Disclaimer :- A NONSENSE POST — Lots of thoughts going through my mind .. Weird ones ..
Over the years and time I have experienced and Heard this Line Everything in Life comes with a lot of luggage.. you say something to someone when you are emotional.. it takes a whole new meaning ..Ā a lot of external situations come into the whole scenario .. I have experienced that ..
What is love.. Why does love come with all the its and buts … If two people love each other thanĀ what is a whole load of plethora that comes in between..
We are taught a lot of stuff as we grow up , one of them is that we will meet someone , a lovely person and that we will have our very own happy ending ..Ā Each story we read or we are told tells us , implores usĀ to wait for that special one , for that One person that will come into your life and somehow transform it into a New something …
Tell us to Wait for that unexpected declaration of love , No one tells us though how long we got to wait š .Ā andĀ in all this we sometimes lose the plot, in all this commotion , teachings, stories, experiences and focusing over the plot we still end up meeting the wrong person š
We read the wrong signs ..
We loseĀ our way and sometimes the will to think too .. to think logically and sanely, to use the messages .. To use the experiences .. to learn a lesson from the experiences.
We are unable to tell from the ones who want us and the others who don’tĀ and WORSEĀ fromĀ the ones who are only there to use us, Like we do withĀ a Mango.. you suck it dry and then throw itĀ in the bin or worst stillĀ in a garbage heap lying in the corner of a road. .. USE YOU oh yes they do with such precise calculated moves..
We are Unable to tell from The ones who will be there for a while , be a leech and when there wishes are over they part ways.
From the ones who will stay from the ones who will leave ..
Then I hear people say MOVE ON.. I mean what is Moving on ..Ā Maybe Picking up pieces and Starting all over again , freeing ourself for something better in future .Ā Maybe the happy ending of this manipulated-dirty-Cheap-calculating relationĀ is the MOVING ON.. Or
Maybe The HappyĀ ending is the Happy Knowing that through all the broken hearts,Ā through all those misread signs .. through all that feeling of being used up.. through all that crapĀ ..
Through all that time spent with someone Disloyal.. with someone who is a CHEATĀ .. someone who was False .. someone who was with the black heart .. someone who was justĀ a user .. someone who just wanted the money .. someone who just wanted the SEX .. now not with you but with someone else …. Maybe thats Moving on.. Ā
Maybe in all this Time we never gave up hopeĀ and maybe we will find that one person … or WILL WE…
You will Bikram! Happier days are ahead…
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I am sure they are . fingers crossed š
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NO…thats not Moving on….. when people say “move on”….they mean to say “take a lesson from this particular episode and then move on”…so that you can be safer next time…thats what i feel š
BTW hope every thing is fine there at ur end….and why these sort of thoughts Bikram…..???
How a six plus feets Punjabi guy can be so emotional… š
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Yeah i get the idea.. you are right ..
Everything is fine .. I am a weird person so thoughts come back now and then .. thats all ..
the six feet plus Punjabi guy has a HEART .. which rules most of the time .. thats the peroblem and i am trying hard t ochange .. to use the BRAIN rather the heart One day god willing i will successfully change . š
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Hope the day has passed!
What would it be to “Feel with mind. And, Think with heart…”?
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well one thing is for sure it will be a change for sure š
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And while posting this comment i was thinking that i am 1st this time…butttttttttttttt š
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he he he NriGirl beat you to it š
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So true… sometimes while reading some posts you feels that the person has managed to exactly describe how you feel…
I felt the same while reading this one š
I guess all the great minds think in the same way…. LOL… š
Great Post..!!
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:). great in sense that i have company .. not on the situation š
yes we do dont we he he hhe
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‘Everything in Life comes with a lot of luggage..’ – That I think i true for every person. And I am optimistic enough to hope that everybody will get their ‘perfect’ person eventually.
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hmmmmmmmmmm lets hope so we all do .. Thank you smitha.
