Archive for October, 2012

Disclaimer: This post does not intend to make any personal attacks on any one. Hence, no names have been taken. Please refrain from getting personal.

I had done a post (  And we Expect a Change in our society- Not a wordless wednesday) a few months ago on a similar discussion , A comment I had placed on an article,  I got a great reaction then and It seems I have let myself into another one again 🙂 , I never know when to shut up..

do I ?  he he he 🙂

I have a similar reaction to put today too, There is an article where a lady is wanting to take some advice from people about her relation with her in-laws. The context is about how she has a problem with her hubby intending to move back from USA to India because of his parents.

Now the content of the article or the email is Not what I want to discuss..

It’s what I wrote as a reply to the article and the  reactions that comment generated  that I am more interested in ..

So now you know what is the base. This is what I wrote ..

Dear ABC.. . I am sorry but you shud be discussing this with your Hubby and not with strangers ..

How can me or anyone else give you advice since we dont know you, or your hubby or your family.. how can someone anyone do that.. you will get a lot of advice here by lots of people but remember much of that advice is from people who have not been in the same situation as you.. and even if some have been in the same situation then Their in laws or their hubby is not exactly same as yours ..

so talk to your hubby , tell him your apprehensions I am sure things can work out for sure .. Talking always helps .. All the best and god bless

Thumbs UP 9  Thumbs Down 39

Right then lets get into statistics 🙂 .. I am bad in maths so pardon me if I have calculated wrong .. 🙂  There are 39 people who think my advice to the lady to discuss it with her husband is wrong compared to 9 ..  that is just  18.75%,    81.25%  which in this case means MAJORITY of the people think  resolution of an issue between a couple through mutual discussion is no good,  so assuming talking is no good .. WHAT IS GOOD THEN.. parting ways, separating , divorce ..  NOW don’t you think that is a high number of people who think that way ..

The above conversation has had a few comments as a reply too .. and knowing me since I love to argue my points .. it has become a Fascinating read,   I am not copy-pasting other bloggers’ replies to my comments as I have not taken permissions from them and I don’t have the right to copy-paste as such…. HENCE I have just pasted one of mine ..  what is worrying, well – at least for me is that the number of Thumbs down to the subsequent replies is increasing day by day .. so that 81.25% people I am talking of is ACTUALLY MAY BE HIGHER in percentage..  because the kind souls who gave my comments a thumbs up have slowly given up bothering to the subsequent replies.. I guess they just read  shook their heads and moved on  🙂

Another funny thing is ,  I asked a question later on in the chain of replies as to what is wrong if the hubby wants to go back home to stay with his parents..   (Oh boy , you got to see the reaction to that one .. Thumbs UP 3   Thumbs Down 23 )   it is about 12% in my favour ONLY 🙂 I wonder, does no one think like me?  Something strange..!! Are all the men out there ready to leave their parents and stay away from them, and are all the women out there ready to make their husbands stay away from their parents?

Instead of a reply I was asked what if SHE wants to live with her parents ..  Now again the question comes.. is it  just because I said or asked the question from a MAN’s point of view I got the reactions .. (just for recording purpose the counter question got Thumbs UP 15    Thumbs Down 2) thank god there were 2 who felt as I did 🙂  Phew I thought I was alone again .. Well, to that, if she wants to live with her parents, and if he is willing, then why not? This is an entire discussion in itself – and is a digression to the topic in hand. There are a lot of men who have been brave enough to take on the responsibility of their in-laws and kudos to them – but our always-glorifying-society-which-wants-to-make-a-difference categorises such brave men as “ghar jamai”.

If I had again said something or done some man bashing I probably would have got a better reaction .. and How can a Counter question to a Question be the RIGHT ANSWER.. which gets societies approval …    according to statistics is again approx 88%..

There are again 88% people out there who think instead of replying if we counter question and especially bring the GENDER in the equation to DILUTE the topic in hand, is the right way to solve a problem ?

What do you think people.. Do you feel the same way as I do, OR am I completely off my nuts as usual ?   (I know I asked this question in a post earlier and all of you said I was not , maybe you would want to change your thought now) 🙂

I would love to hear your views on this , What do you take from the above reactions to my comments in context to the Thumbs up and thumbs down.. Thumbs down I take as people not agreeing with me and saying I have written something wrong

How do we expect to change the society when the people who are thinking like this are in great numbers , I wonder what they do behind closed doors of their house  I said house because clearly it cant be a HOME .. if they react the same in their own place .…  I don’t think things can change if such mentality exists …  It is clearly cleaning dirty linen in public and is something I do not subscribe to, especially when it comes to sensitive issues such as those faced by couples/families.

