Disclaimer :- Long post .. But people who love their friends and miss them will understand it all

This post has taken a long time to be published, has been sitting in my drafts for so long. been editing it so often..

Here I am trying to revisit the good old days as they say , college times .. I am sure a lot of people by now know how we both met, it was an astonishing moment , One day Ravi (my first friend in college) came up to me, I was tall and big had big huge moustaches gave the impression that I was wickedddddddd (no one knew the secret, it was the other way round actually) .. saying he has had an argument with someone , set up a time and we have to go to beat up this guy.. So we went to the ground behind the campus.. Me and Ravi… in a few minutes another guy came with a Short, stocky, Smart Sardar..who had an immaculate turban on..

Till today I have no idea why it happened or how it happened instead of a FIGHT it ended up by making a deal that instead of a big fight why not let Ravi and the guy settle their differences one to one.. Brilliant , me and the sardar shook hands and That day I met my best, my darling my sweety pie my cutie pie he he he he  Sukhvir Singh (AKA babbar).. till date he is my best mate.. Thus started the days of glory, through him I met so many people rather all my mates now I met through him, oh boy but was he angry, he was short but his temper oh my god, no matter who was in front, he went for it..

So that’s how we met, College time was wow time for me because of friends I had, we did a lot of things together movies, roaming around, NCC etc etc.. A few points I wanted to share here reminiscing the good old days..

Each time I have called him up from UK, it brings that COOL sense of happiness to hear him say hello and when you speak he recognises the voice in millionth of a second and then the voice changes to “OYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE MANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN”.. now that is the best feeling one can have, especially for those who have left friends-family behind and come to foreign shores.. Then during the conversations he will always say “TUN AAJAA YAAR MANN” (you just come).. That is the moment where you feel like dropping everything  and Just go.

We both have argued with each other but I don’t remember any occasion where we have fallen out on any thing, almost every evening after college was spent with him , a couple of others ( I will write about them too).. I use to live the furthest so I would go to his house in evening and then from there we went wherever we had to go , to spend the rest of the evening.

A few incidents come to mind each time I think of Babbar, I remember during NCC Days we had a camp for 15 days in a village in Punjab , it was Diwali day and we planned to go to the gurudwara Sahib , on way back there was a brick Kiln.. and you know how big-hearted Punjabi’s are.. the owner called us in and invited us to a glass or two of MILK , special milk , this was full of Bhang and a couple of KILO of Jalebi’s .. NCC camps hardly get stomach full of food so we drank and ATE..

Then moved to the camp only to find we were getting high and The Commanding officer too saw us , Not a good idea , by the time we reached the camp he had everything ready .. WE were to Fall in within 5 minutes and Our dear Sukhi was to lead us in parade , The punishment was for us to march while for him was to go over to the other side of the POND and shout commands .. I on other hand was saved as I was representing Chandigarh in Skeet shooting so I was sent to air force station to do that .. The day off it was to be we ended up working the whole of chandigarh group. I was so drunk and high that I shot 9 out of 10 clay pigeons BRING THEM ON.. sukhi was not happy when I came back as they were made to go up and down the ground a few times …

I have somehow felt that Babbar has always been my savior for some reason each time I was in trouble he would be there, In one wedding a few guys had a tiff with me and I found my self alone, as a guy asked me to dare come out of the marriage hall.. I being a scary cat which i am was still thinking of what to do .. In comes Babbar and he gave them guys such a blasting they will remember all their life..

Also a few coincidences have so happened that It is really a miracle that we have not got into serious trouble , Once I went up to his house to find that he was getting ready on asking , he just said good i turned up and asked me to accompany him , it was later I found out that a guy we knew , had some sort of fight with guys , there We were together going to beat up the guys … 

I am not sure how my life would have been had it not been for him, he has been always there through thick and thin always .. He was the one who rode my scooter which i had just spend thousand to get repainted and all .. and drove it right into an oncoming car.. my heart broke into pieces to see the scooter again mangled , who cares about the bruises suffered by him, he is a man he will Live 🙂

He got married when I came to UK , I missed his wedding and i will never forgive myself I so wanted to attend his wedding , he has a beautiful wife who is again a gem of a person .. Each time I have gone to india they have not let me go to my own house as my home was all locked up , I end up spending my time with them, I jsut have to phone him up and tell him arriving on such and such date and he makes sure that he takes time off work and all ..

