection in his name, Called the board to do so Guess what they asked.. YESSSSS  Proof of address and a Bank account for direct debits — Catch 22 or what ..  Then came a suggestion to apply for a provisional license… when it comes back it will have the address and name .. So applied for it.

6 days later the license arrived, another trip to bank, To our surprise they need TWO proofs, why the guy did not tell us on first visit god knows, I guess the Indian mentality of making people come a few times is still there in them. By this time I was pissed off by the guy, I had a few words with him, after 2 -3 minutes his English finished, he turned to Punjabi, his manager came apologized.

We went home this time applied for a national insurance number, everyone needs it to work in uk, luckily there was nothing required by the UK Office, just a name and address, the NI number came in 4 days. So now we had two proofs of addresses.

THIRD trip to the bank was successful, phew …

After all this again my cousin went to these job people, they were happy he got the bank account, but oh they forgot to mention the NI number… He needs to get that now… BUT VOILA yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy we were one step ahead, we already had it… showed it, The guy did not have anything to say, I guess he thought he has put us off for another week, so it was
“KAL nu phone kariyo 1:30 Waje” call me tomorrow at 1:30…

Tomorrow 1:30 came, called ooops he forgot to tell , the cousin needs to have a medical card too, Till all this was going on They had not told where the job was, Hours of Job, Money. Why would they want the medical card I have no clue, so we went to my GP, talked to the lovely lady at reception, My GP plays hockey with me so it did not take long to get registered with him, we had the card in a hour.

Back to the guy, he could not think of anything else so, Job was there , they will pick up my cousin at 6AM in morning , 2 hours drive, work there for the 10hours shift , then drive back.. To start next day again… And LISTEN to this they will pay £4 an hour, with one hour taken off for lunch.

The reason to point this out is, he is living with me so he has no rent, no electric-gas, council anything to pay for, or even pay for the food. If he had to pay for all that DO YOU THINK IT’S WORTH WORKING SO HARD… and being PAID PEANUTS… To start at 6 he is getting up at 5 in morning and each day he reaches home around 9 or 10pm depending on traffic and all others who need dropping off from the van. Last week for two days the bakery stopped working for 3- 4 hours due to the current economic conditions, they don’t have that much orders, so he is NOT paid for those hours.

It is true that he will get £4 or £5 an hour which is roughly about Rs.400 an hour in India, That is a LOT of money… but then a Loaf of bread here is between 75p to £2 depending on brands, a cauliflower is for £1, that is ONE PIECE. A Single mango fruit is for 99p. I am sure you will get the idea suddenly £4 an hour is not enough money.

I think people in India forget that though earning pounds, you need to spend also in pounds…

Anyway people London dreams are not that lucrative anymore… so THINK…

By the way my cousin is on phone for another job will tell about that laterzzzz

I am crying today .. oh yes , its just one of those days when nothing seems to go your way. I want to go home, let my mum fuss around me. Let her say how good i am , shower numerous praises on me.

Country roads .. take me Home ..
To the place I belong …
I hear a voice in the morning how she calls me
The radio reminds me of my home far away
Drivin’ down the road I get the feelin’

That I should been home yesterday yesterday
TAKE ME HOME

*******

I have been a F*%&$£” looser all this time.. AHHHHHHHHHH I would kill someone today
Got up in morning, went the gym and did bugger all, cause the moment I went to do chest press the bloody machine broke…

Then thought leave the weights go for a swim, picked my stuff went to the changing room only to find that I had not got my trunks in the bag, I am very short tempered sometimes so by this time I was fuming at myself.

