Archive for December, 2009

happy New year

Posted: December 31, 2009 in Happy new year

Hey all HAPPY NEW YEAR

Guys you in australia happy new year to you…

People in India its past midnight HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL

It will be new years here in the next 4 hours .. SO Happy new year to all people in UK and

USA/Canada guys late latifs.. HAPPY New year to you tooo..

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All my bloggers and readers AND All whose name i have not put

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL… have a blast May god bless you all and all your wishes come true…

View From My Window

Posted: December 24, 2009 in Photos, UK, View, Window, Winters

Leaves though falling … still remind us that winters are approaching fast.. it can still be a WOW to look out at this time of year. 1st week of Nov. 2009

Winters Are here. The Same Window 🙂 29th Nov

Definitely here 11th Dec.

Seasons First Snow Fall.. Christmas is here…17th Dec. (8 days to go) …

24th December .. on way to work

24th December My window today

Christmas is here followed by new years, Drinking and driving is on the rise, in the last few days i have caught 3 people for this offence. The best thing is you go to the driver’s side, ask him to switch off the engine. Then ask them have you had a drink, the typical reply is first “NO”…
“I can smell it on your breadth”…
“Sorry, I have had just half or Just a Pint”…

You stand there and Smile… Off course you have…

Then you ask them to step out of the vehicle, the Door swings open, they are so pissed , instead of putting their leg out first , they have to twist there bottoms then plonk there leg, Hold the DOOR TIGHTLY, get the second leg out, then slowly try to get up.. Ooops they can’t so they try again… When on two feet the Feet are firmly on ground, but the upper body waist upwards is sort of moving on its one…

They have just had ONE pint … Yes sir you have indeed…

Ask them there name, they give a whole history, name, date of birth, where they live etc etc out it comes like a river flowing…

You ask them again very politely, are you sure you had just a pint,
“Yes, before that I had another one earlier “… the Smile on your face widens… How earlier was that…?

“Afternoon lunch .. ” so basically to tell the truth and from experience they have been drinking since lunch up till now, You got no other choice but to get him off the road, Else he would endanger the rest of the people.

Christmas, new years, Diwali, Holi these festivals are there, I can understand to have fun, enjoy but they don’t give the RIGHT to get drunk and endanger other people who are enjoying the festive season according to their choice. I can understand the need for a Drink during these occasions, I do too, But I Never Drive after having a drink, and if I have to go for a drink I take a Taxi or Bus it. My friends who are with me Know very well that they dare not do it themselves, Call me Unfriendly or bad person But they know if they drive after having a drink I WILL CALL THE POLICE to rat on them because I don’t want to feel the Guilt if the same person drives his car into someone or something killing/hurting others or themselves, It does NOT make me wrong or less friendly, it makes me human because I have a conscious.

It’s nothing to do with Friendship honor, or to do anything with love for friends, If you think otherwise fair enough dont read furthur, BUT don’t let them have that drink before they drive, or Pay for the Taxi to take them home, Pay for the Bus Fare but DO NOT let them Drive Drunk.

That to me is FRIENDSHIP honour.
That to me shows you care for that person.

It’s easier said Oh one small shot or A pint won’t matter, It does matter. Any amount of alcohol affects your ability to drive. There is no foolproof way of drinking and staying under the limit or of knowing how much an individual person can drink and still drive safely.

I learnt my lesson in a Bad horrible accident years ago, So All who read this Please be careful, Tell the people around you to be careful, Don’t do anything silly, and ALWAYS Always think hundred times driving after a drink, Its not worth it. Most young people will give two hoots to what I have said, But Guys and Gals Please Think . Everything gets spoilt in an instant, Remember when drunk , THE CAR IS A LOADED GUN, a tool to do serious damage with, it is a serious WEAPON.

So the only safe option is not to drink alcohol if you plan to drive, and never offer an alcoholic drink to someone else who is intending to drive, The law needs to change, it should not only be the drunk driver, But the people who Knew that the person is Drunk and Knew he/she is going to Drive, Knowing this they still allow the person to drive, Then IF something does go wrong, they all need to be held responsible because as i said earlier the car is a loaded gun that we have allowed this person who has had a drink to use, So we should be held responsible. The same way as we would if we actually hand a gun to a person to shoot with.

I know a bit farfetched but end of the day, this could be Abetment to the accident, My conscious does not allow this , so hopefully it should not allow to a lot of people too.