I am truly blessed to have him, I know we hardly speak on phone so much time goes by , but the moment i book my tickets he is the first one to know and when i tell him THAT voice haunts me MANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN  COMEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and that excitement .. We have done some weird things during our college times some good some bad but now we sit down thinking they all bring smiles to the face.

He is such a person , he has not got a FB account, he hardly uses email, I email him but he doesn’t reply , I hope he reads this article where I want to shout at top of my voice I HATE YOU BABBAR 🙂 .. Oh man I miss him so much. If you are reading this do you remember the days my friend , Going to Patiala for Ashwani’s wedding on way back , we almost got Shot by Punjab police thinking we were some sort of Terrorists ..

Do you remember the uphill trips, the going up by the back route , the fountain …

Do you remember the camps NCC lucknow, Patiala, Ludhiana, The clearing of the PABT written test in hisar .. The SSB interviews at various places .. especially the one in Dehradun 🙂 that was hilarious we had fun brother .. Still cant understand how we could not get through.. the ones who everyone said should get into army. How the Sikh guy who refused to go inside a Temple because it was a HINDU temple got selected.. and how another one who hated muslims got through.  

But I guess we are better off now, Had we got through I am sure we would both be Dead by now, trying to get over an enemy tank to our side of the land 🙂  All that happen’s .. happens for good.

And best of all This is hilarious (if you have reached till here everyone listen to this), I got a job as a manager-instructor all in one in a computer institute which had just opened , it had no students as it was still being renovated, Babbar was un employed at that time, I would get up in morning as I headed to work his house would be on way.. I would pick him up and go to this institute to open it .. waiting for potential students to come etc..  around 11ish the Whisky shop would open and we would buy half a bottle from there ordering some samose or something from katani sweets.. Pour half each in Big steel glasses and have it .. eat the samosa’s ..  THEN close the shutters down of the institute.. and head for Punjab University  for a GEDI he he he he By the time we reached UNI we use to be up in the seven sky ..

Each day we met , each day there was some funny thing that happened If  I start to write all of them It will turn out to be a book.. I long to get back to maybe repeat a few of these events..

The going to weddings, we had a pact that anyone who had a wedding in family, all friends will goto that wedding.. one I remember is a party I got an invite to , it was a very private. I had not clue about, as was promised all of us reached .. it so happened that in that party there were more of us then the actual invitees.. it was embarrassing but WHO CARES we had fun ate stomach full and drinks too 🙂

The late night Pinjore garden trips, The various arguments over girls.

The trekking expeditions, getting lost in jungle, almost getting one of our big huge friend killed ..

The sundays of Playing cards, the whole days spent on a RS. 10. BET it was war, me and him always the partner winning losing.

Another Hilarious episode was Three of us on Two scooters, Babbar & vikram on one and me alone of another one.. It was Babbar’s Elder brothers scooter.. we are going nicely , a roundabout came.. I went straight shouting come this way , come this way .. Babbar went left looking at me shouting no no this way .. They failed to see the curb on the road and BAM.. both of them on the Road.. Poor Scooter.. the tension was not of the bruises again it was how to get the Scooter sorted before big brother found out.. We had a mechanic who did all this jobs for us he he he he ..

I was doing some classes for something, One of our mates JOHAR came from hisar to meet , he and Babbar came to where I was .. I sneaked out .. now again Babbar & johar on one scooter , me on another we are going .. me following them and Mr. Babbar suddenly decided to turn Right .. BAM I went into them and they both went flying.. Again forget the bruises the scooter needs to be checked ..

The festival celebrations, the arguments whose house we would end of celebrating .. The first EVER dance party organised .. Was by him in his house on the roof .. so many girls came, luckily I was invited to it too.. 