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A person who is so opportunistic to do all that you mentioned, will get their due in just a few years. When they are no longer young, no longer sought after, no longer able to cheat more people in the same style. And that will be just the start of all their troubles because then, they need to learn how to make money by working hard for it, how to uphold relationships with the heart rather than their cunning mind. Its gonna be tough for them, I tell you. Its gonna be tough.
Life will treat Good people like you, who know how to work hard for their money, and how to be honest with people/ relationships, life has a much better path ahead.
Destination Infinity
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I hope so D.I. yeah when the person is alone thats when it hits them , but i do feel that we should try to mend, never too late fo that..
I am not sure if i am good or what as i said I got my shortcomings too .. Lets hope as you say a better path awaits š
Thank you.
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I have seen that such people find someone loyal later in life and live happily. It is only good people that suffer in this world. I know I am being pessimistic but I feel being honest is a sin š¦
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I hope so tooo š Not sure if i am good or bad š I am sure the other party will say the same tooo
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I dunno if love is meant for all….I’m really questioning its existence but I know its there..if it would not have been what have I been feeling since long….
At the end, don’t lose hope there is something best stored in for us..for you! Life is long…you’ll surely meet your other half along!
TC
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hmmmmmm when you get a reply tell me too pleaseeeeeeee…
you take care too.. thank you š
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You have found her, Bikram. READ the signs. Take care. Bury the past.
Sending lots of love your way, Punam
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Have I.. hmmmm I was never good in reading signs thats why all that happened …
dont agre with bury the past .. it is what has made us NOW.. we shud learn not forget
Thanks for all the wishes …
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You have already found her, Bikram. Bury the past.
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check above …:)
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yes comes with luggage is true
and about love just keep hope
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keeping.. I am a hopeful person š
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Blah .. my comments r doing the disappearing act on your blog. I wonder why.
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they were going ot spam…
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A moving post.. it looks like u poured your heart out here ..
fantastic expressions n all the emotions were summed up well… and the optimistic note at the end is what I liked most.
Awesome read !!!
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Thank you. and welcome ot this blog .. š
I am glad you liked this post..
we all have to be optimistic to carry on š
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I dislike the term “moving on”, inconsistency makes me very unhappy……still have to learn that people and their feelings change, though mine may be stuck at the same place!!
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yeah feelings change for sure.
same here too mine also get stuck
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I have a mixed opinion about “moving on”
Well, I know it sounds cliched but moving on is the only thing that a person can do once his relationship comes to an end. For that matter if anything in life goes wrong. It’s a daunting task. People ask you to “get a life” if you sulk too much but what else can a person do?
However. there are moments when I feel that mankind coined this phrase to make up for all his mistakes in less than 30 seconds. ” I know I broke your heart. Sorry. But will you please move on”.
I really don’t know which of the above “theories” is correct but at the end of the day one has to figure out a way to stay happy š
I nice and thought provoking post, Bikram. ( Waise main aapke Musical Monday ka wait kar rahi thi š )
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yeah i know what you mean, no other way ot go .. i guess
oh i like that , yesssssssssssss the phrase so right 30 seconds š
thank you Chhavi.. musical monday next week I hope .. š
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Moving on is basically a step taken towards healing. No experience or person is larger than life itself. And, one has to learn from the experience and move forward. It will take some time to forgive, heal and be positive again. But, it is essential to not turn bitter or cynical. There are all kinds of people, some good, some bad, and we don’t always know what kind meet us. But, what we do have in our hand is to learn from any mistakes we commit so that the same heartbreak is not repeated. As long as our expectations are realistic and not dictated by movies or books:), there is a very real possibility that we will find someone in our life who will love us back for what we are or what we bring to their life. What is “happily ever after?” There is no such thing. We all find our happiness with our partner depending upon our understanding of our realities. Don’t go for the classic definition of love. Love evolves with time. It is not the sickening, sweet kind that we see in movies. It lies in real caring and sharing, fun and laughter, in agreements and disagreements, in being independent and dependent, in being practical and realistic!
