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I think its my face or just me that gets this reaction from people.. So there is this new App called #shpock. Its like Ebay where you can advertise unwanted stuff , people can bid for it and then you sell or buy.

But unlike #Ebay this one does not have any safety nets so dodgy people get to rip one-off, I had a similar experience where by a IPAD was advertised for some Amount, I was interested in getting one so I offered a Price of £275/-  if I get it fine if not then also it was fine as I am not that desperate to buy one.

The seller seemed to be genuine but I had been stupid enough to not Read the Reviews , there were just a couple at that time which were not good, Anyway I get a reply from this person to message them on a Phone number 07576560137, so I did, I offered to pick up the item myself , but the person was adamant to get it posted, Still I did not think this could be a scam.

I got a Message that she is ready and accepted my offer AND then the drama started about how to pay for the item, I did not want to pay in advance as I had no clue who this person was and she was adamant on posting, She asked me if she can post , I gave my answer that if she can trust then yeah go ahead post it to me and I will transfer the money the moment I got the item.

She then came with the idea that Half the money first and half on receipt, I was still not happy So I offered to pay £50/- as advance and the rest on receiving the item.  I had a reason that is she was willing to trust me for £225/- then she would be a genuine person, But the clever she had different ideas (to her £50 was better than £0).. She readily agreed to it and I don’t know why I just did not give it a single thought that all this time , This person had not even asked me the address she was going to sent the Item to, I am such a DUMB idiot.

I then transferred 50 pounds to the given account number , She promised to post the item the next day it was only about a few hours later that my mind WOKE up like a TUBE LIGHT.. how is she going to send, she has not got my address 🙂  that’s when I texted her , and since then NO replies from her and it seems she has blocked me on whatsapp, I tried calling the number but the calls never went through.

Now almost after a month I could see activity on her profile and she is back to the same plan, putting stuff for sale and then asking people to Transfer the money as she will only post, People are saying they can pick up but NO she will only post, wants the money in advance. I wrote a lot of messages on here Time line to Refund the money.. Even wrote that this person is a CHEAT and wont send the item, But cleverly she has deleted all the messages.

To make matters WORSE if you go the #SHPOCK help on the App it has FAQ’s on everything BUT if you are duped. So the site is happy to see people get ripped off as long as the Site is working ,  at least on #Ebay one is safe via #paypal and if things go wrong then money is refunded, Although I have been in Communication with them and They are trying to help.

This whole episode has left me so angry I mean everyone is out there willing to dupe you, no thoughts are given as to how hard it is to earn money Or maybe I am a born sucker,  this person sent a text to me saying her GrandDad had passed away and I was so concerned , I am offering my condolences to her, Also saying that its OK,  she should go and take care of all that is going on in her life, and when she is back I can come and pick up the item, I mean people can even use the Death of a family member (that is if it was genuine) to their own benefit.

I am such a RETARD..

Putting on snapshots of the communication I had with this person and You can see what a PLONKER I AM  🙂 I feel disgusted with myself.

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WhatsApp Communication 🙂

 

Sadly Since it was a wire transfer and with my own accord the Bank can’t do anything, I have written to them but they have not had any replies from the Account into which I have paid the money, I think the person has actually stolen someone card and using it , that is why she was so desperate for me to put the money right away, so she can withdraw.

Strangely enough I did get a message from another user saying the same about stolen card but till then the damage had been done

 

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I did Get an Email from #Shpock and Later on a Message on Twitter saying they have Blocked the account ,  but that I have to see, I will put it up next post…

Ah well you learn something new everyday and I learnt what a DORK I am .. 🙂

So if anyone is using this APP please be aware of the Scamsters especially near by the Post code of NN18  – CORBY area.

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Disclaimer: This post does not intend to make any personal attacks on any one. Hence, no names have been taken. Please refrain from getting personal.

I had done a post (  And we Expect a Change in our society- Not a wordless wednesday) a few months ago on a similar discussion , A comment I had placed on an article,  I got a great reaction then and It seems I have let myself into another one again 🙂 , I never know when to shut up..

do I ?  he he he 🙂

I have a similar reaction to put today too, There is an article where a lady is wanting to take some advice from people about her relation with her in-laws. The context is about how she has a problem with her hubby intending to move back from USA to India because of his parents.

Now the content of the article or the email is Not what I want to discuss..

It’s what I wrote as a reply to the article and the  reactions that comment generated  that I am more interested in ..

So now you know what is the base. This is what I wrote ..

Dear ABC.. . I am sorry but you shud be discussing this with your Hubby and not with strangers ..

