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One of the most beautiful relationship that a person can have is the one that is shared between a Grandmother and Grandson… Especially with maternal Grandma. My Nani passed away last week at a ripe age of 95, As always each time the phone rings early morning it makes you sit up thinking of the worse and so it was.

So many memories flash by when you hear of someone close passing over, the earliest memories that I have are of my summer vacations spent in the village at my maternal grandparents house.  We use to call my grandma Bibi.

Kids in those days use to be got married off especially girls at a very early age, My mom was only 18 when she was married and funny as it may sound the race to have a male heir for the family name meant try try until you have a male child , so was the case here too ,  Nani had to give birth to 6 girls before she had a male heir, and so it happened that the age difference between me and My Mama (mother’s brother) is almost nothing.

The biggest problem of coming abroad is not to be able to see loved ones at the end that always bothers me and I have had to get through a few of them over the last few years.

Things were not that advanced so everything had to be done manually, filling up of water, preparing food for the farm labourers, taking care of the household work , looking after the household animals, There was always so much work to be done and Nani was always busy doing something or the other.

She was GOOD and when I say good I do mean Good at everything ,  apart from preparing food, I remember her stitching, most of my school shirts/trousers were stitched by her not just mine but the rest of the household too,  other than that the women also had the skills of creating beautiful Phulkari’s , Women had to prepare for their dowry themselves  and by the grace of god (or was it my Grand father’s 🙂 ).. Nani had 6 daughters for whom all the Dowry had to be created, so Nani had a busy time.

I also remember the amount of time that was spent spinning the Charkha to weave thread from cotton,  The thread then used to create the beautiful bed sheets or Shawls and other type of clothes. Women had so much work to do in a day, long long working hours get up very early to make sure everything is set in motion for the day.

Men had it easy I believe as they had only one big thing to look after , tend to the fields all day long every day, I use to laugh with my Nani saying she was a Work horse never got tired, taking care of  such a big household took immense strength and Lot of hard work.

The amount of Desi Ghee, the big dollops of butter on the food I have had growing up, the yummyliscious food cooked with all that love over the fireplace, I remember I use to sit on one side of the Chulha pushing the cotton plant dried sticks for fire, as Nani cooked.

Going to bed and she would bring hot milk and tell stories till we dozed of.  Makes me think how it will be visiting the maternal grandparents house now that they are gone, time will tell.

I miss you Bibi ji world is not going to be the same place anymore.

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Yes.. it’s that day again today , when I was born, and the world had to be put in turmoil to endure me till I Live, whatever anyone might say I do feel that November is the best day and the 11th is the best day.. Plus it has a nice ring to it 11th of the 11th ..

The day started as usual till I saw my phone with so many messages , people wishing me and to read all that first thing in the morning is always a good feeling, Pity it was a Friday and I had work else I could have spent the day sleeping a bit more.

Thank you all for all the wishes, god bless you all.

With each passing year it seems the good old days are being left behind, the last I had a good birthday was in 2012, many good human beings were writing posts for me on this day then , BUT sadly as they say all good things come to an END..  and since then its been chaos.. 🙂 But at least I can remember all.

This is a Short and Sweet Post for all who emailed me and texted me and Called me .. Love you all.. God bless you all. You all are the most beautiful people on this Earth not sure what have I done to deserve such good human beings around me ….

AND THOSE WHO HAVE FORGOTTEN .. well what can I say  🙂 …  Love you all.. God bless you all too . don’t worry 11-11-2017 is only 365 days away make sure you remember it then.  You too are the most beautiful people on this Earth not sure what have I done to deserve such good human beings around me, Stay blessed.

This is the first year in more than a Decade that I will be not working , so I guess that is a birthday blessing in itself. 🙂  Back in India friends have already started the celebrations and are now making me jealous .. 😦   GOD I MISS YOU ALL…

 

 

 

Ps:- Sorry people on this NabloPomo blogathon , I am just unable to keep up. There is a LOT going on around this side of the world. But I will continue to persevere and post as and when I can.