The Holi times, we would all get together and make sure we went to EVERY girls house we knew, the look on their faces was PRICELESS.. the OH look boys have come to this girls house..

A couple of weddings we got done of the Lovers , whose parents would not agree.. 

Some things in life one can never forget.. I have had such a beautiful life that I just  long to od it all over again , wish there was a roll back switch  to do it .. I would not want to do anything ever differently. All that happened when it happened AS it happened I would love to repeat it all over again ..

Those were the good old days .. and Then LIFE Happened and we all separated ..

Comments
  1. noble says:

    ha ha…..nice to have frens like u n babbar…………………………………..aye jao yarro srinagar…we love birds r waiting for u….
    GOD BLESS YOU BOTH…njoy

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    • Bikram says:

      Noble paaji.. Avaange yaar .. DO you remmeber the Ludhiana camp, and that night when all were so high 🙂

      and thank you for the wishes .. Good old days they were ..

      How are you sir ji

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  2. You are treating us to this song for the second time i guess 🙂 . Good to know that you had so much fun and glad to know about your friend. Call him and ask him to read this post. That’s what I did with my friend!!

    Down South, the Engineering college days are one of the most boring days in our lives! But nothing to worry, we are catching up with all the fun now 🙂

    Destination Infinity

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  3. Punam J R says:

    what a beautiful account of such an amazing friendship, bikram. it was an emotional piece and i had a smile on my face all through while i was reading the post. such loving recount. i m sure ur friend will hv tears in his eyes with this gift.

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  4. Pooja says:

    Aww!! Sweet..sweet!! You have the wealth many can die for…and you value it :):)

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  5. navjot kaur says:

    m in tears now coz same here, i was missing my friends very badly from the last few days. true friends last forever. as i look back on all moments when we cried and laughed together i truly miss and love my friends. the past may be gone forever….and whatever the future holds, our todays make the memories of tomorrow.

    soooooo…………no more words to say really miss my best pals.

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    • Bikram says:

      Sorry this broughttears and that you are missing your friends, well it happens life takes us at different places , but what we make of those new places the new people we meet , how we keep relations or spoil them . what we do makes us human and a better person ..

      and as you said today makes tomorrow ..

      thank you.

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  6. Anita Menon says:

    A sweet post. Your friend must be so happy and proud.

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  7. very sweet !… gr8 frenz.. gr8 time …good memories!
    keep up the good work!(you cud have posted pic of your frd)
    nice post thou!!

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  8. b k chowla says:

    Personally, I cant even define friendship.Your friend is lucky

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  9. Deepa says:

    read all the last 5 posts . i thought i had commented on the childrens day post .. but couldnt find my comment.

    loved ur pics of mysore .. Godd .. i miss BLR and Mysore so so so much …

    Nice read on ur friend Babbar .. the first image I had when i started reading was of Amjad Khan’s Gabbar Singh !!!!

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    • Bikram says:

      ooops I am sorry if it has disappeared 🙂 let me go and check my spam 🙂

      he he he amjad khan fur sure he was if anyone came ot beat me or something 🙂

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  10. renu says:

    you are very lucky to have a friend like him, and you rightly treasure him.

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  11. shail says:

    What a wonderful account of friendship! You guys really enjoyed. Rock on! 🙂

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  12. AlkaGurha says:

    It seems you have had a fun filled adventurous and carefree college life……

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  13. Smita says:

    I think you should write THAT book 🙂

    Some friendships need to be celebrated!! Cheers to urs & Babbar’s 🙂

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  14. haritha says:

    wow!first of all you have written it so very beautifully! sweet memories isnt it??/:):) true friendship will never die……)and u r lucky cuz not many will find a true friend…

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    • Bikram says:

      yes sweet beautiful memories 🙂 and as you say true friendship wont die.. and hopefully next year he is ocming over to meet me here in uk now that would be awesomeeeeeeeeeeee 🙂

      I am indeed so very luckyyyyyyy

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  15. scorpria says:

    Totally awesome tribute to your friend.
    I hope he reads it too…else print it out, post it to him 😉 not e-mail, post 😀

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  16. gee your friend Babbar is way too lucky to have a friend like you who writes such nice posts about him 🙂 I shudder at the thought of my friends or brothers getting a blog for themselves and then writing about me 😯

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    • Bikram says:

      hmmm Thank you saying that I wrote nicely, I shudder with the same thought myself , if any of my friend starts to write a blog what will they write of me .. 🙂

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  17. Aathira says:

    Life has a way of changing up when you do not want it to also. I think I was so happy with the way my life was in college, not that I enjoyed the college studies, I must add. But, then all that changed. I do not even speak to so many people I was hanging out with day in and day out at college. Do I miss them? Yes, very much, coz I think we really connected. I liked the fun we had. And at present, I have 2 good friends at two different locations than me, and speak maybe once a week with one, and like once a month with the other. I wonder at times, till when will this continue.

    LIFE !

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    • Bikram says:

      YEah it changes when you least expect it. WE were so happy, carefree and no one could touch us , we could do anything.
      me and studies were allergic to each other ..

      sadly same is true for me too, none of my college friends are here in uk , so i am alone, and i know what you mean .. it would have been a belssing if some were here ..

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  18. sheokhanda says:

    I just love this song…… truly some friends are worth more than your life…. 🙂

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    • Bikram says:

      IT is beautiful song.. and written with love and by friends 🙂

      yes some friends are worht more then our life and Sukhi is one of those If i could give my right hand or my life for him I would ..

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  19. Tanishka says:

    Babbar is really cute… This post reminded me of my college days and the BFF… Off to call her up…. 🙂

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  20. 🙂 so who was Jai and who was Veeru between you two? 🙂

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    • Bikram says:

      THat reminds me of HOLI, you know I had a kinetic honda with a side car attached to it , jsut like Jai and Veru 🙂 and on holi days we went on itboth of us throwing colours and enjoyinghe he he he 🙂

      I forgot that you reminded me Thank you

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  21. Yuvika says:

    it’s a pity that we have to leave people who matter so much behind in the game of life!

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  22. rekha says:

    Some friendships stand the test of time…guys hold on to them longer, me thinks….lucky babbar was by ur side, sure he says the same thing about you…..enjoy your weekend with some nostalgia and some fun thrown in 🙂

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    • Bikram says:

      YEah he use ot be else i would have been beaten blakc and blue a few times for sure .. 🙂
      I got to find out what he says about me though 🙂 he he he he

      weekend was indeed nostalgia saturday my cousin turned up from india along with two other cousins who live here in uk.. so the 4 of us ha a mehfil at home and slept at 9am in morning 🙂
      i bet the neighbours had a tough time 🙂

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  23. Tharani says:

    Now that i am married and all i want that roll back switch very badly:):)
    this was an awesome read bikram. I am all nostalgic now.

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  24. Now u have made me nostalgic n i wanna write about my bestest friend! Thanks:)

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  25. asha says:

    that was a beautiful post. very emotional. God bless your friendship!!

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  26. Swaram says:

    The best thing is that u value the lovely things in life Bik 🙂

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  27. It happens sometimes, and so vividly, that the best of outcomes arise out of the worst of situations! 🙂

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  28. Seema says:

    Wow, that was a lovely post. I suggest you take a print out of this post and send it to Babbar to ensure that he reads it 😀

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  29. Shilpa Garg says:

    Such a sweet post!! Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there! 🙂 God bless your friendships! 🙂

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you S.G. you are so right in saying this.. they are not there but i know that when i need he will be there doing what he does best .. protecting me ..