How can me or anyone else give you advice since we dont know you, or your hubby or your family.. how can someone anyone do that.. you will get a lot of advice here by lots of people but remember much of that advice is from people who have not been in the same situation as you.. and even if some have been in the same situation then Their in laws or their hubby is not exactly same as yours ..

so talk to your hubby , tell him your apprehensions I am sure things can work out for sure .. Talking always helps .. All the best and god bless

Thumbs UP 9  Thumbs Down 39

Right then lets get into statistics 🙂 .. I am bad in maths so pardon me if I have calculated wrong .. 🙂  There are 39 people who think my advice to the lady to discuss it with her husband is wrong compared to 9 ..  that is just  18.75%,    81.25%  which in this case means MAJORITY of the people think  resolution of an issue between a couple through mutual discussion is no good,  so assuming talking is no good .. WHAT IS GOOD THEN.. parting ways, separating , divorce ..  NOW don’t you think that is a high number of people who think that way ..

The above conversation has had a few comments as a reply too .. and knowing me since I love to argue my points .. it has become a Fascinating read,   I am not copy-pasting other bloggers’ replies to my comments as I have not taken permissions from them and I don’t have the right to copy-paste as such…. HENCE I have just pasted one of mine ..  what is worrying, well – at least for me is that the number of Thumbs down to the subsequent replies is increasing day by day .. so that 81.25% people I am talking of is ACTUALLY MAY BE HIGHER in percentage..  because the kind souls who gave my comments a thumbs up have slowly given up bothering to the subsequent replies.. I guess they just read  shook their heads and moved on  🙂

Another funny thing is ,  I asked a question later on in the chain of replies as to what is wrong if the hubby wants to go back home to stay with his parents..   (Oh boy , you got to see the reaction to that one .. Thumbs UP 3   Thumbs Down 23 )   it is about 12% in my favour ONLY 🙂 I wonder, does no one think like me?  Something strange..!! Are all the men out there ready to leave their parents and stay away from them, and are all the women out there ready to make their husbands stay away from their parents?

Instead of a reply I was asked what if SHE wants to live with her parents ..  Now again the question comes.. is it  just because I said or asked the question from a MAN’s point of view I got the reactions .. (just for recording purpose the counter question got Thumbs UP 15    Thumbs Down 2) thank god there were 2 who felt as I did 🙂  Phew I thought I was alone again .. Well, to that, if she wants to live with her parents, and if he is willing, then why not? This is an entire discussion in itself – and is a digression to the topic in hand. There are a lot of men who have been brave enough to take on the responsibility of their in-laws and kudos to them – but our always-glorifying-society-which-wants-to-make-a-difference categorises such brave men as “ghar jamai”.

If I had again said something or done some man bashing I probably would have got a better reaction .. and How can a Counter question to a Question be the RIGHT ANSWER.. which gets societies approval …    according to statistics is again approx 88%..

There are again 88% people out there who think instead of replying if we counter question and especially bring the GENDER in the equation to DILUTE the topic in hand, is the right way to solve a problem ?

What do you think people.. Do you feel the same way as I do, OR am I completely off my nuts as usual ?   (I know I asked this question in a post earlier and all of you said I was not , maybe you would want to change your thought now) 🙂

I would love to hear your views on this , What do you take from the above reactions to my comments in context to the Thumbs up and thumbs down.. Thumbs down I take as people not agreeing with me and saying I have written something wrong

How do we expect to change the society when the people who are thinking like this are in great numbers , I wonder what they do behind closed doors of their house  I said house because clearly it cant be a HOME .. if they react the same in their own place .…  I don’t think things can change if such mentality exists …  It is clearly cleaning dirty linen in public and is something I do not subscribe to, especially when it comes to sensitive issues such as those faced by couples/families.

SO I WANT TO ASK  ALL those who pressed the thumbs down .. Because I know many of the visitors on that blog also visit my blog tooo ..  what is the problem ?  Why are we not able to make healthy discussions and why do we have to keep putting each other down, without considering the point of view of a person in a fair and just manner, in a manner that doesn’t reflect undue prejudice?

Is It

1. My Face
2. Me being a male commentator… 
3. I did not do any man bashing
4. Or some other hidden agenda..  🙂 

And we the people of our nation think that we can make a difference … SERIOUSLY

Maybe I live in a ideal world .. But I think in my own heart that till we have lived it all, and tried all avenues , its never a right decision to break a relation, but I guess its too much to ask from anyone .

PS:- The figures I have quoted were right till 10:51AM of october 30th 2012 , UK time..  I just picked the figures before i was going to publish the post.. so please dont shoot me if the figures are not right ..

I was having this interesting conversation with a friend of mine, when the topic of Blogging came up specially Commenting.

