Friendship Day

Posted: August 3, 2014 in FriendShip, FriendShip Day, Good times, My Thoughts.
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Today is Friendship day, I am sure those who regularly visit me know that I become very nostalgic when it comes to friendship, by the grace of god I have made some very good friends all over. I am very proud of that. The following are my views on what I think about friendship, Let me take this opportunity Just want to say I love you all my friends and thanks for always being there .. and to all the new friends I have made here Online , Blogosphere. God bless you all

Internet has been a great tool, I have met so many people over it all over the world and I must say some of them have become very good friends, a few closer than family too.

Over this blog I met a few people some good, some OK, I wont say bad because I think , No one is bad they are good for someone if not you. Sometimes it makes me think that I am from a very old school, a school where patience, respect , love existed – nowadays I have seen it does not anymore..

Today we have become very unforgiving people. It may be an ethnic problem, or a community’s problem or a country’s, or in your relationships, with your wife, children, parents,Girl Friend, Friends, Acquaintances we get very very unforgiving and we hold that against them. Hold that Grudge for a long long time, We wear it as a badge which says ‘main tujhe kabhi maaf nahi karoonga’.

Everyone has a hidden agenda behind everything, It was not like this always people use to be so good, caring. The words they said meant something , people stood by there words.

Nowadays people are quick to make a relation, even quicker to spoil or break one. What they say is not what they mean. What would it take to go back to the good old days. I mean how can someone say oh we are friends then at next instant go behind your back , I mean what is friendship…

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

I think this is where we have reached we have got so busy in our life that we have forgotten or forget what the effects of our actions will have on others, We have become so selfish, I ask god one thing always Please don’t make me so selfish, or careless, uncaring, heartless, Because I don’t know which action of mine might hurt someone, and to those who i have hurt , I am not sure how I will every be able to apologize to. I do hope that some day they can pardon me.

So

1. What is FRIENDSHIP/ FRIENDS ?.
2. Do we respect our FRIENDSHIP/ FRIENDS ?.

How do you show respect towards your friend, Or see if they respect you ?

Is SAYING That I RESPECT you same as SHOWING respect ?

To me a friend is who would stand by you, no matter what, right or wrong is something to think about after the need has got over.. A friend in need is a friend indeed that’s how we respect our friendship, Good friends stand by you Right or wrong.. That is not the criteria here at the moment.. The moment is that your friend needs you and You are there.. THAT TO ME IS FRIENDSHIP

I feel that you respect it when you can Tell them how you feel and ask them how they feel directly, rather than assuming… Respect is shown when you See the whole world walk out and a few Walk IN FOR YOU.

Do people actually mean they are friends when they say they are, or are just making fun of you. If they are then why do they do it. Would they feel the same if this happened with them, or have they become so heartless that it does not bother them anymore. How can they go to sleep soundly, well now I am being a fool because they don’t even know what hurt they have caused.

People are impulsive and say things that hurt other people, they walk over others especially people whom they say are friends. And in all this process they loose friends, I am a bit of a dumbo it takes a bit of time for me to understand people are trying to ignore me , so it gets difficult to loose me :). Loosing a acquaintance or friend over trivial reason, a reason which is non existence. All I would say is such people will one day realize what they lost, by then it will be too late.

Now I have been wondering maybe I was wrong.

Was it that when they first talked to me it was for the sake of it ?

Was it that when they laughed with me at first it was for formality sake ?

Why are they like that, Why are people so selfish. OR AM I TOO NAIVE.. and STUPID and SILLY still thinking of them. It really pains me cause for me a relation is a relation.

Sometimes I wish i had the Ego or Impulse to severe my contact with people. I do pray to god to make me like them as that is the way of the world it seems Now-a-days.

Also how easy it is to Forget these days but more on that maybe some other day 🙂

Anyway today being friendship day Let me wish Please god take care of all my friends, foes, anyone I know .. God bless all and everyone

Here is a little poem i wrote some time back, it is dedicated to everyone all who visit this blog , All who Think of me, All who Thought of me and All who at some stage were my friends 🙂 God bless you all..