Anyway these are my random thoughts good-bad whatever… it’s me and my Silly mind thinks sometimes…… Remember if you stop one drunk driver driving back home or anywhere you may have saved a life, which sure would amount to a GOOD DEED FOR THE DAY…

MERRY CHRISTMAS people, BE SAFE.. and KEEP OTHERS SAFE

BAI JI

Posted: December 20, 2009 in Family, Soch, Thinking

Bai Ji… I know in punjabi the word BAI means Brother.. But I have a very high relevance of this word in my life, My Nana Ji, I use to call him Bai ji, Funny isn’t it. Well he was eldest in his family so everyone called him Bai Ji, I was born in my village and growing up all the time I heard him being called Bai ji, I started calling him the same too. He never stopped me so it just got of stuck with it.

Bai ji passed away a few years ago now, I was here in UK at that time I could not go to see him, there are so many things that we regret in life, I too have loads this is one.

Bai ji was a very good person as far as I know, remember, I know everyone says the same about their family, But I can’t stop saying he was a good person. When he was young he moved out of his family house built his own house in the land that was allocated to him by his father. Then his younger brother followed, slowly a few more came so a small little village was created of 50 odd families settling there, the village is now named after Bai ji.

I distinctively remember to this day, we use to have a typical village house at that time all rooms in a row on one side, the other side would be a big room for the animals, then another to keep the fodder for the animals a BIG iron door on each side. Bai ji use to sleep in the last room, early morning he would get up I am assuming cause by the time I got up, he would be ready, Have his Off White Turban on, a White or Cream Kurta and His Chadra, My nani use to make sure there was a clean-washed-ironed-starched by his bed every day. I have some old pictures of him He was a Handsome man, obviously when I was born he had white beard, which was always nicely tucked in… Not a hair this or that side.

Then my nani, or my mum or her sisters would run helter skelter, they were so afraid of him, god knows why, I have never seen him raise his voice or shout ever, so one of the ladies would have a BIG HUGE GLASS (made of Pital (Bronze I think or Nickel))
of Lassi for him, he would drink that then go about his little chores, check on the animals, Open the hen cage, let them out, feed them daane AND then the most important chore go and See his pair of OX, oh he loved them, he cleaned then washed them, fed them Himself, though we never used them cause tractors were in use, he still had a pair, he would say

“BALAD (Bullock) di tandurasti ton pata lagda how good your household is running”.. (The healthiness and strength of your ,Bullock told how you are running your household) I could never understand that..

check on other stuff, by then breakfast would be ready, the Paranthas with makhan, he would polish 4 -5 of them easily. About 9 AM he would get his famous Bicycle out GOD I HAVE BEEN SEEING THAT Bicycle so much.

The nearest Town was about 15-20 Kms or maybe more, he would cycle there almost every day or at least every other day. I don’t have that much stamina and he would do it regularly. The reasons he gave of going was

1. Blah blah person had problem getting a tube well connection needs sorting
2. Blah blah person needs good seeds
3. Blah blah person had to go to hospital
So on and so forth… I am sure you get the jist of it. Always for somebody.

I remember the local ministers, and the Chief minister at times would come to him for support, I also remember when I went for my holidays he would love it cause I could drive when I was in my 10th class, he Did not know how to drive and my Mama ji was always busy with his work, So Bai ji would the very first day I arrived have all the plan ready, he has to go to Bhatinda, he has to go to Malout, I was the DRIVER.
I remember meeting all these ministers etc, Bai ji proudly telling them I am his grandson and I study in a Public school and I know English.

I use to get bribed by sweets (Goliyaan) we called them, 10 for 10 paisa at that time And with being allowed to go to the sugarcane field to get the cane to suck on… and also allowed to go into the orchard to get the mangoes… No one else could he he so I got bribed by others to go and get them. I was having Fun of my life.

I have been thinking of Bai ji a lot, because a few days ago I got a letter from Mr. Brar who lives in Glasgow, England, asking me if he could send me a chequw, for the money he owed to Bai ji, I phoned up Mr. Brar he told me how a decade ago, Bai ji was cycling back home, found Mr. brar unconscious by the road side, no one had stopped to look at him, Bai ji took him home, looked after him, apparently Mr. Brar had been robbed of his money and belongings , he was on way back to his village when it happened, he had got UK visa for immigration anyway to cut the story short Bai ji gave him money so he could do whatever he was to do.

I was surprised by the effort made by Mr. Brar to get hold of me and remember Bai ji, I mean in today’s day and age how many do that. I have been thinking of Bai ji a lot he was such a good person, why does God take Good people so early when corrupt people live for so long, Makes me wonder what all good things Bai ji had done in his lifetime. Which makes me think People around us what all good deeds they do, do we ever get to know what all they did and also how many people are there like Mr. Brar who acknowledge it.

