Week gone by – Learnings

Posted: July 1, 2011 in Angry, Answer, Celebrations, Good times, My Thoughts., Shameless, Soch, What the F__, Women
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The last post I did was a week ago, I have never been like this not to post anything especially with the wonderful ideas of Wordless Wednesday and Thursday challenge, you at least get Two post a week , But it did not work out for me for this week…Β  I got a lot of posts in my draft, I have opened them to see if I can finish them off but not that lucky somehow after a few days the chain of thought disappears .. Ah well 😦

Week gone by has been interesting a few ups and downs .. Learnt a good lesson one being that Money is not everything and people who are rich and posh do have a clip on their shoulders and no matter what they say the I am superior or the arrogance factor does come into one with money.

This is what happened well this is my side of the story so I may be wrong , I had a wedding to attend on sunday,Β  The family are rich VERY RICH had about 1200+ people invited , though the hall booked was not big enough , soon the AC gave way and we were sweating.

I was sitting on a table with a couple of my friends one kid when two families came and sat with us , the ladies about 4 of them well wellΒ dressed , I would not need to ROB a BANK to be rich could have just robbed them forΒ they had enough gold on them to make me rich… At one stage the thought did come to my mind to follow the ladies and somehow get my hands on those jewelled necklaces AH LA AmitabhΒ bachan style trying to steal the necklace off the princess whatever movie that was ..

They were talking fine all was going well till the FOOD came, now what had happened was there was a kid sitting on one chair who was having something in the plate , he went away to some other table , Now this Ladies Kid came late and sat on the same seat .. (YOU WITH ME READERS πŸ™‚ )…Β  but the plate was dirty … so the starters came we were having them and enjoying but this poor kid was waiting for a new plate to come ..

So many guests.. not many to serve, the coming of the new plate was taking its time …

Anyway the Non-Veg starters finished the kid could not have any, So I got up and went to the kitchen to get him a plate, got him that .. Now we needed food, So one of my friends called a waiter and asked him to get us another tray , about 10 minutes later a tray came over, I got the tray and handed over to the kid to put as much as he wants which he did.. the lady I am assuming his mum or grand mum.. took the tray and put it next to her , after the kid had his fill I got up to pick the trey πŸ™‚ Well this is when this lady looked at me , Caught hold of the Tray and Says “Eh SaadeΒ Lai hai”..Β  (This is for US)

I was shocked WHAT.. you might be thinking what am iΒ saying but iΒ did not expect her to behave like that you are sitting on a table where we all share the food, I mean it’s just food can always ask them to get more , I mean in indian wedding food and drink is never short and in our culture you generally get to eat as much as you want ..

Maybe I am wrong but i did feel a bit awkward, WON’T YOU PEOPLE πŸ™‚

What made me smile was when she and the kid could not eat any more she looks at me and says I can have it , I said no thank you πŸ™‚ One of my friends was helping with the serving,Β  He brought us fresh and steaming food again, So I asked the woman here she can have more .. πŸ™‚Β  don’t know if i did right or wrong but I did feel this is not the right way to behave especially when you are sitting on a big table and all are sharing food.. Tell me if I am wrong ?

I also felt that if the Lady was so worried about the kid , why could she not share her Plate with him, I mean does it matter her son or grandson , I mean I am sure all you mom’s there would not mind in giving your plate to the little kid or even sharing the same plate. She was busy enjoying the food all the time without giving a piece to the kid.

So one might have money but one can’tΒ buy manners with that money πŸ™‚ ..

That was that..Β  The rest of the week was very busy with lot of work and things happening , there was the Take That concert in Birmingham so had a lot of work with that..