*******

Ended up going on the treadmill.. shower and came out to find Some Idiot had hit my car, HOW CRUEL can it be, it was parked perfectly fine so now I am without back lights, went into enquire if the cctv has got the number plate of the car for insurance purpose, Guess what a big NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO…. the cctv is there but it was not recording.. the idiots had forgotten to put it to record, WHAT USE IS IT TO HAVE THE CCTV…. more AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

*******

Came to work to find that last night there was a power cut, so my machine had got rebooted, which meant all the work i had done after the last SAVE, was lost.. especially the SQL queries.. that had been written for testing that makes me MAD , cause it takes ages to get the query right, yesterday I had spent lot of hours optimising a query which was taking more than a hour to run , over internet to 26 minutes , I HAD LOST THAT …. more aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh my manager and a collegue have had earfull of my moaning today…

Its a CONSPIRACY .. a saazish.. it is a PLOT.. to bring me down,, everything is planning to bring me down … I thought I will write it down and take my anger over here… dont know if i will post this or not .. lets seee…

Am I Jinxed

Posted: January 7, 2010 in Angry, Life, My Thoughts., random, Sudden

I was reading a post from one of my favorite writers, where she mentioned about life coming back to a Circle after the holiday season got over. The late sleeping-getting up late just relaxing… Anyway

I have been feeling since a lot of time that I am jinxed or something cause mishaps – one of those things – knocks – accidents etc happen a lot with me, as we know the weather has been playing havoc here in UK, it’s not the weather but I think people have forgotten how to drive in such weather, have become less patient driving especially people with these luxury cars, sports cars they think they can cut in, drive fast basically do what they want to even on these treacherous conditions.

I have a sports car but I don’t do this ( OK now I know I am being modest about this ), no really I don’t, I do speed yes cause that’s the reason why I bought the car, but I know when not to. Anyway so there is me today morning woke up, the usual morning chores got ready for work, the roads were icy, the car was snowed under, cleared the pathway, put some hot water on the windscreens to get the ice off, started the car to warm up, while I watched tele to check on the news, nothing was reported .. So I set off, visited the gurudwara sahib on way, and hit the motorway. I have been starting off half hour early these days to cater for conditions.

Merrily driving listening to some punjabi music got the signs about an accident on the motorway at junction 5… Phewww I get off at junction 4 Saved… the slip road leading off the motorway was jam-packed, I thought maybe everyone is wanting to get off because of accident, So I got off, traffic lights go green, turn right to my dismay the exit I take was jam-packed, it was stand-still.. I am in the middle lane, carried on to take the third exit back to the motorway to go the long way to work.

Now there is a Set of lights to enter the roundabout, then another set of lights to leave the second exit (which is mine) and the Third set of lights to take the third exit to go back to motorway, HOW easy can it be OR how difficult can it be, anyway there I am Now in the FIRST lane to turn left easy peasy.. OH NO it is not cause there is MR. ARSEHOLE with his flashing two door Merc, who thinks so what if he is in the middle lane, he can put his foot down on the accelerator, cut me off, what is or was the rush I don’t have a clue, to his bad luck since I got a sports car mine also probably accelerates at same speed, So this Mr. HI FI.. Does that cuts me and I have to break sharp… what happens is anyone guess, Icy roads my car goes for a SPIN… and dham hits the barrier…

So a perfectly fine day gets ruined, I wish I was in uniform and in India should have got down and given a nice walloping to this person, he did not even get out, slowed the car and then zipped off… I am left with the front lights smashed, a dent on the side of the car and my head hurting cause I bumped it, I am very bad at this I don’t wear a seat belt , I know I know it’s so bad of me I am just not used to it.

But one good thing happened Lucky me, I rang the recovery guess what, they say oh we have a van out on the fourth exit he he he, so they were there and since my job is like that I have to go and report to a hospital so I was taken for first aid, and an hour later I was at my work, my car brought to the car park, it will be picked up on Saturday for repairs.

What a Start to the beautiful day, everything white and sun shining. I also learned something new today how people react or how much they care for you, I rang a friend (well i thought of them as friend, what they think, I know now) of mine at least 8 times, because how do I put it (which will not hurt my MANLY sentiments :) ), I was a bit shaken it happened so sudden, they could not be bothered to reply back anyway We learn from every incident in our lives. Next time I should call somebody else ha ha ha.