 

 

 

 

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So this is what I was doing in Dublin for the weekend, After June issues and after I resigned  I had time to get back to a few things that I liked doing, So I went to participate in the Open Competition in Carlow- Ireland, First time I have participated– did some Kata

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from a total of 24 got 23.2 🙂 not bad for first time participation … and Also did Kumite.. it was fun , got some bruises tooo 🙂

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but whats best is WON a MEDAL 🙂 he he he   The 3 minutes round seemed like a lifetime.. I was constantly looking at the clock .. has it finished yet .. hast it finished .. finally the whistle blew it was all over .. 🙂 Phewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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Yayyyyyyyyyyyyy …   I said Wordless because I am really at loss of words ME.. the yeti, so  unhealthy got  prize 🙂 may the others were playing easy on me .. 🙂 ..  hence a lot of words .. 🙂 🙂 .. Next year planning to go to MALTA and ROMANIA to participate .. fingers crossed 🙂 ..

2014 and also 2013 have been a roller coaster year for me , Lots to learn , Although I say that I learnt but I wonder DID I .. I can vouch i will make the same mistakes again as I am yet to learn the art of thinking from mind rather than heart. I am still letting my heart take a lot of control over a lot of issues and stuff involving me – my life. I wonder what is that mantra or HOW does one learn this art, as I mentioned the last couple of days have been very chaotic for some reason the start of every year has been very chaotic for me.

Here is an example remember the Gyan I gave on How to live and Die (2 and 3) I had mentioned about lending money , yes you can guess it right I went ahead and lent some more 🙂 , yeah SHOOT ME PLEASE SOMEONE, as I got carried away with the dialogues how I am like an elder brother to the person, How I am part of family , How he respects me blah blah blah. I just can’t learn from my mistakes, I know he is taking me for a ride a couple of my friends have told me that too buttttttt ALAS ME- MOI- MYSELF are just IDIOTS 🙂 (you guys who know me please stop nodding your heads)

So not sure if this post is valid or that do I have the Right to post this one BUT nevertheless here I go riding on my “god know’s what” cloud Sky high 🙂 yeeeeeeeee haaaaaaaa , Some of the things that I learnt if put in a funny way will include ..

Before that here is a DISCLAIMER alas I get shot for copyright infringements

Disclaimer:- The Following Statements have been taken from different resources from public forums, I have changed some according to my needs , feelings. So if they are infringing anyone’s rights , then I am sorry please let me know ASAP and I shall remove that line as the following is what I have learned and how to put them in English differently I would not know. If I have hurt anyone’s feelings than I am sorry in advance ..

I’ve learned the Saying “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feelIS BULLOCKS.. people whom you have made feel good Will forget within a SECOND.. the only people you have HURT will remember.

I’ve learned that No matter how much some say they are your FRIENDS they never will be , cause they don’t know the meaning of it…

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care Some people are just ARSEHOLES

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up TRUST and it only takes suspicion to destroy it.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen MINUTES After that, you’d better have a big Wad of money in your wallet or beautiful FACE..

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others they are more screwed up, then you think…

I’ve learned that we are RESPONSIBLE for what we do Unless we are CELEBRITIES..

I’ve learned that regardless of how HOT or STEAMY a relationship is at first Passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place …

I’ve learned that the people you care the most about in life are taken from you too soon.. and the less important ones NEVER GO AWAY

I’ve learned that The only people you need in your life are the ones that Prove that they need you in theirs

I’ve learned that You will never know how STRONG you are, Until being strong is the only choice you have left …

I’ve learned that there is a point in your life when you realise Who Matters, Who NEVER DID, Who always Will and Who wont anymore

and last but not the least …

I have learned that you can-not Make Someone love you.. All you can do is STALK them and HOPE they panic and give in.. 🙂

Enough Gyan for a day .. Have a good day everyone 🙂

I probably am going to make a fool of myself yet again in the start of this year as I promised SEEMA that I will participate in the month long blogathon.. I am sure that is not going to work at all .. But I will give it my best for sure , Anyway the Cheesiest way to start it is by putting a Thank you post (I have plans for more cheesy posts too — so beaware) 🙂 he he he he So here it goes ..