Thankfully its Friday today .. Weekend is here and I am going toΒ LONDONNnnnnnnnnnnnnnnΒ πŸ™‚ till monday night , It is work but but but evenings and nights is with my cousins so for a change all 5 of us will be together for 2 nights in london .. so cheers to that …

Thank you to many who have emailed asking If i was alive and why I did not post although it was only a week Thank you , yes thank you for your love everyone , I am alive I am sure everyone will know when I am no more πŸ™‚

Have a great Weekend Everyone .. smile haveΒ fun and eat a lotttttΒ I would say drink too causeΒ that’s whats going to happen this side and this time hopefully no one will want to eat the whole tray πŸ™‚

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  1. Chatterbox says:

    Some people really forget basic manners in public gatherings 😦
    Good on you for being so kind and considerate for the little kid πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€
    Have a fantastic weekend in London and keep posting πŸ˜€

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  2. Shilpa Garg says:

    People and their eccentricities! 😐
    You have a great weekend too! πŸ™‚

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  3. Rama Ananth says:

    I really liked this post. Poor kid at least you got him a plate and food. Have a great time in London.

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  4. R's Mom says:

    Errr…I am sure the lady was not related…if she was the mom and she was like me..well I love my food, but I share it with my child..and if she was the grandmom, no she definitely cant be the grandmom..because grandmothers NEVER eat without giving their grandchildren food πŸ™‚

    and why were you wrong…didnt you get up to feed that kid…bah! to that lady

    and you enjoy the weekend with your cousins and have loads of fun okie?

    PS you couldnt figure out whether the lady was mum or grandmum..wow! in my case, I am sure with the kind of white hair I am sprouting..people are going to ask R if I am her grandmom in the next 5 years πŸ™‚

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    • Bikram says:

      No she was , I think she was the grand mother, cause the kid was a about 9-10 and the lady seemed in high 50’s .. if not then they were from the same family ..
      I love my food but even then i share with anyone … haanji baah to the lady πŸ™‚ thank you

      Yes plan to have some fun tooo along with work … lets see he he he he Oh cum on i ma sure thats not the case I bet they will be asking R who is the lovely lady with you πŸ™‚

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  5. Reema says:

    it should be a “chip” not clip. i didn’t get it..what does “eh saade lai hai” mean?

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  6. knot2share says:

    Some really interesting people out there!

    Have a good weekend!

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  7. Hmm.. Bikram happy journey.. and some people behave as such in public places. We can’t do anything to stop them.. nice post..

    Someone is Special

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you ..
      I dont know why they got ot behave like that its was only food end of the day and it was not that it finished there was plenty more …

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  8. Sandhya says:

    Weird people! They are teaching the kid dirty manners!

    Have a happy weekend…visit Kew gardens!

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    • Bikram says:

      Yeah I hope they were not thinkng the same about me that i was the weird one, may be this is the NORM πŸ™‚

      Thank you .. Yes will try to do that tooo lets see if i manage to do it .. Got a lot of things to do

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  9. Ohh …such people are not rare , SADLY.

    I have seen parents gobbling up food like anything n saying that the kid does not eat what to do…they just do not ask the kid or just ignore that the kid might need something else..and with strangers we have the right to be rude and selfish . Isn’t it?

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    • Bikram says:

      yeah true not rare we find them often πŸ™‚

      in this case she wanted to fill her stomach first i think …
      yepp what you say is true πŸ™‚

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  10. NRIGirl says:

    Hard to believe the lady’s mentality …

    Enjoy in London! Nice to see you back!

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    • Bikram says:

      It was more of arrogance the show off factor that oh we are so rich blah blah .. i dont give a damn about that …

      Hoping ot hoping to have some fun along with work lets see what I can manage to do ….

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  11. well ,nice to know a good heart in u.poor kid he didnt’ even recieve a proper meal.and the AB’S movie was don:))

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  12. magiceye says:

    ah people!!
    have a super weekend!!

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  13. Alka says:

    Good manners are all about putting up with the bad ones!

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  14. Haha! That *is* a nice idea for a post! Interesting people in one week! πŸ™‚

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  15. IRFANUDDIN says:

    its all about manner and sense of satisfaction i think…..and unfortunately you encountered with people who were missing both of these……..

    anyways….CHADD YAAR…..forget them and enjoy the weekend…have lot of funnnnn…..eat a lottttttt……buttttttt drink little bit……. πŸ™‚

    Long Live Bikram…..!!!

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    • Bikram says:

      Yes Irfaan its all about that ..