So I thought I shall write this and get some sympathy votes he he he he … But it makes me wonder how things change in a second, AM I Jinxed or AM I JINXED, Ah well all part of life I guess… Wonder what is in store next time… Though I should thank the almighty god that I have not got hurt badly so far, its always been a knick here and there… But then god knows what’s gonna happen next will I be lucky or WILL I BE LUCKY :)

So please all reading this drive safe even in your posh cars we all know they drive very smooth and FAST.. Be safe, think of yourself and others on the road, Better be late then never AND PLEASE WEAR YOUR SEAT BELTS :) (look who is talking I know). Take care all and yes when someone is desperate to get hold of you do answer back it may be a emergency :).

Christmas is here followed by new years, Drinking and driving is on the rise, in the last few days i have caught 3 people for this offence. The best thing is you go to the driver’s side, ask him to switch off the engine. Then ask them have you had a drink, the typical reply is first “NO”…
“I can smell it on your breadth”…
“Sorry, I have had just half or Just a Pint”…

You stand there and Smile… Off course you have…

Then you ask them to step out of the vehicle, the Door swings open, they are so pissed , instead of putting their leg out first , they have to twist there bottoms then plonk there leg, Hold the DOOR TIGHTLY, get the second leg out, then slowly try to get up.. Ooops they can’t so they try again… When on two feet the Feet are firmly on ground, but the upper body waist upwards is sort of moving on its one…

They have just had ONE pint … Yes sir you have indeed…

Ask them there name, they give a whole history, name, date of birth, where they live etc etc out it comes like a river flowing…

You ask them again very politely, are you sure you had just a pint,
“Yes, before that I had another one earlier “… the Smile on your face widens… How earlier was that…?

“Afternoon lunch .. ” so basically to tell the truth and from experience they have been drinking since lunch up till now, You got no other choice but to get him off the road, Else he would endanger the rest of the people.

Christmas, new years, Diwali, Holi these festivals are there, I can understand to have fun, enjoy but they don’t give the RIGHT to get drunk and endanger other people who are enjoying the festive season according to their choice. I can understand the need for a Drink during these occasions, I do too, But I Never Drive after having a drink, and if I have to go for a drink I take a Taxi or Bus it. My friends who are with me Know very well that they dare not do it themselves, Call me Unfriendly or bad person But they know if they drive after having a drink I WILL CALL THE POLICE to rat on them because I don’t want to feel the Guilt if the same person drives his car into someone or something killing/hurting others or themselves, It does NOT make me wrong or less friendly, it makes me human because I have a conscious.

It’s nothing to do with Friendship honor, or to do anything with love for friends, If you think otherwise fair enough dont read furthur, BUT don’t let them have that drink before they drive, or Pay for the Taxi to take them home, Pay for the Bus Fare but DO NOT let them Drive Drunk.

That to me is FRIENDSHIP honour.
That to me shows you care for that person.

It’s easier said Oh one small shot or A pint won’t matter, It does matter. Any amount of alcohol affects your ability to drive. There is no foolproof way of drinking and staying under the limit or of knowing how much an individual person can drink and still drive safely.

I learnt my lesson in a Bad horrible accident years ago, So All who read this Please be careful, Tell the people around you to be careful, Don’t do anything silly, and ALWAYS Always think hundred times driving after a drink, Its not worth it. Most young people will give two hoots to what I have said, But Guys and Gals Please Think . Everything gets spoilt in an instant, Remember when drunk , THE CAR IS A LOADED GUN, a tool to do serious damage with, it is a serious WEAPON.

So the only safe option is not to drink alcohol if you plan to drive, and never offer an alcoholic drink to someone else who is intending to drive, The law needs to change, it should not only be the drunk driver, But the people who Knew that the person is Drunk and Knew he/she is going to Drive, Knowing this they still allow the person to drive, Then IF something does go wrong, they all need to be held responsible because as i said earlier the car is a loaded gun that we have allowed this person who has had a drink to use, So we should be held responsible. The same way as we would if we actually hand a gun to a person to shoot with.