A couple of interesting views came up

1.  I was asked how come I go and comment on a lot of blogs, even when it is seen that they probably never visit me or if they visit they don’t put a comment or even reply back to the comments I make.

Well I am sure I have replied to that umpteen times, I guess its in my habit (right or wrong) I don’t know , I always have something to say which sometimes has put me in trouble too.  I also feel that since the author has taken the time to write what they have written, maybe it will be good if we also read what they have written and give our two cents worth of view.

I am sure like I feel happy to see all the comments pouring in they too would feel good.

Although I must say I try my best not to write two-word comments as I think there is this culture in blogosphere that you comment on mine only then I will comment on yours, Which I have recently understood. I am sure a lot of people have written about this phenomenon a lot many times.

So Now I think I will have to change the way I look at this place too.

2. Indiblogger and Voting :-

On Indiblogger there is a forum called indivine where We can put our latest post . The people in your group then can come and Read it,  Now all this is fine but I have always had this problem with Indiblogger on the voting phenomenon.

I have been involved in a few nasty discussions too over time , But I can’t understand this VOTE thing.  What is it for.

Although to vote one has to open the post,  yet in my eyes if  as a reader I have opened the post then I should read the post fully, Why bother voting if  you don’t read the post.   It takes a lot of marketing skills to get lots and lots of votes.

I have realised that most just press the button again quickly to vote, hoping others will come to vote too. I don’t particularly like that idea as again I doubt if all who are pressing the VOTE button actually Read what one has written.

In my eyes I would much prefer people to come over , at least read what one has written and yes also let me know if they have liked or disliked ,they agree with what I have written or not agree, If people don’t tell that then how is one going to learn. How can one learn that they are doing a mistake, till someone points it too.

Blogging world has become a lot like attention seeking sorts.  This voting process seems more of getting a hit or traffic on your blog.

I am not the one to shy away from saying yeah I put my article up there , So people in my group know I have posted a new post. I am lucky many of the people do come and read what I have written which is a good feeling.

3. How come MEN or the male species don’t comment in that number on  blogs written by other Men compared to those written by the lovely ladies.

I had not noticed this until recently, It was pointed out by this good friend.  I did not know what to say . So I thought about asking everyone who visit here and read what all junk I write about, what is the reason.

I in no way am saying I don’t want the pleasure of the company of beautiful lovely people who already come , But why is it that the male version who I definitely see at almost every other blog written by ladies and whose blogs I do sometimes comment on , Not comment on this blog 🙂 .

Is it some sort of man thing , which I am not getting. Because I visit blogs irrespective if they are written by a woman or a man, would be fun to know the reply to that one . I think there is a Gender Bias in blogging too, I dont want to give examples and embarrass people but I have seen it happen.

What do you think people.. Do you feel the same way as I do, OR am I completely off my nuts as usual ?

Does it matter to you who visits your blog ?

Does it make you feel bad if people don’t read what you have written but just comment for the sake of it .. Or press the Like button. 

Do you feel bad when you see people whose blog you have commented,  they don’t even reply to you and WORSE still they Reply to every other comment but yours on their blog.. 

What do you do,  Do you stop going to those blogs.  ?

You can tell me that I am just being a moron 🙂

I have been reading a lot on how women are treated badly and how it should all be equal, I got no qualms against anyone but I do think that not everyone is same and people of all kinds take advantage of every situation men-women both.  There are a lot of people out there who are taking advantage of the new laws that have come up ..

So today i will tell you a true story and you tell me who is wrong .. My brother in law “S”  is married To “R” and lives happily in delhi, they have a beautiful daughter. I am very close to him, Now my sister in law has a younger brother “B” who also shifted to Delhi as a career move and stays with them .  About 3 years ago “B”  got married, I could not go for the wedding due to some reasons, The last time I had met my cousin and every one was in 2008 , at that time there was not even a talk about this marriage i am talking of.

I am making this point because you all will be highly astonished what has happened when people make a mockery of law and how the law’s that have been made for the uplift of women in our society are used for personal gains.. So remember this Point 2008 I had last met my cousin his wife , her brother.

2009 february time the brother got married to a girl who was still studying in the final year, They got married end of february, so after marriage within a week or so she went back to the parents house to prepare for the exams that she had to appear in March, After her exams she came straight to Delhi to stay with her husband. who was still sharing the house with my brother and wife although he had been looking for a apartment all this time, luckily for the new they got a place of their own soon and moved into a new one, this all went on till may-june time.

During all this time the girl had not visited her parents or her in-laws , as they were still admist looking for a new apartment , finding a job , setting up a home etc etc , I mean we all know the drill.