Over years I have made some very good friends Even if we have not met , or chatted maybe talked once or twice over the years, But It does seem that I know them very well reading there articles. I have some favourites too, and for some I am favourite.. Let me please Take this opportunity to say THANK YOU to everyone who click on the link knowingly or unknowingly .. Thank you for all the comments, a lot of you know and I have been blamed with that too, That I am comment hungry.. OH YES no denying that I love the comments coming , But If I have forced you to come then please I am sorry BUT PLEASE CARRY ON doing what I have Forced you to do 🙂

Some of you have stood by me in my personal problem times and Good times .. Some of you hate me , some love me .. What I have found is its true things change.. Change in Inevitable , Some have just brushed past, Some who stood by me THEN have turned their back now… Another Thing true is out of sight out of mind, Relationships this has always been a heartache for me, for some reason it seems I get too close or friendly or emotionally attached to people TOO SOON, the rest of the world does not work that way and although I have been trying my best to change myself, I let myself down every time.

Hopefully one of these days I will learn the ART or become as the world is 🙂

Blogging has been good to me , for some I am a friend, for some a elder Brother and Even for some like a son.. I hope I have not let anyone down. I just hope and wish that all these beautiful relations remain till the end of time …

This post is dedicated to All the people who read what I write. The ones who are younger than me let me say I love you all , All who are elder to me I respect you all and my regards to you all.

Over the time I am sure I have offended a lot of you out there Let me take this opportunity to say Sorry to anyone and everyone who I let down for any reason..

I am sorry

Please let By gone’s be By-gone’s and let’s be friends again, life is too short to hold grudges of any kind. I am sorry VERY SORRY from the bottom of my heart.

Chaman main ikhtilat rangon boo se baat banti hai
hum hi hum hain to kya hum hain
tumhi tum ho to kya tum ho

I would like to Extend my hand of friendship to all those who are there.. God bless you all, have a good day , Thanks for reading this And heres WISHING YOU ALL ONCE AGAIN A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR.. May all your dreams come true in the year 2015, May you dream more Dreams.

GOD BLESS and Love you all..

Let This new year be better than all that have gone by , Vow to do something that you have always wanted to do but could not find time to do so ,Call up a forgotten friend, Drop an OLD GRUDGE and replace it with some pleasant memories , Vow not to make a promise that you don’t think you can keep, Stand up and walk Tall, . You’ll look Ten times younger. Don’t be afraid to say I love you Say it again .. They are the best words in the world.

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Lets get rid of the Monday Blues :- Part 1

Disclaimer: This post does not intend to make any personal attacks on any one especially to do with Male-Female issues. It is just a light-hearted post with some pics for Fun on a monday morning. So please DO NOT take it any other way. No offence meant to anyone. PLEASE DO NOT SEND ME those Nasty emails you sent on Part 1, about sexism, Instead you can put a comment here and I shall publish them OR Keep your STUPID – IDIOTIC – CRAPPY thoughts to yourself. PLEASE do NOT LITTER MY INBOX.

To all those who sent the emails, I have Responded to each one of them , do have the courage to reply back too.. 🙂 Thank you , Have a Good day.

I have already got there :(

I have already got there 😦

So what do you plan to do when Internet goes ...

So what do you plan to do when Internet goes …

I still have a couple of those  5 1/2 inch floppies ..

I still have a couple of those 5 1/2 inch floppies ..

Does any one remember those old one where you had TWO floppy disks to boot it, Insert Disk A and then Insert Disk B.. and you got the C:/ 🙂

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Have a Great day and the week ahead Everyone …

Especially for the Technologically Retards like ME .. Something that I can understand

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YESsssssssssssss PLEASE …

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That surly shows what has happened to me :)

That surly shows what has happened to me 🙂

Now that's how to make best use ..

Now that’s how to make best use ..

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So does any of these pictures remind you all of something.. or like me of yourself 🙂 he he he oooops

More next time 🙂 If you have any share them with us all 🙂

Here we are a day away from the new year, First of all let me wish everyone reading this a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR..

