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Continuing from part one How to live and Die (1) – Sad post and part Two How to live and Die (2 and 3)- My Views on what I think are some of the points that one needs to keep in mind to have a good Life and Die a peaceful death, the first point as I said is health.. as Health is Wealth., Then comes MONEY, I would actually put MONEY on par with Health, as lets be truthful in todays day and age MONEY is very important, Then comes having a place of your own called HOME , especially if you own your own house.

So moving on I think that there is a particular trait in us human beings that we should try to get rid of and that is “ENVY“, we all have it, A BIG FAT LIAR is the person who says he/she does not Envy.

The biggest envy we have is of that particular person who has done better than us, OH YES we all do that sometimes consciously or sometimes sub-consciously. I don’t know why do we do that or how does it concern us But in all these thoughts and in all this time spent in envying them we usually do not see how much hard work they have put in to get where they are.

It is not easy to reach high, takes a lot of hard work, heartaches, we lose a lot of people in that race to reach the top, seldom do we stand still to think is it WORTH it, reaching that particular position, or in trying to earn more money is it worth losing a good friend. By the time we stand still to think it is already too late what is lost is gone, I have a few friends who are doing just that, to become a manager or to get that extra pay grade they forget that their 4 years kid does not see them all day long, by the time they reach home the kid is asleep. Just spending a SUNDAY with the kid is not good enough, the Sunday too is spent most of time on phone calls or getting to grips what was missed in the week, paying of bills, renewing of this or that.

I have seem some very rich people not being able to enjoy a full meal in peace, YES they are a managing director of a company but having their dinner with the phone glued to the ear is not what I see as ideal situation. Thankfully I am pleased that I have stopped getting into this rat race, I am happy with what every I have, its enough to feed me all my life and maybe half the life of my next generation to.

Due to work and all there is only one meal in a day that I get to eat at home and I enjoy having it because I make sure I switch off my phone or put it on silent once I come back home.

I think it is this ENVY that makes us do all that, because we are envious of someone making so much money or reaching a particular position it makes us think about ourself , which in turn then makes us more frustrated WHY Can I Not have that, WHY cant I get that.. WELL you can but do give a thought at all the hard work put in and what all have these rich people lost on the way, Are you willing to give up all that!!!

So if we can get rid of this ENVY, I am sure we can have a smooth life.

What do you think people.. ?????

2014 and also 2013 have been a roller coaster year for me , Lots to learn , Although I say that I learnt but I wonder DID I .. I can vouch i will make the same mistakes again as I am yet to learn the art of thinking from mind rather than heart. I am still letting my heart take a lot of control over a lot of issues and stuff involving me – my life. I wonder what is that mantra or HOW does one learn this art, as I mentioned the last couple of days have been very chaotic for some reason the start of every year has been very chaotic for me.

Here is an example remember the Gyan I gave on How to live and Die (2 and 3) I had mentioned about lending money , yes you can guess it right I went ahead and lent some more 🙂 , yeah SHOOT ME PLEASE SOMEONE, as I got carried away with the dialogues how I am like an elder brother to the person, How I am part of family , How he respects me blah blah blah. I just can’t learn from my mistakes, I know he is taking me for a ride a couple of my friends have told me that too buttttttt ALAS ME- MOI- MYSELF are just IDIOTS 🙂 (you guys who know me please stop nodding your heads)

So not sure if this post is valid or that do I have the Right to post this one BUT nevertheless here I go riding on my “god know’s what” cloud Sky high 🙂 yeeeeeeeee haaaaaaaa , Some of the things that I learnt if put in a funny way will include ..

Before that here is a DISCLAIMER alas I get shot for copyright infringements

Disclaimer:- The Following Statements have been taken from different resources from public forums, I have changed some according to my needs , feelings. So if they are infringing anyone’s rights , then I am sorry please let me know ASAP and I shall remove that line as the following is what I have learned and how to put them in English differently I would not know. If I have hurt anyone’s feelings than I am sorry in advance ..

