Archive for February, 2010

There is a program on Tv which comes once a month I think (not sure), called CrimeWatch.. It really disturbed me a lot last night.. apart from the usual that comes on it .. burglary, theft, GBH, or attempt.. What really shocked me was

A 13 year old beautiful girl, is sitting on a Bus stop in BROAD-DAYLIGHT, a Guy comes out of no where and sits next to her and starts to Fondle her, do Gross things RIGHT AT THE BUS STOP IN BROAD DAY LIGHT.. then he took her to a secluded place and ___ And then leaves to catch a train Calmly as if Nothing has happened. GET SHOCKED.

What has made me so mad about this is that

Its Broad Daylight..

People are there ,

Bus is stopping,

People are getting on to the Bus and NOONE gives a F&*% about what is going on Right there in Front of them. They are watching, This Guy almost drags the poor girl, people are on the Road.. ARE THEY F*&%$£& BLIND..

What has this world come to .. ?
Is no one interested in anything anymore.. ?
Have we become so F%&$*£$ Cowards.. ?

I am raging at the moment, god knows why , I feel really angry, VERY ANGRY.. Why would a Man do such a thing.. He want to have SEX with someone , Bloody hell Go to a corner of a road, find a bloody prostitute, pay her 10 bucks and get yourself releaved.. For F*&* sake… There are ample of prostitutes on british streets to do the favour for 10bucks… If you are so bloody aroused use them.. HOW will you feel if I did this with your daughter , your wife….

Such people dont deserve to Live.. they need to be caught and there ___ cut off.. Ridiculous.. a 13 year old girl.. What is this bloody world coming to.

The people who saw all this need to be ashamed of themself, as they say in hindi.. CHULLU BHAR PAANI MAIN DOOB MARO… If someone did this to your family you guys will be the first one to blame police, people everyone.. Now it is happening to someone else you are mere spectators..

What does it take to dial 999, Even if it a BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND… HUSBAND/WIFE… So what.. Ring the police tell them “You think it is an Assault happening.. “ It becomes a Response call or immediate then .. the police Has to do something.. Worst case scenario.. the couple (IF THEY ARE) will get a nasty surprise and a telling off to Do it indooors.. BUT on other hand a Innocent 13 year old is Saved..

Or

If you dont have Phone.. you are in a Bus.. which is about to move.. If you are so afraid of yourself.. JUST SHOUT at top of your voice .. “OYE .. what do you think you are doing”.. THATS ALL IT TAKES… if its a genuine couple fine you will get a abuse back or a middle finger.. But if they are not .. The guy might get afraid and run away .. YOU save a innocent 13 year girl..

The police should find out who the people were at that time on the bus stop , who saw and TAKE THESE PEOPLE TO TASK.. These idiots, cowards are worst then offender.. at least we know the offender.. But these people are equally involved and are equally responsible.

I am Very angry AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

God please please give me the strength that I dont chicken out if I see anything like this PLEASE…..

Law.. CHANGE IT…

Posted: February 26, 2010 in Law, My Thoughts., UK


Carrying on from the post on speeding,( Speeding ) reading the various comments I got, everyone seems to be of the idea that the punishment should be exemplary. The problem is the LAW itself. All the laws that have been written , have a maximum or minimum sentence associated with it.

Like in UK here, it is quiet saddening how people can get away with so much almost all the times , The law sometimes seems to be in favour of the criminal then the injured party and then there are the so called DO-Gooders, who always have something to say .. OH how this criminal did not have a sane childhood, Oh how this criminal had to go through this or that .. The situation of the criminal blah blah blah… and more BLAH…..

I remember when I had initially come , We had a friend who got sentenced for Assault and Grievous bodily harm.. What he had done was something that any man would do, He comes back home in evening to be told by the neighbour that a burglar had climbed the back window of his house, so Mr Singh opened the door and stood beneath the ladder used by the Burglar and when Mr. Burglar came down with handful of things he was welcomed with a Hockey stick, I think he broke his leg. Police was called which arrested Mr Singh for the assault , he was later fined and sentenced. I mean what is this a Man cant defend his own home.