Bai ji had his Bad habits too, drinking was one but then I must say I never saw him drunk, he would buy his own bottle and always drink at home, Never seen him drink out in public other then weddings or parties, everyday at night about 7:30 he would get his bottle out, along with MOOLI, PYAAZ, SHALGAM, all from the fields, make a salad, have his quota of drink, Eat food and Go to sleep. I can’t remember him talking or debating with anyone after he has had his drinks.

I remember a funny thing, the first time I went back to India, I had bought a mobile phone handset for him, I gave it to him he was so pleased and happy THAT HE NEVER USED IT.. it is still lying in his room at home, he would say “Main ki karna eh”, I also took some nice Thermals and long coat for him, he never wore it, in winters too he had his same attire , Kurta-Chadra , a small jacket (called basket I think) and a Loi (men shawl).. He could not walk when he put the long coat on and Thermals were a big no no, I wonder did he not feel cold.

This post is dedicated to my Bai ji. God rest his soul and I just want to tell him, I love and respect him a lot, I am a better person cause of him, learnt a lot from him.

2. Lie all the time and Get caught

Example 1. :- I swear on you i did not do it

2. :- x- I saw you there.
y- No I swear i did not go there

3. :- X:- how come you did not call
Y:- I was busy.

X:- with what
Y:- bas yoon hin (in actual , he/she was busy surfing the net, or chatting to someone etc etc.

Ways to break up a relation : Way 1

Posted: December 18, 2009 in Love, relation

1. Talk rudely

Example 1. :- I asked u something
at least have the decency to reply

2. :- watever u say

I have been meaning to write this article for ages now, but somehow I never managed to get round to it. Internet has been a great tool, I have met so many people over it all over the world and I must say some of them have become very good friends, a few closer than family too.

Then I started to write this Blog in October sometime, earlier I use to write a diary at night before going to sleep, everyday.. but for some reason I started this a few people were very happy. Over this blog I met a few people some good, some OK, I wont say bad because I think , No one is bad they are good for someone if not you.

Sometimes it makes me think that I am from a very old school, a school where patience, respect , love existed – nowadays I have seen it does not anymore..

Admi Sochta kuch hai
Karta Kuch hai
Hota kuch or hai..

Today we have become very unforgiving people. It may be an ethnic problem, or a community’s problem or a country’s, or in your relationships, with your wife, children, parents,Girl Friend, Friends, Acquaintances we get very very unforgiving and we hold that against them. We wear it as a badge which says
‘main tujhe kabhi maaf nahi karoonga’

Everyone has a hidden agenda behind everything, IT was not like this always people use to be so good, caring. The words they said meant something , people stood by there words. Nowadays people are quick to make a relation, even quicker to spoil or break one. What they say is not what they mean. Why have people become so heartless, What would it take to go back to the good old days. I mean how can someone say oh we are friends then at next instant go behind your back , I mean what is friendship…

Dosti karo to Jam ke karo
Dushmani karo to woh bhi Jum ke karo
magar khyal itna rahe , ki fir agar Dosti ho
to Sharamindgi na ho….

I don’t know why god has made me like this, or why I think like that, But I would never do what I have experienced even to my enemy, Thanks to this blog I think I got a few of those now 🙂 But as someone who has my heart and cares for me a lot said to me, forget about them, they are NOBODY, think of the people I have met over this, Some very decent people, Pallavi her highness.. It has been lovely to chat with her sometime, knowing them.

lekin mai toh beroak safar mein
is ek aur pehlu se hokar nikal chala,
jeevan ki aapa dhapi mein kab waqt mila
kuch der kahin par baith kabhie yeh soach sakun,
ki jo kiya kaha mana usme kya bura bhala…

(these are a few words stolen from Mr. Amitabh Bachan).

I think this is where we have reached we have got so busy in our life that we have forgotten or forget what the effects of our actions will have on others, We have become so selfish, I ask god one thing always Please don’t make me so selfish, or careless, unfaithful, uncaring, heartless, Because I don’t know which action of mine might hurt someone. Do people actually mean they are friends when they say they are, or are just making fun of you. If they are then why do they do it, what right do they have to play with someones emotions. Would they feel the same if this happened with them, or have they become so heartless that it does not bother them anymore. How can they go to sleep soundly, well now I am being a fool because they don’t even know what hurt they have caused.

People are impulsive and say things that hurt other people, they walk over others especially people whom they say are friends. And in all this process they loose friends, I am a bit of a dumbo it takes a bit of time for me to understand people are trying to ignore me , so it gets difficult to loose me :). Loosing a acquaintance or friend over trivial reason, a reason which is non existence. All I would say is such people will one day realise what they lost, by then it will be too late.