      Thank you for the wishes

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  30. hellooooooooooooooooo brother……wow…….u guys frndship iz gr8……vry nyce 2 read diz post…while reading diz post i als remembrd my college life……….i als ‘d gr8 time with my frnz…….dose de’z were really GOLDEN de’z of life…….we ‘d gr8 fun in college……n als in hostel…….those Geri’ZZZZZ 2 uni…………n fun in hostel stayin awake till 4 AM………u knw dese moments r with us forever…….we nevr gt bored of rememberin n talkin abt those Golden de’z again n again n again………….Like u i als wanna enjoy dose de’z back same 2 same ….n ‘ve fun…………..
    ….Hatz off 2 ur frndship………..
    ………nd hun tusin eh nai keh sakde k main comment nai kardi ya fb te nai aundi….u knw dis iz d 1st post of urs i read n commented …n i likd it vry mush ……n bro wow …u nycely set up words 4 ur story………..;)

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    • Bikram says:

      Hello .. haandi friendship is a lovely .. and Gugu knows babbar also very nicely.
      College de time bahut aish kiti haigi, hun yaad aundiyaan ne sab kuch.. truly golden din see for sure. te hostel ch taan si hi aish .. Guggu dasooga saade kaarname tuhanu bahut pange kitte ral ke 🙂

      haanji switch hona chahida hai reverse back 🙂

      lai ok chalo i wont say ki you dont come.. par hun idan na hove ke aaj aa gaye te fer pata hi nahin kithe gumm .
      Thank you for reading this 🙂

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  31. Harsha says:

    That was a very sweet post, Bikram. 🙂 You both are blessed to have each other, touchwood! College days are the best when you have great friends around :):)

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  32. Dimpy Nain says:

    a fitting tribute to your friendship…yaars r truly anmulle…thandian hawawan de bulle…

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  33. Swarnjeet Singh Brar says:

    well written !!!

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  34. Munish pandit says:

    Balle maan sahib good draft.

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  35. […] Mera Dost :- Babbar […]

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  36. Smitha says:

    Such friends make all the difference in our lives, don’t they? Friends who stick through thick and thing, who you laugh with, to whom you can bare your heart to..

    That was absolutely precious. If your friend read this, he undoubtedly would have tears in his eyes.

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  37. summerscript says:

    This is just a lovely lovely post 🙂 Some friends are so precious ! 🙂

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  38. Yaar, after reading this post – I can relate to almost all feelings which I had during my earlier days, School, College and then University. I remember we use to be bunch of lads and girls always glued together, any issue, trouble, sadness and happiness we use to live together. The pranks we use to play on each other, the dodgy stuff we use to get up to – these moments have all returned after reading your post.

    Some of them are now living and working abroad and communication is very limited, but what the hell I better call and send some emails to them – just to relive the moments.

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    • Bikram says:

      Good , GLad you did that. Those were the good old days I can remmeber each and every day crystal clear. and yes as you say lived and faced all the sadness-happiness – troubles together ..

      dodgy stuff right so what all did you get up to lets hear it all out .. 🙂

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  39. Ha ha – I might actually write a post about the dodgy stuff we got upto (thanks to your post) but I can highlight a couple here – for old time memory sake:

    We once, smuggled chicken’s into our University Library in the UK. There were 5 of us and we had a total of 7 chickens – once we got into the Library we all split and went on different floors and different areas of the libraries. At the precise time of 13:30 we let the chickens go discreetly and made a quick exist. Till this day, no one found out who had done it. I remember the University up in arms, and students loving this drama – we would sit in our lectures playing ignorance to this drama – the whole campus was talking about this event.

    This other time, at the start of our 2nd year at the University. We volunteered to help Student Union with preparing goody bags for fresh students. I remember there was around 30 people who were doing these goody bags and putting a selection of items into goody bags and sealing them. Myself and 4 others (3 guys and 1 girl) decided to fill up the goody bags with opened condoms (and plenty of them) with plenty of business cards containing the details of a particular bloke in our year – who simply thought he was the best student in the campus the business cards contained his email address and mobile number. We remember doing about over a 100 goody bags each and we then mixed these up with the rest of the goody bags. These goody bags where then handed out to fresh/re-freshe students. We got into loads and loads of trouble but somehow the University recognised the funny side of it and let us off with a warning.

    We were a notorious group, the amount of dodgy stuff we got up created a sort status for us. Dam I miss them days.