PS:- Thank you for all the lovely wishes in the last post, I am yet to reply to the comments Will do that ASAP. Thank you everyone.

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Comments
  1. Some people play the friendship game shamelessly for their own benefit. I can only say that one day the true colors will be exposed and they’ll lose their friends. One by one. Solitude is the best friend of these types of people.
    Destination Infinity

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  2. Anita Menon says:

    Happy Friendship day! You are right about the whole friendship thing becoming such a sham with people connecting only for their benefit. But I have only one policy – forget, forgive and move on. Keeping a grudge is harming your own self and filling it with negativity.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      yes keeping a grudge is harmful but i guess its the way i am , i do think a lot to the point that i think it was maybe my fault things did not work out .. but anyway never mind

      Thank you Anita

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  3. Happy Friendship Day, bro. Keep the faith:)

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  4. Agree with u, Bikramjit. There are so many like that and perhaps, friendship is the most abused word..people have become so selfish, nowadays.

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  5. indiandeepu says:

    Aha big big post. And awesome. I dont think I will fall into bad list. 🙂 happy friendship day to you too.

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  6. Words like Friends/friendship have lost their actual meaning…I agree…but still I’m hopeful for I’ve some wonderful friends around 🙂
    Happy Friendship day…

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  7. KP says:

    Happy friendship day to you.

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  8. menons129 says:

    Happy friendship day,Bikram. I agree with you Friendship cannot be one sided.

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  9. People are afraid to come closer to other people, nowadays, Bikram! So, most of them do lip service with an artificial smiling face and close chapter. Very few are still there who care for others. We will be lucky if we come across them. I know that you have those friends who care for you!
    Happy Friendship day! Take care.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      yes , well I myself am so afraid because since i think from my heart it probably hurts me more and the questions come WHY.. so Now I make sure i dont get closr to anyone .. that way they cant hurt me at ll ..

      so true only a few care but what hurts most is those who always said oh we care for you, oh you are a good friend , oh you are this and that blah blah blah .. just shows what a farce it was at THAT time when they were sayng all that things ..

      I am lucky yes and thank you and others like you who make me smile all the time .. Thank you so much for always being there .. even when i came back after so long

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  10. AdiC says:

    Sometimes we’re lucky to find the right friends, other times we just fall flat on our faces! Both kinds are lessons 🙂 Happy friendship day! Sorry, I’m a tad bit late. 😛

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  11. Padmaja says:

    Every word you said is so very true, life and times have changed , so are people. If we are lucky, we get to be friends with genuine people, it is very hard! Thank you got your little poem:-)

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  12. Seeta says:

    Very true Bikram… the definition of these words is indeed different today but I like to believe that the friends I made when I was younger were different and still continue to be….. atleast thats what my experience has been 🙂

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    • Bikramjit says:

      exactly those friendships are the True ones.. i am so happy i still have them .. but new day so called friends are teaching me a lesson every now and then ..
      🙂

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  13. Krishna says:

    Happy Friendship Day!
    I heard that some greeting card company created this day to increase their sales
    thanks

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  14. Deeps says:

    Quite an introspective post, Bik! Loved it! Hope you are always blessed with good friends in life 🙂

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  15. Happy Friendship day Bikram! 🙂

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  16. ramananth says:

    It is true Bikram, I remember the time when we could to people’s house unannounced, and feel totally welcome.We would pull a charpai and start conversation, eating fresh oranges in winter, or share cups of garam garam chai, samosas/ pakodas etc. with each other. I remember my parents being like that, they would have people come over, and they would also visit people similarly. There were no telephones, no televisions and no formalities.
    However, as we can see we have also changed with time, we like to go only after informing them and, and also wish they would inform us before they come to meet us. Maybe in our fast paced life, we are not prepared for unannounced visitors, not that we don’t want them, it is mainly we want to take good care of them, make something nice for them and so on. Previously we used to live together in a kind of joint family, we would always have something in the house to share. With the advent of nuclear family and both people working and having lots of stress we can’t go back to being the way our parents were. That life was totally different, one can only fondly think about them now.
    There will always be good friends even if they are not in touch on a regular basis.
    See how you remember your friends, and even came to my blog. That is called friendship, a person holding no grudge against anybody, not caring whether the person visits them regularly or not.
    Happy Friendship Day to you, Bikram,!
    Be always the person you are, and remain blessed with lots of friends always!