      Ok CHADD ta πŸ™‚ had a gala time this weekend , how will it be when 6 cousins meet after ages and that too all in same age group and then more friends turn up.. the neighbours had a bad night I can tell you that much πŸ™‚

      ATe a lot and did drink too.. but we were all at home did not go out so all is welll

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  16. sm says:

    everyone got his own style and one has to keep improving
    like your question

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  17. Punam J R says:

    hmmm
    HMMMM… !!!
    That is ALL I can manage..

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  18. Ria says:

    Weird ppl in this world i say!! Anyways have a ge8 weekend.

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  19. Looks like you had a great week. He he… Such insensitive, naive and selfish people do exist. Sad that you came across one too this week. Cheer up! Have a lovely weekend. πŸ™‚

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  20. deeps says:

    Hope you too have a nice weekend in London and enough time to convert those drafts into superb posts πŸ˜›

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  21. Aathira says:

    Thats certainly very impolite …as you say, you can’t really buy manners!

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you .. yeah worst its Rude and especially for food which one is getting free and not ot pay for and as such it is for sharing … πŸ™‚

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  22. Sharmila says:

    Hi Bikram …

    That’s exactly what my friend say “one can’t bring neither brain or manners with money” n one can see a demo everyday in Delhi …. True !!

    … as with that mom – i have to say i actually haven’t seen or known any mom like that. Even at weddings … they (moms) make sure her child is happy – the occassion when they get irritate is when the children spoil their clothes with food … btw nice exprience u had πŸ˜‰

    So enjoy London !

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you so much, your friend is so very right. Me either i have not seen a mother like that ..
      yes you are right they make sure kids have first .. I guess this one did not get food often at home so was making the most of it.

      Yes I had a good time in london

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  23. suruchi says:

    auron de galan chadho….i liked that u went into the kitchen to get the boy a plate…awwww…tussi sach mein hero-shero ho:-)
    and there was a Take That concert-wow, tussi “lucky” hero bhi ho
    weekend break pe bhi ja rahe ho…have fun:-)

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    • Bikram says:

      haanji .. thank you thank you .. aaap na mere ko bahut hi badha chadha dete ho.. itns bhi Good nahin hoon main ….

      Take that concert I was working ji πŸ™‚ so not that great …
      lucky kahan hoon woh padosan still not talking ot me he heheeheh πŸ™‚

      Weekend pe LOTS OF FUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

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  24. deepa says:

    Aah well … it takes all kinds to make a world , doesnt it ?

    Like my mom says … your nature always stays with you … no amount of money or power can change that …

    A dog’s tail cant be straightened, and neither a leopard’s spots removed !

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    • Bikram says:

      Yes it does all kinds of people make this world some good some bad …
      yes true you are what u are always will be .. money cant change that …

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  25. Madhu says:

    Gosh! This lady really sounds like she needs lessons of etiquette! Good thing you asked her if she wants some fresh food when the server came with fresh food.
    On a side note, even though the wedding was big, looks like they havent really planned well.

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    • Bikram says:

      I know she does .. does she not …
      She did not take more I was hoping she would πŸ™‚

      No it was not planned properly too many people invited but then they have a huge family and i guess it would happen again too

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  26. Terrible manners, sometimes I wish we could just tell them that right then. And I doubt if she was the child’s mother or grandmother – normally families ensure that children are eating before they start eating…

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    • Bikram says:

      I wish too IHM, and I really do wish but my manners dont let me say it ..
      she was definitely related to the kid , I know thats why i was surprised .. I think it was the need to eat or food ..

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  27. But Bikram it has nothing to do with money, ill mannered people remain will ill mannered even if all their money were to be taken away 😦

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    • Bikram says:

      Hmmm I know what you are saying, but then money and too much money makes the head go wild tooo , some people get a big head πŸ™‚ thank you IHM

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  28. banupriya says:

    Ya such people do exist; but such moms existing – hearing it for the first time. Yup you did the right thing. Its ok now and then to give a fitting reply to people who doesnot know how to be polite to someone who had helped.

    Have a great outing Bikram Ji!!And ya drinks and food within limit and now you got to be sure of making the right limit as well. πŸ™‚ a fantastic weekend to you.