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Yeah so true we need to learn from our experience and as you say move forward.
yeah agree to the fact that it will take time to heal , forgive i am not sure , as i do a lot ofthinking from my heart so its difficult maybe if i become a person I want ot and use my brains then i might do so .
heartbreak not repeated well we cant control it as the other party may be doing that , its their plan from day one .. how do we change that š
Thank you so much for this lovely comment so true.. Thank you Mam.
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You are right about the heartbreak. What I meant is avoid connecting with a similar kind of person or read their character better so that you don’t end up hurting yourself badly. Rest is fate!
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YEs its ok to say avoid but how do we figure it out that they are the bad ones …
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We dont know what quite hits us, Bikram, until it really hits us and hits us hard…….. and theres nothing one can do to preempt! Life has to go on!
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so very true.. SO TRUE. by the time we realise its too late i guess
life is going on for sure …
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Beautiful Post Bikram. I’d say moving on is to grab hold of the hope left in our heart for a great restart……and yes there is definately a bright morning after a dark lonely night!
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Thank you Sana.. how are you doing. Good to see you š
GLad you liked the post. I hope .. got lots of it …
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Every experience good or bad teaches us something and we move on armed with that knowledge.I take the solace in that I nevr exploit someone liike that,and if I am taken advantage of then may be I am too good..good for me.
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You are agood person mam, everyone is not as good as you especially in this world where every relation has some sort of hidden agenda behind.
Thank you.
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No person is perfect bikram,sometimes we have to compromise on something because you like the other qualities of the person….
Surely you will get a person who will love only you….
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yeah so true.. no one is perfect. Thank you for the wishes š
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You know what I have learnt? I have learnt that if we go looking for love, we’ll find anything but.
And that leads to a shitload of complications.
But when you meet that perfect person, it’ll all fall into place like it was always meant to be. Trust me when I say that it’s not just fiction. It happens. But only if we have the patience to wait till it happens:)
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SO very true.. life is funny we dont find what we are looking for š and complications are in bucket fulls ..
how do you know they are the perfect person š
patience that is one think i lack a lottttttttttttt dont have any
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That was a nonsense post with a lot of sense. Hope it cleared your mind and you moved on to better things in life…
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GLad you think of it that way. god willing i shall with all the good wishes from everyone š
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I totally agree with NRIGirl…I m sure the days will be brigther ahead… *metaphorically* š Sometimes it really bcomes essential to move on and yes it does mean picking up the pieces and not giving up on love but giving up on the person who was not worth it!
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I hope so tooo… hmmmmm
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Absolutely fantastic post. Very beautifully expressed and I always believe that someone somewhere is waiting for you who is only made for you so everybody gets their love.
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thank you so much. you arer right hope its not tooo late though š
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Bikram, everyone gets their due. Good deeds are always rewarded and bad deeds punished. That is the circle of life. It comes back to you. Happier times are waiting for you. And the best part is, the heart always knows when the person and the time is right. I guess some people try too hard. Let it go. It will come to you when you never expect it. š Thats Love. š
But then again, if you are willing to adjust, then the world is open for you. Pick and choose the one you can live with and learn to love and someone who can learn to love you back.
Be Happy that you didn’t end up with the wrong person yet! š
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I hope so tooo. happier times are always welcome.
Idont agree that heart knows if it knew why would there be all this chaos.. I want to think from MIND.. trying to
thank you so much for the lovely advice will keep in mind for sure ::) I am always happy
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I am confused about it myself…no idea what moving on means….,but I guess one has to keep the lesson and not repeat the same mistake twice?
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YEs thats what i think but why make the first mistake at all š
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Hey what’s wrong? Hope this is just another post, nothing personal.