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    • Bikramjit says:

      I remember that too , I still have a couple of friends whose house i go anytime and barge in without even ringing the bell , I know the doors are always open .

      I think the new technology has made us change ..
      Thank you so much mam for the lovely words , I am happy to have such lovely people as you who have such lovely things to say about me 🙂

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  17. Anita says:

    Beautiful thoughts here, Bikram!
    Even I belong to your – “old school, a school where patience, respect , love existed – nowadays I have seen it does not anymore…”
    These days friendship is about “faayda” or benefits!
    may we all be friends of everyone. or world will be a great place…
    May God bless us all!

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  18. Bindu says:

    Happy Friendship day, Bikram! 🙂

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  19. Alka says:

    Friendship is tested in trying times. And blogging has helped me to make some great friends across continents. Thank you for being a friend Bikram.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      Blogging is same for me too but I have met some selfish people too over blogging , who say one thing and do another, I dont want to take names.. but the whole episode of me not active on blog for 15-16 months showed some true colours of people .. what they said before 🙂 but its fine God bless them all 🙂 may they live happily always..

      Ah ha .. Thank you THANK YOU SO MUCHHHHHhhhhhhhhh.. for saying that I have been blessed even finding lovely friends as you 🙂

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  20. pixie says:

    Happy Friendship day Biks!! 🙂
    I know what you mean, but I’m also glad that I have friends you are friends in the true sense 🙂
    hugs!

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  21. Through blogging I have made some great friends…and yes, people are very selfish even in friendship. Happy Friendship Day Bikramjit.

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  22. Good to know about your views on Friendship. I remember reading your earlier post on Friendship. I think it’s easy to make friends but it takes a lot of effort to keep them. 🙂

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  23. anisnest says:

    Happy Friendship day Bikram.. I have had sour experience with friendship too couple of them but still I cherish friendship more than anything else and value friends who are like my other mind, with whom we can share anything under the sun. Glad to say that I have still got couple of them from my college days.. We are still in touch and can pickup from where we left even if we meet/talk after years..

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  24. SG says:

    Excellent post. Happy Friendship Day Bikram.

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  25. Happy friendships day bikram !!

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  26. Nagini says:

    Very true Bikram..I hear you and I can relate myself to you 🙂

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  27. indrani says:

    Nice thoughts. Happy friendship day!

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  28. the little princess says:

    Happy Friendship Day Bikram!! as we grow, i guess life teaches us who are our true friends, at least I’ve learnt that….and those are the guys I cherish, for the unconditional love that they give me….of course I don’t hate those who have given me the bitter pill…they taught me some important lessons too!!

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    • Bikramjit says:

      Life indeed teaches us a lot .. and you are right every kind of situation teaches us something. the only problem is that idiot that i am , I dont learn 🙂 I wish i do toooo

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  29. yes, there are friends who are selfish,fairweathered, manipulative and hypocritical. Thank you for the poem:)

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  30. Krishna Dev says:

    Praaji, tussi to vadde seti ho. Thode philosophical bhi, you are my coconut buddy (crisp outside, soft inside). 😛

    Hari Om!

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  31. Just landed over here accidently, now I am a bit vary about me connecting on this post 😛

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  32. Rarely do i read a post straight from the heart,written without any fear of annoying people, like this one Bikram.Very thought-provoking.