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    • Bikram says:

      Hmmmm I know i was surprsied tooo..
      Thanks for saying i did the right thing πŸ™‚

      Thank you and please whats this “JI”.. not that BUDHA you know .. abhi to main jawaan hoon he he he

      Yes the right limit .. Will keep in mind …

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  29. Purbaray says:

    I am more worried about the young boy – the kind of values he’s imbibing from this lady of an indeterminable age.

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  30. Chhavi says:

    You did the right thing, Bikram. I hope it drills some sense into that lady’s head. πŸ™‚ πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ He he he…
    Have a great weekend. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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  31. Sapna says:

    Hmmm Manners do not come with money in fact some times manners disappear to make way for money.

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  32. Onkar kedia says:

    People can be very very discourteous when it comes to food.

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  33. Rachna says:

    Pretty ill mannered, and really not sharing with the kid. I would happily go hungry and give all my food to my sons anyday. Besides, who actually says no I can’t give you this food. In India, we still offer water and food to anyone. You are right, money can’t buy class and etiquette along with love :). I was only quoting the Beatles song!

    Anyway, hope your weekend went well.

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    • Bikram says:

      YEs so she was. I know most women would, EXACTLY who says no and that too when its been given for sharing and not for alone and also when I was the one who actually ordered more for them and got them the plate .. and also knowing that no way can they eat it all .

      YEs weekend went FAB.. still hungover he he he

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  34. bhagyareema says:

    U said u don’t know about compassion right (in my last post) but aren’t you one of the most compassionate fellow around πŸ˜‰
    Its the era of the selfish, Mann. Whatever you did was right, forget what she did. We can check our conduct, as for others, let them go to hell

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    • Bikram says:

      I know but being compassionate has not got me anything good so trying desperately to know the ways of the world… πŸ™‚
      as you said era of selfishness and each ot there own. YEah I did let her go to hell I aint stopping her from going there πŸ™‚

      Thank you so much

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  35. Been missing your posts of late. Feels wonderful to be back! Thanks for your support!

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  36. Looks like the lady likes her jewels and food more than her kid!

    Destination Infinity

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  37. Deboshree says:

    Strange are the ways of the world. Stranger are its people.That must have been a lunch you are not likely to forget anytime soon. πŸ˜€

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    • Bikram says:

      I know .. exactly my thoughts on what you said .. strange people around …

      the wedding i went to they have another wedding coming up in 3 weeks time , So i am bound to see the lady again …

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  38. Chakoli says:

    Welll public manners can never be expected in public πŸ˜€

    grt that u came up with post πŸ˜€

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  39. kavita says:

    Sometimes these social events are best place to learn true colors of people. Nice that you were so sweet to the kid .Proud of you .

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    • Bikram says:

      Yeah places like these you see the other side of people sometimes .. THank you so much , I learn from all you lovely people around Thank you πŸ™‚

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  40. Jo says:

    Very rightly said Bikram!
    Not very proud to say…but this is how we’re. Its a pity that education and riches don’t necessarily make people well mannered, rather it increases their rude and nuisance quotient. And I’m afraid, this is more true in the Indian context.
    Anyhow…you have a great time πŸ™‚

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    • Bikram says:

      YEah indeed pitiful state , Money makes the head bigger i think and they think jsut because they have money they got the right to be RuDE .. and you are right a trait with us indians ..

      Thank you i did have a good time πŸ™‚

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  41. Strange people !! But then that’s how the world is especially us Indians

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  42. Elegant Chic says:

    What a selfish lady! Ewww!!! 😑

    How was your weekend Biks?

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    • Bikram says:

      Yes i know .. My weekend was a blast πŸ™‚ will write about it soon had a fun time after ages and with all cousins around together after ages it felt refreshed

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  43. dr.antony says:

    This was interestng,but not surprising.At the hospital where I work,we have get together and I haave found some of my doctor colleagues eating as much in a rush,and then stacking on to extra plates to take home.reason is simple,it is free!
    Bikram I had some difficulties to post on this blog.