In July something happened I don’t know what , some arguments amongst the husband-wife , whatever , the girl packed her bags and went to her house…

So other than the reason of the argument which I don’t know this is all that has happened, this was followed by the usual boy trying to bring her back, the parents went to bring her back but she did not come at all.

So the girl just spent a few days in the start of her wedding in her in laws house, then the boy left her in her parents house and came to Delhi in april or may whenever the exams finished lets say april.. In July she went back that is may-june-july assuming she went on 31st July .. 3 whole months.

All this trying to patch up things went on for some time, In the end to Cut the story short divorce proceedings started.. which has been going on for long, please don’t ask me the details as I have none and this post is not about that.. NOW the latest I got to know is she has made an allegation that she was BEATEN up badly by her in-laws .. THE police was so quick to react the parents of the boy were arrested and taken to the police station where they spent a night before their lawyer got the bail done..

Other than that also the allegation of dowry which I must say as is a tradition in Punjab, it was one of those hight end weddings where a lot of give and take happened, So fair enough I got no qualms over that the Girls side wants all the dowry back, Which as far as i know has been returned BUT the boy’s side did an Intelligent thing they made sure when they returned the items it was done Via the Court so each and every item was written, but the girls and her parents have left no stone unturned to make false allegations against the family.

I mean when was she beaten in the first 5 -6 days she spent in the in -laws house if that the case then she had gone back to her parents house , WERE THEY BLIND NOT TO SEE THE BRUISES THEN.  After that She never met the in-laws so When did they beat her.  If the husband had beaten her up then again she had packed her bags and gone home again were her parents so blind they did not see their daughter bruised AGAIN.

The reason Why I am writing this note is and I had asked you all to make sure you remember that I had last met my cousin in 2008, Well In the FIR that was lodged where by it was said that she was BEATEN up, GUESS WHOSE NAME is in the list of people who BEAT her .. YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS   BIKRAMJIT SINGH MANN’s name and I have not even met the girl , I have not even seen her picture let alone met her.

I got to know of this the other day when I run up home to enquire about land-crop etc from the caretaker, He Told me that Police came LOOKING FOR ME .. He also told me my cousin had been arrested and had to spend a day in jail, SO I rung my cousin who tell’s me don’t come till I say so, because if police comes to know I have come to india I might get arrested .. and I was like WTF.. are they so stupid , I live in UK thousands of miles how the hell did I beat this woman and when did I do that.

How did the Police or law or whatever register the complaint which had my details in it, DID They not enquire who or where I was,  WHen they went to my house to do whatever they went for, they got the details that I live in UK why they still have my name in the list.

Whats more amazing is how did this girl and her family find out my name and details and everything , I mean I am not related to them even, I have met my cousins in-laws only once in my life , when they had come for the last rites of my father in 2007, that was the first and last time I was introduced to them.

Now please people tell me what is this and when I write at other posts as a comment that some people use the change of law to their advantage I got lots of replies which were like taunting me .. Here we go this is a true story lets see how many of those who gave me a thumbs down or wrote those comments against me , I ask them the question What do you have to say about this .. Is this the right way to do things or IS THE WOMAN WHO IS ACCUSING ALL THESE THINGS IS SHE RIGHT in doing what she is doing..

Whatever the reason of their fight may be , if she wants a divorce then why does she not just sign the documents and get it over with move on with her life and lets others move on too, why is she putting these false allegations, even if they are true WHY has she dragged me into it when I don’t even know her.

I.H.M.  posted a picture today , which reminded me of this pic that a friend sent me ..

Philosophically it reminds me ..

aje nilaami hundi meri, main vikdi which mandi
oh meri zaat dharam na mera , main kothe di randi
mere pairaan ch aje zanjeeraan
bhaven Desh AZAAD

ve lokko main naari hundisutaan di

 

Even today I am auctioned, I still get sold in markets
I don’t get to have any Religion, Creed , Race.. I am like a whore
My feet are still tied with chains
whereas THE COUNTRY IS FREE

Oh people I am the WOMAN of HINDUSTAAN

So what are your thoughts people …

PS :-  Picture courtsey . Arun Bhardwaaj      The lyrics are Debi Maqsoospuri

 

What do you think about this Picture .. Any guesses … I am going to give a Award to the one who can Guess it honestly Why this picture has been put up….

 

If more then One people , then I will do a Lotto to pick the name out.. I know I am a Miser I will give to only 5 people 🙂 so get going … All the best ..

This is What you get 🙂

I have set moderation for this one.. I hope its working 🙂 Had to ask friends how to do it .. fingers crossed it is 🙂

Says it all