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  33. What a thoughtful sentence- “No one is bad they are good for someone if not you.”
    Happy belated friendship day Bikram 🙂

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  34. beloome says:

    That was quite a heartfelt writeup about friendship and its various aspects in today’s world 🙂 I have always been a reserved person so never had too many friends. But a few I have had were/are close so can trust them easily and fully. But I know that in this world there are many who come in the guise of friends and have other agendas, as you say.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      Thank you so much, I was very reserved in school , had some bad days there but when i came to college i met some beautiful people who helped me come out of the shell.. and i am glad they are still with me always ..

      oh yes I do feel that and i am not shy of saying that majority come in guise its only the few who genuinely mean what they say.. Only a few genuinly mean when they say we are friends .. rest as we see in the blogging world are more like i come to your post , i call you friend, so now come to mine and comment 🙂 he he he he

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  35. ladywhispers says:

    Wow what a beautiful post. Quite a beautiful soul you have. I myself am old school in such things 🙂 Hope you had a wonderful friendship day 🙂

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  36. Roshni says:

    You definitely are a true friend to many, that’s for sure!

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  37. purbaray says:

    You realize who your true friends are only when your life hits the roughest patches. Never a pleasant discovery especially when you are at your lowest and need them the most.

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  38. Yep these days people pretend to be friends just till their work is done. Once they find that you are of no use to them, they start behaving like strangers. Have seen this happen a lot. These days I have stopped getting attached to others for the same reason, as I don’t know the motive behind someone’s friendliness.

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  39. Enigma says:

    Happy Friendship Day to you belated. 🙂 For me, I care only about those friends who care for me. It’s not a tit for tat relation but then I feel that why should I share my affection/love for someone who doesn’t even bother to care. I have lost a few people whom I used to call ‘Friends’ once upon a time because of this reason, but then again I don’t have any regrets.

    And for all I care my best 2 friends are there with me always, supporting me whenever I want. Doesn’t mean I won’t welcome new friendships. 😉

    You really are a very simple soul. May all your friendships stay intact. 🙂

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    • Bikramjit says:

      Thank you so much.. never belated as each day can be it 🙂 I totally understand what you said, I just need to learn, I am learning slowly for sure 🙂
      well the people who you have now are surly true friends then … I care for everyone it does not matter if they have been bad to me , and this is not because i am a saint or anything , its because i feel that soon they will meet the same kind of people they are .. and they will get wat they deserve..

      and sadly at that moment they wont have anyone to stand with them .. AS I had when they did the same to me 🙂

      Thank you so much for the wishes and I am not simple , as i said no one is bad , its just they are good for someone else .. I too am like that .. I am also Bad for someone .. 🙂 or maybe Not as good as I was .. for example those who visited my blog and write how good friends they are with me THen and dont have time or dont bother to come now maybe I have become BAD for them or they have found more GOODER people then me 🙂 Simplessssssssssss he he he he he

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  40. sm says:

    Happy Friendship day

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  41. shivani says:

    Bikram hey for me every day is dosti day…so u better be a good dost to me or else…or else what i will still be around waiting…hahaha. Jokes apart all ur views put here i agree to. Just one thing…my own experience have not really shown me any real friend as yet although i used to long desperately for one. Not anymore now since i have found them in my sonna and my hubby dear. That actually has taken care of that longing but that doesn’t mean it’s enough…i can still have more. But the fact of the matter is now in real world are there any real friends or are there ‘networks’? If u have one then i must say u r fortunate cause u my dear Bikram have a :):):)treasure.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      Shivani mam, Thank you so much. I will try my level best always and I hope I am a good friend to you always.
      hmmm well you can count on me for sure mam..

      I totally understand the NEtwork thing , true it is indeed networking these days .. more than friendship .. I also thought that its friendship etc etc when i started blogging or met people here in uk but then slowly i am learning it is all about networking .. in blogging it is like how many people visit , how many comments 🙂 many became friends as they wanted me to come to their blog and comment .. that’s it ..

      I do have some friends VERY good ones for sure .. I am sure I have written about a few of them on my blog ..

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  42. Ritika says:

    Happpyyyy Friendshippp dayyyy 😀

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  43. dnambiar11 says:

    Friendship is a beautiful thing and when someone we consider a friend, does not value the relationship just as much, it hurts. But it probably also means their role in our lives is over.