SO I WANT TO ASK  ALL those who pressed the thumbs down .. Because I know many of the visitors on that blog also visit my blog tooo ..  what is the problem ?  Why are we not able to make healthy discussions and why do we have to keep putting each other down, without considering the point of view of a person in a fair and just manner, in a manner that doesn’t reflect undue prejudice?

Is It

1. My Face
2. Me being a male commentator… 
3. I did not do any man bashing
4. Or some other hidden agenda..  🙂 

And we the people of our nation think that we can make a difference … SERIOUSLY

Maybe I live in a ideal world .. But I think in my own heart that till we have lived it all, and tried all avenues , its never a right decision to break a relation, but I guess its too much to ask from anyone .

PS:- The figures I have quoted were right till 10:51AM of october 30th 2012 , UK time..  I just picked the figures before i was going to publish the post.. so please dont shoot me if the figures are not right ..

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A few months ago I was writing how dreams come true.. I had just achieved something that I had been wanting all these years,  Life is funny when one is gaining things that one has dreamed we tend to forget what we are losing.. only time tells us all that..

Everyone in the blogworld wished me the best.. 6 month’s been working hard on it.. and now when it is there, things seem to be going all wrong..

Is it just me or does it happen to others too and usually its people very near to you who seem to become or bring roadblocks..

Why . .. I don’t know..

This post is going to one of those that does not make any sense, but one who probably has been through this will understand, I remember I had written that hard work pays.. but along with hard work one needs luck too.. Situations arise such that one becomes helpless.. it seems things are not in your hands any-more.

One dream is fulfilling while the other is getting shattered.. which one do we choose to fulfill, I was a person who had so much confidence on myself, but then suddenly that confidence feels so hollow.

This post is a post where I want to say aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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16Th October was the blog anniversary. I missed it as was stuck with a lot of things happening in life.

I want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart, each one of you who has visited this place and taken time out of your precious time.  Many of you I feel are close friends now, we have this special relation And it is all the love and affection that I have got from each one of you that I am still writing.

With all the problems that are going on, on personal front I almost got rid of the blog.. a few of you realised it for the blog was down for just half a day and sent me those heartening emails.. threatening me when I said I was thinking of penning off..:-)

It’s not good to threaten a person he he he it can be used in the court of law..

Anyway I have completed 3 Years of blogging so yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy….

Thank you so much, and please please consider this a personal thanks.. thank you everyone, you are all great and I know whatever happens on personal front you all will be with me..

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Ps. Sorry I have not replied to all the comments on the previous post. Will reply A.S.A.P.

A Very happy dussehra everyone.  

Have a great day so what are your plans for today.. don’t ask me I am working.

…. Diwali is cominggggggggggggg 🙂

I was having this interesting conversation with a friend of mine, when the topic of Blogging came up specially Commenting.

A couple of interesting views came up

1.  I was asked how come I go and comment on a lot of blogs, even when it is seen that they probably never visit me or if they visit they don’t put a comment or even reply back to the comments I make.

Well I am sure I have replied to that umpteen times, I guess its in my habit (right or wrong) I don’t know , I always have something to say which sometimes has put me in trouble too.  I also feel that since the author has taken the time to write what they have written, maybe it will be good if we also read what they have written and give our two cents worth of view.

I am sure like I feel happy to see all the comments pouring in they too would feel good.

Although I must say I try my best not to write two-word comments as I think there is this culture in blogosphere that you comment on mine only then I will comment on yours, Which I have recently understood. I am sure a lot of people have written about this phenomenon a lot many times.

So Now I think I will have to change the way I look at this place too.

2. Indiblogger and Voting :-

On Indiblogger there is a forum called indivine where We can put our latest post . The people in your group then can come and Read it,  Now all this is fine but I have always had this problem with Indiblogger on the voting phenomenon.

I have been involved in a few nasty discussions too over time , But I can’t understand this VOTE thing.  What is it for.

Although to vote one has to open the post,  yet in my eyes if  as a reader I have opened the post then I should read the post fully, Why bother voting if  you don’t read the post.   It takes a lot of marketing skills to get lots and lots of votes.

I have realised that most just press the button again quickly to vote, hoping others will come to vote too. I don’t particularly like that idea as again I doubt if all who are pressing the VOTE button actually Read what one has written.

In my eyes I would much prefer people to come over , at least read what one has written and yes also let me know if they have liked or disliked ,they agree with what I have written or not agree, If people don’t tell that then how is one going to learn. How can one learn that they are doing a mistake, till someone points it too.

Blogging world has become a lot like attention seeking sorts.  This voting process seems more of getting a hit or traffic on your blog.

I am not the one to shy away from saying yeah I put my article up there , So people in my group know I have posted a new post. I am lucky many of the people do come and read what I have written which is a good feeling.

