Archive for May, 2010

Relations

Posted: May 11, 2010 in Dosti, Friends, relation

Sometimes it is heard , I myself have written in my blog sometimes That its when you loose someone that you get to know what hey meant or how happy etc you are.. But I would like to take those words back.. Its not always the case , sometimes its the BEST thing to happen.. Though at the earlier stage you might feel that end of world.. and How you gonna survive .. what you gonna do ..

But I have had a very good experience, and I am so glad its over, and Happy its over Now rather then a year down or two … IT WAS NOT WORTH IT.. rather I regret now to have got into such sort of relation… It all comes out What you actually meant to the other..

The person you actually thought was telling you the truth in the end it turns out that THANK GOD… Now it makes me mad at the thought WHat the hell was I doing.. Why did I get so blind sighted at the lies I was being told, all the time.. It makes me paranoid now thinking that I was probably the laughing stock at that moment.

What was I doing, How could I befool myself for so long a time , was I too blind to see the symptoms or the way things were going ..

Then on other hand it also makes me MAD and ANGRY that how can someone do this and get away with it .. Should we let them get away with it.. A lot of people say its good , its over , but the pain or the anguish caused was it for anything.. And If I am hurt or in pain then why does it show me BAD if i retaliate…

Do we not retailiate when someone slaps us , or hurls abuses at us .. We dont ignore it DO WE…

Then my point is it wrong if I want to have my revenge sorts, Why is that BAD… Why does it make me a Bad person.. WHY

Wherever I see, I find my friends everywhere. Visibly or indirectly, I see them all around me

The last few days a lot has happened and the recent things that happened in my personal life have made me ask myself a few questions

1. What is FRIENDSHIP/ FRIENDS ?.
2. Do we respect our FRIENDSHIP/ FRIENDS ?.

How do you show respect towards your friend, Or see if they respect you ?

Is SAYING That I RESPECT you same as SHOWING respect ?

To me a friend is who would stand by you, no matter what, right or wrong is something to think about after the need has got over.. A friend in need is a friend indeed that’s how we respect our friendship, Good friends stand by you Right or wrong.. That is not the criteria here at the moment.. The moment is that your friend needs you and You are there.. THAT TO ME IS FRIENDSHIP…

I feel that you respect it when you can Tell them how you feel and ask them how they feel directly, rather than assuming… Respect is shown when you See the whole world walk out and a few Walk IN FOR YOU.

Friends are someone who accept you the way you are, who know all your good-bad things but still are with you, They are the people who would rather be with you then be somewhere else..

Pride should not come between friends it doesn’t matter who says sorry. I know friendships change, people change , priorities change.. No matter what you do there will be tiffs, there will be people who wont want to be friends to you, OR who would for a matter be just polite to you , take you for granted. The toughest job in this world is changing somebody’s mindset.

How Easy it is to break away and spoil a friendship. The friendship that can cease has never been real is what I think, All these years of my life I have thought that all I have earned is friends, since working my arse off hasn’t made me a millionaire yet, so yeah I am being selfish 🙂 since no money so lets change the topic and go to Friendship Cause that’s what I have earned so far in my life.

There can never be a GOOD reason for Breaking a Friendship.. NEVER

I am proud and can honestly say I got friends almost all over the world now , which is GOOD cause I don’t have to stay in Hotels anymore and Spend the money THAT I HAVE NOT EARNED YET or should I say Saved yet. I have been to Chicago, vancouver, Australia, Singapore, Thailand, California , Virginia, Mumbai loads and loads of place and guess what yeah FREE ACCOMMODATION AND FOOD (and psssttt Drink tooo yayyyy) … ha ha ha I am not sure if the people whom I stayed with , did actually think I was being a CHEAPSKATE… Anyway I am sure they will read this blog so You dare say I overstayed 🙂

Anyway the reason for writing this blog was that I have been very distressed lately cause of a few things, I know I am stupid and Not THAT great a person (ab cant say i am good myself can I :).. wink wink hint hint ), and its been hurting me every since. How people change in a moment, how they suddenly just go off at the press of a switch. Do they even think what effect they are having by being the way they are or does it even matter to them.