I know a bit farfetched but end of the day, this could be Abetment to the accident, My conscious does not allow this , so hopefully it should not allow to a lot of people too.

Anyway these are my random thoughts good-bad whatever… it’s me and my Silly mind thinks sometimes…… Remember if you stop one drunk driver driving back home or anywhere you may have saved a life, which sure would amount to a GOOD DEED FOR THE DAY…

MERRY CHRISTMAS people, BE SAFE.. and KEEP OTHERS SAFE

I have been meaning to write this article for ages now, but somehow I never managed to get round to it. Internet has been a great tool, I have met so many people over it all over the world and I must say some of them have become very good friends, a few closer than family too.

Then I started to write this Blog in October sometime, earlier I use to write a diary at night before going to sleep, everyday.. but for some reason I started this a few people were very happy. Over this blog I met a few people some good, some OK, I wont say bad because I think , No one is bad they are good for someone if not you.

Sometimes it makes me think that I am from a very old school, a school where patience, respect , love existed – nowadays I have seen it does not anymore..

Admi Sochta kuch hai
Karta Kuch hai
Hota kuch or hai..

Today we have become very unforgiving people. It may be an ethnic problem, or a community’s problem or a country’s, or in your relationships, with your wife, children, parents,Girl Friend, Friends, Acquaintances we get very very unforgiving and we hold that against them. We wear it as a badge which says
‘main tujhe kabhi maaf nahi karoonga’

Everyone has a hidden agenda behind everything, IT was not like this always people use to be so good, caring. The words they said meant something , people stood by there words. Nowadays people are quick to make a relation, even quicker to spoil or break one. What they say is not what they mean. Why have people become so heartless, What would it take to go back to the good old days. I mean how can someone say oh we are friends then at next instant go behind your back , I mean what is friendship…

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

I don’t know why god has made me like this, or why I think like that, But I would never do what I have experienced even to my enemy, Thanks to this blog I think I got a few of those now :) But as someone who has my heart and cares for me a lot said to me, forget about them, they are NOBODY, think of the people I have met over this, Some very decent people, Pallavi her highness.. It has been lovely to chat with her sometime, knowing them.

lekin mai toh beroak safar mein
is ek aur pehlu se hokar nikal chala,
jeevan ki aapa dhapi mein kab waqt mila
kuch der kahin par baith kabhie yeh soach sakun,
ki jo kiya kaha mana usme kya bura bhala…

(these are a few words stolen from Mr. Amitabh Bachan).

I think this is where we have reached we have got so busy in our life that we have forgotten or forget what the effects of our actions will have on others, We have become so selfish, I ask god one thing always Please don’t make me so selfish, or careless, unfaithful, uncaring, heartless, Because I don’t know which action of mine might hurt someone. Do people actually mean they are friends when they say they are, or are just making fun of you. If they are then why do they do it, what right do they have to play with someones emotions. Would they feel the same if this happened with them, or have they become so heartless that it does not bother them anymore. How can they go to sleep soundly, well now I am being a fool because they don’t even know what hurt they have caused.

People are impulsive and say things that hurt other people, they walk over others especially people whom they say are friends. And in all this process they loose friends, I am a bit of a dumbo it takes a bit of time for me to understand people are trying to ignore me , so it gets difficult to loose me :). Loosing a acquaintance or friend over trivial reason, a reason which is non existence. All I would say is such people will one day realise what they lost, by then it will be too late.

I wish i had the Ego or Impulse to severe my contact with people, But then that’s not me.

Anyway festive season is here, so Please god take care of all my friends, foes, anyone i know .. God bless all and everyone … New year is round the corner I wish we all make a promise to ourselves to be a better human being.

Jaane anjaane

What is world coming to. hain…