But like how you said in the 1st para of your post, love and all our other relationships are circumstantial most of the times. We meet we click and we use each other, maybe for sex, money or just cause that someone makes us feel better, nicer. But as soon as something unrewarding or unexpected happens, we move away, rather move on. Most of the times, thinking, it was the other parties fault. There are times, the other person is also feeling the same. Maybe she started feeling the relationship was a drag, not loved enough, was being taken for granted. All these feelings could be a reason of some or the other external circumstance, or a third person. There could be a thousand reasons, whatever it maybe, it was nothing personal. Keep that in mind. And you also will move on. Last word though, Love is the most over-hyped emotion, more a myth then reality, especially TRUE LOVE! I’m sure you know all this, much better than me!
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Nothing personal š .. I have MOVED ON he he he he I wish š
I agree with you but then if they are feeling that way then they should try coming back maybe the wait if going on and its never tooo late to start over again .. as now you know what not to do with each other ..
TOTALLY agree with you LOVe is so very over hyped TRUE LOVE what is that ..
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You okay buddy?
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YEs I am thank you… š
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āEverything in Life comes with a lot of luggage…ā I think it’s otally true, and it’s up to each individual alone to make sure the luggage is full of chocolates and perfumes than stinking clothes that havent been washed in ages š
I really think it’s up to us!
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yessssssssssssssssssssssss and some alcohol too that helps tooo š and bit more foooooooddd š
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“Mitti Pao” is all thats coming to my mind….and makes me wonder if that was as easily doable as said.
“Bury”, “move on” – all these are just misnomers used when one has nothing else left to say to the person going through the situation.
Love or any other connection between 2 human beings comes with lot of emotional load … we can understand some signs, we can miss some …..but as long as we continue to LIVE and not drag….i think we are ok.
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not easily doable especially if u think from heart and are a idiot like me š
yes you are right.. i think and beleive there can never be a good reason to break a relation .. nothing is ever that hard to not make up .. if you love each other
Thank you.
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Bikram there is not one but many perfect people for each person. Sometimes it takes time to meet one, but in the meantime life can be lived and enjoyed, lessons learnt, moments cherished so that you grow as a person (that person is doing the same) and then you meet š
Have you Brida by Paulo Coelho?
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and then chaos unleashes he he he š
you are so right Thank you IHM.
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I guess the probability of meeting the wrong person is more than meeting the right (so called “the one”)…Heart-breaks are inevitable part of life (some gets their heart broken by BF/GF, some by friends and so on..) Some people might be lucky and find their life partner in one go but these aren’t many…but we all listen and hear about such people only…
Moving on in my opinion is nothing but after the grieving period, picking up broken pieces, learning from past experience and hoping for better… Moving on isn’t easy and everyone reaches at that stage on their own pace…
But till then, we all need a support system to bounce back and I hope that your support system is in place š
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Definitely what you say is right , we meet more wrong people then good people .. I hope i am one of those lucky ones š
Thank you so much.
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Bikram.. did I write this post? Is this my blog? I got confused š Because this is exactly how I feel… Even I dont understand this idea of “moving on”. What exactly do people mean by moving on? Just forget everything that happened and pretend as if nothing happened? It is easier for those who use and throw (like you said)
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š Now that i will take as a comliment .. because you write so nicely ..
Oh yes very easy for them as they are on to their NEXT Prey š
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I had written a similar post here
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Excellnet Will read it for sure š
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Omg Bikramji I missed reading your posts so much! And your mature perception to life! Your blog is doing so well! Glad to see that!
Now I’ll update myself with your old posts…I’ll go through the posts I’ve missed!
Keep posting!
Xoxo
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Yes you did and i also missed some of yours.. I did not realise that you have posted some too š
Good ot see you here again …
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“moving on” is the easiest advice that ppl give / or we ourselves try to console us with.
i can soo much relate to it; but it ain’t easy.
what does it mean by moving on?? how do we do dat ;
shd i close my eyes n pray that next time i open them ; i hav forgotten everythin
or one fine day mr perfect would meet me n i ll forget everythin.