I’ve learned the Saying “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feelIS BULLOCKS.. people whom you have made feel good Will forget within a SECOND.. the only people you have HURT will remember.

I’ve learned that No matter how much some say they are your FRIENDS they never will be , cause they don’t know the meaning of it…

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care Some people are just ARSEHOLES

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up TRUST and it only takes suspicion to destroy it.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen MINUTES After that, you’d better have a big Wad of money in your wallet or beautiful FACE..

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others they are more screwed up, then you think…

I’ve learned that we are RESPONSIBLE for what we do Unless we are CELEBRITIES..

I’ve learned that regardless of how HOT or STEAMY a relationship is at first Passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place …

I’ve learned that the people you care the most about in life are taken from you too soon.. and the less important ones NEVER GO AWAY

I’ve learned that The only people you need in your life are the ones that Prove that they need you in theirs

I’ve learned that You will never know how STRONG you are, Until being strong is the only choice you have left …

I’ve learned that there is a point in your life when you realise Who Matters, Who NEVER DID, Who always Will and Who wont anymore

and last but not the least …

I have learned that you can-not Make Someone love you.. All you can do is STALK them and HOPE they panic and give in.. 🙂

Enough Gyan for a day .. Have a good day everyone 🙂

Lesson 1:

A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings.

The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs.When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbour.

Before she says a word, Bob says, ‘I’ll give you $800 to drop that towel.’

After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob , after a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 and leaves. The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs.

When she gets to the bathroom , her husband asks, ‘Who was that?’

‘It was Bob the next door neighbor,’ she replies.

‘Great,’ the husband says, ‘did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?’

Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure..

Lesson 2:

A priest offered a Nun a lift.

She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg.The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he put his hand on her leg.

The nun said, ‘Father, remember Psalm 129?’
The priest removed his hand. But, changing gears, he put his hand on her leg AGAIN.

The nun once again said, ‘Father, remember Psalm 129?’

The priest apologized ‘Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.’

Arriving at the convent, the nun sighed heavily and went on her way…

On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129. It said, ‘Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory.’

Moral of the story:
If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.

Lesson 3:

A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp.

They rub it and a Genie comes out.
The Genie says, ‘I’ll give each of you just one wish.’
‘Me first! Me first!’ says the admin clerk ‘I want to be in the Bahamas , driving a speedboat, without a care in the world..’

Puff! She’s gone.

‘Me next! Me next!’ says the sales rep. ‘I want to be in Hawaii , relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.’

Puff! He’s gone.

‘OK, you’re up,’ the Genie says to the manager.
The manager says, ‘I want those two back in the office after lunch’

Moral of the story:

Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 4

An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.

A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, ‘Can I also sit like you and do nothing?’
The eagle answered: ‘Sure, why not.’

So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson 5

A turkey was chatting with a bull.

‘I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree’ sighed the turkey, ‘but I haven’t got the energy.’
‘Well, why don’t you nibble on some of my droppings?’ replied the bull. They’re packed with nutrients.’

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch.

Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.

He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.

Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won’t keep you there..

Lesson 6

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.

While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.

As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out!

He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy..

A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate.

Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Morals of the story:
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.

(3) And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

THUS ENDS THE FIVE MINUTE MANAGEMENT COURSE

Ok people an update on the previous article I wrote London Dreams

My cousin after visiting places finally got 2 or 3 avenues to go… He was introduced to a person who works for a Bakery. Which was about two hours drive from Birmingham.

First they asked him to get a bank account set up, we went to the bank for some reason my cousin wanted to open an account in the Indian bank “Punjab national bank” that have a branch in Birmingham on Soho road. We went there They would not accept the Indian passport as form of Identity, How weird is that, An Indian bank will not accept a INDIAN PASSPORT WOW..

Anyway we were told they need a UK Address, Mine will not work because for proof they need some official document with my cousins name and UK Address, Now how do we do that, someone suggested getting my Electric or Gas connection in his name, Called the board to do so Guess what they asked.. YESSSSS  Proof of address and a Bank account for direct debits — Catch 22 or what ..  Then came a suggestion to apply for a provisional license… when it comes back it will have the address and name .. So applied for it.