A month or so ago I think it was the festival of ID, so the whole family had gone to masjid when burglars struck, The thugs were hiding when the family returned, took them hostage.. they made the people crawl, threatening them.. hurting them .. when they left the men of the house chased after the burglars and beat up one of them with a cricket bat.. In My eyes that is Excellent piece of work… The Guy should be applauded to have stood up against the burglars.. But according to law he was arrested and all the pallava. (he got freed after a few days , and public outrage, but still )

So getting these examples what are we to do, If I am at home and a burglar or terrorist or anyone enters my house , I hear him , I go to the kitchen pick up a carving knife and attack him.. I AM GUILTY OF ASSAULT.. I mean wtf.. cause its premeditated. On other had if I go down the guy attacks me and in the scuffle i pick a knife and hit him , Then its OK , then its self defence…

Crap that is ITS MY HOUSE.. I OWN IT and I HAVE THE RIGHT TO PROTECT IT WITH WHATEVER MEANS.. I DID NOT INVITE THE BURGLAR’S TO MY HOUSE… THEY ARE TRESPASSING…

I Mean what sort of logic is that… I am not safe in my own house, That’s PATHETIC, I really would like to request all the burlgers , thief’s , rapists , all the bad people to please do me a favour, for every 2 -3 crimes you do, Please do One against the so called DO-Gooders, who think you lot have not had proper upbringing , there are issues with you. Show them your true self, let them feel the heat. These people sit in the warmth of there own house and then come out to say that a rapist , raped a girl cause he was mentally unstable.. WHAT THE HELL.. he knew what is going on, what he is doing , he knows he is having the pleasure … Then how can it be like that.

Listening the news and the sort of sentences that go with the crime , really makes me sick. We will need to go back to an eyes for an eye…

Disclaimer .. WRONG INFO .. MY BAD

Posted: February 26, 2010 in Uncategorized

Hi Everyone .. In my last post I may have given you all some wrong info, Please i am really sorry about that ..

My birthday is on 11th But 11th NOVEMBER.. I am Sorry i should have put the month, then just putting the date…

BUT Thank you all for the lovely wishes and Please note it down this year 2010.. November is just 8 months to go..

So please No belated wishes ,, make sure its on the day he he he hehe

take care everyone … God bless All.
Thanks you and SORRY…

Lately been thinking 🙂 ok now you guys need to stop laughing just because I have been using this word a lot. I have been having a lot of thoughts coming my way, and off course I have no clue what they are… ok I hope someone somewhere might be able to tell me something about it ..

a Few weeks ago after my hockey game… Yes I know a few will raise their eyebrows, after the small procedure and HER SHOUTING AT ME… not to use it too often .. I could not resist… what going to the ground seeing the idiots do everything OTHER than play, I had to do something, So as promised to someone very dear , I will just have a warm up with the team, just to jolt the knee tell it what’s coming its way. Half time came and seeing them run like headless chicken I gave in, picked the stick walked in to have a game… it felt goood… after almost 3 weeks going on to the field , pity we lost 2 -1 but then IF Only they had given me the full 70 minutes of the game, it could be 3 -2 our way.. Tch tch tch when will they learn hain… keeping me out… does not suit them 🙂

Anyway we went to the pub for a drink, it was a home game so we are supposed to provide food and drinks after the game… it was the normal pub we go to, but only this time it was a bit empty, not many people, England’s friendly was on, hence my guess people stayed at home to watch the game. Well we had our normal drinks ordered… That’s when the talk started…

Why do people want to discuss Politics-religion when they have had a couple of drinks?