Time ; time and loads of time n still i feel i might forgiv bt i ll nvr forget
n d signs which could hav indicated or saved me frm d disaster ; looked so positive that at that point that ; had i opened my eyes n seen clearly i would have understood that they are nt positive signs bt the ones which are rather scary ; bt the kind of dream world i got into everythin seemed hunky dory.
its easy to give advice ; all i hav learnt frm my exp is dat time is d best healer bt it doesnt still guarantees dat there wont be any marks left behind.
N u wat when we are in love ; even after all the disaster has happened ; even after knwin dat d person is using us etc etc some whr deep down like small childs dream we feel dat it ll all fine in smtime n will stay happily everafter
n then smbdy cms n says :”ae bacche tere sapne” n then d reality hits back.
i knw it sound foolish n mindless to ppl ; bt till d time i experienced it ; even i could nvr relate to it.
would pray fr u .
may you get peace soon
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Welcome ot this blog, thank you for visiting do keep coming ..
Yeah its so esy to say Move On.. Totally agree to what you are saying same thoughts here tooo.
Thank you for the lovely comment ..
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when you find your soulmate you will know its the one might take you a life time but there is one somewhere xxjen
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š THank you so much. I am sure there is one somewhere …
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One can never MOVE ON. I don’t know what it means. My only suggestion – DEAL with it i.e. LIVE with the pain or Learn if you cannot.
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I agree to what you say. it is true.. and Yes sire lesson learnt.
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That’s how life is.. Beautiful post man..
Someone is Special
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Thank you SIS.. š See you tomorrow š
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moving on. not easy, but definitely possible. i know i’ve done it a few times
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Hmmm I dont know what to say to that š
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all ss well
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Everything is Fine …
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i thought it all comes with a price tag… anyways… we got to carry things with something else attached…
is it really non-sense?? i m not too sure š
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OH YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSss you are so right there .. PRICE tag it is .. not jsut lost on heart I am a few quid at loss with money toooo š
dont know if its not you tell me is it non sense š
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Bikram!
Okay I am a girl who believes in the Dil Toh Pagal hai philosophy! You know the one where Madhuri says, that there always some one who is made for you.
Yes, we meet all kind of wrong people in our journey to find the one who we are supposed to be with in reality. But in the end we do find love.
Yes, I know that, I am sounding like a romantic, but I do believe in Love and believe that love finds you, one way or the other, it does.
And, when it does find you, you will look back at all the wrong turns that you took, ONLY to realise that all the wrong turns lead you to the right destination!
š
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Made me smile the first line you area girl he he he I did not say otherwise š he he he ok ok bad joke sorry ..
what madhuri said was in a movie that doesnot happen in REAL life .. š dont you think that we think of the person but when we meet them we take them to be the one but are they š
ok i have confused myself at what i jsut said BUt yes I am sure once we meet that person all this will be forgotten .. š
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Beautiful post Bikram..wishing you happier times ahead..I agree one can’t always move on..but only try and gather the strength to do so
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Thank you so much for the wishes.. š
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Firstly, I do hope everything works out well for you… this is quite an emotional post. Love is something that philisophers, poets, and all of the rest of humanity is trying to decipher. If you want a cut and dry answer, love is what a parent can do for their child. Its unconditional, and not compromised, whether you recieve it back or not. And when people say we are moving on, they just had not been in love in the first place; because you really cannot ‘move on’ from love. Have you ever heard of a mother ‘moving on’ from her child? And yes, there WILL be someone for you too – someone you will not move on from!!
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Everything is fine .. not t oworry š
Love is a word that is used too much and too often .. thas the problem
YESss the love of parents is true love .. and its hard to find otherwise from a someone else as they all come with some agenda …
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When the time is right, it happens..one has to be lucky in love though.And moving on is bull shit..what other option do we have in times of trouble?