Now I have been wondering maybe I was wrong.

Was it that when they first talked to me it was for the sake of it ?

Was it that when they laughed with me at first it was for formality sake ?

This really pisses me off about people , like the famous dialogue of a movie ,

SOCHTE KUCH HAIN,
KARTE KUCH HAIN,
DIKHATE KUCH HAIN..
HOTA KUCH AUR HI HAI..

Why are they like that, Why are people so selfish. OR AM I TOO NAIVE.. and STUPID and SILLY still thinking of them. It really pains me cause for me a relation is a relation.

There are these very nice words I heard somewhere

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

FRIENDS are those who know all about you and STILL LIKE YOU..
FRIENDS are people Who Matter in your life, there are a lot of people we will meet Who NEVER DID, Who always Will and Who wont matter anymore, So don’t worry about people from PAST.. there is a REASON they didn’t make to your future… But the people who are with you all this time are FRIENDS.

Hmmmm I am in a funny mood … Feeling a bit nostalgic about home. emotional, feel like crying…

Why is it felt bad when a man cries, I dont think there is any harm in that anyway today i dont want to discusss this , else i will go on a tangent again.. and miss the point…

I was driving my old car, I bought it with my first salary here in Uk, its 9 years old now , its become a old banger now, but I have it , Everyone says i need to sell it off but NA, I am going ot keep it Got emotions attached to it , So i use it day in day out, It has never given me any trouble what so ever.. EVER… runs like a wind… I have another car I imported from India 🙂 yeah silly me, but I am like that. Its a Tata safari, But I dont use it that often… I am in love with my mitsubishi carisma…

I did go on a tangent there .. so I was saying Driving, I was listening to some songs when this song hit me

Chad chad chanda sohniya, tun kar roshniyaan ve
vekh ke tainu,watan diyaan kuch yadaan aiyaan ve
nahin bhulaiya bhuldiyaan , piplaan diyaan chavaan oye

SOHNE DESH PUNJAB TO MAIN SADKE JAVAAN OYE
SOHNE WATAN PUNJAB TON MAIN SADKE JAVAAN OYE

(rise oh moon, and spread some light, seeing you reminds me of my hometown, cant forget the shadows of the trees, beautiful punjab , my punjab)

Chan de naloon Sohniyaan , mere Pind diyaan galiyaan
Galiyaan de which KHED ke kuch Rijhaan Paliyaan
Haani mere haan de MERE DIL DE JAANI
jithe bachpan bitiyaa te Chadhi jawaani..
Oh bachpan bitiyaa Main kiven bhulavaan

SOHNE DESH PUNJAB TO MAIN SADKE JAVAAN OYE
SOHNE WATAN PUNJAB TON MAIN SADKE JAVAAN OYE

My village streets are much good looking than the moon itself, the street where i spent my childhood and became a young man.. The streets in where I played having all those wishes-wants in my heart. My friends , the kids of my age, how do i forget them the guys the people I love from my heart
How can I ever forget the streets where I spent my childhood

akhiyan moohre khedde oh khushiyan Khere
Chal Manna uth chaliye sajna de wehde
Sajna baaj na Sohndiyaan eh Sohniyaan thavaan oye

SOHNE DESH PUNJAB TO MAIN SADKE JAVAAN OYE
SOHNE WATAN PUNJAB TON MAIN SADKE JAVAAN OYE

I can still see the fun and frolic happening in front of my eyes , Get up lets go back , cause these good looking , nice places, beautiful places dont look that great and beautiful without the loved ones..
… sorry cant convert fully but i hope you get the Jist of it all..

The loved ones i left behind, As i was driving I dont know why I had tears in the eyes and when the song ended i was crying. The funny part was they just came.

A very exciting thing happeend

THE BEST THING ( we think that as we grow old, we loose touch from people who mean so much to us, you think sometimes will they remember anything) Well before I reached work I stopped the car by the motorway in the parking bay.. I called up a number , a number which is not in my phone book, or in any diary but its sort of etched in my brain.. 009194…. I just dialled, I was hoping it would be the correct number..