I wish i had the Ego or Impulse to severe my contact with people, But then that’s not me.

Anyway festive season is here, so Please god take care of all my friends, foes, anyone i know .. God bless all and everyone … New year is round the corner I wish we all make a promise to ourselves to be a better human being.

Jaane anjaane

What is world coming to. hain…

The WeekEnd- WHY ME !!!!

Posted: December 14, 2009 in Funny Life, Hiking, Life, Sudden

Well I have already written an article on how life changes in a flash of a second, How life Changes(click if you haven’t read it), I had a second experience this Saturday… Makes me wonder how or why the hell it has got to happen with me…

We planned to hike up a mountain (a hill basically, mountain sounds Nicer 🙂 .. ) , six of us decided to go for a weekend camping, YES YES YES I know December, . Not a good idea would have frozen to death… but anyway we decided that… Friday took off after work, down the motorways, (Why do all roadwork’s have to start at same time, spent hour or more sitting driving at 5 or 6 MPH).. It was so late by the time we reached the venue. Got the tents out… sleeping bags luckily for us Jay had made it on time so he had done all the dirty work set the stuff… and got the meat out for us to cook it… SO the night went in a couple of beers a bit of Bar-B-que and freezing…

Next morning started early the plan was to reach the top, then get down by 4pm, there was this pub we had seen while driving where we intended to eat food… there was small brooke , trickling which we had crossed on way up, no one thought or gave it a thought . .we were too engrossed in who will make it to top first , joking at Dave for panting all his way up, and Georgie boy almost falling every step he took. It all went pear shaped on way back, first we got late… it was already dark, it had been raining very hard we were soaked to the inside… Very cold, hands were frozen… everyone was cursing Jay to have decided to come and MADE US COME too 🙂 poor guy.. He always gets in the neck if something goes wrong.

We did not realize that the brook we had crossed was not a trickle anymore, Jay was leading me behind him, then the others, we were looking forward to reaching the Dryness of the tent, get some brandy in ( psstt. Well the situation demanded, it was cold… so all reading this dont frown.) As jay put his foot in water , swish he was on his bottom, he made such a big noise, I must say I laughed as a reaction, then I could see Jay struggle as he got washed away a few feet, ooops I had no option other then Run after him, to get hold of him there was lots of debris, As I put my hand forward , Jay grabbed it but the pebbles, mud, sticks , leaves had made it all so slippery DHAAAAD I was on my Butt, water all over me , my back hit ground, as I splashed hard, my head hit something.. I was splashing like mad, got hold of a branch, held it, while jay was holding my foot…

It felt funny for Dave and George as they were having a laugh, Manny was the only sensible person who actually thought we might have got hurt, torches shone in our eyes and me hurling choices words… then the other realized that it was not funny, Jay had a broken arm, I had my head split in two places, blood had trickled over my eyes, I could not see anything, my glasses had broken.. dirty mud water was in my mouth… YUCK.., there was a drop of a few feet just a yard or so away, had we not recovered it would have been far worse accident.

Jay was in pain, luckily I always carry my first aid kit with me, since I am a trained first aider at work, so WE put a sling around his arm, Dave put some bandage on my head, and my back was bruised pretty nice.

I mean a small brook, no one had given a thought, look at the damage it had done. Small incidents turn nasty. The worst thing none of us had our mobiles, all were nicely packed and DRY at base, it was so dark, could not see our way… God had gotten too angry at earthlings, so he had opened the sky hurling water at us. We decided to stay put at that place, BAD IDEA… but we did not want to risk it again, because there was too much water around… If we slipped again we would have had it…

Anyway after hours god had mercy on us, it stopped to rain… and we decided to move… Luckily for us we all managed to make it back…Where the bottle of Brandy awaited us … Phoned the emergency help, they were soon there, attending to us, I had a crown on my head where they glued the two cuts, Jay was taken to hospital for more X-ray etc, I was fine by then. Then the Giggles started… and I again became centre of jokes.

So next weekend we have decided to go do it once again, I am sure Jay will not be joining us, I have already had a Threatening email from Jamie his wife to not take her husband with us.. Boooo hooooo…Ah well he can have a weekend off with his wife… 🙂

The End.

A new state is being , or there are plans , to carve out a New STATE in India.