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    • Bikram says:

      Sir, Oh my really .. that is sad …

      Hmm I have no idea why the problem with the blog, I will ask someone to have a look I am not very good at this … Thank you sir for trying though πŸ™‚

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  44. A says:

    Sorry. Late. I was too busy over the weekend for preparation and parties.

    There are a lot of selfish people.

    How was London?

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  45. ..very nice…this is the best this is the best thing to see in weddings and parties..
    Table manners,eating habits and “FUKRAPAN” lol
    I enjoy a lot and my hubby keeps staring at me and smiling …”jab isharon mein hamaari baat hotih hai”
    I love indian punjabi weddings ..kinda so colourful in every way…
    last party I went,this guy waz totally drunk he couldn’t handle the serving spoon ,instead of goin into the tray it was goin here and there:)
    it waz fun watching this!
    ha haa haaa..
    hope you have fun ,and keep in touch with another wonderful post.

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    • Bikram says:

      Thank you Harman.. I was waiting for that work FUKRAPAN offcourse thats all it is ..
      and i like that Isharon waali baat ahmm ahmm ahmmm πŸ™‚ he he he he

      I love going ot weddings too but to the ones where i know people and family then I can do what i want to and enjoy … I have never got drunk at a wedding .. well cant afford to Got to drive back home so drink only that is allowed ..

      I did have fun it ended too soon wanted it to las for a week or more

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  46. shail says:

    I can’t believe this Biks. Are you sure the lady and kid were related?! Whatever it is, tsk tsk tsk, what bad manners!!

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  47. Tanvi says:

    Nice post! Thankfully its a friday, freaky friday πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    Cheers,

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  48. Manner are something alien on desi weddings. I remember the last time I attended a wedding, was literally shoved like a ping-pong by the ladies running for food. *Shakes head*
    great read, enjoyed it!

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    • Bikram says:

      Welcome ot this blog .. thank you for visiting me …
      oh I could imagine the ping pong game he he he πŸ™‚

      Thank you keep visting please πŸ™‚

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  49. Nirvana says:

    hehehe…. Yeah, you are right – money has nothing to do with manners or even plain humanity. The post brought a smile to my face…. and what you did (offering her more food) was the best answer !!

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    • Bikram says:

      THank you so much , yeah well if it was a guy i would have a word or two with him but with a lady i did not know what to say so offereing more food.. πŸ™‚

      I talk os much about money and all I hope when i win lottery (fingers crosed he he he) I dont have a big head

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  50. mahlaqa says:

    these are the bounties of easy money Bikram jee, ppl get rich in no time and well manners can never be learned overnight πŸ™‚

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    • Bikram says:

      aap ek kaam karo πŸ™‚ bikram kahiye yaan JEE kahiye .. not together , Bikram looks better πŸ™‚ PLEASE …
      you are right manners cant be learnt overnight

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  51. mahlaqa says:

    lol, okay Bikram would do, actually there was a very nice reader from Punjab he used to address me as madam jee, n it sounded so sweet of him u know, n i felt the ppl from Punjab the Sikhs specially are sweet, so i just acquired this formalistic attitude from them πŸ™‚

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  52. yeah weddings are unusual places with even more unusual ppl. & by unusual i mean both gud b bad. in ur case this wedding seems to have left a bad aftertaste

    hope the child’s smile of thank you made ur day

    btw, ur comments section is lengthier than ur post. took me a while to scroll all d way down to pen my thoughts

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    • Bikram says:

      Welcome to this blog, thank you for vvisting please do keep coming .. Sorry you had to scroll πŸ™‚
      yes we meet unusual people .. the wedding was fine its the people on my table who were not and the kid was same he did not say thank you .. he was too busy eating but then he was jsut a kid 10-11 years old i dont mind that, he picked it from his elders πŸ™‚

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  53. Novroz says:

    I guess we were busy at the same time πŸ˜‰
    I didnt realize you are off for a week. My posts in my turtle’s page are all scheduled post because I had an education fair to attend, I had no time to blog 😦

    Hahaha you said all the truth. I have also seen many rich kids (as I am a teacher) that have manner lower than those kids with less money.

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