6 days later the license arrived, another trip to bank, To our surprise they need TWO proofs, why the guy did not tell us on first visit god knows, I guess the Indian mentality of making people come a few times is still there in them. By this time I was pissed off by the guy, I had a few words with him, after 2 -3 minutes his English finished, he turned to Punjabi, his manager came apologized.

We went home this time applied for a national insurance number, everyone needs it to work in uk, luckily there was nothing required by the UK Office, just a name and address, the NI number came in 4 days. So now we had two proofs of addresses.

THIRD trip to the bank was successful, phew …

After all this again my cousin went to these job people, they were happy he got the bank account, but oh they forgot to mention the NI number… He needs to get that now… BUT VOILA yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy we were one step ahead, we already had it… showed it, The guy did not have anything to say, I guess he thought he has put us off for another week, so it was
“KAL nu phone kariyo 1:30 Waje” call me tomorrow at 1:30…

Tomorrow 1:30 came, called ooops he forgot to tell , the cousin needs to have a medical card too, Till all this was going on They had not told where the job was, Hours of Job, Money. Why would they want the medical card I have no clue, so we went to my GP, talked to the lovely lady at reception, My GP plays hockey with me so it did not take long to get registered with him, we had the card in a hour.

Back to the guy, he could not think of anything else so, Job was there , they will pick up my cousin at 6AM in morning , 2 hours drive, work there for the 10hours shift , then drive back.. To start next day again… And LISTEN to this they will pay £4 an hour, with one hour taken off for lunch.

The reason to point this out is, he is living with me so he has no rent, no electric-gas, council anything to pay for, or even pay for the food. If he had to pay for all that DO YOU THINK IT’S WORTH WORKING SO HARD… and being PAID PEANUTS… To start at 6 he is getting up at 5 in morning and each day he reaches home around 9 or 10pm depending on traffic and all others who need dropping off from the van. Last week for two days the bakery stopped working for 3- 4 hours due to the current economic conditions, they don’t have that much orders, so he is NOT paid for those hours.

It is true that he will get £4 or £5 an hour which is roughly about Rs.400 an hour in India, That is a LOT of money… but then a Loaf of bread here is between 75p to £2 depending on brands, a cauliflower is for £1, that is ONE PIECE. A Single mango fruit is for 99p. I am sure you will get the idea suddenly £4 an hour is not enough money.

I think people in India forget that though earning pounds, you need to spend also in pounds…

Anyway people London dreams are not that lucrative anymore… so THINK…

By the way my cousin is on phone for another job will tell about that laterzzzz

London Dreams is it Worth. THINK

Posted: November 30, 2009 in Lecture, Life, UK

I was in London a couple of weeks back, on some work. After work I thought about meeting a few lads who had come from India recently a few I know of. Reached south hall to the rendezvous point met up with the guys, went into the glassy junction for a couple of drinks.

As the conversation progressed I could feel some uneasiness among them, We were about 8 of us, my cousin one of them who had come on a 2 year Study visa, which was astonishing for me cause , my cousin is not intellectual types , to be blunt he managed to get through his primary education after lot of struggle, How he managed to get admission for higher studies in UK, I have no clue of, I did not even have knowledge that he was trying to come abroad, I had got a call a day prior to his landing.

Well it so happened that Two of the guys had to go back, as it was there SHIFT to sleep, Yes I was surprised, dumbstruck… on further probing found that there were 6 of them living in a room with a double bed, they had put an extra bed in the room, so 3 of the boys slept in morning as they worked nights, the other 3 slept at night cause they were on day shifts. The shift they were doing was 12 to 14hours, though they were being paid cash… it was far below the Minimum rate of pay. One of them was paid 2.75 an hour, that’s Shambolic.