Food for thought here Why are we building more states , Why not go the other way Get rid of all the States and HAVE ONE BIG STATE.. called

INDIA or
BHARAT or
HINDUSTAN

Easier to Learn at school, no need to remember all states there capitals, Just one Big State and One Capital Delhi (oops or is it NEW DELHI), just imagine how easy it will be for school kids.

help get rid of lot of bad habits, state rifts, state tensions, we wont have to say
JAI state name and then JAI HIND

just two words would do the trick .. JAI HIND

Lot less Bureaucracy, Lot less ministers, Lot less expenses on them, Anything you can think of would be LOT LESS

Me and My stupid Mind Thinks of Silly things OR DOES IT……..

Racism- What I think

Posted: December 10, 2009 in My Thoughts., Racism, UK

I have been reading a few articles over how Indians are facing racist comments and remarks abroad, I can fully understand what they are saying about it, I am in UK , I have heard stories about such incidents but touch wood I have never been treated like that. The reason I am writing is not about what happens in USA or UK, Cause I think its not that big a deal if we are subjected to it a bit cause We have on our own decided to come here, no one forced us to come to pastures green.

The thing is we are quick to say this is wrong-that is wrong.. basic human nature, but what we fail to recognise or do is try to change it, Its the same as when a Tiger kills a man he becomes a man-eater, we are quick to pick our rifles shoot it down, But when the same man kills a tiger for pleasure or money, he gets a rap on the wrist a fine, why is it like that.. the same person should be held a Murderer,brought to the book. Just cause the poor tiger cant afford a lawyer or pay the investigating officer should not let his murderer go Scot free.

Anyway I strongly object to people who make a big issue over this that they are treated bad or someone said something to them cause of the colour of their skin, I have lived in India all my childhood, youth, came to uk about 8 years ago. I must say WE AS INDIANS ARE THE MOST RACIST, and I can argue to length over this. If a white guy says to us paki or indian we feel so bad…

But have we ever realized ( I didn’t either till I came here), how we behave ourselves, standing by the roadside in india we want to call a Rickshawala we say
“OYE BHAIYA”… and please don’t tell me the BHAIYA word is meant as brother cause it is not… The word does mean Brother but that’s about it, we do-not call him a brother it is a derogatory word in the context its used end of.

OR going to a restaurant how we call a Waiter… “OYE… “. No one says that to a waiter or a taxi guy abroad.

What we think of humans from UP or BIHAR… I still remember the land labour that comes to punjab during harvest season… the land owners provide food, but when giving the food their utensils dare not touch theirs… I remember getting told off by family elders… How our caste system works… especially when it comes to Hindu-Sikh or Hindu-Muslim.

Look into your own self, If you are a hindu or sikh and have a muslim friend or vice versa, just see how many taunts you get.. You see a Sardar walking people say Oye Sardar.. That is RACISM… If this is what we are doing in our own country then why are we moaning when we are being subjected to same by others.

How we work against FEMALES in our society, How we treat them in our own families, In UK itself I was on a course regarding Forced marriage and honour killing, it is a FACT that out of all this about 12% happens in Indian families. I wont go into the rest but still 12% is a big number girls are being forced to get married between age of 14 – 18 and then there is the honour killing, A sikh girl is seeing a Muslim boy kill her, a Muslim girl is seeing a hindu Kill her.. This is what our society is and We moan on being said a few slurs, Heck I say we deserve it.

I remember the sniggering of my friends when I held the door open for someone behind me, or said thanks to someone or said sorry if I brushed against someone… my friends were like I have become a gora.. But I am saying this is basic etiquettes…

We should work together first in educating people that all humans are Equal irrespective of the colour-cast-creed, and we need to start that from our own backyard.

The problem is that we have come abroad, we have taken the citizenships but in our OWN heart we don’t feel like that, we still call ourselves indians, Heck I do the same… But I think it’s wrong, we work, earn, get rich, eat, here so why do we call ourselves indians… If you know what I mean and that is what the WHITE don’t like which I think is correct, we are being traitors here, we come abroad cause of some reason or other, the common point is to earn money and make a life. We go on dole trying to take or make the most we can, so many people have called their parents over to UK, and I will say HUNDREDS have just for baby sitting or to get the pension money that the Govt here provides for elderly. When british came to india they took all the money back, we hated them, still do BUT are we not doing the same making big bucks and yet saying how this is bad or that is bad…

Lakh Pardesi Hoiye
Lakh Pardesi Hoiye..Apna Desh Ni Bhandi Da…
Jehre Mulk Da Khaiye Usda Bura Ni Mangi Da…..
Lakh Pardesi Hoiye…Lakh Pardesi Hoiye…..

These are just my thoughts… and I don’t intend to OFFEND anyone… but it’s worth a thought what I said. IF i offend someone I am sorry in advance. I am not saying India or Uk Or abroad is bad, I am saying the PEOPLE are what they have made of it.