Parting .. Moving On

Posted: February 9, 2010 in Hurts, Love, Parting, Soch

Relationships are made and broken, I am sure we have all experienced these sorts of stuff all the time, (hopefully not too often), So what happens When a relationship ends, I have seen that when two people part or break up, its always easier for one person to shed it off faster, while the other wades through the pain and grief of parting.

I think how one takes it depends on the personality of the person, But a lot depends on the manner in which you break of. There could be a lot of reasons

1. Constant arguments.

2. Or was it falling out of Love

3. Or not able to show it to the other

4. Or simply could not be bothered

5. Or did not want to work on the relation.

6. Was there respect in the relationship?

7. Did one cheat on the other.

8. Sometimes there is this Arrogance or Ego.. To say Sorry or to take the first step, Why does it matter who said sorry first.

How can it be helped, well if the break is up for the RIGHT REASON.. then it is easier, sometimes it so happens that one person has found someone else to love, while the other is smarting under disbelief and grief. The hurt may fall in a relation a Temporary one often called “on the rebound.”

But as they say TIME HEALS IT ALL. A time comes when tears dry up, The constant checking of the Phone for a missed call or sms stops, Emails , the heartache stops.

The only thing that remains is a regret for what could have been.

Everyone Moves on, That’s life, No matter how hard or bitter the parting is, This is the reality. But somewhere in the heart it remains that

WHY!!!
WHAT IF I TRIED A BIT HARDER!!!
WHAT IF I DID THIS !!!!
WHAT IF I SAID THIS !!!!

Sometimes a beautiful relation gets spoiled by personal Ego, or Personal attitude IF you love someone then This EGO or Attitude Should not have a place.

Does it matter if Ms. A comes and holds Mr. B’s hand and says Sorry Or vice versa.
Does it matter is Mr. B says I love you and Ms A leaves everything (even if it is for a Second) to come to him

DOES IT MATTER WHO SAID WHAT WHEN TO WHO… because its easier to Part then remain together.. That’s the biggest challenge to Stay then MOVE ON..

Ah well !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Comments
  1. kavita says:

    If parting is because one is out of love…well and good.But loosing someone only because of silly ego…very sad.Ego must go. very well written,enjoyed reading it.

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  2. Very very well said!I hope this is not personal :(Since I experienced it and its very hard to overcome..Yeah time heals everything πŸ™‚

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  3. Harman says:

    Depends on relationship and level of maturity..Egos and attitudes are only if the bonding is not that very good..!!

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  4. Bikram says:

    @Kavita :- thanks for visitng, Yes it is sad indeed that Ego comes in it needs to go .. but then some people think its better to letthe relation go πŸ™‚ @Raj:- thanks , Oh it is very much personal, but anyway.. yeah time will heal hopefully. πŸ™‚ @Harman:- Yeah true the maturity does have an effect, But what use is the maturity if all the years or months or days go to waste like this just shows that the bonding which was thought to be there was NEVER There …

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  5. Dharmjit says:

    very truei learned it recently that there is no humilitation if u came first and say sorry or lend ur hand ahead.but the relation never remains the same as it was before that also i learned and the other person shows more attitude

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  6. Madhu says:

    i so badly feel things skate thru easily if u accept a person for what they are..rather than making them be what u want to be…:) Ego,personal differences aside…u can still love on,if u have the heart to forgive and forget..and thats the most toughest part.

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  7. Insignia says:

    I just read from your response to a comment that it was personal. I am so sorry. But you know what? At the end, you emerge more stronger and hopeful that life goes on, whatever may happen. Everyone would have gone through this ordeal, its very very painful…makes one feel to give up everything…trust me, I am a victim too….But TIME HEALS :-)All the best!

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  8. Chakoli says:

    :)))Nice and thoughtful post πŸ™‚

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  9. Neha says:

    as Insignia put it all aptly, time heals..you are a very nice person Bikram..good luck πŸ™‚

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  10. BK Chowla, says:

    Under no circumstances,should ego come in the way of any relationship.

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  11. HaRy!! says:

    Hey Bikram… hmm rather a sensitive issue… wud prefer not givin my views 😦 … sry mate.. yu there in FB?

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  12. Bikram says:

    @dharmajit – Yeah truly said. No humiliation to say sorry first. @Madhu:- yeah i guess forget and forgive is all part of the parcel. @Insignia :- thanks a lot for the comment, Stronger I shall be πŸ™‚ Oh yes life goes on for sure, I have met so many good people.. Yes Time heals and thanks for the wishes.. ANd you too Take care and Be good πŸ™‚ @chakoli – Thanks for the visit and the comment. @Neha :- thank you , thank you.. how do you know i am good.. I am very very very baaaddddd boooooooooooo hoooooooooooooooo thanks for the wishes.. @Chowla sir:- haanji very true there should be no room for EGO whatsoever in a relation.

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  13. Bikram says:

    HEy HaRy :- Not to worry my friend.. No i am not on FB.. I am sure you are on gtalk so chat sometime Hi all Thanks for the lovely comments

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  14. Oh! so sad to know this!Anyway this is from my experience better than alcohol , smoking or time LOVE heals everything!My mom and my friend healed my sours! So I hope you get normal very soon πŸ™‚

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  15. Bikram says:

    @Raj – Not to worry , I am fine. the problem is being alone in uk. But i am fine really am.. And yeah not drinking and I dont smoke so all Safe .. You know Its been amazing all these comments , beautiful comments. Wow I feel GREAT already .. thanks mate

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  16. Sangeeta says:

    uhmm…I so understand what u r saying..i broke up a 13 yr old relationship and i dont feel a thing

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  17. Bikram says:

    @Sangeeta:- Thank you for the visit, Please please keep visiting , I am too greedy to miss out on comments πŸ™‚ hopefully one day i wont tooo fingers crossed

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  18. Tulika says:

    Ego might come in a relationship.But in Love,Never.

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