The fact you are an optimistic person is a blessing.
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Hmm yes mam .. one has to be VERY lucky these days to find the better half the one who will be there trough thick and thin always …
yeah i agree exactly what other option do have none š
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“Love hurts like hell”
sometimes
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Oh yes More then HELL tooo š
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Bick..its sad!
I jus dint think that way ever…to move on..
its like.. do you wanna sulk all the time? all that crap that happened..Moving on is ..getting into routine and keeping in my mind not to make the same mistake..But be a wise person in future..
Every person gets ..for his or her own deeds…so you keep your conscience clear.
I never had any boyfriend š jus got married “ek jhatke mein “so dint know..
But playing with emotions …God can never be kind to those Cheaters.
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Harman.. YEha i get what you mean.. yeah oh i m sure i will be a wise person think a million times before this happens again š
Well you got marreid and then hada love affair š think of it that way he he he h
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This sounds good to me.
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Great š
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Yes,it sounds exellent to me.
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Thank you.
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I quite agree,most excellent writing.
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Thank you so much… Glad you liked it.
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I quite agree,most excellent writing by the way.
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I know it is not easy to forget when we are cheated, Bikram! But time will heal. That person will get her share in time!
In time, you will also get a good partner who will understand you and shower you will her whole hearted love. Remember everybody has got flaws and if both the parties understand this, they can be happy always.
I seem to be late here, Bikram, sorry!
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YEs MaM not easy.. heart and mind want to do things .. good or bad i dont know .. its jsut turmoil…
Dont worry about being late .. Oh ho why the sorry .. No dont please š
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Every crises is an opportunity
Think positive and you will see every thing falling in place.
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Chowla sir, YEs oppurtunity it is ..
thank you for the wishes …
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I had a strong feeling that all is fair in love.. but if you think so, there is lots of forgiving involved. All the not fair in love..Ah i am confused..
Moving on-all I can say is time has the power to heal..
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I thought so too.. but it is not fair.. is it ..
Time .. well who has seen time and does it really heal š
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Hello.
My first time visiting from Blogger by Passion group.
Some heartfelt expressions & insightful comments here.
Life is a journey we must all travel. It’s a journey filled with laughter, sadness, happiness, love & ends with our death. I am a firm believer in love. It’s what I know, what I write about & who I am. We are all imperfect humans and although there is no such thing in this life as perfection, when two people can grow in body, spirit, mind, heart & love, it’s as close to perfection as we can get in an imperfect world.
Love on the other hand is perfect. Love never changes nor does it die at the doorsteps of death. It’s not love that fails us but we imperfect humans with our fickle hearts & emotions that disappoint love. You can’t rush love…it does not know time, season or age.
Granted, love may not be for some & when you give your heart to someone who then turns around and
breaks it, you will hurt, feel betrayed & question what’s the point. But remember…we were created to love and be loved in return. Time heals all or at least dims the pain of hurt.
You seem like a decent fellow with a good heart. Be patient and love will find you in its own good time and in a way when you least expect it. Always keep your heart open & receptive to love. It’s the best feeling we as humans can ever experience.
My best wishes to you, my friend.
Thanks for sharing.
My blog: Thoughts Of Beauty In The Stillness Of Dawn
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Welcome ot this blog.. thank you for visiting .. Good to see you here ..
Thanks for all the wishes … Yes we were creatred and we want love for love but it is not a ggood feeling to be otherwise …
Thank you so much.
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Its life … life testing a person bit by bit .. life making the person stronger… and stronger … till the person is so strong to withstand anything….
Strong enough to offer solace to someone else …. Strong enough to make a change to someone else
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Hmm yeah life is such it tests us at all phases. I hope it has made me stronger though… but i dont want ot have any of these again … š
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You will not have the experience again .. coz next time you will be more careful, and will also understand a person better !
For sure .. it’d have made you stronger
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Hey Bikram, these are nice thoughts…congrats..