    Belated Friendship Day wishes, Bikram.
    Here’s wishing you many many more friends.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      it sure does , yes i know the feeling .. although i like your idea .. yes true it is because their role in our lives is over , i got to start thinking like that ..
      thank you so much for the wishes and good to see you here ..

      happy friendship day to you today tomorrow and always

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  44. Amit Agarwal says:

    Wonderfully written, sir!

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  45. As always, a ‘Dil se’ post!!
    “No one is bad.” I agree.
    “The moment is that your friend needs you and You are there.. THAT TO ME IS FRIENDSHIP…” Again, I agree.
    I believe in friendship, but I don’t believe in Friendship Day. So, no wishes from me. But, I must say I’m lucky to have you as an e-friend!!!

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    • Bikramjit says:

      I dont beleive in it too, but since everyone was celebrating i wrote the post , I do think friendship day is always today tomorrow and always..

      and I am lucky toooo to have you as my Friend. Thank you so much.

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  46. Rachna says:

    You are so right, Bikram. Friendship is different now and so are people. But I like your thought of no one is bad. Perhaps they are bad to you. But they must be good to someone too. I like that thought. It will help me forgive those who wrong me. You have always been a good friend to me. I have seen you stand up for what is right and what you believed me. That tells me that you are a good person. Happy Friendship Day!

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    • Bikramjit says:

      Rachna Thank you so much for the lovely words and come on I am sure anyone would have done that ..

      You are yourself such a nice person so you see me as one too 🙂 Thank you though it feels good to know that you think like that of me ..
      yes i beleive in that , no one is bad they just are good to someone else and not to us .. simplessssssssssssssssss 🙂

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  47. Ruchi Chopra says:

    I rem one lovely quote while reading your wonderful post,
    “Not everyone who smiles back at you is your friend”. Isn’t it?
    But I believe in angelic souls as much as demons 😉
    Happy Friendship day! Good Wishes.

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  48. Happy friendship day mate. I guess friends come in all colors and some in black and white too. Taking it as it comes, it sure is lovely to have them all 🙂

    Cheers mate 🙂

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  49. Shilpa Garg says:

    Times have changed and so have the friendships, the rare ones that survive despite the ups and lows of life are true friendships. Have seen so called ‘friends’ changing overnight when tough times surround you! And these very tough times show who are our true friends! Though I have not met you, but I am sure that you would be a True Friend to your friends! 🙂

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  50. Novroz says:

    Great post Bik!!! 🙂
    Happy Friendship day///you’re one of the good friends I met in blogosphere

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  51. nabanita21 says:

    And maybe that’s why I have so less friends…I can’t tolerate people who stay only for their own selfish motives…

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  52. True friend is a rarity Bikram! (from my experience…!)
    Nice post…Belated Happy Friendship day 🙂
    Hope you find a friend like yourself…who values a true friend!

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  53. Mi says:

    Belated happy fships day Bikram..This was such a lovely, heartwarming post! 🙂 Stay as awesome as you are! 🙂

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  54. Good one….belated friendships day ji….

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  55. ashwinicn says:

    First of all, Happy Friendship day. Glad to have come across your blog and to know you.:-)

    True friendships do exist, but probably not as prevalent as the whats-in-it-for-me type of people. Sometimes I prefer to stay alone than to be with such selfish people. Sigh.

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    • Bikramjit says:

      THank you so much .. same here .. same here its been a few years now that we have know each others over blog ..
      and it is really better to stay alone at least one is not heart broken …

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  56. Joe says:

    Agree to what Rama said. We could go unannounced to any friend’d house and sit and chat.
    And what you said is right “such people will one day realize what they lost, by then it will be too late”
    Joe (Haddock)

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    • Bikramjit says:

      OH YEs.. you reminded me when i had first come ot uk, I would do that and soon i realised that this was not the IN thing here in uk, so now i dont go to anyones .. because I dont like to phone and say i am coming .. I dont expect to get a call from others, my house doors are open always.

      thank you so much for taking the time reading the post .. 🙂

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