The year 2012 has been Up and down and for some reason, I quite fancy that , else if not for these ups-downs life would be so boring.  The ups-downs sort of spice up life, When the down comes we somehow feel the world has come to an end or the earth below has shattered, we forget that time will change , smile will come back and it will be hunky dory once again.

All through the year I have met so many new people over my blog which has always been a highlight of my years, but that came with some heartache too , as some near-dear one’s no longer wish to know me. What hurts more is that there has been no reason for that , well at least thats what I feel, but unless I am told I would not know.

Relationships this has always been a heartache for me, for some reason it seems I get too close or friendly or emotionally attached to people TOO SOON, the rest of the world does not work that way and although I have been trying my best to change myself, I let myself down every time. Hopefully one of these days I will get or become as the world is 🙂  I had it in my bucket list last year too, It is still there in my bucket list for the new year.

There have been a few highlights in this year, some worth mentioning change in job,  Then the Queens medal which was right in the middle of the year 🙂 , Another wish or dream came true in the last few weeks of buying a house for homecoming.  Along with all the good parts came a few bad ones too, Which as i mentioned earlier made the year a bit spicy.

I had commented on a blog and that comment was shredded to bits, but it was such a good feeling to see a lot of people standing by me , That was not all the worst time was yet to come, but I would not like to mention it here now, its gone and does not mean anything any more.

I had promised a friend that I will participate in a category, that she has started for this  MONTH OF THE YEAR WRITING PROMPT 2012 – SEASON 3, but it seems I have failed her yet again, I just cant remember everything that happened in all this year, especially month wise.

So all in all I have had a wonderful year, I had just commented on a article that what will it be without the ups-downs , So  here’s hoping 2013 is equally good, with all its ups and downs to spice up the life. I don’t mind that at all as long as I have all the lovely people around.

I also want to say a Big Thank you to everyone who reads all the crap I write, All the ones who visit me and All you beautiful human beings who have made this blog a special place.  I had written a small poem for everyone during the year , which I am resharing here again as I still mean it with all my heart.  To all My friends and All who visit this blog.

Over years I have made some very good friends Even if we have not met , or chatted maybe talked once or twice over the years, But It does seem that I know them very well reading there articles. I have some favourites too, and for some I am favourite.. Let me please Take this opportunity to say THANK YOU to everyone who click on the link knowingly or unknowingly .. Thank you for all the comments, a lot of you know and I have been blamed with that too, That I am comment hungry.. OH YES no denying that I love the comments coming , But If I have forced you to come then please I am sorry.

Some of you have stood by me in my personal problem times and Good times .. Some of you hate me , some love me .. What I have found is its true things change.. Change in Inevitable , Some have just brushed past, Some who stood by me THEN have turned their back now… hence my writing that it has been a roller coaster ride.

Thank you for all the emails you have sent, The phone calls and Sms Messages.

So this post is dedicated to All the people who read what I write.  The ones who are younger than me let me say I love you all , All who are elder to me I respect you all.

Over the time I am sure I have offended a lot of you out there Let me take this opportunity to say Sorry to anyone and everyone who I let down for any reason..

I am sorry

Please let By gone’s be By-gone’s and let’s be friends again, life is too short to hold grudges of any kind.  I am sorry VERY SORRY from the bottom of my heart.

Chaman main ikhtilat rangon boo se baat banti hai 
hum hi hum hain to kya hum hain
tumhi tum ho to kya tum ho

I would like to Extend my hand of friendship to all those who are there..  God bless you all, have a good day , Thanks for reading this And heres WISHING YOU ALL ONCE AGAIN A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR..  May all your dreams come true in the year 2013, May you dream more Dreams.

GOD BLESS and Love you all..

Let the Coming new year be better than all that have gone by , Vow to do something that you have always wanted to do but could not find time to do so ,Call up a forgotten friend, Drop an OLD GRUDGE and replace it with some pleasant memories , Vow not to make a promise that you don’t think you can keep, Stand up and walk Tall, . You’ll look Ten times younger. Don’t be afraid to say I love you Say it again .. They are the best words in the world.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

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I  have been living in a city and studied in a city for majority of the times but my heart has always been from where we came.  My grand-father had actually run away from his house when only 16 and joined the indian army as a sepoy, he with his hard work had risen to the ranks of an officer by the time he retired, did all his education along, After he left army he joined the public services and shifted to chandigarh. Since my childhood I have been very very close to my grand-dad. He would never say no to me ever for anything.