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    • Bikram says:

      WOw.. Really .. I have put a few things that we did on the blog but cant go all out , as people will know its us hence keeping it quiet for the moment 🙂

      and that chicken episode lovely nice one , loved that i need to go back to college to do that one again .. the other on condoms oh yes we did that toooo 🙂 he he he he …

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  40. vicky says:

    nice to read about this guy called babbar, in fact i also happen to know him and truely he stands every word written by you but off lately he has stopped calling,

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    • Bikram says:

      Paaji .. I know you know him too .. I know you tooo 🙂 well chalo he did call you .. to me he has never called .. lazy bones he is 🙂
      and what else Vicky how is everything going on .. you still on ship .. or back home 🙂

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  41. Ashwini C N says:

    You are lucky to have a friend like Babbar. We might have many friends but a few handful friends like him will always stay with us. Knowing that these people are there for us would instill in us some sense of confidence and courage and give us happ-y-ness 🙂

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  42. Chhavi says:

    This is a beautiful post, Bikram. You are so lucky to have such a friend. May God bless him. 🙂 🙂

    BTW….. You were about to get shot by the Punjab Police :O :O What happened!

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you 🙂 yes I ma lucky and blessed ..
      Yeah shot by them because we did a stupid thing, in the middle of the night during terrorist times in punjab, we were coming back from a city about 9-10 of us and decided to go in the opposite way around the a Round a about , and when we came out the othr way , suddenly surrounded by police and hands up this and that.. all of us were Sardars and had showls and blankets around us as it was winters .. s othe first impression we made were terrorists .. lucky they did not Shoot first ..

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  43. deepak says:

    Awesome post 🙂 well written bhai 🙂
    http://deepakkarthikspeaks.blogspot.com

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  44. Purbaray says:

    How I wish some friend of mine would dedicate an entire post in my honour. I hope Babbar is reading this!

    Such friendships are rare – hold on to it.

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you so much. Yes I am lucky and he did read it .. I put his response in the next post i posted.. have a look when you get time..
      Such friendship are rare I am blessed , god has been kind to me

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  45. […] we had the bogey all booked. So, what happened next,  happened in a jiffy.Someone pushed my friend Babbar and everything went haywire. The whole group of cadets went berserk. We threw each one of those […]

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  46. Krishan Kanth says:

    gave smiles , tears , encouraging words and encountrs with life , the plummeting life like a ball , dipping life itself in gorgeous depths of existence, sharing his inner grief with hugs , ……AAKHIR bat wahin aa kar tikti hai !!jin ke haath nahin hote,taqdeer unki bhi hoti hai……”O ! GOD HELP HIM , THOU WILL NOT OURS SHALL PREVAIL”

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  47. Vikrram says:

    No words….dear…you put tears in the eyes…very touching…miss u toooooo….Vikram & Babbar

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  48. […] the bosses of college by then, One day instead of going straight to college I went to my friend Babbar’s house to go together with him, another mate Pummy was already there, as I entered they were pleased […]

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  50. Rosy says:

    Hi, I remember one Holi where u, babbar, me and 1 more friend went to many places together. kamini, harpinder khara, uni and gedian to lots of other places. That was my onli Holi with boys and I enjoyed it like hell. I was always like boys myself , wanted to do masti like boys and that was my best holi ever. I had completely forgotten this until now . Remembered all after reading this post. Babbar is great. I remember him as a decent boy, who always smiled(like me ofcourse) and he really lived the life then.

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    • I know and that friend was Sandy and Vikram too was there .. Those were good old days for sure and you reminded of the gediyaan he he he he . yeah i think after that I came to UK .. Glad you remember it all .. and yeah babbar was and IS a great person , he still smiles always and is always there for you no matter what , he is the best

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  51. […] people who would smilingly stand shoulder to shoulder with me were introduced to me in this city, Babbar, Cherry,Ravi,vikram,Sood All of us became such good friends, I am so full of gratitude to the City […]

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  52. […] the world. It was so lovely to have met many of them recently a month back. Life is beautiful with beautiful people around. God bless them […]

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