Jobs are hard to come by because of the recession. Many young men and women are forced to work illegally beyond the permissible hours and are paid a pittance. They cannot raise their voice because it is illegal for them to be working more than 20 hours a week according to the visa restrictions, because they had come on Study visa. I really felt bad at the situation they were in , Why did they come to UK, the lure of pastures green, But it is not so, the current economic crisis, the Recession has taken a toll everywhere, work is very limited, too many hands available for the same job.

A large number of Indian youth are barely surviving that too with the generosity of the gurdwaras in SouthHall, so many have spent fortunes, lakhs of rupees, My cousin himself has had his father mortgage piece of land to secure admission in dubious British institution to obtain a valid visa. Some of the youth have arrived illegally.

The money they brought helped them for a month or two but what now, they are unable to afford the fee in such institutes or pay for their accommodation. A Cheap room in southhall costs about 40 to 50 pounds a week.

It’s still ok for the boys , but the girls are having a harrowing time, They are in bad state the ones living on their own, they are having to share with others, even boys, Back home parents are thinking there kids are living there life, IT IS NOT SO, the real picture is something different for those who are uneducated, come illegally, Or have come after taking admission thinking that the visa is for 2 years they can earn on the Side, IT IS NOT SO. My cousin has been for 6 weeks now, he has not been able to get a job, even in the farms or as labor. I don’t want to go into the stories I was told, because it upset me a lot. Why are the youth willing to spoil their youth to come here, I mean the amount of money they have spent to come abroad, if they spent that at home on some business or doing something it would still be better than coming here and languishing.

If I tell this to my RELATIVES they come back with choice of words, that since I am here in UK, enjoying my stay and making my life, I am only jealous that the rest of the cousins will come over, I MEAN WTF.

Things are really bad, Thanks to the Gurudwara sahib’s that food is available to the youth, otherwise they will be in so much trouble, they don’t have money to return back home too, It’s still ok for my cousin, he can come over to me or borrow some money from me, but on a bigger picture it’s not worth, spoiling your youth over it. None of them have Medical or insurance, if something happens what are they going to do.

Please please All who read this, Please make sure before you or anyone you know of makes a decision to come abroad, you have the facts right, Do your spade work, find out if it is really any worthwhile coming all this way, Wasting the hard earned money of your parents or even putting them under Debt.

Everybody hopes to live in a better environment socially and economically. But it’s not possible for people to get that without struggle. It is the responsibility of the person to determine how much struggle is justified for the cause. The cause can’t be worth it, if the existence occurs merely from hand to mouth. Like the very famous slogan: Dikhave pe na jao, Apni akal lagao 🙂

Lecture :- Be a good child

Posted: October 22, 2009 in Children, Lecture, Parents, Son

We love our parents with all our heart and you want to be the best child you can be, but its always not easy. Some ideas that can help, I am lecturing here…

1. Visit your parents, Nothing says “I LOVE YOU” more than spending time with someone. Parents spend there lives giving you their time, So give some time back.

2. Help with house repairs , gardening. Your parents would be grateful when you offer to share some hard work.

3. Get a Good education. Make your parents proud by educating yourself. Most parents dream of their child going into the world with an education that can help them start a career.

4. Get a Good job. Show your parents you can support yourself. A good child can take care of himself and those he loves. Let your parents see the time and effort they spent raising you helped create a good person who can live independently.

5. Be kind to your siblings, help them if you can, Parents want there children to get along.

6. Remember dates b’days , anniversaries, call your parents.

7. ALWAYS thank your parents for all they have done for you.

People often forget to say “I LOVE YOU and YOU ARE IMPORTANT TO ME” Tell them you care and TELL THEM OFTEN VERY OFTEN.

The reason for this blog is I missed out on a few when I came to UK and settled here, I am not saying it was a wrong decision, But I missed out on the above. Since my Dad passed away 2 years ago, I miss telling him how much he meant to me, How much I love – care for him. I am what I am now cause of his pains, that he took, sacrificing his ideas sometimes to make sure I got what I wanted or threw a tantrum over. I regret not telling him all this when I had the chance, will regret all my life.

THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!