We use to talk to each other a lot , and he would tell me that in all his struggle to cater for his kids and build a home he had sold off his share of land back home in punjab, but he had always wanted to have something , I use to tease him that he is in such a strong position , all the ministers etc use to come to our house for some work of the other , I would say all he needs is to ask any of these ministers to make sure that he gets this and that .. for whatever work he was doing for them. But I would get a rebuke he would get so angry with me. Telling me that all his life he has lived on his salary , all that he has made is from his own sweat and hard work, and in our great nation it is very difficult to make money till you sell your morality.

I am not saying that one can’t make or have a rich life without being corrupt , there are many who have done wonders, maybe my grand-dad never got that opportunity , although he did make little property in chandigarh as the prices then were peanuts and the Govt. was actually giving away land for peanuts just to make sure chandigarh as a city developed. Look at it now it is so hard to find a vacant place and everything is in Crores now .

My father too worked hard to make sure we had everything we wanted as we were growing up

Well I came to uk and I started building my life,  always had this in the back of my mind to try to go back to the place where my forefathers had lived, Had been working on this idea for a long long time.. Finally today another dream came true, that of owning a house in the same place where my grand-father had sold his share and moved out , Today 11th december was a good day , We are owners of a 3 bedroom house , the registry and everything went through fine, and what a relief it was.

When I got a call from my Mama Ji (my mom’s brother)  to tell me that the paperwork has gone through fine. It was a good feeling, so now all that remains is me booking my tickets and go there and actually be in the place and make it into a home.

They say we come to know about who the true friends are in time of need, I had to get together a lot of money in a very short time but thankfully we are blessed by some very good friends who came out and have helped me in the best way they could, And some helped without even me asking they knew  there will be need of money , and I did not want to take any loans etc for the reason, they all contributed and we had the full sum, that had to be paid.

December seems to have been a good month for me , 400th post and today this news , It seems god is happy with me.  I know I have some land and house etc , but they are like what my father bought and earned , so this is the first one that I own and it is a good feeling to own something of your own.

I know every one of you has been wishing me well and blessed me with the best of the wishes always, so please be like that always and thank you for the wishes they seem to be working for me.  I will post some pictures and all soon once I lay my hands on them myself. Actually to be truthful I have not even seen this house, my relatives back home had gone to see this and I talked to my Mama ji who said it was an ideal place and in a good location , so we went for it …

He made a remark that you have come back home, The place where the “MANN’S ” had settled earlier after independence,  Then they all moved out to greener pastures and I was going to go back to the place .. It was indeed a homecoming or will be once I land there.

Please everyone do keep me in your wishes and prayers.

Another thing has been ticked in the TO DO List

2012 has been so great.

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Posted: November 11, 2012 in Aging, Birthdays
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Right its that time of the year again.. last year it was The 11th Day of the 11 Month and 11th year of the 2000 …  11-11-11.. The media had gone on and on about how special that day was , how the sun and scorpion etc etc are in perfect shape, I did put a lottery but nothing came of it .. I guess it worked lucky only for a few LUCKY.. 🙂

A lot has happened in the last one year I have met some lovely people , lost a few people too, but overall its been a good year  rather a very good year. I don’t have any qualms or anything to share or say, I just hope and pray that life continues like this on its own merry way. The ups and downs are the way of life, I was reading a lovely blog where someone had put a comment and it sort of touched my heart how true it is what the commentator has written .. She says

” when life pulls you,wrenches you, the same life hugs you and kisses you and love you back.. we just need to know to be strong and be positive about life. ” by Ashwathy here

What a lovely thought it is and so true, Life is funny it gives us all the bad things but it also provides us all the beautiful things to, it  throws us to dogs ot be eaten up, to be broken and what not but then LIFE itself shows us how to be strong and move on and overcome the problems .. it teaches us again how to love – hug and live again. How to deal with the dogs once again in life.. But the so called dogs Keep returning time and again, hopefully the second time they come life would have taught us how to prepare ourself for that time ..

and if we get bitten again then hopefully this time we can move on FASTER..