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Thank you Tomz.
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uhh honestly dis post mks me a wee bit uncomfortable. possibly bcos its a light tone wid a lot of substance n sumwhr down it rings a chord dat i dont completely want to acknowledge.
š®
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Hmm thank you. š I guess a lot of people have been through ups and downs …
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Hello There…. a very good read…. and totally can relate to it… to me ‘Move on’ means.. don’t stop or lose heart… Make the most out of the situation…. There are 2 options you can do… if you have the guts in you to do it , make a drastic change and keep looking or waiting for that one love… or the other way which is to go through with it… make the most of it even in a crappy situation… Its you choice….
Good luck to you…. :-)…
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Hi there .. thank you for visiting this blog … wlecome here and please do keep visitng š
I know what you mean and thanks for the wishes …
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Whatever happens happens for a reason and happens for the best!! I rembr my prof telling me “the buns that take the longest to bake are the sweetest”…..I had to wait for two years to meet my partner, took four months to fall in love, then another 2 months to realize that I was in love, then another month to make my family understand, and then had to wait for 10 months to get married!!
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Hmm yeah i understand what all happens for a reason and for best but this is or was not best .. then how cum.
and I like that line the buns that take long as the sweetest..
Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy for youuuuuuuuu š
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There is truth in the saying that everyone attracts the right person to lead their lives happily or unhappily together. Sometimes if we are lucky we find the right person, well for those who have not met their perfect match, the wiser and saner person molds himself / herself to suit the person, and live a make believe life as peacefully as possible. Now you might say why should a person mold himself or herself and pretend to be happy, the answer is it could be for various reasons, it could be for family, security, children etc.
I have some friends and relatives both men and women, who have been living like this for years with partners who don’t understand them at all, but yet these people have changed themselves for they have understood that it is better to change themselves than trying to change others. They have only one more option, which is to leave the person, but mostly they choose not to, for they somehow feel that it is better to be with a known devil and than a unknown devil.
It is also true that when the right time comes the right person will be waiting there for you. Strange, but true, two different ideas, but both have happened and can happen again anytime.
But one thing is also sure, if you have strong belief or can cultivate a strong belief, that you deserve the very best in life, then will get the very best only.
If we want to change our present situation, we should be willing change ourselves, by thinking positive, to move out of the situation, to move on with lesson learnt and take a different path.
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SO true t make the change one needsto change themself.. š thank you so much for the lovely comment .. i totally undestand and beleive so too…
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Yes, it does hurt, terribly… and when it does, non or nothing seems to help. Takes time and during this time you grow up a bit, learn a bit to move on… to take on life anew/afresh. Time always helps in preparing you for the move forward hence…..
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Yeah you are so right … Lets hope we do grow up and learn
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Came here through a friend(sis)…well written post.Yes,move on..life needs more love š
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Thank you so much for visitng , do keep visiting š Thank you yes need lot of love ..
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Worse than someone using you is the feeling that you were used.
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You said the right thing.. This is what is killing ME all the time being used .. you touched the core here
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Life and love is very complex but in a lifetime there will be that special person that comes along, yes sometimes that person you thought was the one, wasn’t (Is this comment going to be a jumbled up jigsaw of lost pieces and empty ramblings I hear you say? Well possibly :))
The complexities that surround all of our lives is not always so easy to fathom, and love is even harder to understand sometimes but there comes a moment when both soul-mates are found at the same exact time, and once that happens all the ifs and buts, the in betweens and the grey areas that clog the very foundations of a loving existence fades into nothing, and in its place there is an optimistic and most positive beginning my friend…
If you haven’t already, then I hope that you find yours soon my friend…
Androgoth
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kisne kiya yeh atyaachaar aapke saath..naam batao-abhi bhai ko supari dete hoon;-)
love is an over hyped emotion in the present times Biky when all relationships breathe under pressures of shelf life and external attractions…sometimes things work n sometimes they don’t…but i believe whatever gave you happiness even for a short while,should be looked back with joy and bury the sorrow…”move on” is painful but time and life leaves us with little choice:-)
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š haanji see see kya kya hua mere saath .. aur aapne poocha tak nahin .. Nahinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn … š lai supari kyun deni USke LIYE to mere HAAAATH hi kaafi hai .. MUUU HA HA HA HA
So true Love is a hyped up so much, exactly true shelf life it is , pity i did not know it but hey they say you leanr something new each day I TOO LEARNT:)
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Its only during our moments of despair, we dwell on the hows and why of life. And I believe every moment in our life has an intent. And don’t most of use each other?