3. How come MEN or the male species don’t comment in that number on  blogs written by other Men compared to those written by the lovely ladies.

I had not noticed this until recently, It was pointed out by this good friend.  I did not know what to say . So I thought about asking everyone who visit here and read what all junk I write about, what is the reason.

I in no way am saying I don’t want the pleasure of the company of beautiful lovely people who already come , But why is it that the male version who I definitely see at almost every other blog written by ladies and whose blogs I do sometimes comment on , Not comment on this blog 🙂 .

Is it some sort of man thing , which I am not getting. Because I visit blogs irrespective if they are written by a woman or a man, would be fun to know the reply to that one . I think there is a Gender Bias in blogging too, I dont want to give examples and embarrass people but I have seen it happen.

What do you think people.. Do you feel the same way as I do, OR am I completely off my nuts as usual ?

Does it matter to you who visits your blog ?

Does it make you feel bad if people don’t read what you have written but just comment for the sake of it .. Or press the Like button. 

Do you feel bad when you see people whose blog you have commented,  they don’t even reply to you and WORSE still they Reply to every other comment but yours on their blog.. 

What do you do,  Do you stop going to those blogs.  ?

You can tell me that I am just being a moron 🙂

Ok first of all sorry, to all those who saw the title and Actually came to see some awesome content.. but now that you are here might as well spend some time 🙂

Awards are something that I love getting , I am sure everyone knows by now about that , it’s no more a secret ..  so starting with some long pending tags .. This one came from Debs..  of OF PANEER, PULAO AND PUNE

She has given me the following ABC award .. and believe it or not .. You are reading it correctly , she thinks my blog has AWESOME CONTENT.. (OK all you nodding Ur head Err right to left and then left to right Stop it .. ) .. if Debs is under the impression then please let her be  Please … 🙂 :)

ABC Award

So the rules say: “You have to describe in a word or two, the first thing that comes to your mind, about you, when you think of the letter of the alphabet.”

Okay, here goes:

A – Awesome ( my blog – Not me .. go ask Deb’s.. she gave me the award as PROOF)

B – Bad man Bikramjit.. also the  hindi/punjabi word BUDHOO comes to mind

C – Crazy .. easy to be cheated on

D – Dependable. :D

E – Eccentric.  Every time is PARTY TIME….

F – Fool

G – Gorger of chicken dishes  and Gadha (donkey)  according to a couple of friends

H- Hungry.

I – Idiot

J– Jack of all trades – Master of none

K– Kilo’ssssssssssss

L – Lazy- loser-

M – Mann

N – No Patience

O – Optimist

P – Passionate … Party time

Q – Que Sera sera – whatever will be – will be

R – Rejected

S – Singh :D  Smile and the world smiles with you ( is my motto)

T – Travel!

U– Unassuming

V –Lots of Vices

W– Work Alcoholic

X – XXXXX

Y – Yippee-ki-yay

Z – Zestful

Now comes the Difficult part, Tag five people , I visit so many interesting blogs how can I choose JUST 5 out of them .. so  this is what We will do , I tag the first five people who comment on this article..  and I will put their names , after the First Five comments come.  

and they are

1. NriGirl

2. Punam

3. Sandhya

4. D.I.

5. anisnest

AND A SPECIAL TAG TO

Jenny  (now you got to do it ) 🙂

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Rahul  who blogs at  Cognitive Amalgamation  had set a contest , which I won.. oh yes I won fair and square .. 🙂   and he presented me with this beautiful trophy ..

Thank you Rahul

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PS. I have got two more Tags to do .. Next comes from Ramya and she has also given a task to be fulfilled  MAK .. I promise I will take them up ASAP. I am struggling as the task put up by Ramya is to Write few lines or a post on one interesting hobby you have or you have ever heard OR you can choose to write a post on a person you have met or incident that has happened during any of your travel. So trying to jolt the head to find something ..

Right as I was telling in the previous post ,

I have a problem there is extra fridge.. what to do with it ..

The first thing that came to my mind was to put it in the garden .. JUST to show off to the neighbours, Oh yes I can do things like this too, Look – look at this  I am so rich, I have a fridge that I don’t even use, instead of selling it on Ebay, I have kept it here to rot.. I don’t need the money and I am doing so well.

Lots of ideas came to mind, there is so much one can do with a fridge , so many games can be played hide and seek in the garden, when I was a kid any time we found something like this lying around all I could see was another adventure 🙂  but these days I don’t think kids do such things, I don’t see any kid running with an old cycle tyre , or playing other naughty games , the sense of adventure is not there any-more in the new generation I feel ..