I was bemused because lately I have stopped drinking too much, I was having my glass of water while the others were doing the usual chak de, chak de…

The topic of discussion today was somehow the ways of our religious leaders, back home in India, I am not too much into such things because to me discussion on politics always makes way to an argument, Hence I kept my mind away, someone was telling how they spend some lakh rupees in India on their trip, how they have setup a Club in the village for Kabaddi/hockey for the youngsters to do something instead of smoking… (Hold on coming to the religious leaders soon)… how they have appointed two coaches paying them 10K a month each, so now he wanted us to put in 100pounds each to start with, Collect more money..

So this is where I opened my BIG GOB… for some odd reason I had to ask, Why I could not keep my mouth shut I have no clue
“Paaji what was the lakhs of rupees you spent on, according to him he has spent approx 10 lakhs”, now that is a big sum ..

(BTW as the guy was telling, I could not help noticing how the group was getting smaller, people trying to avoid and move away … I guess I did not take the hint… )

so as I said the words I got a crisp reply back saying “tun ki laina kaka, you dont know the ways how it works”.. Pardon me but I am not stupid OR AM I.

My idea was that a Staff nurse or a helping hand in villages, well in my village gets about 5k to 8k a month, so why give this coach 10k, for coming 2 hours a week, Basically I was now thinking this was all money making scheme, the guy talking did not have good reputation about it. Apparently one of the leaders had been called to the opening ceremony, Aaa ha so that’s where the money went which this guy was speaking of.

It was quiet funny to see how when I spoke I was quickly asked to shut up but a few minutes ago when the money was wanted it was so easy to ask me. My point is we are a group of people who like to play hockey why would you want to bring this in the small group, or will some people just don’t mind where to get the money.

Anyway I have a very good friend who was looking at me all this time, the moment he could, he comes over to me and says

“don’t listen to him, and don’t pay any money, this guy started a Cricket club last year.”

Oh I said.

Ah well I was being cheeky cause for some reason I wanted to know who this leader was who had come for the inauguration.

Why people do such shady deals, I mean if they want to help their village or city or for the WORST help the POOR… why not do so openly, why try to get a mileage out of everything. I mean what good is it for a person staying here in UK or maybe I am too naive to understand the ways of the world. Lucky me I guess….

I had my glass of water and some crisp… before saying my goodbye, I was feeling a few Pangs in the old knee, and I guess I over used it… OK .Now I am sure to get some bollocking over this :)… But as I got to my car I had a tap on my shoulder, turned around to see my dear friend wanting the money… he says to me
I should watch my mouth .. oops … Now the above account is AS it happened, I know hard to believe since it’s My side of story… but I can safely assume a lot people would vouch for me …

I did not know what to do

Should I retaliate? After all I am much younger then this guy, I can bet if I walloped him with full force he would go down.. And yeah

psssttttt let me show off a bit I am a blue belt in Saikado oooh yes he he he…

Anyway jokes apart… So this little incident left me a bit puzzled… I mean what did I do, 100 pounds is not a big amount but still I would like to know what I am paying for, moreover if you have done something for charity or for your own self, why would you want to collect the money. If you did spend all that money for the good, did you ask anyone, was it planned? So many questions. I work my arse off to earn, I am not saying I am poor I earn decent amount of money, but that’s not the point. I work almost 14 hours a day, for 5 days.

Should I have done something, I have been thinking, it’s getting to me every time

Was I being a chicken?

Why did I not retaliate?

Why did I not say anything, it’s not me I am more of a person who Doef it and then think..

I guess I have grown up… had my birthday on 11th so a year has helped me in doing the right thing… or it has made me a chicken… NO IDEA… Well so I guess..

Anyway put the end to story I did not pay ha ha I am sure of at least ONE person who will have a Beaming smile reading this. When I starting writing this post I had some other views but somehow while writing they changed.. So this post has come out entirely different.

In the previous article I got some comments suggesting I should go to sleep, 🙂 .. But Sleeep is bad for u ..

Yes it is .. I have a logic behind this.. It is Quite bad ..