Right enough of the philosophy etc , today is my birthday and I don’t think I have anything new to say, this blog has made me a open book everyone knows about me , Although with the recent few mis-haps I do wish I was anonymous, the mis-haps have led to people probably thinking I am a idiot.. BUT I have a piece that I want to say to all those people who think I am an idiot which is ..

There is another thing that I still can share today , it is actually something that I DONT LIKE 🙂 , If someone asks me to go out for food (lunch – dinner  etc),  I don’t like to going to a sophisticated places.

I have a simple reason because all these posh places they make you look like an idiot, with there fancy names given to the dishes I mean here are some examples ..

Subzsaag Gohst

Chicken Tikka Masala (Desi)  (Now what could DESI possibly be ) .. 

Butter chicken is a butter chicken no matter how well you sugar coat it. I actually feel embarrassed sometimes because 99% of the times I don’t understand the fancy names and If you with someone , especially if with someone you want to impress you are doomed because SHE is bound to Ask “Bikram what is this “.. and you look Now what ..  WHERE DO THESE people get the names ..

Here is a thing if you are going on a date and you want to show that you are in control , feel like a man there is only one place that you can take ..  one place alone and that is .. Can you guesssssssss .. go on

its NANDOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSsssssssssssssssss

and I have a perfect – legitimate reason for that it is because when you go to nando’s you can look like you know your way ..

you arrive and you are greeting at the door by a person “Hello sir, have you been to nando’s before ” oh yes I have and that’s all the person does at the dooor ..

you go and take a seat, I usually take the corner seat, its good to sit there as no one can disturb you , I hate people who keep staring at you .. or want to know what you have in your plate or what you have ordered ..

so the person comes what would you like .. to drink .. You feel confident now also checking the menu for drinks because does it matter NOOOOOOOOOO  everything seems to be the same,  how wrong can you go on ordering drinks.. and simple COKE works fine 🙂  universal name , works the same whatever country you are in 🙂

and now comes the best part  this leads us to the foood .. DO YOU LIKE CHICKEN

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because that’s all that is served … it’s all CHICKEN .. .. Awesome I am sure you cant go wrong with that or can you ?

and then comes the ideal condition when your girl looks romantically in your eyes and says in that beautiful voice of her .. “Bikram .. whats PIRI PIRI”

oh yesssssssssssss ..  this is a good question .. AH HA .. time for rise and SHINE people 🙂  because you can say anything here .. its no big secret  since NO ONE seems to have any answer .. and you can make up anything that you want to and she will still be so impressed with it all

“piri Piri ” MY dear is a blend of this AROMATIC spices .. bonded together with something yummmy …

oooh and she is mineeeeeeeeeeeeeee 🙂 … Time to pay for the foood and ……………. shall leave the rest for your imagination …

Knowing me , I would say something stupid and she will get angry and walk away .. there goes my birthday celebrationsssssssss 🙂  he he he he

I am sure many of you are going to say , I have somehow managed to make this post also into a FOOD post , I guess Food is the best way to celebration along with a bit of daroo too he he he he ..

Today being a sunday still I have work to do .. It is remembrance day here to remember the members of the armed forces who have died in the line of duty during the world war.

S0 all you lovely people .. Do me a favour please remember me in your prayers today,  I know we have not met with each other all those people who come and visit this blog , But please take a minute out…

Those who don’t drink have a some coke-shoke – paani-waani .. and those who drink have a peg-sheg . daroo-sharoo … Cheers everyone .. .. Thank you all who are wishing me , wished me and those who forgot my birthday in spite of me mentioning everywhere making a big issue of it at all the places :( .. not happy now

Have a sweet thing for me .. I know many will say oh they are dieting and what no.. But I believe that the word DIET in Dieting stands for this ..

Thank you so much everyone

Ps. :- Sorry have not responded to the comments in previous post.. Will do so ASAP.. 🙂