Right coming back to the problem the law says that the old fridge needs to be DISPOSED off properly, and as all Indians do to save a few pounds I did not take advantage of the company that dropped the new fridge to take it away, you save a penny and a Penny saved is a PENNY SAVED. I can be a miser too ..

Oh god these recent posts are more of showing me in the bad light , how dumb I am in the last post I fell for the marketing trick and now a miser too.

Anyway quickly moving on before I let go a lot of my personal secrets, I thought I will put it in my car and take it to the tip to be disposed off, it used to be so easy in the good old days , you take unwanted stuff and dump it into the containers BUT now its all changed..  Well before even reaching the DUMP AREA..

First putting the fridge in the car is another big adventure how to fit the damn thing in.

After a proper physical wrestling match with the old fridge, a few choice words of swears where it managed to mark my car, I finally got it in.

Now the second problem started, since the hatch of the car would not close , I had to be very careful that no Traffic police saw me else , that would be another drama. ..  This reminds me did I tell you guys I got speeding ticket, for 11 years now I have been using the same road going and coming to work, there is a speed camera which has never ever worked EVER.. but in august on the fateful day it decided to click the picture of my car’s backside 🙂 Not happy with that, I don’t mind the fine but the points on license that is not good , I have a clean license and by that I don’t mean it has no marks etc .. by clean I mean I don’t have any penalties etc..

So I drove through all the back roads, to make sure I don’t get caught.. Thankfully it was my lucky day..

So I entered the dump-yard  there was someone standing at the gate, next to a little hut, in his hi-fi yellow fluorescent jacket, with a clip board in hand, a dirty looking pen hanging by a thread, I guess to make sure no one steals it , But than which person in his right mind would want to steal that pen.. imagine all those dirty hands that have touched it.. and you know MEN where all there hands go when left idle 🙂

Looking at him it seems he was someone who has probably done a degree in CLIPBOARD management. 

He  came over and asked

“What you got”

I said “RUBBISH” I mean what else will I have , in my car which i will bring to a Dump-yard.. “GOLD

What’s in the back ?     “A Fridge ” I replied.

The moment I said that he had a funny smile he looked at me  with that look, which says , you plonker , yeah I could see that look in his face and said “ooh you can’t do that..  we have an environmental Policy  now,  you can’t just bring it here and leave it”

Then he used the CLIPBOARD management degree to tell me how the fridge has gases ..  How its dangerous for the environment.. “I KNOW THAT DUMBO” I thought.. that’s why I have brought it to be disposed off properly at a proper place …  I could see myself driving all the way back and doing all that drama in the drive of my house , taking out the fridge , I just felt that maybe just maybe I could be lucky So I asked

“Right what do I need to do then” and the next reply floored me and I so much wished to bang my head into a wall ..

he says “You have to phone us in..  and then we come and get it, and Dump it properly at the dump-yard“..

AAAAAAAAAHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh  , yeah I felt like laughing my head off by now .. I held my nerve  I asked who do I ring .. and he gave me a number.

So I am sitting in my car, right in front of him,  picked my mobile and called that number .. the phone in the little hut next to the gate .. Rang ..

This same guy ran to the office ..  he answers the phone

“Hello – ”

I said “HELLO , I have a fridge to dispose”

he says “Ok, Where are ya”

I Am  OUTSIDE  YOU £”$£”$£”$… At the dump-yard…………… So that was the drama involving the disposing of the fridge.. phewwwwwwwwwwwwwww… .

Ps:- So I will leave this here , why don’t you guys give it a go and Tell me what happened next.. 🙂

PPS:- To make it funny I have used some words/dialogues/ scenes taken from a Tv Show.. I can cheat too 🙂

How to maintain amusement in your life , when it gets dull and boring and no one else is there to share with at the time.

Well I am sure the following things will sure do Great… and Seeing others ..do these silly things will surly put a smile on your face tooo

 

1 At Lunch Time, Sit in Your Parked Car with Sunglasses on and point a Hair  Dryer at Passing Cars. See If They Slow Down.

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2 On all your cheque stubs, write ‘For Marijuana’

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3 Skip down the street Rather Than Walk and see how many looks you get.

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4 Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.

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5 Sing Along At The Opera.

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6 When the Money comes Out the ATM, Scream at top of your voice  ‘I Won! I Won!’

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7 When Leaving the Zoo, Start running towards the Car Park, Yelling ‘Run For Your Lives! They’re Loose!’

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8 Tell Your Children Over Dinner, ‘Due To the Economy, We are Going To Have To Let One Of You Go.’

Ok Now I am again running short.. But hopefully by the time you do the top 8 I am sure there will be a BIG SMILE everywhere…

Do tell me yours toooo…  Have a great Week ahead people…