First Imagine its Saturday today …

Now tell me, How many times have you gone to a pub on a Friday night ..

You come home sloshed.. smiling.. In a world of your own.. Happy.. Jhooming.. Top of world.. King of World…

You slump on your bed.. if you manage to climb the stairs to your bedroom.. (best is no need to change too… dont have the thought to change he he he )

You go to sleep and You wake up

OH MY GODDDDDDDDDDDDDD

You feel like SH___ , Headache.. Nausea.. sleepy .. just feeling rotten

It was the sleep that did it .. BECAUSE

I felt great at 2am in morning last night 🙂 all I did was SLEEP

How is that for a logic…

What is Love ?

Posted: February 19, 2010 in Love, Soch

Do you really love him/Her?

Really?

How do you know?

Is it possible to love more than one person in a romantic or sexual manner ?

A lot of people out there are bound to dither over this question, finding ways to know if they truly love the other or is it that they are just fond of them. What happens if a man and a woman, who fancy themselves in love with each other, realize that they are unable to relate to each other’s definition of love?

What would mount to love :-

I think when you would rather not live your life without the person that I am sure would mount to love.

Its when he or she are the first to come to your mind in time of grief, happiness, loneliness..

When you think of him / her even when they are not around

When his/her happiness precedes yours ..

Now I am not saying this would last a lifetime, it may be for shorter period

Regarding loving more than one person then that is possible too because people change, priorities change, different qualities emerge, different phases to loving start. At one stage you may love one kind of a person, while at another stage you may be attracted to a different person. That doesn’t mean you have to necessarily stop loving the earlier person. You could love both of them at the same time though maybe with different intensity and in different ways.

What Say 🙂


My day usually begins at 6AM when the alarm goes off, bzzz bzzz ting tong… bzz bzz ting tong It is annoying and I keep the alarm away on the table so I have to get up to switch it off , else I would go back to sleep. I reach the gym about 6:30 and pass my time, showing off, trying to do some exercises. On the way back I visit Gurudwara Sahib, sit and listen to the baani. These days they have someone explaining the meaning of each line written in the holy Granth sahib.

I usually sit for 5 -10 minutes listening, trying to get into the good books of God :), I am not very religious, but today something got my attention, the guy was trying to say that the best way to get into the good books is to do SEVA of god. By sea he meant helping in the Langar, cleaning, feeding the sangat and various other jobs that we can do in the Gurudwara sahib.

He gave a example that When Guru Amar Das Ji before he became Guru was sevadar of Guru Angad Dev ji, He use to get up early morning every day even at the age of 72 walk the distance to Beas (one of the rivers in Punjab), Get water, bring back warm it, for Guru ji’s bath and this according to the person reciting was one of the SEVA Guru Amar das ji did.

But is it really this that will make God happy, do we seriously think it to be true, I seriously don’t think this alone can do it, what about WHATS in your heart or Mind. Sometimes I try to sit and listen to the path, close my eyes to listen with full concentration, but it only lasts a few seconds before lots of useless thoughts start to come in mind, that’s human nature I think.

So by doing seva at gurudwara sahib, will all my bad deeds be rectified, I don’t think so, if it was, then all you need to do is do a bad deep and then go and do seva. There’s got to be more than that. Will god not be happy if we are a good person, go about doing our work without hurting anyone, helping others if we can? It should not be that we have to go to a religious place to do something to get God.

My thoughts are continuously questioned a person is poor can’t earn money, I give him some money from the goodness of my heart, I have done a good deed helping him, He goes, spends that money on drugs, goes home beats his wife, kids or worse… Who is responsible Him or Me… If he did not have money this would not have happened… I gave… it happened so was it a good deed…

So in the end WHAT IS A GOOD DEED, WHAT IS SEVA… that we could do for our salvation…? I see people each day in morning saying “waheguru waheguru” loudly , then touching every shoe , cleaning them, doing various other things, Then the moment they come out of Gurudwara Sahib one can hear them “F-ing”, smoking, drinking, few of them are WIFE BEATERS, treat their Wife’s so bad, I am not making this up, I know for a FACT.