“HELLO”… came a voice … when i heard the voice, the memory came back where in those good days , we had met each other for first time , and said Hello…IT WAS HIM..

I said Hello… THEN ALL HELL BROKE LOOSE…

“OYE MANN, Teri bh__, teri ___ , tun ___ £$%£ $%£$ , more more and more “

and suddenly the tears that were flowing , turned there flow a bit higher BUT I WAS LAUGHING I had a smile big enough ear to ear. I bet the passerby’s would be thinking whats going on with this indian bloke.

After the initial choicest words of LOVE – EFFECTION he he he funny the same words felt like honey to the ears, whereas otherwise it would have been War…

“Yaar kithe hain… INDIA”…

“Check the number idiot” I said …

“When you coming , ajja yaar “… and we talked for 20 odd mintues , OH yes got late to work… but that was not on my mind ….

I had called this person after almost a year , but the first word he recognised… Funny how we go miles apart take ages to contact, whatever the reason.. But I know one thing that in my hour of need HE WILL BE THERE STANDING, no matter how many years go by without being in touch.
Maybe it was my fault , well not maybe IT IS.. my fault I should have contacted earlier.. but we have become so busy in lifes that time has become a necessity.. So I have promised my self every weekend I am going to call at least 2 people i care for.

I remember about 3 years ago, I was with someone very close to me, we dialled a number cause She wanted to know if my friends remember me , we dialled and the same reaction “OYE MAAAAAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN”

Mann is my surname BTW before you guys think its MAN.. I am a Man too but its my surname MANN he he he he

It has ELATED Me so much, I feel so light and LOVED mmmmmmmm its a warm feeling.. to be loved and cared for… And Now i am ready for the day to any challenge that may come my way ….

So guys anyone reading this, pick that phone up dial a number, get in touch with someone you have not been in touch for ages. Give it a Go you never know what you will hear when you say the word “HELLO”.. hopefully after you have pressed the red button on your mobile to end the call.. you will have a beaming smile, READY to take on the WORLD… and your heart singing

Nach lai Ga lai , bhangre pa lai, mauj mana lai yaraa
eh din roj roj nahin aune , appan khushiyaan naal handaune
nachna aap te YAAR nachaune , oye aish mana lai

hmmmm …. Good luck people…

Phrase common to India and has become a part of Indian psyche is ‘ADJUST….

Chandigarh to Muktsar Bus .. Three seater, four are sitting already, Mr. Conductor blows the whistle, last minute entry, pats you on your shoulder “Thoda Side Mariyo”, “Shift Please” — ADJUST

Girls walking home alone, guys whistling , Not to worry, change your route or come with a male member of your family or if you are lucky with your boy friend or better still start to travel by car.. ADJUST

In a Wedding Party hall. you are sitting perfectly fine in your chairs, round the table.. When Uncle Ji or Aunty ji will come , Pull a chair from the other table, and Make sure to push it between your table circle.. ADJUST

Indian Hockey team being selected, A guy is not selected, the Local MP calls up, cause he wants his , sisters – Sister-in-laws Son to be Adjusted in the Team- ADJUST

A Team selected to Go abroad for some seminar, The principles Wife not in the team, The team needs to be adjusted.. ADJUST

A Group of artists, (punjabi singer) coming to UK for a show.. 2 -3 people Adjusted as TABLa players, or side-kicks to make a quick buck by getting them the visa.. Adjustment — ADJUST

Too many cars on the street? No problem, there will be space for one more. Mine. You better ADJUST!

Men want to pee on the roadside? Madam, ADJUST.

The water heater broke down? Boil water on the gas until the electrician is called and he fixes the problem in.. like a decade. What do you do? ADJUST.

You don’t get your broadband signal in your home. You can’t surf the Internet properly. You call up the service provider. If you manage to get through, that is. Meanwhile, you just ADJUST.

This post is sounding like a rant, dear readers, kindly ADJUST.

Please Leave a comment and any of ur ideas of adjust, I know you all are busy and have loads to do but hey please –ADJUST