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Well yeah true , sadly thats what world has come to , using the other for personal gain .. and some give it the name of LOVE…
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if i loved someone and if it turned out to be one sided .. i would still say its not my loss but of other person as its easy to love someone but very difficult to get love from others!!!
but i would still love that person .. no matter he/she accepts it or not .. love happens from heart not from mind!!!
regards
rahul
http://www.rahul-aggarwal.blogspot.com
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Hi Rahul, Welcome to this blog, thank you so much for visiting … DO keep coming back ..
I do agree with what you say, You will love that person as you said its waht you felt from heart .. But i was more like talking on the move on exactly my point how do you move on .. you will always remmeber and wish it was what was thought of .. the way it shud have been
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Wow…I would like to babble out some wise advice here but it all sounds so cliche. You have to remember with each step we do grow and get wiser and screw the bad ones. They just remind me how good of a friend wife,family member I strive to be. It’s hard the lessons we have to learn but just be yourself and I feel sorry for them not being in your life.
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thank you so much, I feel sorry for them too now ā¦ I am sure you are doing a brilliant job ā¦
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š thank you so much, I feel sorry for them too now … I am sure you are doing a brilliant job …
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Hmmm this psot seems loaded with lotta undercurrent fellings, lotaa hurt…
Well what can I say except tht good times are jus round the corner… Behind evbey dark cloud is a silver lining
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Oh I am sure about that and god willing they are already here
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[…] nonsense post on love, to which I would offer him the following uninvited […]
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Read some where in facebook,
1. (Men are like “BlueTooth” he is connected to you when you are nearby, but searches for other devices when you are away…
Women are like Wi-Fi, she sees all available devices but connects to the strongest one.)
2. (GIRL:My heart is like a mobile and you are the sim card
BOY:I m very happy. . .
Gal:dont b too happy. . . If I get a new offer I will change the sim card.. )
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-08-31/man-woman/29945630_1_cruel-things-women-cry-drinks
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/7814010/Men-suffer-more-emotional-pain-from-failed-romance-report-claims.html
http://www.menarebetterthanwomen.com/top-ten/
MOVING ON is not that much simple as said, almost impossible. guys are more emotional and sensitive than girls., history tells the truth.
Sorry if my comment or message hurts anyone.
nice post.
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Hello Mr. Veera Ranganath Sagar
Let me tell you one thing after knowing about your escapades and the way you are going about I dont blame the Women on Wi Fi.
They are better that way …
I have read a few of your emails and comments That you have written at places .. Which is not what a MAN does .. I have this great wish in my heart to meet you sometime and also publis the emails you have written and rest of the stuff , so people know what you are and how you are …
Do keep visiting and its pleasure reading your thoughts ..
Bikramjit Singh Mann.. you have my email and You have my phone number too
Do pick up your fone when I call you next … I will be visiting India again soon and I would love to meet you .. and If you cant make it give me your home address , I can visit you at your home.
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I don’t know whether this answers the question ‘what is love’ or ‘what is Bikrams’ experience of love’ š – I wonder if you wrote this today would it be any different??!!
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It is so funny , I have a post that i wanted to publish on what you have said .. When it was written it was definitely my experience.. But then I have not been very lucky … fingers crossed lets see what happens
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