Come election times in the Gurudwara Sahib the same people come brandishing swords, shouting slogans, the person reciting and speaking himself was one of them, This also I know for a fact, Cause I was there when it happened, Police had to enter the premises with shoes on.

So coming back to the point what should a person do for salvation, to please the almighty, what is SEVA in modern days TODAY. Do the same rituals still hold? Will me helping in Langar, or cleaning shoes or cleaning the carpets etc constitute as SEVA…

Just a thought……

I feel on top of the world and humbled by the response on my earlier article, I was mad angry, pissed, whatever you can say .. I wrote that and put it there, I was actually going to take it off.. But then the comments came and it felt great , I am really so much overwhelmed by the concern and love, by my blog-Friends, Some have not left the comments but emailed me..

(pssst :- leave a comment instead of email, just want to show off with all those comments he he he hehe 🙂 )

Its so strange I have not met anyone of you guys, and other than the blog comments, emails have not interacted too with many. I live on a different continent then most of you guys, Its really been a amazing experience here on my blog.

A very beautiful person introduced me to blogging, and now after the initial few bad times, I have met so many, Blogging has sort of become a integral part now. All you guys have made the experience a special one, I just wish I could personally say thanks to all and everyone who gave my blog a thought and stopped for a second thinking.

I would like to name each one of you, But I am not gonna because everyone is important (actually don’t want to forget someone he he he he )

Thank you guys. I am privileged to know you all.. All those who visit my blog THANK YOU SO MUCH.

Love you loads .. take care and God bless you all…

Parting .. Moving On

Posted: February 9, 2010 in Hurts, Love, Parting, Soch

Relationships are made and broken, I am sure we have all experienced these sorts of stuff all the time, (hopefully not too often), So what happens When a relationship ends, I have seen that when two people part or break up, its always easier for one person to shed it off faster, while the other wades through the pain and grief of parting.

I think how one takes it depends on the personality of the person, But a lot depends on the manner in which you break of. There could be a lot of reasons

1. Constant arguments.

2. Or was it falling out of Love

3. Or not able to show it to the other

4. Or simply could not be bothered

5. Or did not want to work on the relation.

6. Was there respect in the relationship?

7. Did one cheat on the other.

8. Sometimes there is this Arrogance or Ego.. To say Sorry or to take the first step, Why does it matter who said sorry first.

How can it be helped, well if the break is up for the RIGHT REASON.. then it is easier, sometimes it so happens that one person has found someone else to love, while the other is smarting under disbelief and grief. The hurt may fall in a relation a Temporary one often called “on the rebound.”

But as they say TIME HEALS IT ALL. A time comes when tears dry up, The constant checking of the Phone for a missed call or sms stops, Emails , the heartache stops.

The only thing that remains is a regret for what could have been.

Everyone Moves on, That’s life, No matter how hard or bitter the parting is, This is the reality. But somewhere in the heart it remains that

WHY!!!
WHAT IF I TRIED A BIT HARDER!!!
WHAT IF I DID THIS !!!!
WHAT IF I SAID THIS !!!!

Sometimes a beautiful relation gets spoiled by personal Ego, or Personal attitude IF you love someone then This EGO or Attitude Should not have a place.

Does it matter if Ms. A comes and holds Mr. B’s hand and says Sorry Or vice versa.
Does it matter is Mr. B says I love you and Ms A leaves everything (even if it is for a Second) to come to him

DOES IT MATTER WHO SAID WHAT WHEN TO WHO… because its easier to Part then remain together.. That’s the biggest challenge to Stay then MOVE ON..

Ah well !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

After the previous political post, I thought lets have a lighthearted post, Friend It is Important to have friends and that too at Important Places.